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By *omtdh OP   Man
over a year ago

IOM

Hi, everyone, greetings I trust all are well. I have a question. I am not just a newbie to this site, but also a swinging virgin. What is the correct protocol for contacting other members? Should you message first, wink them (possible misprint) or send a friend request. Could anyone tell me the correct order, as I do not want to get it wrong? I also would like to know how you send a picture on a message. Sorry about all the questions but it is better to get it right from the start. Thank you in anticipation and have a great day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A message is your ice breaker, a wink is just a 'look at me', and when there are 10 times as many men on here than women, why should they bother? Show your personality with a message and see how it goes.

Definitely no friend request, unless they are actually already a friend. A request comes after you've been talking to them a while or after a meet.

You can add any photo to your message as long as you've already uploaded it to your profile just by clicking the 'attach a photo' link.

It's always advisable to attach at least one photo to your initial message.

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By *omtdh OP   Man
over a year ago

IOM

Thank you. Is the attach message a paid or free service?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you. Is the attach message a paid or free service?"

its a free site

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By *omtdh OP   Man
over a year ago

IOM

Sorry about the mistype I meant attaching photo to message but typed without brain in gear. Oops!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just flop it out. Works for me. Oh, and offer a free biscuit.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"Just flop it out. Works for me. Oh, and offer a free biscuit."
Ye and your biscuits!! Lol J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

read profiles!

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By *omtdh OP   Man
over a year ago

IOM

lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A message shows a degree of effort?

Good luck

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I delete winks without checking them, and friend requests without chat get blocked.

A decent message that shows you have read the profile always goes down best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just flop it out. Works for me. Oh, and offer a free biscuit."

tea on screen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I delete winks without checking them, and friend requests without chat get blocked.

A decent message that shows you have read the profile always goes down best."

It depends on the person/s.. many dont care.. but for us, its this too.

Read a profile fully to get an idea of the person - it usually tells you alot about the person/s.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message first definitely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never check winks. Only look at friends requests if someone tells me they've sent one!

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

I do check winks. If, after reading his profile, I like what I see I wink back. If he's interested he usually messages me.

There are blokes I've been in the world's longest, most drawn out wink wars for months but it's just for fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i tend to look at messages and winks rarely (unless a wink threads up)

i am the same with friends requests

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I like winks ,but messages are prob best as not everyone does.

Deffo not a friend request without speaking first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like winks ,but messages are prob best as not everyone does.

Deffo not a friend request without speaking first"

Fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you. Is the attach message a paid or free service?"

It's free....but I would suggest a better pic than that on your profile? It could be just about anyone....a face pic is best, but if you don't wish to risk that then a decent full body shot...perhaps in tight boxers or something?

Do MOT send friend requests until after a decent exchange of messages and perhaps ask if it's ok first. Doing it to soon is a good way to get blocked!

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By *uilty pleasurersCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Wink, fab and request away

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By *omtdh OP   Man
over a year ago

IOM

Thanks for all the replies folks. Here's wishing you all a Fab day!

Cheers

_omtdh xx

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