FabSwingers.com forum: Someone in the same boat.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So everyone has there reasons why theryre on here and no one is to judge, but are there any women who are attached but are looking for something outside of their home?Lets chat and see if were for each other.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Welcome to fan. I'm not quite sure what it is you're looking for so it migh ty be worth clarifying it. Married women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married and its completely dead. Never any sex at all. Other issues which I don't wish to discuss that aren't pleasant. Hench reason for meeting Jack off the site couple yrs ago. Were nothing more than fbs.

We both had fantasies we wanted to fulfill and decided to join fab. Needless to say we haven't got round to doing all we want.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"So everyone has there reasons why theryre on here and no one is to judge, but are there any women who are attached but are looking for something outside of their home?Lets chat and see if were for each other.

So not happy with ruining just one marriage then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So not happy with ruining just one marriage then?

Jump to conclusions much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So not happy with ruining just one marriage then?

Nobody is fully aware what goes on behind closed doors!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So not happy with ruining just one marriage then?

Nobody is fully aware what goes on behind closed doors!!!"

Exactly,theres always things you dont see up front.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So not happy with ruining just one marriage then?

Nobody is fully aware what goes on behind closed doors!!!"

Don't need to be fully aware that you're ruining your marriage, you might as well as end the marriage and leave her to find someone better that won't cheat on her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So not happy with ruining just one marriage then?

Nobody is fully aware what goes on behind closed doors!!!

Don't need to be fully aware that you're ruining your marriage, you might as well as end the marriage and leave her to find someone better that won't cheat on her

Why did you infer that he is cheating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So not happy with ruining just one marriage then?

Nobody is fully aware what goes on behind closed doors!!!

Don't need to be fully aware that you're ruining your marriage, you might as well as end the marriage and leave her to find someone better that won't cheat on her

Why did you infer that he is cheating? "

Ffs was meant to say him, not her, half asleep and auto correct is on

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Tut, tut

The school-teacher(s) will flog you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow! Came on here in the hope that this site unlike its sister site dogging was not full of holy joes mmmm wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow! Came on here in the hope that this site unlike its sister site dogging was not full of holy joes mmmm wrong!

if you don't like it, im sure there are other sites for you to go and find success on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is where my own personal experience gets in the way of not being judgemental as my ex hubby cheated on me and told his other woman we had no sex life, which couldnt be further from the truth he just wanted to have his cake and eat it!

Sometimes a cheats "personal reasons" is just plain selfishness nothing more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow! Came on here in the hope that this site unlike its sister site dogging was not full of holy joes mmmm wrong!

Just because people here enjoy sex doesn't mean they are void of morals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Indeed but as usual most people are judgemental without being in full possesion of the facts of each case! If only everything in life was black and white but it is not.

Still as has been pointed out one has a choice of where to frequent!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating is cheating. It's quite clear. Unless of course I can have a chat with your wife first to give her consent but in guessing there's a reason you can't do that right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is where my own personal experience gets in the way of not being judgemental as my ex hubby cheated on me and told his other woman we had no sex life, which couldnt be further from the truth he just wanted to have his cake and eat it!

Sometimes a cheats "personal reasons" is just plain selfishness nothing more"

Same as my ex husband! Use to lie saying I was fat and lazy too and no sex ect ect. In fact he was abusive and lazy!

Op your 23, if your marriage is truly that bad already get out before you destroy her with cheating!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Indeed but as usual most people are judgemental without being in full possesion of the facts of each case! If only everything in life was black and white but it is not.

Still as has been pointed out one has a choice of where to frequent!

It seems to be quite often that whenever people on here say cheating is wrong, the ace card is played by using the word judgemental, and quite often by people who for whatever the reason cannot accommodate.

Is it about judging people, or simply saying that cheating is wrong?

The genuine people on here would say that they are open and honest about what they do between themselves and their partner; but is cheating honest?

While everything in life is certainly not black and white and we fully agree with that statement, what makes cheating ok?

We would love to have examples of what makes cheating fine. It seems that some people mistake this swinging site for a cheating site. We thought swinging and cheating were two completely different things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes a cheats "personal reasons" is just plain selfishness nothing more

Same as my ex husband! Use to lie saying I was fat and lazy too and no sex ect ect. In fact he was abusive and lazy!

Op your 23, if your marriage is truly that bad already get out before you destroy her with cheating! "

Yea similiar sort of lies from him, I was fat and lazy too. Id hardly call being a size 12, working a 40 hour week, keeping a spotless house and being a mum to our son me being fat and lazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes a cheats "personal reasons" is just plain selfishness nothing more

Same as my ex husband! Use to lie saying I was fat and lazy too and no sex ect ect. In fact he was abusive and lazy!

Op your 23, if your marriage is truly that bad already get out before you destroy her with cheating!

Yea similiar sort of lies from him, I was fat and lazy too. Id hardly call being a size 12, working a 40 hour week, keeping a spotless house and being a mum to our son me being fat and lazy"

same again! Two children, work and a clean home despite his inability to clean even himself some days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So not happy with ruining just one marriage then?

Nobody is fully aware what goes on behind closed doors!!!

Exactly,theres always things you dont see up front."

We guess the simple thing is if it is that bad do the honest thing and walk away? Or at least be up front with what your intentions are?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often see people post about practices I dont lke, but rarely feel the need to take them to task.

The OP here was not seekng to justify his attitude to extra mariral sex. He was looking for married women 'in the same boat'.

Bizare then that people he is not seeking to talk to choose to come on here to castigate him.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Indeed but as usual most people are judgemental without being in full possesion of the facts of each case! If only everything in life was black and white but it is not.

Still as has been pointed out one has a choice of where to frequent!

actually.... to get the full facts they would need to speak to BOTH parties........

hearing one side of a story doesn't make it completely true...

we could of course always ask his/your wife if she knows he/you is on a swinging site.. and if she is okay with it...

if the answers to those questions are "yes" and "yes"... then no issues...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I often see people post about practices I dont lke, but rarely feel the need to take them to task.

The OP here was not seekng to justify his attitude to extra mariral sex. He was looking for married women 'in the same boat'.

Bizare then that people he is not seeking to talk to choose to come on here to castigate him. There is a difference between practices we don't like, and practices that are morally wrong such as not being honest with your partner.

We have found quite often that this is the view held by a lot of single guys, especially the ones who for whatever reason cannot accommodate. We know there are many reasons for this situation and some are fair and honest, but because you have a partner at home who is unaware you are cheating on them, should that be a reason?

He has not been taken to task, nor has anyone attempted to castigate him.

The fact of the matter, however you dress it, is cheating is wrong.

The other comment about if both parties know is very relevant, however if both parties knew then we guess cheating wouldn't even come into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not our cup of tea but like it or not the OP is being open and honest, he hasn't hidden anything in his post at least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not our cup of tea but like it or not the OP is being open and honest, he hasn't hidden anything in his post at least."

There are plenty of single guys who are open and honest on this site and the OP may well be one of them.

