FabSwingers.com forum: bad hygiene

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just recently played a greedy girls nite at my local swinging club. Loved most of it and I find it such a turn on being watched.

What I find a turn off is bad hygiene. How on earth can I tell someone to have a wash in front of around twenty spectators? I hate to hurt feelings and I am not one to hulmitate but the guy is lovely other wise just doesn't know what soap looks like. He would love to play again but I can not avoid him for ever.

Any advice will be greatly excepted how best to deal with this situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either you or the host have a quiet word with him before the event, or get the host to make the expectations on hygiene clear to everyone before the event starts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am not sure he would take the hint to honest, I am just too soft but I would die of shame if someone told me that I stink.

I will talk to the owners over my concerns. Thanks hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you seen this guy before, does he have a birthday coming up? Could you get him some bath salts/packs?

It's a tough one and I'm not sure how I would approach it either but I would prefer to be told than not if it was me that was doing the honking...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Never seen the guy before but know I will definitely see him again.

It is a tough one but I am surprised he couldn't smell him self to be honest, another male who I was playing with noticed it too and discreetly kept him away from my rear end while my mouth was busy with another male.

This has ruined what could of been a amazing nite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a jacccusi with him

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just recently played a greedy girls nite at my local swinging club. Loved most of it and I find it such a turn on being watched.

Any advice will be greatly excepted how best to deal with this situation. "

Well I have just tried to make contact with some of the guys I played with at the club and one has blocked me with no warning. Think he looked at my post and he thought it was him that had a smelly problem . He was so wrong and I have offended the wrong person. I need a pair of balls and tell the actual guy with the smelly and stinky cock that he needs to wash. Or else every one I played with is going to get paranoid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think i would have to say something,hemay be upset but he would also be mortified if he realised he stunk! He may thank you in the long run for being honest or get another person to say something or drop hints xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think i would have to say something,hemay be upset but he would also be mortified if he realised he stunk! He may thank you in the long run for being honest or get another person to say something or drop hints xx"

I am definitely saying something now but should of pulled him to one side on the night and said something earlier, the longer I leave it the worse it will get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be too hard on yourself x its a sensitive one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't be too hard on yourself x its a sensitive one

I think maybe he has seen my post, he is ignoring my messages now.

Well least it's out there now.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Don't be too hard on yourself x its a sensitive one

I think maybe he has seen my post, he is ignoring my messages now.

Well least it's out there now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its unbelievable how someone wouldnt bathe before meeting..the mind boggles...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask the host to announce loudly before everything starts:

" Now ,all go to the bathroom to wash yourself! No wash ,no play!"

in a confident and, at the same time, humorous manner.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Sorry but I think putting up a forum post about it is shocking, you should have just told him privately ... If a man had posted something like this he would have been ripped to shreds

Maybe you weren't blocked because they thought you were talking about them... Maybe it's because of your lack of respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry but I think putting up a forum post about it is shocking, you should have just told him privately ... If a man had posted something like this he would have been ripped to shreds

Maybe you weren't blocked because they thought you were talking about them... Maybe it's because of your lack of respect "

Nothing wrong in asking for an opinion on a forum. She hasn't named anyone ,what's the problem?

Seeing she is a professional adult entertainer, she might have played with hundreds of men before posting on here, so how would anyone know if she meant him and besides, so what, itS better to look himself and wonder 'was it me?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I train hard at the gym I might get a sweaty cock, but I always have a shower at the women I meet, she might even join in for some soapy fun and help me out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He may well be a lovely guy but at the end of the day when going somewhere where the point is to engage in a close physical contact you need to have respect for everyone involved by being clean.

If he doesn't take the hint then he simply doesn't play.

You need to make sure your looking out for yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry but I think putting up a forum post about it is shocking, you should have just told him privately ... If a man had posted something like this he would have been ripped to shreds

Maybe you weren't blocked because they thought you were talking about them... Maybe it's because of your lack of respect "

I think you are of course entitled to your opinion and the part about respect, I did of course keep my mouth shut while performing sex acts infront of other people when I could of easily said something infront of everyone. I am always respectful of people's feelings and posted in the forum for genuine advice.Maybe it wasn't one of my best ideas but it's been said now. I haven't named and won't name the guy plus respect goes both ways. If you are a man wanting to play with a woman, a good clean of the your cock should be the first thing to do while showering. How he couldn't smell him self has puzzled me. At least now unfortunately if it happens again I will just say. The odour of fish and pee really doesn't do it for me.I can not play

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He may well be a lovely guy but at the end of the day when going somewhere where the point is to engage in a close physical contact you need to have respect for everyone involved by being clean.

If he doesn't take the hint then he simply doesn't play.

You need to make sure your looking out for yourself. "

Thank you hun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ask the host to announce loudly before everything starts:

" Now ,all go to the bathroom to wash yourself! No wash ,no play!"

in a confident and, at the same time, humorous manner. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its unbelievable how someone wouldnt bathe before meeting..the mind boggles..."

I think it's bad manners and disrespectful. I must check my self a dozen times before I play and if I don't taste right or smell right I am not playing at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know you don't like to hurt feelings but is he thinking of the feelings of you or others, it's either you put up with it or tell him straight maybe not in front of people but on his own, if I were playing and I wasn't comfortable I would have to stop and deal with whatever the issue was! Don't be hard on yourself but just be honest x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know you don't like to hurt feelings but is he thinking of the feelings of you or others, it's either you put up with it or tell him straight maybe not in front of people but on his own, if I were playing and I wasn't comfortable I would have to stop and deal with whatever the issue was! Don't be hard on yourself but just be honest x"

Thanks, i have already and he was cool about it. All that worry for nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just recently played a greedy girls nite at my local swinging club. Loved most of it and I find it such a turn on being watched.

Any advice will be greatly excepted how best to deal with this situation. "

I can't stand smelly folk get enough of it in supermarkets, I'm scrupliously clean in my hygiene if people can't be bothered to shower before a meet they can pass me by, my dear just tell them they need to wash themselves don't faff about

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