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By *ngabdncpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Hi everyone,

We are yet to have our first threesome but have been pondering over the idea for AGES. We fantasise about it all the time but are concerned about how it could affect our relationship!

We are interested in hearing from couples who have recently had there first threesome and are willing to share their feelings. Would like both good and bad experiances.

Thanks x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know you want To hear from couples but what I know about it is there has to trust you have to do everything together if anything makes either of you uncomfortable say it straight away and the main focus is her pleasure make sure the guy you invite knows this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry about my terrible grammar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just make sure its what you both want.

The female will usually love it if she really wants to do it.

For the male you will probably experience every emotion going. From intense arousal to blinding jealousy and everything in between.

And as the guy if you agree to it and go through with it you must be able to accept what she has done not start accusing her of being unfaithfull. You will get the feelings she might prefer other guy to you which is why you both must be sure its what you want cos once youve done it it cant be undone.

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By *restatynCplCouple
over a year ago

Rhyl

If you're afraid it may affect your relationship, you're absolutely not ready.

Don't do it.

The end.

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By *ngabdncpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Thanks too all for your replies thus far... Our relationship is obviously the most important thing to us and we would not know the affects until it happens. Guess we may start slow - oral/foreplay and discuss our feelings after! X

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By *restatynCplCouple
over a year ago

Rhyl

That's a great plan.

Don't dive right in at the deep end, take it slowly.

When you're ready for the next step, you'll both know.

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Choose a guy who you trust; maybe one with experience of MMF and you know will understand you are new to this and stop when either of you wants it.

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By *ngabdncpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Thanks for everyone's thoughts, keep em coming!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes same here we still have yet to meet to play as we have not as yet totally decided if it's for us there is still doubts whether it will adversely affect our relationship and that is our priority maybe it's just chatting and emailing others for now although it does excite us both still would hate to feel bad after a meet thinking why did we do it does he she love me etc

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By *andm288Couple
over a year ago

oxford

Our first meet took us both my surprise as we intended just too look not touch or possibly soft play to start with

However it soon changed

Mixed emotions as said previously but overall what a great experience for both of us

Take your time discuss boundaries etc

And talk after likes / dislikes etc

Hope you have fun whatever you decide

M

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"

We fantasise about it all the time but are concerned about how it could affect our relationship!

"

You need to get *past* that *before* you do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone,

We are yet to have our first threesome but have been pondering over the idea for AGES. We fantasise about it all the time but are concerned about how it could affect our relationship!

We are interested in hearing from couples who have recently had there first threesome and are willing to share their feelings. Would like both good and bad experiances.

Thanks x x "

For our 1st mmf john tied me up blindfolded me and chose the guy to meet us. He came in.. showered and John instructed him what to do before he left. All without speaking to me... i wouldn't have clue who this guy was/is and the ultimate trust needed but the best experience ever x

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By *erotic_adventureMan
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,


"Thanks too all for your replies thus far... Our relationship is obviously the most important thing to us and we would not know the affects until it happens. Guess we may start slow - oral/foreplay and discuss our feelings after! X "

Fantasy and reality are oh so different esp if you have concerns and deep down not ready or 100% ready. Taking the initial baby steps before the deep dive would be a safer route.

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

Interesting to read this as I too am hoping to get dp'd very soon. Thanks

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By *erotic_adventureMan
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,


"Interesting to read this as I too am hoping to get dp'd very soon. Thanks "

Are you supplyin the cuffs...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had my first mmf a few weeks ago with a lovely couple. We all chatted first to make sure we got on and it was them who initiated the first messages. They are solid in their relationship and enjoy a bit of company in the sex department. You must read through the profiles and find someone you both like the look of and go from there.

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By *ipswingCouple
over a year ago

portrush

our first adventure was with an old friend of mine... he was/is bigger than i, so was little concerned that this might ..... however both of us made love with sweet three times that night.. when i awoke in the morning ,he was taking her from behind.. she took my face in her hands and we kissed ...when he had cum ,we made love again..... as he made the tea... that was 12 years ago now, and he still visits... sharing may not be for everybody..but for us it seems totally natural...

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By *oetic licenceCouple
over a year ago

Mellor


"I know you want To hear from couples but what I know about it is there has to trust you have to do everything together if anything makes either of you uncomfortable say it straight away and the main focus is her pleasure make sure the guy you invite knows this"
spot on. Talk everything through. It's the only way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im looking for first 3 some..

a bit nervous but equally excited..anyone sussex areas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks too all for your replies thus far... Our relationship is obviously the most important thing to us and we would not know the affects until it happens. Guess we may start slow - oral/foreplay and discuss our feelings after! X "

totally agree.. Its ok to talk about feelings and emotions but its not actually until you witness or experience it that you will truly know how you will feel.. Jealousy is something you cannot control and regret is something that could easily come between you.. Just take it slow.. If you have doubts now.. Im guessing you're not 100% ready to jump into the deep end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've only had one 3some, so much fun!!!! Never in my wildest dreams. My hubby was ok with it because he got to take contril & direction & watch another man fuck his wife. My hubby took videos & pix & then joined in. FUN

I think it went well because my hubby controlled the situation.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"

We fantasise about it all the time but are concerned about how it could affect our relationship!

