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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right here goes.

I'm a 52 year old bloke who is quite fit and sporty. Admittedly I'm not the best looking bloke in the world but I'm not an ogre.

I never get to meet even though I try.

Why?

Please be gentle with me.

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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago

Chatham

No idea from your profile what you like, what you have to offer or your circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just looked at the profile and photos

not impressed with the profile text at all shows nothing about you apart from a copy and pasted "sexy"

the photo of your tongue out, Really is that what 52 year olds do now

take a look at some male profiles

and look at the photos and some of the text, then start a fresh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just looked at the profile and photos

not impressed with the profile text at all shows nothing about you apart from a copy and pasted "sexy"

the photo of your tongue out, Really is that what 52 year olds do now

take a look at some male profiles

and look at the photos and some of the text, then start a fresh "

Have to agree with this.

You are 52, not 12!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

OK thanks.

I will take this on board and amend my profile then hopefully some social meets and who knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I keep saying, you need patience as its a long que lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just hang around and make friends on the forum it's the best way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would follow the yellow brick road....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would follow the yellow brick road...."

but i want the red shoes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Great advice folks.

I really appreciate it. When I read the profile it was a bit crap.

Thank you all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No offence to o p but daily these type of posts come up why bother just read tons on same topic on this instance 52 yr old aint exactly like starting out in life or indeed swinging.

Use common sense when doing profile but also be honest about things. My profile not to everyones tastes but an true to myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would follow the yellow brick road....

but i want the red shoes "

You'll suffer the potholes so....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stand out from the crowd

what makes you different or interesting to others

its not about how good you say you are, its what your offering

be alternative

try to find a new kink or fetish

...just a few thoughts for you to ponder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just hang around and make friends on the forum it's the best way."

Definitely good advice xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would follow the yellow brick road....

but i want the red shoes

You'll suffer the potholes so....

"

do care i want the shoes

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By *ittenbutnotshyCouple
over a year ago

North Manchester


"Right here goes.

I'm a 52 year old bloke who is quite fit and sporty. Admittedly I'm not the best looking bloke in the world but I'm not an ogre.

I never get to meet even though I try.

Why?

Please be gentle with me."

We wouldn't meet you as you state you are married, as you don't say if you do this with her consent or not we assume your cheating and feel sorry for your wife. Just our opinion.

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"Just hang around and make friends on the forum it's the best way.

Definitely good advice xx"

Even thats easier said than done. We have been on the forums 6 months now, when we introduced ourselves to people at Lickety's party on Saturday no one knew us whatsoever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just hang around and make friends on the forum it's the best way.

Definitely good advice xx

Even thats easier said than done. We have been on the forums 6 months now, when we introduced ourselves to people at Lickety's party on Saturday no one knew us whatsoever. "

sorry to hear that, did noone take you around and introduce you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Photos are still pants lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Photos are still pants lol"

Ha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact that you're married will put some off .

Your age will put others off .

And the % of men to women is another hurdle to overcome .

Best advice is to get to clubs , dogging sites , socials and get a few more up to date veris .

I always say I would hate to try fab as a single guy , and as you say , you're not an ogre yet still can't get meets . Don't get disheartened , stay positive and good luck .

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"Just hang around and make friends on the forum it's the best way.

Definitely good advice xx

Even thats easier said than done. We have been on the forums 6 months now, when we introduced ourselves to people at Lickety's party on Saturday no one knew us whatsoever.

sorry to hear that, did noone take you around and introduce you "

We weren't at the party as invitees, we were there as its the club we always use, so we just introduced ourselves in passing to people. Maybe we need to use the forum more often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

both can we keep it on the topic please

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By *p4fun1000Man
over a year ago

Manchester

jumping on this 1. Similar, only had a couple of socials since I lost my previous profile and veris.

Helpful criticism without getting butchered. lol :-Hop no one minds me joining still fresh to the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see attitude but I don't see bullying. If a fabber used to chat to one of you it's an easy mistake to make. I was at the party and missed talking to lots of people that I know and have met before

Lack of meets:

It is tough for single guys on here. Sheer numbers are against us. It is difficult to find a USP to stand out. Single women are not going to come rushing unless you are very special.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The single blokes that constantly whinge on here about lack of meets need to get a grip read the hundreds of threads on this daily topic instead of bloody moaning.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Right here goes.

I'm a 52 year old bloke who is quite fit and sporty. Admittedly I'm not the best looking bloke in the world but I'm not an ogre.

I never get to meet even though I try.

Why?

Please be gentle with me."

There are loads of threads in the archives offering generic profile advice,

If what youre doing isnt working change it,

Have fun..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well thanks for the advice folks. Didn't expect a fight on my post but hey ho.

I will persevere and hopefully will get a meet soon.

Have fun everyone.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"The single blokes that constantly whinge on here about lack of meets need to get a grip read the hundreds of threads on this daily topic instead of bloody moaning."

Admin have added "profile advice" to the introduction section ( which I am going to move this too )so if you don't like these type of threads ignore them rather than complaining.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

What do people expect on profile, essay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The single blokes that constantly whinge on here about lack of meets need to get a grip read the hundreds of threads on this daily topic instead of bloody moaning.

Admin have added "profile advice" to the introduction section ( which I am going to move this too )so if you don't like these type of threads ignore them rather than complaining."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would follow the yellow brick road....

but i want the red shoes

You'll suffer the potholes so....

"

Bring a vibrator.It could be quite a ride...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would follow the yellow brick road....

but i want the red shoes

You'll suffer the potholes so....

