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Are my opening messages too nice?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Are all the ladies on here just looking for horny chat, or am I just getting it all wrong? Most of my messages don't get looked at, but if they do I get no reply. Is it my profile? Or am I just plain ugly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that how it goes on here most of the mail get delete or not reply to by the women here

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff


"that how it goes on here most of the mail get delete or not reply to by the women here"

Which is fair enough really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends on the message if its nice or creepy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try reasonably nice but not overly nice. One compliment is enough and the get to the point of your message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi there, I'm Shep, 40, from Highbridge. I'm a well groomed, funny, attention to details type of bloke. A man's man with a gentle touch. I'd like for you to look at my profile and message me back, have 'other' photos if you so require when we've chatted for a bit, but I wouldn't just send you them as it may offend as a first message. Hope to hear back from you soon.

That was my last message I sent

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Hi there, I'm Shep, 40, from Highbridge. I'm a well groomed, funny, attention to details type of bloke. A man's man with a gentle touch. I'd like for you to look at my profile and message me back, have 'other' photos if you so require when we've chatted for a bit, but I wouldn't just send you them as it may offend as a first message. Hope to hear back from you soon.

That was my last message I sent"

Sounds like a boring copy and paste message that you just send to everyone you fancy shows not effort or imagination.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi there, I'm Shep, 40, from Highbridge. I'm a well groomed, funny, attention to details type of bloke. A man's man with a gentle touch. I'd like for you to look at my profile and message me back, have 'other' photos if you so require when we've chatted for a bit, but I wouldn't just send you them as it may offend as a first message. Hope to hear back from you soon.

That was my last message I sent

Sounds like a boring copy and paste message that you just send to everyone you fancy shows not effort or imagination. "

Thank you for that, it's not actually copy n pasted but I do tend to say the same sort of thing, I didn't want to appear pushy or throwing compliments around, perhaps I should?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi there, I'm Shep, 40, from Highbridge. I'm a well groomed, funny, attention to details type of bloke. A man's man with a gentle touch. I'd like for you to look at my profile and message me back, have 'other' photos if you so require when we've chatted for a bit, but I wouldn't just send you them as it may offend as a first message. Hope to hear back from you soon.

That was my last message I sent"

Hi Shep, and thanks for you're message, but zzzzzzzzz

Its a bit dull in afraid...for me a bit of humour goes a long way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id delete it if im honest

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

Each message you send should be to the people your mailing. Yes many get deleted regardless but an obvious cut and paste generic message can put the cpls who might be interested off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it, it's polite, respectful and if personalised to my profile, and what I was looking for, I would reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better off going with the line "Here's Johnny!" and attaching a cock pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd delete. I like messages that get me intrigued, make me ask them a question back.

Your message says we will chat a bit, but about what?

It's not exciting.

And I love tons of compliments. But then I am an attention slut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(And if complimenting, be really specific to their photos as otherwise we all assume you say the same thing to everyone.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Better off going with the line "Here's Johnny!" and attaching a cock pic "

Has he tried putting googly eyes on his penis...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like it, it's polite, respectful and if personalised to my profile, and what I was looking for, I would reply."

Thank you

(Thank you all, constructive advice)

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

Zzzzzzz

We look at pics first and then message. When we message we mention something we've seen in their pic or profile to show we're paying attention.

I know you said it isn't a cut and paste message but it reads like one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As messages go it's not bad. Very middle of the road we like a message that's a little cheeky intriguing and shows you read the profile.

On here it's simply a numbers game for the singles so you just need to plug away chap. Perhaps pop to socials and clubs to get known.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different things work for different women that's why I love em you never know where you stand with them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one other if they do not like the look of you that would make them delete it too. they only like sexy men loll

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As messages go it's not bad. Very middle of the road we like a message that's a little cheeky intriguing and shows you read the profile.

On here it's simply a numbers game for the singles so you just need to plug away chap. Perhaps pop to socials and clubs to get known. "

Thank you for the positive comment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"one other if they do not like the look of you that would make them delete it too. they only like sexy men loll"

Cheers. (Non sexy man!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read their profile and ask a question...end it with a "?"..human nature is often to reply...avoid long introductory emails..

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By *laineabdneilCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

You also have to remember that most of the couples are men ... And prob most of the women are fake too...

You do get gen people but fakes and wanbabees sadly are the majority..

I'm sure you'll see them shoot me down now haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi there, I'm Shep, 40, from Highbridge. I'm a well groomed, funny, attention to details type of bloke. A man's man with a gentle touch. I'd like for you to look at my profile and message me back, have 'other' photos if you so require when we've chatted for a bit, but I wouldn't just send you them as it may offend as a first message. Hope to hear back from you soon.