Thing is how honest is anyone if we know they are actually being dishonest?

So being honest and respectful on here is fine even though someone is dishonest and disrespectful to their partner.

Is there such thing as a 'sometimes honest person'?

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By *om Tom 1969Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Another example of the judgemental army jumping all over a serious post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another example of the judgemental army jumping all over a serious post. "

A guy who is cheating asking if someone else wants to cheat with him. A serious post, to the person concerned it probably is.

However we cannot see anyone judging here.

We thought we were stating the obvious.

Stating that being dishonest is wrong, well how is that sitting in judgement?

Are we now using swinging for an excuse for cheating?

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By *om Tom 1969Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Apparently, yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apparently, yes!"

That's great and we hope all the cheating folk have great fun.

Still doesn't make cheating right though, does it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think everyone is too judgmental and quick to tell a cheat to leave their partner. The person cheating may be totally inlove with their partner and not want to leave. Clearly sex isn't love or all the swingers on here would be in love with every meet. If "non-cheats" can separate the feelings why can't the cheater? Also, all the couple who clearer enjoy inviting others into their bed stop and think for a minute.... If your partner refused to do that but you really wanted it (as its obviously something you enjoy) but you loved them so much you didn't want to leave, how would you handle it? I am sure you'd all say you wouldn't cheat, but if the compulsion was so strong you may do. And you are unable to definitively say no unless you've been in that position. Which I suspect nobody has as you are no long in that relationship so obviously didn't love them enough to stay (unless they left you of course). Bottom line is live and let live as long as the person is honest with you, you can chose not to facilitate the cheating.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

The guy has started his own thread looking for people in the same situation as himself, which there are plenty.

Nowhere has he asked for self appointed forum police to hijack his thread telling him what is wrong and what isn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow! Came on here in the hope that this site unlike its sister site dogging was not full of holy joes mmmm wrong!

Holy Joes!! People have preferences. If that is not to meet married people then respect that. Calling them childish names is just pathetic!!

OP - you will get a rough ride. Some people may meet you but don't think that just because this is a swingers site you will be for everybody.

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By *hrissie1961Woman
over a year ago

dumfries and galloway

"I often see people post about practices I dont lke, but rarely feel the need to take them to task.

The OP here was not seekng to justify his attitude to extra mariral sex. He was looking for married women 'in the same boat'.

Bizare then that people he is not seeking to talk to choose to come on here to castigate him.

Well said. Most of them just like the sound of their own voices and boy are some of them bitter.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said. Most of them just like the sound of their own voices and boy are some of them bitter.....

Are you really surprised though? So many people have there lives ripped apart by a cheating spouse, you can understand why they are

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I think everyone is too judgmental and quick to tell a cheat to leave their partner. The person cheating may be totally inlove with their partner and not want to leave. Clearly sex isn't love or all the swingers on here would be in love with every meet. If "non-cheats" can separate the feelings why can't the cheater? Also, all the couple who clearer enjoy inviting others into their bed stop and think for a minute.... If your partner refused to do that but you really wanted it (as its obviously something you enjoy) but you loved them so much you didn't want to leave, how would you handle it? I am sure you'd all say you wouldn't cheat, but if the compulsion was so strong you may do. And you are unable to definitively say no unless you've been in that position. Which I suspect nobody has as you are no long in that relationship so obviously didn't love them enough to stay (unless they left you of course). Bottom line is live and let live as long as the person is honest with you, you can chose not to facilitate the cheating."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said. Most of them just like the sound of their own voices and boy are some of them bitter.....

Are you really surprised though? So many people have there lives ripped apart by a cheating spouse, you can understand why they are "

Agree totally.

Isn't it funny just how many people find cheating acceptable?

We find ourselves wondering if they would feel the same if THEY were the person being cheated on??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said. Most of them just like the sound of their own voices and boy are some of them bitter.....

Are you really surprised though? So many people have there lives ripped apart by a cheating spouse, you can understand why they are

Agree totally.

Isn't it funny just how many people find cheating acceptable?

We find ourselves wondering if they would feel the same if THEY were the person being cheated on??

It's an eye opener, however fun this site is , it's put me off ever getting married or being in a serious relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am married but separated. .. sexless

Marrage with other issues. ..

But I kicked him out and joined here.

I would not cheat on him as he did not deserve that. .. even after only having sex 3 times in 3 year's. .. I still did not cheat. ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People cheat for all different reasons and who are we to judge??

Example

You are a young married couple and your spouse is in a devastating accident leaving them incapable of any kind of emotional or sexual relationship.

In my opinion you have three choices;

1. Stay totally faithful for the rest of your lives.

2. Leave

3. Stay but go elsewhere for your emotional and sexual needs.

I would respect the person more staying than leaving them to cope alone, and let's face it, it unrealistic to imagine that anybody could stay and live like that for the next 60 years or whatever!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People cheat for all different reasons and who are we to judge??

Example

You are a young married couple and your spouse is in a devastating accident leaving them incapable of any kind of emotional or sexual relationship.

In my opinion you have three choices;

1. Stay totally faithful for the rest of your lives.

2. Leave

3. Stay but go elsewhere for your emotional and sexual needs.

I would respect the person more staying than leaving them to cope alone, and let's face it, it unrealistic to imagine that anybody could stay and live like that for the next 60 years or whatever!"

But if cheating on that partner causes more pain and heartache then how can that be right?? If the unable party agrees and ok'd it, that is different. We are just thinking of the unaware (for now) partners not the reasons they give to justify it to themselfs. Cheating causes so much emotional and psychological damage. Not just for the partner but for children and families involved too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People cheat for all different reasons and who are we to judge??

Example

You are a young married couple and your spouse is in a devastating accident leaving them incapable of any kind of emotional or sexual relationship.

In my opinion you have three choices;

1. Stay totally faithful for the rest of your lives.

2. Leave

3. Stay but go elsewhere for your emotional and sexual needs.

I would respect the person more staying than leaving them to cope alone, and let's face it, it unrealistic to imagine that anybody could stay and live like that for the next 60 years or whatever!"

And how many do you really think are in that position on here?? Honestly now?

If they had respect for their partner, they would not cheat on them. If things are that bad and they need to look elsewhere for sexual needs, then maybe if they love their partner that much they should be honest with them and therefore not cheat? Has anyone ever witnessed the hurt caused to an innocent partner? Do they think it is right?

And note your comment about emotional needs. Once that line is crossed, there will be someone getting hurt, simple really. Emotions don't share three ways.

Let's be perfectly honest here, most of the cheating people around on here are not because of a situation like above, it is simply because they want free sex behind a partner's back.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

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Emotions don't share three ways.

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Oh yes, they can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am married but separated. .. sexless

Marrage with other issues. ..

But I kicked him out and joined here.

I would not cheat on him as he did not deserve that. .. even after only having sex 3 times in 3 year's. .. I still did not cheat. ..."

Jeez. I could have written this post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

.....

Emotions don't share three ways.

.....