Bring a vibrator.It could be quite a ride..."

Can it match the shoes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We r a fit couple and we don't get any meets, although had my first 3 sum today, took a lot of effort to make it happen xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a married man."

There you go. Few women are willing to aid a cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would follow the yellow brick road....

but i want the red shoes

You'll suffer the potholes so....

Bring a vibrator.It could be quite a ride...

Can it match the shoes "

I think it always should ,never go un co- ordinated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your pics are dreadful appreciate its hard to take them on your own and obviously your wife is not going to take them for you but take some better ones in front of the mirror.

You have selected athletic so why not show it.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff


"Right here goes.

I'm a 52 year old bloke who is quite fit and sporty. Admittedly I'm not the best looking bloke in the world but I'm not an ogre.

I never get to meet even though I try.

Why?

Please be gentle with me."

Re do your pictures. they look like you took em on the cheapest camera ever... ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your pics are dreadful appreciate its hard to take them on your own and obviously your wife is not going to take them for you but take some better ones in front of the mirror.

You have selected athletic so why not show it. "

Dreadful?

I was only after a little bit of advice but thanks for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your pics are dreadful appreciate its hard to take them on your own and obviously your wife is not going to take them for you but take some better ones in front of the mirror.

You have selected athletic so why not show it.

Dreadful?

I was only after a little bit of advice but thanks for that."

You misinterpret what dreadful means. Your pics are shaky and out of focus and the tongue out shot is just pants. That is no reflection of what you look like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its like a Trinny and Suzanna make over in here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I be blunt. ? Well I'm gonna anyway. Your married. You can't accomodate , you prefer to meet evenings. ( I'm guessing that's cause you have not got permission to play. ) your pics could be better. Your text could be better. Besides that I cannot understand why you are struggling

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.


"Can I be blunt. ? Well I'm gonna anyway. Your married. You can't accomodate , you prefer to meet evenings. ( I'm guessing that's cause you have not got permission to play. ) your pics could be better. Your text could be better. Besides that I cannot understand why you are struggling "

Bit harsh? He has a magnificent suckable knob!

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By *damb2244Man
over a year ago

Grantham

Lack of meets I am a athletic build polite well mannered individual yes I have a very mild form of cerebral palsy but does not affect me mentally and looking to have some good times and make new friends any ladies out there that would be interested in from the Grantham area xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can I be blunt. ? Well I'm gonna anyway. Your married. You can't accomodate , you prefer to meet evenings. ( I'm guessing that's cause you have not got permission to play. ) your pics could be better. Your text could be better. Besides that I cannot understand why you are struggling

Bit harsh? He has a magnificent suckable knob! "

Blimey. I nearly choked on my tea when I read that. It always seems to be men that are interested in my bits. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two things really stand out on your profile.

Firstly, while you are being honest in admitting that you're married, you don't mention if your wife knows you're on here or knows of your extra marital activities which suggests to any readers of your profile that you're cheating. As many have said before, cheating is NOT swinging and this will put a lot of people off.

Secondly, the comment inviting messages seems to suggest, to me at least, that you have created a profile and are now expecting the messages to roll in and your inbox to fill up. Not going to happen i'm afraid. You need to be pro-active. Get messaging people. Single ladies get hundreds of messages from guys. They're often far too busy dealing with these and looking at profiles of guys who have messaged them. They don't usually have much time to be the ones doing the looking.

Effort in = rewards out

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


""I'm a married man."

There you go. Few women are willing to aid a cheat."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In your profile you make statements like "you never know"...and "who knows"....

these are never good statements to make!

YOU should know. Be more assertive, and use better punctuation, people notice this stuff!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""I'm a married man."

There you go. Few women are willing to aid a cheat.

"

What is this comment based on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I be blunt. ? Well I'm gonna anyway. Your married. You can't accomodate , you prefer to meet evenings. ( I'm guessing that's cause you have not got permission to play. ) your pics could be better. Your text could be better. Besides that I cannot understand why you are struggling

Bit harsh? He has a magnificent suckable knob! "

seen better pics tbh...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to agree pics are poor married etc going to be hard ,i will pass on the knob comment as i am straight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right here goes.

I'm a 52 year old bloke who is quite fit and sporty. Admittedly I'm not the best looking bloke in the world but I'm not an ogre.

I never get to meet even though I try.

Why?

Please be gentle with me."

I know how you feel it's very hard to meet someone cause they won't meet unless you are verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""I'm a married man."

There you go. Few women are willing to aid a cheat.

What is this comment based on? "

Because if I was married and I found out my other half was playing away without my knowledge, then I'd dump the cheating bastard. Sisterhood and so on.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


""I'm a married man."

There you go. Few women are willing to aid a cheat.

What is this comment based on?

Because if I was married and I found out my other half was playing away without my knowledge, then I'd dump the cheating bastard. Sisterhood and so on."

. Yep,I know how it feels,I have more respect for myself to meet a married man!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""I'm a married man."

There you go. Few women are willing to aid a cheat.

What is this comment based on?

Because if I was married and I found out my other half was playing away without my knowledge, then I'd dump the cheating bastard. Sisterhood and so on."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""I'm a married man."

There you go. Few women are willing to aid a cheat.

What is this comment based on?

Because if I was married and I found out my other half was playing away without my knowledge, then I'd dump the cheating bastard. Sisterhood and so on.

. Yep,I know how it feels,I have more respect for myself to meet a married man!!!"

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