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"Hi I'm a genuine friendly guy been on the site for a few months..I have pictures for ppl anyone who wants to view them...I've stated clearly on my profile what I am after..but in the time I have been on the site I've been called names and told to bog off or even blocked...Ive not been pushy or anything..has anyone got any advice for me at all??" If you get abuse report and block. | |||
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"Hi I'm a genuine friendly guy been on the site for a few months..I have pictures for ppl anyone who wants to view them...I've stated clearly on my profile what I am after..but in the time I have been on the site I've been called names and told to bog off or even blocked...Ive not been pushy or anything..has anyone got any advice for me at all??" Any abuse, report it. If you want advice on your profile, you will have to ask for that specifically as otherwise critical replies will be deemed offensive by admin (and rightly, too). | |||
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"Also we are not all here for the same thing... " Hahaha! Yeah i think that too whenever i read that line. Which seems to be every second profile these days. | |||
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"The ratio is more like between 10 and 20 men to a couple or 50 and 100 to a woman I imagine " It's not, several forumers did a test to put those exaggerated rumours to rest and the ratio is roughly ten men per woman. | |||
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"The ratio is more like between 10 and 20 men to a couple or 50 and 100 to a woman I imagine It's not, several forumers did a test to put those exaggerated rumours to rest and the ratio is roughly ten men per woman. " I must have missed that lol. What was this test? | |||
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"The ratio is more like between 10 and 20 men to a couple or 50 and 100 to a woman I imagine It's not, several forumers did a test to put those exaggerated rumours to rest and the ratio is roughly ten men per woman. I must have missed that lol. What was this test?" It's usually "calculated" about once every four weeks so there should be another thread on this any minute now...but in the meantime...it's a LOT more men than women, but that shouldn't stop you trying. | |||
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"The ratio is more like between 10 and 20 men to a couple or 50 and 100 to a woman I imagine It's not, several forumers did a test to put those exaggerated rumours to rest and the ratio is roughly ten men per woman. I must have missed that lol. What was this test?" The test was do a search for all profiles online within twenty miles. First for men seeking women and then for women seeking men. The only filter was verified profiles, and I mean verified not user verified. Then you just divide the men by the women to see your total Do it yourself to see but I'd run it three times during the day for the average so morning, afternoon and evening. | |||
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"I think a survey of forumites themselves probably wouldn't work as more ladies enjoy the social aspect than men so a greater proportion will chat on their. For example men vastly outnumber women, but if the demographs were equally represented I'd expect to see a hell of a lot more threads anout football, boxing and cars for example. The "who's near me" option is better, but still flawed. For example my current search reveals 25 men, two women and three couples. This would bear out a ratio of 1 man to 12.5 women but I doubt there's as many if not more women than couples which there would be when you consider that as there's two in a couple there's statistically more chance of either or both of them being online at any given time. There is though the fact that despite this being the 21st century many more men than women will currently be unable to access fab as they're at work at the moment? I guess the only true way to get an accurate answer would be to do an advanced search for users fitting a certain demograph near a particular area and correlate the results. Or ask admin nicely lol! Even then the results will be skewed in terms of genuine users in favour of upping the ratio of females due to the wind up merchants fake profiles. I can't imagine many fakers setting up a single guy profile to be fair..." Regarding work that's why you run it three times, even 12.5 men per woman is nowhere near 50-100 as people claim... | |||
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"Don't pull the race card became you can't get meets. " This. If you have suffered abuse I agree it should be stamped out and you should no have to tolerate it. With that said, you haven't been here very long at all and you have no photos on your profile. The majority of people aren't going to ask to see photos. If you haven't got them then they move onto the next guy who has. | |||
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"Hahaha, very true! Though in a weird way the scattergun "fancy a fuck?" (with either no picture or one hastily taken of their soft bell end over a toilet bowl) message merchants sometimes improve my chances, as despite thinking of myself as an ordinary bloke, next to them I look like Sir Galahad, riding in on his trusty white steed whilst spouting Shakespeare... " Romeo, oh Romeo, dost tho fancy a fuck | |||