Oh yes, they can"

If all three are happy about it maybe rarely it does, however from what we have seen both on and off here, three way emotions get messy and someone ends up getting hurt.

We hope that in a case like that all three are equally aware.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

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Emotions don't share three ways.

.....

Oh yes, they can

If all three are happy about it maybe rarely it does, however from what we have seen both on and off here, three way emotions get messy and someone ends up getting hurt.

We hope that in a case like that all three are equally aware."

Yes, we were. It happens just as 'rarely' as a couple are happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What we have found interesting is the number of men who are here as a couple but ask to meet on the fly behind the partner's back ... could be any one of you on this post, you will never know so as has been said, live and let live, concern yourself with what you do and leave others to live by their own rules it's no one's biz but theirs, you are not compelled to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While all these views are all bang on for the people concerned and rightly so in their own lives, one thing still remains the same.

Cheating has never been or ever will be right.

Make our own decisions, fine. Others do their own thing, also fine.

But it just isn't right and we think everyone knows that.

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

I'm on here because my marriage died about 13 years ago, a year after I'd given birth to our third child.

He told me he found my body repulsive, that he never wanted to touch me again.

It took me all that time to get my confidence back up. I haven't looked back since I started fucking around. Or swinging as you call it.

We remain married but in name only. He knows I have fun, never asks any questions and has a happier satisfied wife. Win win.

I have never had a single regret.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm on here because my marriage died about 13 years ago, a year after I'd given birth to our third child.

He told me he found my body repulsive, that he never wanted to touch me again.

It took me all that time to get my confidence back up. I haven't looked back since I started fucking around. Or swinging as you call it.

We remain married but in name only. He knows I have fun, never asks any questions and has a happier satisfied wife. Win win.

I have never had a single regret. "

And rightly so, you have been honest with him so you should have no regrets in finding a way for yourself.

Have fun and be happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crickey same couple, same post 13 hours later!

I guess the OP is aware of your stance by now, even if he was merely seeking to speak to women 'in the same boat as himself'.

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By *DbooTSXXXTV/TS
over a year ago

Cork

Outstanding !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very intresthing.i just have one thing to say would everybody say to his coworker,bosses,family and friends i am a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not our cup of tea but like it or not the OP is being open and honest, he hasn't hidden anything in his post at least."

Would his wife agree about him being 'open and honest'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very intresthing.i just have one thing to say would everybody say to his coworker,bosses,family and friends i am a swinger"

Just a question, how does not telling others become cheating?

Which one of them is our partner?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm on here because my marriage died about 13 years ago, a year after I'd given birth to our third child.

He told me he found my body repulsive, that he never wanted to touch me again.

It took me all that time to get my confidence back up. I haven't looked back since I started fucking around. Or swinging as you call it.

We remain married but in name only. He knows I have fun, never asks any questions and has a happier satisfied wife. Win win.

I have never had a single regret. "

but he knows your doing it

And you have good reason to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm on here because my marriage died about 13 years ago, a year after I'd given birth to our third child.

He told me he found my body repulsive, that he never wanted to touch me again.

It took me all that time to get my confidence back up. I haven't looked back since I started fucking around. Or swinging as you call it.

We remain married but in name only. He knows I have fun, never asks any questions and has a happier satisfied wife. Win win.

I have never had a single regret.

but he knows your doing it

And you have good reason to!

I agree I would in your position. You said he knows, but does he agree? Your business either way but its annoying how people slate men and assume there is no good reason yet commend women. I spoke to the op privately and if truthful I feel he has a very valid justification.

Anyway has people have pointed out he didn't ask to be judged on his actions just wondered if anyone was in the same boat so I don't see why those that weren't and just joined the thread to reprimand him bothered.

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings

Unfortunately a lot of people on here do not agree with people so called cheating.

They have no idea why people have the need to want sex else where.

If they are not interested they can block you but why they feel the need

to have a go I dont know.

The rules of this site do not ban it.

So try and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm on here because my marriage died about 13 years ago, a year after I'd given birth to our third child.

He told me he found my body repulsive, that he never wanted to touch me again.

It took me all that time to get my confidence back up. I haven't looked back since I started fucking around. Or swinging as you call it.

We remain married but in name only. He knows I have fun, never asks any questions and has a happier satisfied wife. Win win.

I have never had a single regret. "

Sounds a lovely fella. And your just as bad for not kicking the t##t out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately a lot of people on here do not agree with people so called cheating.

They have no idea why people have the need to want sex else where.

If they are not interested they can block you but why they feel the need

to have a go I dont know.

The rules of this site do not ban it.

So try and have fun

Maybe admin should monitor things like this and give them a suspension, they are quick to jump on minor matters but will not deal with the larger things such as fake profiles, stalkers, abusive and bullying (to strengthen my theory I'll probably get a ban now yet the bullies can continue)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately a lot of people on here do not agree with people so called cheating.

They have no idea why people have the need to want sex else where.

If they are not interested they can block you but why they feel the need

to have a go I dont know.

The rules of this site do not ban it.

So try and have fun

We all try to have fun, but not at the expense of hurting others.

You say 'people so called cheating'

May we ask what you call it then?

We all do lots of things then try to justify our actions, however cheating on our chosen partners is what it is. If we choose to want sex elsewhere, and we tell our partners then they can choose whether they want to be in that type of relationship or not, surely that is the fair thing to do?

Would anyone on here who is with a partner want to find out that their own partner is having sex elsewhere without telling them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately a lot of people on here do not agree with people so called cheating.

They have no idea why people have the need to want sex else where.

If they are not interested they can block you but why they feel the need

to have a go I dont know.

The rules of this site do not ban it.

So try and have fun

No one's bullying anyone!! Put a post like that on an open forum and what do you expect??!! Most people find cheating abhorrent, why should they keep there mouth shut?? That's the whole point of the forum to discuss and get answers whether we like them or not!!! Pleantly of married men play/cheat on here quite happily, it's only the ones that come and whine on the forum that get slated . And yes I know the op didn't whine but he was on the defensive from the start which kinda says alot

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"So everyone has there reasons why theryre on here and no one is to judge, ...."

It would appear that that may not quite be true afterall!

I agree with the "Live and Let Live posters, but can't quote two.

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

Unfortunately a lot of people on here do not agree with people so called cheating.

They have no idea why people have the need to want sex else where.

If they are not interested they can block you but why they feel the need

to have a go I dont know.

The rules of this site do not ban it.

So try and have fun

People should get suspended for speaking the truth and being honest, while other should be applauded for being dishonest?

How does that work?

Cheaters know what they are doing, however to come on here moaning that no-one will meet them??

Then trying to justify something that is wrong?

We have all been given free will to choose right and wrong and we all choose as we like, however we still know the difference between right and wrong, so why try to justify something that is wrong?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Unfortunately a lot of people on here do not agree with people so called cheating.

They have no idea why people have the need to want sex else where.

If they are not interested they can block you but why they feel the need

to have a go I dont know.

The rules of this site do not ban it.