You need to get *past* that *before* you do it. "

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I,v had a few 3somes with first timers choose the guy well someone who has done it before and is willing to take things slowly. Talk about what you want to do and make sure the guy knows what you want, stick to your do,s and dont,s and you should be ok. Meet the guy first in a pub then if you BOTH feel ok with it take him back to your home you will feel more comfortable there, make sure the guy knows that you may want to stop at any point and that he is ok with that.

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton

Hi we have had a few mmf meets now some good some not so good . To start with we had 2 or 3 social meets with different guys the first guy felt totally wrong the fact that he changed his name three times on the meet LOL ,second guy to pushy the third guy we clicked with and played with a couple of weeks later after and had a great time between the social and play time with him Jill and I chatted about how we would both feel towards each other if we went ahead with playing and set out our boundaries to each other once we were both happy about taking the plunge we arranged to meet and set out our boundaries with the guy , We did make sure he had experienced a threesome beforehand which we have learnt since meeting with him was the best thing as we have met with other guys since who had not and they were pretty deflating experiences .We always chat to each other afterwards to make sure we were both ok with our play time . So our advice is a social is a must,choose the guy carefully,make sure he is experienced ,don`t be pressured into anything and most importantly the fem should be totally happy to play and not just do it for the sake of it. So good luck enjoy and remember love each other. XX hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

totally agree as we have done mmf on too accasions and yes as im the male messageing I totally agree but if you love the person your with then it should not cause any issues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just make sure its what you both want.

The female will usually love it if she really wants to do it.

For the male you will probably experience every emotion going. From intense arousal to blinding jealousy and everything in between.

And as the guy if you agree to it and go through with it you must be able to accept what she has done not start accusing her of being unfaithfull. You will get the feelings she might prefer other guy to you which is why you both must be sure its what you want cos once youve done it it cant be undone."

Agree fully!

I have been the third person in several Mmf situations (more than once with some couples) - check my verifications to get an idea of the couples thoughts on this.

Mostly it is good as the couple know what they want. I do have a fem friend on here who no longer has her man as he was totally intimidated and unable to perform in front of me whereas I made the lady gush which he had never done - she had never previously either!

Turns out was a good turn as he actually had a wife and his g/f was unaware until just after she had fucked him off for being a useless fuck.

Be certain or it could go either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my point of view having been fortunate enough to gave been in a lit of threesomes some were new to ut some not.

Most if the newbies were ok but you can pick up on the dynamics of rekationships before pkay starts sadly some females do it just to please other half which i then stop play as unfair on her them and ne as do not wish to be cause of friction vetween them.

Worst is when me and the lady playing and getting into hubbys have on occasion kicked off through jealousy of the lady enjoying it so again makes sense to stop straight away.

To the o p why nit have first meet has soft swap and if meet goes well can play more that way some issues can be dealt with quickly.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

quite from op, We are interested in hearing from couples who have recently had there first threesome and are willing to share their feelings. Would like both good and bad experiences. Thanks x x

Now that's a big question, if its something you both want then I would say take you time in finding the third partner all of you will need to be totally relaxed, and enjoy ,, also think about meeting a couple for soft swing to see how you both feel. Connie xx

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By *erotic_adventureMan
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,


"Hi everyone,

We are yet to have our first threesome but have been pondering over the idea for AGES. We fantasise about it all the time but are concerned about how it could affect our relationship!

We are interested in hearing from couples who have recently had there first threesome and are willing to share their feelings. Would like both good and bad experiances.

Thanks x x "

Good advice so far but very quiet......I recall you have been at base camp for nearly two years....the climb may be too steep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started this year, and it's been a roller coaster ride of emotions. You need to be strong as a couple, trust one another totally and communicate all the way with one another. We have grown closer since starting this journey and it's been beautiful to watch mrs inked grow in confidence. Talk to one another and have empathy with your partner, they might have thoughts that you never imagined and you could open a pandora a box? Have fun don't do anything you don't want remember it's about 3 people enjoying a memorable moment, have fun and happy days

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By *erotic_adventureMan
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,

Whilst you hear some great positive views you very rarely hear the negatives whereby emotional and physical issues prevail between couples. They are not going to air their dirty linen in public but I have heard verbally stories whereby a number of women (who want to please their partner) have had issues on this journey. It's like most things in life there are positives and negatives to most things but nice to get a balanced view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree totally there are a lot of couples who are doing it to please the other partner, you will only damage yourselves if that's the case!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and my gf are looking to try our first mmf. Finding the right man for the job is the hardest part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you would like someone experienced then I'm here in Malvern.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there is any negative feeling at all even if you have met and agreed to it, don't go through with it even if the other person is really nice, if they are the nice person you think they will understand and you have made a new friend.

Good luck

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