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"Whilst Thou fair maiden join with me? For hearty fucking? Verily! Behold my naked weapon hot; As it hang above the chamber pot. From my breeches untimely ripped, Yearns in thine sanctum to be dipped. *From As you like it.*" You should have claimed it was yours, nobody would ever know On sweet Romeo has thou brought a shielded garment to protect thineself? Shit, I'll nip t' shop and pick some johnny's up | |||
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"We're all here for the same thing at the end of the day? You mean you want sex, I want sex so obviously we should have sex? Um, no. It doesn't work like that. This place is no different to everyday life. The women here may be happy to admit to loving sex, and be actively looking for sex, but most of us aren't here to shag anyone and everyone. We're not all here for the same thing. Some want sex, some are looking for something else. Very few women will have sex for the sake of sex with just anyone who asks. The whole 'we're all here for the same thing (so please will someone shag me)' just looks a bit desperate to me." | |||
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"We're all here for the same thing at the end of the day? You mean you want sex, I want sex so obviously we should have sex? Um, no. It doesn't work like that. This place is no different to everyday life. The women here may be happy to admit to loving sex, and be actively looking for sex, but most of us aren't here to shag anyone and everyone. We're not all here for the same thing. Some want sex, some are looking for something else. Very few women will have sex for the sake of sex with just anyone who asks. The whole 'we're all here for the same thing (so please will someone shag me)' just looks a bit desperate to me. " What about women who meet 10 men or more a week here, is that not desperate or is it "ok" just as they are women?. | |||
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"We're all here for the same thing at the end of the day? You mean you want sex, I want sex so obviously we should have sex? Um, no. It doesn't work like that. This place is no different to everyday life. The women here may be happy to admit to loving sex, and be actively looking for sex, but most of us aren't here to shag anyone and everyone. We're not all here for the same thing. Some want sex, some are looking for something else. Very few women will have sex for the sake of sex with just anyone who asks. The whole 'we're all here for the same thing (so please will someone shag me)' just looks a bit desperate to me. What about women who meet 10 men or more a week here, is that not desperate or is it "ok" just as they are women?." I don't understand your point. Your example is something totally different to the OPs situation. I'd think anyone getting 10+ meets per week would be anything but desperate. It's the virtual begging for meets, (i.e. Why won't you meet me? We're both here for sex and I'm offering sex. You should meet me), that seems desperate. I doubt anyone getting 10+ meets per week is having to beg for them. | |||
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"I've yet to hear any Asian women complaining of discrimination?" I have had a lot of discrimination it's usually after a real long and personalised message (for once) soon as I reject them by saying sorry your not for me that's when the abuse comes rolling in. | |||
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"We're all here for the same thing at the end of the day? You mean you want sex, I want sex so obviously we should have sex? Um, no. It doesn't work like that. This place is no different to everyday life. The women here may be happy to admit to loving sex, and be actively looking for sex, but most of us aren't here to shag anyone and everyone. We're not all here for the same thing. Some want sex, some are looking for something else. Very few women will have sex for the sake of sex with just anyone who asks. The whole 'we're all here for the same thing (so please will someone shag me)' just looks a bit desperate to me. What about women who meet 10 men or more a week here, is that not desperate or is it "ok" just as they are women?. I don't understand your point. Your example is something totally different to the OPs situation. I'd think anyone getting 10+ meets per week would be anything but desperate. It's the virtual begging for meets, (i.e. Why won't you meet me? We're both here for sex and I'm offering sex. You should meet me), that seems desperate. I doubt anyone getting 10+ meets per week is having to beg for them." Yes I got it abit wrong there and your right no one gets 10 meets a week lol and yes they would of needed to beg for them if they got them. | |||
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"I notice the OP not commented back - was this a fake topic to gauge reaction or am I being to cynical ?" Classic case of frustration leading to a post and run. | |||
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"We are a Asian couple and not really had any issues, yes there are a lot of idiots around but that's life. Asian males do have a reputation for being pushy and treating women like a piece of meat which I have witnessed but I'm a Asian male and never treated a women in such a way. A few give us a bad name unfortunatly" Always the case, there's a LOT on friendly, smart, respectful single guys on the forums but the bad eggs give us all a bad rep. It's nice to see the targeting single males threads seem to have dissipated though | |||