That was my last message I sent

Sounds like a boring copy and paste message that you just send to everyone you fancy shows not effort or imagination. "

I completely agree. I delete messages that sound copy and pasted

Just go with something simple like "hey, nice profile, you sound like my type of lady. How are you?" maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi there, I'm Shep, 40, from Highbridge. I'm a well groomed, funny, attention to details type of bloke. A man's man with a gentle touch. I'd like for you to look at my profile and message me back, have 'other' photos if you so require when we've chatted for a bit, but I wouldn't just send you them as it may offend as a first message. Hope to hear back from you soon.

That was my last message I sent

Sounds like a boring copy and paste message that you just send to everyone you fancy shows not effort or imagination.

I completely agree. I delete messages that sound copy and pasted

Just go with something simple like "hey, nice profile, you sound like my type of lady. How are you?" maybe?"

Oh, I forgot! Actually make sure you look at their profile as I get "wow nice pictures" when the only pic I have public is my profile pic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only like nice messages, but not ones that are like a CV and then i'm expected to make first contact and find something to talk about. I wouldn't even bother replying to one like that coz i'm already chatting to people on here.

I tend to reply to funny messages or messages that ask me something that isn't sexual. And this is only if i have time to start up another conversation.

Don't know about other women exactly, but i won't be after a meet half the time i'm on here, just wanna chill out and switch off and have fun or get more personal with people i already talk to or have met. I don't appreciate dirty chat at all though and instant delete or the message just ignored, usually a block as well because people who send out dirty messages tend to only want dirty chat and have no intention of meeting, i'm not here for that. You'll be classed as the same from that first message probably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You'll be classed as the same from that first message probably."

I mean if you send a dirty message people will probably class you as only wanting dirty chat as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe a change around of your profile pics. Now dont take this the wrong way please as it is not meant to be bad. Your first pic needs to stand out and your first pic looks a bit Timmy Mallet ish. Now the second one makes you look a lot better and a bit dapper in your suit. Maybe have the suit ones higher up. (Not saying you ard ugly as you clearly are not) but getting the first pic right is half the battle it would seem from listening to the ladies. Hope this comes across as helping and not nasty as thats not what I'm about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one other if they do not like the look of you that would make them delete it too. they only like sexy men loll"
plus i been o many other swinger site and been knock down to bad i am british but i was raised else where

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By *laineabdneilCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Maybe a change around of your profile pics. Now dont take this the wrong way please as it is not meant to be bad. Your first pic needs to stand out and your first pic looks a bit Timmy Mallet ish. Now the second one makes you look a lot better and a bit dapper in your suit. Maybe have the suit ones higher up. (Not saying you ard ugly as you clearly are not) but getting the first

pic right is half the battle it would seem

from listening to the ladies. Hope this

comes across as helping and not nasty

as thats not what I'm about. "

Haha I've just seen your pics... I'd take Timmy Mallet all day haha

not being nasty tho hey ............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe a change around of your profile pics. Now dont take this the wrong way please as it is not meant to be bad. Your first pic needs to stand out and your first pic looks a bit Timmy Mallet ish. Now the second one makes you look a lot better and a bit dapper in your suit. Maybe have the suit ones higher up. (Not saying you ard ugly as you clearly are not) but getting the first

pic right is half the battle it would seem

from listening to the ladies. Hope this

comes across as helping and not nasty

as thats not what I'm about.

Haha I've just seen your pics... I'd take Timmy Mallet all day haha

not being nasty tho hey ............"

And you have taken it the wrong way. But cant see yours as you have blocked me.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

"Alfred Thickcock" that's as far as i would read hate silly names, connie xx

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"one other if they do not like the look of you that would make them delete it too. they only like sexy men lollplus i been o many other swinger site and been knock down to bad i am british but i was raised else where"

Basically no one meets you because your ugly and werent raised in Britain. Wake up man! Stop with the self pity and excuses and try some self confidence instead

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe a change around of your profile pics. Now dont take this the wrong way please as it is not meant to be bad. Your first pic needs to stand out and your first pic looks a bit Timmy Mallet ish. Now the second one makes you look a lot better and a bit dapper in your suit. Maybe have the suit ones higher up. (Not saying you ard ugly as you clearly are not) but getting the first pic right is half the battle it would seem from listening to the ladies. Hope this comes across as helping and not nasty as thats not what I'm about. "

I was unaware you could change the order of photos, how do you do that? I'm on iPhone btw.

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