So try and have fun

People should get suspended for speaking the truth and being honest, while other should be applauded for being dishonest?

How does that work?

Cheaters know what they are doing, however to come on here moaning that no-one will meet them??

Then trying to justify something that is wrong?

We have all been given free will to choose right and wrong and we all choose as we like, however we still know the difference between right and wrong, so why try to justify something that is wrong? "

I think people's point is that the op wasn't moaning that no one will meet him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow it is good on here so many views!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Unfortunately a lot of people on here do not agree with people so called cheating.

They have no idea why people have the need to want sex else where.

If they are not interested they can block you but why they feel the need

to have a go I dont know.

The rules of this site do not ban it.

So try and have fun

The op posted twice, I saw no defensiveness in either post. He asked a straightforward and simple question none of us knows his personal circumstances but plenty have made huge assumptions.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow it is good on here so many views!

How many have actually left a message though

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"Wow it is good on here so many views!

But isn't the funniest one further up? The one very vocal against cheating, but the 'lady' appears to have been discovered by admin to have been, err, cheating in her description of herself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow it is good on here so many views!

Agree totally, yet we all know what is right and wrong.

If we choose what we know is wrong, then it is our own free choice, but if we then say our choice is right in our particular circumstances, then why feel the need to hide it and cheat?

We love our partners and don't want to hurt them? Really?? Will they not be hurt more by having their partner be dishonest?

This thread has opened up again the distasteful subject of cheating on a partner.

While we do not know individual circumstances, what actual circumstances make it right to cheat?

To seek sexual satisfaction elsewhere doesn't have to be cheating does it? If there is an honest need to do so and thus save your relationship, if that need is real and fair, why not just be honest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow it is good on here so many views!

But isn't the funniest one further up? The one very vocal against cheating, but the 'lady' appears to have been discovered by admin to have been, err, cheating in her description of herself?

How can you cheat on a description???

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

You'll find it, it jumped out at me, and I've probably already said too much, naughty step beckons etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You'll find it, it jumped out at me, and I've probably already said too much, naughty step beckons etc...

Without me reading it all, can you give me a clue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You'll find it, it jumped out at me, and I've probably already said too much, naughty step beckons etc...

Without me reading it all, can you give me a clue. "

Seen

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By *anchestercubMan
over a year ago

manchester & NI

So much emotional baggage in this thread.

If you want to cheat then cheat, have fun for as long as it lasts but be prepared to face the consequences too if you get found out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So much emotional baggage in this thread.

If you want to cheat then cheat, have fun for as long as it lasts but be prepared to face the consequences too if you get found out. "

Very true, but don't go round trying to say it is fine is all we say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody's saying its right including the OP but what I'm saying is its nobody else's business you make your decisions and let people make theirs and when they are on asking one question why turn it into another subject. If he'd come on here asking what people think about cheating then fine but he didn't he asked if there was anybody in the same boat as him and not one person has addressed the original question although I'm sure there are many on here! People ask others to be truthful about their situation but if they think they are only going to be met with abuse they are more likely to lie.

So if you do not want to meet a cheater don't make them feel they can't be honest and then you can make an informed opinion!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody's saying its right including the OP but what I'm saying is its nobody else's business you make your decisions and let people make theirs and when they are on asking one question why turn it into another subject. If he'd come on here asking what people think about cheating then fine but he didn't he asked if there was anybody in the same boat as him and not one person has addressed the original question although I'm sure there are many on here! People ask others to be truthful about their situation but if they think they are only going to be met with abuse they are more likely to lie.

So if you do not want to meet a cheater don't make them feel they can't be honest and then you can make an informed opinion! "

Feel they can't be honest??

Let's be completely honest now, if that person cannot be honest at home with his partner, how can you then describe that person as honest here?

Is there such thing as a selectively honest person?

However way you look at it, a cheaters aren't honest people, are they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What we are saying is if you want to cheat please do so, it is absolutely your choice. Still doesn't make it right though, and we hope that the other partner treats them the same way.

But then to come on here questioning why no-one wants to meet you or respond to you?

Are they really surprised?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

So if you do not want to meet a cheater don't make them feel they can't be honest and then you can make an informed opinion!

Feel they can't be honest??

Let's be completely honest now, if that person cannot be honest at home with his partner, how can you then describe that person as honest here?

Is there such thing as a selectively honest person?

However way you look at it, a cheaters aren't honest people, are they?"

Yes there is such a thing as a selectively honest person.....most of us are. Would you rather that married men lie on their profiles? How would you exclude yourself from meeting them then?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"What we are saying is if you want to cheat please do so, it is absolutely your choice. Still doesn't make it right though, and we hope that the other partner treats them the same way.

But then to come on here questioning why no-one wants to meet you or respond to you?

Are they really surprised?"

Yes. I think we are all quite clear on your opinions.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

But then to come on here questioning why no-one wants to meet you or respond to you?

Are they really surprised?"

But he hasn't has he? You are the ones who have railroaded this thread and made it what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But then to come on here questioning why no-one wants to meet you or respond to you?

Are they really surprised?

But he hasn't has he? You are the ones who have railroaded this thread and made it what it is. "

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

That word judgemental again, always used when one doesnt like others moral opinions, the truth is if everyone seriously takes a look at there everyday life they will see that they judge things numerous times everyday, making everybody judgemental, it is every single persons right to judge what is right and wrong for them, its part of who we are, yet the word judgemental gets thrown about so easily when someone is annoyed with someone elses moral views.

cheating is cheating, there are no reasons that make it right or ok, but if you choose to use a swingers site to help you do it then the very least you can do is put it on your profile to allow those that dont want anything to do with it and just want to swing the chance to stay away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if you do not want to meet a cheater don't make them feel they can't be honest and then you can make an informed opinion!

Feel they can't be honest??

Let's be completely honest now, if that person cannot be honest at home with his partner, how can you then describe that person as honest here?

Is there such thing as a selectively honest person?

However way you look at it, a cheaters aren't honest people, are they?

Yes there is such a thing as a selectively honest person.....most of us are. Would you rather that married men lie on their profiles? How would you exclude yourself from meeting them then?

I'm honest about my marriage. Some married men dont have their marital status on their profiles. They have told me when I ask but why not put it in your profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send the cheaters underground and you will be facilitating them, should you meet, whether u like it or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That word judgemental again, always used when one doesnt like others moral opinions, the truth is if everyone seriously takes a look at there everyday life they will see that they judge things numerous times everyday, making everybody judgemental, it is every single persons right to judge what is right and wrong for them, its part of who we are, yet the word judgemental gets thrown about so easily when someone is annoyed with someone elses moral views.

Cheating is cheating, there are no reasons that make it right or ok.

Thank you!

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I don't think people are disagreeing with you on the issue of cheating being wrong. It's the way the op is getting lambasted by people who have sidelined it from it's original intent and turned it into their own agenda.

I could go into a thread you had created and rip your profile apart. However, I wouldn't because:

A) you haven't asked for it.