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"Once again no one wants to ask the questions Asian or do people mean Muslim? Why would anyone swinging want to show their face to a member of a religious group that espouses the stoning of women and the beating and beheading of men for doing a lot less than practicing free love! Indian Asian culture is historically highly erotic in it's religious practice you can't say that about Islam can you?" Now your assuming all Muslims are violent women beaters | |||
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"Once again no one wants to ask the questions Asian or do people mean Muslim? Why would anyone swinging want to show their face to a member of a religious group that espouses the stoning of women and the beating and beheading of men for doing a lot less than practicing free love! Indian Asian culture is historically highly erotic in it's religious practice you can't say that about Islam can you?" You have to the most uneducated and ignorant man on this site | |||
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"A lot of profiles especially in London don't want Asian men, just unlucky for us guys. " I'm curious as to your thoughts on why Asian women don't struggle to get meets? | |||
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"I've yet to hear any Asian women complaining of discrimination?" y point exactly . | |||
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"A lot of profiles especially in London don't want Asian men, just unlucky for us guys. I'm curious as to your thoughts on why Asian women don't struggle to get meets?" Men on this site will throw themselves at anything and literally anything. At least half the men on here won't ever get a meet | |||
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"A lot of profiles especially in London don't want Asian men, just unlucky for us guys. I'm curious as to your thoughts on why Asian women don't struggle to get meets? Men on this site will throw themselves at anything and literally anything. At least half the men on here won't ever get a meet" not every man on here will throw themselves at everything some are discerning please don't generalize and tar every man with the same brush | |||
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"A lot of profiles especially in London don't want Asian men, just unlucky for us guys. I'm curious as to your thoughts on why Asian women don't struggle to get meets? Men on this site will throw themselves at anything and literally anything. At least half the men on here won't ever get a meet" A rather sweeping statement | |||
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"A lot of profiles especially in London don't want Asian men, just unlucky for us guys. I'm curious as to your thoughts on why Asian women don't struggle to get meets? Men on this site will throw themselves at anything and literally anything. At least half the men on here won't ever get a meet not every man on here will throw themselves at everything some are discerning please don't generalize and tar every man with the same brush" | |||
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"A lot of profiles especially in London don't want Asian men, just unlucky for us guys. I'm curious as to your thoughts on why Asian women don't struggle to get meets? Men on this site will throw themselves at anything and literally anything. At least half the men on here won't ever get a meet not every man on here will throw themselves at everything some are discerning please don't generalize and tar every man with the same brush" I tell it how it is | |||
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"Mate have been on and off this site since it started in 04 it's part a parcel of this site over the years the idiots have spoiled the site for us genuine swingers and made life hard " +1 | |||
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"A lot of profiles especially in London don't want Asian men, just unlucky for us guys. I'm curious as to your thoughts on why Asian women don't struggle to get meets? Men on this site will throw themselves at anything and literally anything. At least half the men on here won't ever get a meet" So you're suggesting that Asian women get meets because guys on here are desperate, as opposed to Asian women being attractive? | |||
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"Hi I'm a genuine friendly guy been on the site for a few months..I have pictures for ppl anyone who wants to view them...I've stated clearly on my profile what I am after..but in the time I have been on the site I've been called names and told to bog off or even blocked...Ive not been pushy or anything..has anyone got any advice for me at all??" With regards to those being rude or rejecting a meet then report & block the abusive ones & just consider the rejections as you would any other rejection. They're not for you so no point spending any wasted energy trying to figure out why. Just focus on the ones going positively. It might not be a race thing, it might be a preference, but there are folk who do like Asians so just try & seek those who do. Your profile is relatively new & it's your advertising space to display your positive attributes. As others have stated there's more guys to gals on here so you're in a huge baitball all looking for the same thing. Try & make your profile stand out. Maybe display you're Asian as those looking for that might just find you. Those that aren't will simply move to the next profile. Stay positive & consider attending a local Social (see your local area Forum) & meeting others that way. There's a few tips & consider what will work for you. Don't take the negatives personally. We're all looking for what appeals to us individually. You're bound to appeal to some people on Fab. Good luck | |||
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"A lot of profiles especially in London don't want Asian men, just unlucky for us guys. I'm curious as to your thoughts on why Asian women don't struggle to get meets? Men on this site will throw themselves at anything and literally anything. At least half the men on here won't ever get a meet not every man on here will throw themselves at everything some are discerning please don't generalize and tar every man with the same brush I tell it how it is" no just because any hole will do for you, it does not mean every man is the same because they are not | |||
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"A lot of profiles especially in London don't want Asian men, just unlucky for us guys. I'm curious as to your thoughts on why Asian women don't struggle to get meets? Men on this site will throw themselves at anything and literally anything. At least half the men on here won't ever get a meet not every man on here will throw themselves at everything some are discerning please don't generalize and tar every man with the same brush I tell it how it is no just because any hole will do for you, it does not mean every man is the same because they are not" Your inaccurate assumption couldn't be less true. I'd attempt to think more before you post in the future. | |||
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"A lot of profiles especially in London don't want Asian men, just unlucky for us guys. I'm curious as to your thoughts on why Asian women don't struggle to get meets? Men on this site will throw themselves at anything and literally anything. At least half the men on here won't ever get a meet not every man on here will throw themselves at everything some are discerning please don't generalize and tar every man with the same brush I tell it how it is no just because any hole will do for you, it does not mean every man is the same because they are not Your inaccurate assumption couldn't be less true. I'd attempt to think more before you post in the future. " lol you are the one that needs to think before you post an inaccurate view that all men would shag anything | |||
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"A lot of profiles especially in London don't want Asian men, just unlucky for us guys. I'm curious as to your thoughts on why Asian women don't struggle to get meets? Men on this site will throw themselves at anything and literally anything. At least half the men on here won't ever get a meet So you're suggesting that Asian women get meets because guys on here are desperate, as opposed to Asian women being attractive?" You didn't answer my question OP, here it is again. | |||
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"A lot of profiles especially in London don't want Asian men, just unlucky for us guys. I'm curious as to your thoughts on why Asian women don't struggle to get meets? Men on this site will throw themselves at anything and literally anything. At least half the men on here won't ever get a meet So you're suggesting that Asian women get meets because guys on here are desperate, as opposed to Asian women being attractive? You didn't answer my question OP, here it is again." Still not been answered... | |||
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"I think it's more of a single guy thing , most women prefer meeting couples I guess" More women probably meet single guys than meet couples. Its just there's far less couples than single guys so far less competition proportionally. | |||
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"My hand had to move more to get to.the bottom of the thread than having a wank! Like you I get blown out loads...I take this with a pinch of salt remembering the words.of.one of my NCOs in the Army...go in a club with 200 women walk.around and ask.do you fancy me If 'l' fancy five out of ten then one out if ten must fancy me..so politely persist... If people are abusing due.to race then they are people who need reporting..everyone can have their preferences ..but no need. To.be abusive to you or anyone else simples don't contact someone you aren't interested in! Have fun stay safe and smile." | |||
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"Hi I'm a genuine friendly guy been on the site for a few months..I have pictures for ppl anyone who wants to view them...I've stated clearly on my profile what I am after..but in the time I have been on the site I've been called names and told to bog off or even blocked...Ive not been pushy or anything..has anyone got any advice for me at all??" 1) You have only been on for six weeks. 2) you don't have any pics visible to none friends and most on fab are very picky about adding friends 3) you are a single male Rightly or wrong there is a negative perception towards the general attitude of Asian males. You will have to make an extra effort to break this barrier. So step 1). Add some public pics 2) get photo verified if not 3) be active in chat rooms 4) attend socials and clubs 5) report any racially abusing messages 6) read and respect the profiles of people you wish to contact 7) be patient Step 4 is probably the most important if you are to have any success! | |||
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