B) it's none of my business what you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought this might be a sailing thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating is cheating, there are no reasons that make it right or ok.

Thank you!"

Can you be sure 100% your partner doesn't cheat on you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think people are disagreeing with you on the issue of cheating being wrong. It's the way the op is getting lambasted by people who have sidelined it from it's original intent and turned it into their own agenda.

I could go into a thread you had created and rip your profile apart. However, I wouldn't because:

A) you haven't asked for it.

B) it's none of my business what you do. "

Feel free to rip our profile apart.

We aren't hurting anyone or being dishonest to anyone. We do exactly as we want, but not to the cost or hurt of someone else.

He isn't getting lambasted as you put it, cheating is.

That is the danger of putting yourself in everyone's eye on a thread when you are doing things you shouldn't be. It would be better just to get on with it quietly rather than try and encourage someone else to join you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I thought this might be a sailing thread. "

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Cheating is cheating, there are no reasons that make it right or ok.

Thank you!"

Swinging couples pass each other around to other men/women/couples/groups. I bet your kids will love it when they get bullied by other kids at school if your 'lifestyle' became known to their teachers

It would make for an entertaing parents-teachers meeting

I am not being 'judgemental'; just stating a fact and being honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm married and its completely dead. Never any sex at all. Other issues which I don't wish to discuss that aren't pleasant. Hench reason for meeting Jack off the site couple yrs ago. Were nothing more than fbs.

We both had fantasies we wanted to fulfill and decided to join fab. Needless to say we haven't got round to doing all we want. "

Hello Jill Danny here hope your having loads off fun with jack ,I'm in the same situation myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating is cheating, there are no reasons that make it right or ok.

Thank you!

It would make for an entertaing parents-teachers meeting

I am not being 'judgemental'; just stating a fact and being honest

Swingers are not cheating or dishonest.

They just keep their private life private.

We fully understand what you are saying, although not all swingers have kids, however there is absolutely no comparison to cheating and lying to someone, is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like pickled onion Munster munch.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Cheating is cheating, there are no reasons that make it right or ok.

Thank you!

It would make for an entertaing parents-teachers meeting

I am not being 'judgemental'; just stating a fact and being honest

I don't understand what you mean. Are you saying that if a teacher found out about a parents sex life they would tell the other children? What fact are you.stating?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Cheating is cheating, there are no reasons that make it right or ok.

Thank you!

It would make for an entertaing parents-teachers meeting

I am not being 'judgemental'; just stating a fact and being honest

Swingers are not cheating or dishonest.

They just keep their private life private.

We fully understand what you are saying, although not all swingers have kids, however there is absolutely no comparison to cheating and lying to someone, is it?"

Cheating is cheating, there are no reasons that make it right or ok.

Thank you!

It would make for an entertaing parents-teachers meeting

I am not being 'judgemental'; just stating a fact and being honest

Swingers are not cheating or dishonest.

They just keep their private life private.

We fully understand what you are saying, although not all swingers have kids, however there is absolutely no comparison to cheating and lying to someone, is it?"

There is a direct comparison. Cheating can cause hurt to the partner, if discovered. Swingwing couples can cause hurt to their children, if dicovered

But ofcourse, your argument will be that you are honest with each other

I wonder if the kids bullying your children would care very much about whether you two were honest with each other. The 15 year old girl will be taunted by the 15 year boys in school; "hey show us how you mommy does it with other guys"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating is cheating, there are no reasons that make it right or ok.

Thank you!

It would make for an entertaing parents-teachers meeting

I am not being 'judgemental'; just stating a fact and being honest

Swingers are not cheating or dishonest.

They just keep their private life private.

We fully understand what you are saying, although not all swingers have kids, however there is absolutely no comparison to cheating and lying to someone, is it?

Cheating is cheating, there are no reasons that make it right or ok.

Thank you!

It would make for an entertaing parents-teachers meeting

I am not being 'judgemental'; just stating a fact and being honest

Swingers are not cheating or dishonest.

They just keep their private life private.

We fully understand what you are saying, although not all swingers have kids, however there is absolutely no comparison to cheating and lying to someone, is it?

There is a direct comparison. Cheating can cause hurt to the partner, if discovered. Swingwing couples can cause hurt to their children, if dicovered

But ofcourse, your argument will be that you are honest with each other

And of course you can give us examples of when this has happened can't you?

What we going to say now? Upset the elderly parents if they find out as well?

It is one thing keeping things private, completely another cheating on your partner.

Frankly amazed at the mentality of some on here.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

This is becoming ridiculous!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"...

Swingers are not cheating or dishonest.

They just keep their private life private.

We fully understand what you are saying, although not all swingers have kids, however there is absolutely no comparison to cheating and lying to someone, is it?

There is a direct comparison. Cheating can cause hurt to the partner, if discovered. Swingwing couples can cause hurt to their children, if dicovered

But ofcourse, your argument will be that you are honest with each other

And of course you can give us examples of when this has happened can't you?

What we going to say now? Upset the elderly parents if they find out as well?

It is one thing keeping things private, completely another cheating on your partner.

Frankly amazed at the mentality of some on here.

It is OK to upset some and not others? Why? Just because that is convenient for you?

So, it is OK to potentially cause hurt to ones own children but not OK to potentially cause hurt to ones own partner. Or is it that swinging couples are so good at lying that they won't get found out

People in glass houses .....

Yes, frankly I am amazed at the mentality of some on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...

Swingers are not cheating or dishonest.

They just keep their private life private.

We fully understand what you are saying, although not all swingers have kids, however there is absolutely no comparison to cheating and lying to someone, is it?

There is a direct comparison. Cheating can cause hurt to the partner, if discovered. Swingwing couples can cause hurt to their children, if dicovered

But ofcourse, your argument will be that you are honest with each other

And of course you can give us examples of when this has happened can't you?

What we going to say now? Upset the elderly parents if they find out as well?

It is one thing keeping things private, completely another cheating on your partner.

Frankly amazed at the mentality of some on here.

It is OK to upset some and not others? Why? Just because that is convenient for you?

So, it is OK to potentially cause hurt to ones own children but not OK to potentially cause hurt to ones own partner. Or is it that swinging couples are so good at lying that they won't get found out

People in glass houses .....

Yes, frankly I am amazed at the mentality of some on here"

. Wow. Just wow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...

Swingers are not cheating or dishonest.

They just keep their private life private.

We fully understand what you are saying, although not all swingers have kids, however there is absolutely no comparison to cheating and lying to someone, is it?

There is a direct comparison. Cheating can cause hurt to the partner, if discovered. Swingwing couples can cause hurt to their children, if dicovered

But ofcourse, your argument will be that you are honest with each other

And of course you can give us examples of when this has happened can't you?

What we going to say now? Upset the elderly parents if they find out as well?

It is one thing keeping things private, completely another cheating on your partner.

Frankly amazed at the mentality of some on here.

It is OK to upset some and not others? Why? Just because that is convenient for you?

So, it is OK to potentially cause hurt to ones own children but not OK to potentially cause hurt to ones own partner. Or is it that swinging couples are so good at lying that they won't get found out

People in glass houses .....

Yes, frankly I am amazed at the mentality of some on here"

May we ask what is it that swinging couples lie about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please enlighten us.

We are sure there are a lot of swinging couples curious as to what they are lying about.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"...

Swingers are not cheating or dishonest.

They just keep their private life private.

We fully understand what you are saying, although not all swingers have kids, however there is absolutely no comparison to cheating and lying to someone, is it?

There is a direct comparison. Cheating can cause hurt to the partner, if discovered. Swingwing couples can cause hurt to their children, if dicovered

But ofcourse, your argument will be that you are honest with each other

And of course you can give us examples of when this has happened can't you?

What we going to say now? Upset the elderly parents if they find out as well?

It is one thing keeping things private, completely another cheating on your partner.

Frankly amazed at the mentality of some on here.

It is OK to upset some and not others? Why? Just because that is convenient for you?

So, it is OK to potentially cause hurt to ones own children but not OK to potentially cause hurt to ones own partner. Or is it that swinging couples are so good at lying that they won't get found out

People in glass houses .....

Yes, frankly I am amazed at the mentality of some on here

May we ask what is it that swinging couples lie about?

A lot of cheaters don't lie either. They are just as 'economical' with the truth where their partners are concerned as swinging couples are with the truth where it concerns their children

And not just with their children. I just wonder when the male of the couple walked into work and bragged to his mates about the gang-bang that his wife enjoyed the night before

Hypocrisy, of any kind, is entertaining for me from where I am sitting/standing/getting-'laid'

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

"I'm on here because my marriage died about 13 years ago, a year after I'd given birth to our third child.

He told me he found my body repulsive, that he never wanted to touch me again.

It took me all that time to get my confidence back up. I haven't looked back since I started fucking around. Or swinging as you call it.

We remain married but in name only. He knows I have fun, never asks any questions and has a happier satisfied wife. Win win.

I have never had a single regret.

Sounds a lovely fella. And your just as bad for not kicking the t##t out

Charming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating is cheating, there are no reasons that make it right or ok.

Thank you!

It would make for an entertaing parents-teachers meeting

I am not being 'judgemental'; just stating a fact and being honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't do married men because of moral issues buy funny thing was today I had a fun meet during sex I noticed his band and I was suprised but I didn't say anything cos I didn't ask him it never came up but I felt uncomfortable at end

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By *ts artMan
over a year ago

Londonderry

Sometimes a cheats "personal reasons" is just plain selfishness nothing more"

Did I miss something here you're listed as a man but in your post refer to your hubby cheating on you with another woman?

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By *hrissie1961Woman
over a year ago

dumfries and galloway

Well said. Most of them just like the sound of their own voices and boy are some of them bitter.....

Are you really surprised though? So many people have there lives ripped apart by a cheating spouse, you can understand why they are

Agree totally.

Isn't it funny just how many people find cheating acceptable?

We find ourselves wondering if they would feel the same if THEY were the person being cheated on??

And life carries on, the world keeps turning. Best revenge is to move on and be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What we have found interesting is the number of men who are here as a couple but ask to meet on the fly behind the partner's back ... could be any one of you on this post, you will never know so as has been said, live and let live, concern yourself with what you do and leave others to live by their own rules it's no one's biz but theirs, you are not compelled to meet them."

couldn't agree more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What we are saying is if you want to cheat please do so, it is absolutely your choice. Still doesn't make it right though, and we hope that the other partner treats them the same way.

But then to come on here questioning why no-one wants to

meet you or respond to you?

Is it just me,the original thread was not about cheating. The op asked if there was anyone out there in the same boat. Clearly you are not. So why not give us all a break and give it a rest. Instead of attention seeking for yourself.

Are they really surprised?"

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Don't start bringing children into this argument. There are many things parents do that would embarrass their children but it has nothing to do with this thread and is a cheap shot.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Don't start bringing children into this argument. There are many things parents do that would embarrass their children but it has nothing to do with this thread and is a cheap shot. "

It has everything to do with the attitude some have on this thread. The attitude held the I am more holier, honest, better, trustworthy, etc than you

The "cheap shot" is belittling someone here who has asked a very simple question. If you are not in "his boat" then keep mouth shut. Or be completly 'bomb-proof' so that your 'lifestyle', when it comes to you causing potential harm to your children, can be challenged

Afterall, if the cheat is expected to keep it in his pants, then why don't the parents too keep it in theit pants/panties knowing full well that their children could be harmed. Is it that they can't control themselves even though their secret activities could cause hurt to their offsprings?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Don't start bringing children into this argument. There are many things parents do that would embarrass their children but it has nothing to do with this thread and is a cheap shot.

It has everything to do with the attitude some have on this thread. The attitude held the I am more holier, honest, better, trustworthy, etc than you

Time to stop now.

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings

"Don't start bringing children into this argument. There are many things parents do that would embarrass their children but it has nothing to do with this thread and is a cheap shot.

It has everything to do with the attitude some have on this thread. The attitude held the I am more holier, honest, better, trustworthy, etc than you

Time to stop now. "

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

Cheating is cheating, there are no reasons that make it right or ok.

Thank you!

It would make for an entertaing parents-teachers meeting

I am not being 'judgemental'; just stating a fact and being honest

Swingers are not cheating or dishonest.

They just keep their private life private.

We fully understand what you are saying, although not all swingers have kids, however there is absolutely no comparison to cheating and lying to someone, is it?

Cheating is cheating, there are no reasons that make it right or ok.

Thank you!

It would make for an entertaing parents-teachers meeting

I am not being 'judgemental'; just stating a fact and being honest

Swingers are not cheating or dishonest.

They just keep their private life private.

We fully understand what you are saying, although not all swingers have kids, however there is absolutely no comparison to cheating and lying to someone, is it?

There is a direct comparison. Cheating can cause hurt to the partner, if discovered. Swingwing couples can cause hurt to their children, if dicovered

But ofcourse, your argument will be that you are honest with each other

the main, blatant and obvious difference here is that in normal society you are not meant to tell your kids all the ins and outs of your sex life, whereas your wife/husband should no the full ins and outs.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

Cheating is cheating, there are no reasons that make it right or ok.

Thank you!

Can you be sure 100% your partner doesn't cheat on you?"

no I cant, and I dont think anyone can, but that doesnt a thing, and I dont see where that is relevant to my post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't start bringing children into this argument. There are many things parents do that would embarrass their children but it has nothing to do with this thread and is a cheap shot.

It has everything to do with the attitude some have on this thread. The attitude held the I am more holier, honest, better, trustworthy, etc than you

Time to stop now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't start bringing children into this argument. There are many things parents do that would embarrass their children but it has nothing to do with this thread and is a cheap shot.

It has everything to do with the attitude some have on this thread. The attitude held the I am more holier, honest, better, trustworthy, etc than you

Funny enough, we do keep it in our pants. But if the people concerned have no children, that argument is flawed. A cheat however, remains a cheat

A lot of this has sprung from the fact that swinging seems to be used as an excuse for cheating by some of the members.

Maybe the ones who cannot see the difference have chosen the wrong site?

Are swingers people of no morals? In our experiences, the people we have come across on here have lots of morals, however to repeat something said earlier, this is getting ridiculous now.

Maybe like the cheaters who want to justify their actions, we should stop discussing the subject of keeping morals.

Interesting thread. We are honestly surprised how little some people feel morals should be discussed. Maybe it is how things are now.

The last few are right however, this should stop now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

couldn't agree more."

I have met a lot of couples off fab, people that are "honest" with eachother and just want a woman for extra fun. 100% of times the guy has approached me behind her back and asked for secret meets. I have always declined obviously, but this shows that if men are given an inch they'll take a mile!! I am in no way implying this is all couple just all couples I've met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Man is a hunter gatherer and it is in his dna to breed!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man is a hunter gatherer and it is in his dna to breed!!!

Yep!! Feels the need to spread his seed.

Lol, it rhymes feel feel to steal that one

haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man is a hunter gatherer and it is in his dna to breed!!!

so you feel the need to hunt and gather on fab??? Your nothing to do with that Welsh cannibal thread are you???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we all go through it at sometime just don't seem to be able to meet up with a mature lady on her im in a loveless marriage

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Man is a hunter gatherer and it is in his dna to breed!!!

man was the hunter and women with children were the gatherers. Its in all mammals dna to breed.

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Don't start bringing children into this argument. There are many things parents do that would embarrass their children but it has nothing to do with this thread and is a cheap shot.

It has everything to do with the attitude some have on this thread. The attitude held the I am more holier, honest, better, trustworthy, etc than you

If you read the thread you will see that I did keep my mouth shut. So stop getting your panties in a twist and quit your ranting.

I am completely bomb proof so there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating is cheating, there are no reasons that make it right or ok.

Thank you!

Can you be sure 100% your partner doesn't cheat on you?

no I cant, and I dont think anyone can, but that doesnt a thing, and I dont see where that is relevant to my post."

Actually wasn't in response to your post specifically but....no one can be sure a partner isnt cheating so perhaps the high horse should be put away, and we think its relevant because the holier than though attitudes on here make it so by completely railroading this thread away from the original intent by demonising others who don't live by their standards. Some might say you all protest too much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

couldn't agree more.

Exactly and those on here who are giving the op a hard time do not know if their partner does so also, which is our whole point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating is cheating, there are no reasons that make it right or ok.

Thank you!

Can you be sure 100% your partner doesn't cheat on you?

no I cant, and I dont think anyone can, but that doesnt a thing, and I dont see where that is relevant to my post.

Ahaha!! Yes yes of course were being all judgy and moralistic to cover our tracks because really we are horrible cheating people that eat neighborhood cats . Yes yes you caught us

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

Cheating is cheating, there are no reasons that make it right or ok.

Thank you!

Can you be sure 100% your partner doesn't cheat on you?

no I cant, and I dont think anyone can, but that doesnt a thing, and I dont see where that is relevant to my post.

I agree no one can be 100% sure unless you are with said person every minute of every day, but my having a view doesnt put me on a high horse nor does it constitute holier than thou nor have I railroaded anybody, I simply had a view and spoke it, thats what a forum is for, is it not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually wasn't in response to your post specifically but....no one can be sure a partner isnt cheating so perhaps the high horse should be put away, and we think its relevant because the holier than though attitudes on here make it so by completely railroading this thread away from the original intent by demonising others who don't live by their standards. Some might say you all protest too much? "

Their standards? So who is it on this site that thinks that cheating is wrong and then made the standard up?

We think you will find that the standard has been around long before all of us, and will be around a long time after.

No-on has said they are holier than thou, just simply certain standards are what they are.

Sorry, if people are feeling that their partners are cheating, we guess it isn't a good place to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no need for eye rolling, you have made your points, over and over and over yet again....we get it....ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are ladies about, you just need to be patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I knew someone would give a direct answer to the ops question if I waited long enough.

In fairness the hi jacking of the thread was mightily impressive though.

Depressingly repetitive, but impressive nonetheless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the Op has to do is day he is here with consent.

even if its not true.

Somebody will relieve him of his "seed".

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over a year ago

"I knew someone would give a direct answer to the ops question if I waited long enough.

In fairness the hi jacking of the thread was mightily impressive though.

Depressingly repetitive, but impressive nonetheless. "

Typical male's answer.

Oh, may we add, a typical male who cannot accommodate.

We wonder why....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I knew someone would give a direct answer to the ops question if I waited long enough.

In fairness the hi jacking of the thread was mightily impressive though.

Depressingly repetitive, but impressive nonetheless.

Typical male's answer.

Oh, may we add, a typical male who cannot accommodate.

We wonder why...."

oh please!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew someone would give a direct answer to the ops question if I waited long enough.

In fairness the hi jacking of the thread was mightily impressive though.

Depressingly repetitive, but impressive nonetheless.

Typical male's answer.

Oh, may we add, a typical male who cannot accommodate.

We wonder why....

oh please!

Really?

You surprise us!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I knew someone would give a direct answer to the ops question if I waited long enough.

In fairness the hi jacking of the thread was mightily impressive though.

Depressingly repetitive, but impressive nonetheless.

Typical male's answer.

Oh, may we add, a typical male who cannot accommodate.

We wonder why....

oh please!

Really?

You surprise us!!"

Do I?

Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew someone would give a direct answer to the ops question if I waited long enough.

In fairness the hi jacking of the thread was mightily impressive though.

Depressingly repetitive, but impressive nonetheless.

Typical male's answer.

Oh, may we add, a typical male who cannot accommodate.

We wonder why....

oh please!

Really?

You surprise us!!

Do I?

Why?"

Tell you what we noticed, a joint profile, yet you answer 'Do I'??

Strange it is 'I' not 'We'

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I knew someone would give a direct answer to the ops question if I waited long enough.

In fairness the hi jacking of the thread was mightily impressive though.

Depressingly repetitive, but impressive nonetheless.

Typical male's answer.

Oh, may we add, a typical male who cannot accommodate.

We wonder why....

oh please!

Really?

You surprise us!!

Do I?

Why?

Tell you what we noticed, a joint profile, yet you answer 'Do I'??

Strange it is 'I' not 'We'

Yep. You're absolutely right. Care to divulge your deductions?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew someone would give a direct answer to the ops question if I waited long enough.

In fairness the hi jacking of the thread was mightily impressive though.

Depressingly repetitive, but impressive nonetheless.

Typical male's answer.

Oh, may we add, a typical male who cannot accommodate.

We wonder why....

oh please!

Really?

You surprise us!!

Do I?

Why?

Tell you what we noticed, a joint profile, yet you answer 'Do I'??

Strange it is 'I' not 'We'

Yep. You're absolutely right. Care to divulge your deductions? "

What deductions?

We will leave that to you.

We were always curious about your views to be honest.

Have fun.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I knew someone would give a direct answer to the ops question if I waited long enough.

In fairness the hi jacking of the thread was mightily impressive though.

Depressingly repetitive, but impressive nonetheless.

Typical male's answer.

Oh, may we add, a typical male who cannot accommodate.

We wonder why....

oh please!

Really?

You surprise us!!

Do I?

Why?

Tell you what we noticed, a joint profile, yet you answer 'Do I'??

Strange it is 'I' not 'We'

Yep. You're absolutely right. Care to divulge your deductions?

What deductions?

We will leave that to you.

We were always curious about your views to be honest.

Have fun."

oh I will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew someone would give a direct answer to the ops question if I waited long enough.

In fairness the hi jacking of the thread was mightily impressive though.

Depressingly repetitive, but impressive nonetheless.

Typical male's answer.

Oh, may we add, a typical male who cannot accommodate.

We wonder why....

oh please!

Really?

You surprise us!!

Do I?

Why?

Tell you what we noticed, a joint profile, yet you answer 'Do I'??

Strange it is 'I' not 'We'

Yep. You're absolutely right. Care to divulge your deductions?

What deductions?

We will leave that to you.

We were always curious about your views to be honest.

Have fun.

oh I will.

We bet you will.

Strange thing is, how many couples on here are 'I'?

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"I knew someone would give a direct answer to the ops question if I waited long enough.

In fairness the hi jacking of the thread was mightily impressive though.

Depressingly repetitive, but impressive nonetheless.

Typical male's answer.

Oh, may we add, a typical male who cannot accommodate.

We wonder why....

oh please!

Really?

You surprise us!!

Do I?

Why?

Tell you what we noticed, a joint profile, yet you answer 'Do I'??

Strange it is 'I' not 'We'

Yep. You're absolutely right. Care to divulge your deductions?

What deductions?

We will leave that to you.

We were always curious about your views to be honest.

Have fun.

oh I will.

We bet you will.

Strange thing is, how many couples on here are 'I'?"

Do you think they each need to press a letter each when typing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew someone would give a direct answer to the ops question if I waited long enough.

In fairness the hi jacking of the thread was mightily impressive though.

Depressingly repetitive, but impressive nonetheless.

Typical male's answer.

Oh, may we add, a typical male who cannot accommodate.

We wonder why...."

Why typical male answer? I quite agree with his comment actually!

And as for not accommodation, there are plenty of females and couples who can't either so not sure why you say it's just a typical male

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I knew someone would give a direct answer to the ops question if I waited long enough.

In fairness the hi jacking of the thread was mightily impressive though.

Depressingly repetitive, but impressive nonetheless.

Typical male's answer.

Oh, may we add, a typical male who cannot accommodate.

We wonder why....

oh please!

Really?

You surprise us!!

Do I?

Why?

Tell you what we noticed, a joint profile, yet you answer 'Do I'??

Strange it is 'I' not 'We'

Yep. You're absolutely right. Care to divulge your deductions?

What deductions?

We will leave that to you.

We were always curious about your views to be honest.

Have fun.

oh I will.

We bet you will.

Strange thing is, how many couples on here are 'I'?"

Isn't it.

Some couples are capable of acting independently iof each other in matters such as expressing opinions on an internet forum. In fact some wouldn't dream of speaking for the other person.

Strange that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Skipping the majority of the thread lol, I have my own views on playing while you are cheating, both for and against...I'm not going to judge either way; plenty of people have already done that, all I'll say is there are ladies on here who will play, many in the same situation as yourself and you will find them...be patient and good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew someone would give a direct answer to the ops question if I waited long enough.

In fairness the hi jacking of the thread was mightily impressive though.

Depressingly repetitive, but impressive nonetheless.

Typical male's answer.

Oh, may we add, a typical male who cannot accommodate.

We wonder why....

oh please!

Really?

You surprise us!!

Do I?

Why?

Tell you what we noticed, a joint profile, yet you answer 'Do I'??

Strange it is 'I' not 'We'

Yep. You're absolutely right. Care to divulge your deductions?

What deductions?

We will leave that to you.

We were always curious about your views to be honest.

Have fun.

oh I will.

We bet you will.

Strange thing is, how many couples on here are 'I'?

Isn't it.

Some couples are capable of acting independently iof each other in matters such as expressing opinions on an internet forum. In fact some wouldn't dream of speaking for the other person.

Strange that. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody hell this still going! Holy joe's rule!!!!

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings

THE END

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"THE END"

There could yet be a sequel.........

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings

"THE END

There could yet be a sequel.........

Never normally as good though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"THE END

There could yet be a sequel.........

Never normally as good though

They are like buses, another one due any minute

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

Wow this is some long ass thread!! A lot of aggression flying around, I've seen threads closed for less!! Think it's got way out of hand, I'm not even gonna comment on it!!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Wow this is some long ass thread!! A lot of aggression flying around, I've seen threads closed for less!! Think it's got way out of hand, I'm not even gonna comment on it!!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow this is some long ass thread!! A lot of aggression flying around, I've seen threads closed for less!! Think it's got way out of hand, I'm not even gonna comment on it!!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I knew someone would give a direct answer to the ops question if I waited long enough.

In fairness the hi jacking of the thread was mightily impressive though.

Depressingly repetitive, but impressive nonetheless.

Typical male's answer.

Oh, may we add, a typical male who cannot accommodate.

We wonder why....

oh please!

Really?

You surprise us!!

Do I?

Why?

Tell you what we noticed, a joint profile, yet you answer 'Do I'??

Strange it is 'I' not 'We'

Yep. You're absolutely right. Care to divulge your deductions?

What deductions?

We will leave that to you.

We were always curious about your views to be honest.

Have fun.

oh I will.

We bet you will.

Strange thing is, how many couples on here are 'I'?"

Well I post on the forums from my phone, so following your logic of putting "we" that would make it seem that we are both present when in fact it's only myself.

See how silly your post looks now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess this isn't a thread looking for other sailors then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sailors but definitely hijackers. And very persistant ones at that!

Congrats by the way to anyone who actually addressed the ops original question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sailors but definitely hijackers. And very persistant ones at that!

Congrats by the way to anyone who actually addressed the ops original question."

You had to come back and stir it up again didn't you?

Why??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sailors but definitely hijackers. And very persistant ones at that!

Congrats by the way to anyone who actually addressed the ops original question."

It appears one or two tried to answer the original question, but were drowned in a sea of swirling righteousness...!!

Eva

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope they had life jackets then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please let this thread dieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

you

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over a year ago

East Sussex

need

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over a year ago

East Sussex

get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For those sitting on the top deck of the outrage bus who missed it

"So everyone has there reasons why theryre on here and "

*****no one is to judge,*****

"but are there any women who are attached but are looking for something outside of their home?Lets chat and see if were for each other.

Seemed a lot of people missed that caveat

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