FabSwingers.com forum: Totally confused BBW

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey guys ok so i got chatting to a newbie few weeks ago and i read his profile it said he preferes big girls,redheads and big butts so i messaged as i ticked all the boxes and was feeling hopeful of this one so i messaged him first and we got chatting i found out we lived about ten mins away from each other and i suggested we should meet up so then he just stops chatting altogether but still looks at my profile can you guys please tell me what i did wrong as in my eyes i did absolutely nothing wrong and keep asking myself why??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bet u £10 he married

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Dont know but thats why i always question myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You took the initiative, it's given him the reality of actually meeting and he's bailed out. Probably a fantasist that's moved on to his next victim. He'll talk a good meet.......................

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% married all talk no action, you will come across loads on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"100% married all talk no action, you will come across loads on here"

Maybe he felt you lived too close but id put my money on him being married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ruining it for everyone else on here...

Nothing wrong with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the guys a moron, simple as.

if I was 10mins away I'd not waste a second more waiting to meet

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Married/in a relationship, fantasist, or maybe he either knows you, changed his mind or just doesn't like playing so close to home?

Could be any number of reasons but I wouldn't waste any energy on it.

Move on to the next one.

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a similar experience with a newbie on my single profile a few months ago. We got chatting, exchanged numbers and arranged a social meet as he was local. I text the day of the meet to confirm and got no reply and never heard from him again. I block non verified and newbies in my filters and now I know why!! Some just like the thrill of the chase and the attention, sad really but just move on, plenty on here who will meet.

Miss F

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"100% married all talk no action, you will come across loads on here

Maybe he felt you lived too close but id put my money on him being married. "

That's very ture, I'd just ask him to be honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

He made out he was single so after that non exsistant encounter with him i was then put off all newbies i changed my message filters as i wasnt wasting my time on them its his loss someone elses gain but i just find it so frustrating why go to the effort of making profile just to get someones attention he had my attention and he wasnt bothered maybe i bruised his ego coz i did the asking but thats just what im like if someones profile catches my eye i read their profile then message i havent blocked him though as its a reminder of what he could of had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His loss for you look amazing xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"100% married all talk no action, you will come across loads on here

Maybe he felt you lived too close but id put my money on him being married. "
ive played so much closer to home like literally couple streets down from a sexy guy and even after we met for fun we walked past one another down the road and didnt stop to chat we knew how to be discreet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say he's probably married also , not all the married ones admit it ( I do ) and maybe he was frightened off because you wanted a social meet rather than inviting him over . I know you don't accomodate but plenty of women put that on there and do . Usually the can't accomodate means married re men !

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

"Hey guys ok so i got chatting to a newbie few weeks ago and i read his profile it said he preferes big girls,redheads and big butts so i messaged as i ticked all the boxes and was feeling hopeful of this one so i messaged him first and we got chatting i found out we lived about ten mins away from each other and i suggested we should meet up so then he just stops chatting altogether but still looks at my profile can you guys please tell me what i did wrong as in my eyes i did absolutely nothing wrong and keep asking myself why??

Unfortunately there are some that get so turned on by the idea of a meet that when it comes down to reality they just can't bring them self to follow through with the action. As previous stated his loss as there are plenty more where he came from! He'll soon kick himself when he see's your next verification

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes he sure will do when he sees my verification when i have a meet later today lol hes already read my veris obviously he was just too pussy to handle a forward redhead and even more so when he sees the pics from my meet haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd say he's probably married also , not all the married ones admit it ( I do ) and maybe he was frightened off because you wanted a social meet rather than inviting him over . I know you don't accomodate but plenty of women put that on there and do . Usually the can't accomodate means married re men ! "
i wasnt asking him fir a social meet i told him that from the last message what i was after i know some people disagree with just diving in on this one but it would of been a mixed meet really lol im just a girl who knows what she wants when she wants it but some cant be hinest whereas im as open as a book they just need to turn the pages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep deffo his loss , I've admired your pics too alas from afar I'm out your age range

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yep deffo his loss , I've admired your pics too alas from afar I'm out your age range

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i need to change my age range and thanks for being an admirer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well scouse I think this proves its his loss. you're a stuning lass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No problem I love to ogle

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No problem I love to ogle

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ive now changed age range so feel free to message anytime

i do have private pics too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have messaged you before lol but you must be inundated x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have messaged you before lol but you must be inundated x"
sorry yeah i get alot of messages but i will find your message and will reply asap

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Maybe he just got bored. I chat to lots of people then get fed up and stop replying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Next time don't tell him your going to stick your 12 incher up his ass side ways lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"100% married all talk no action, you will come across loads on here

Maybe he felt you lived too close but id put my money on him being married. ive played so much closer to home like literally couple streets down from a sexy guy and even after we met for fun we walked past one another down the road and didnt stop to chat we knew how to be discreet

I call men like him Ken's dolls all talk no action lol we want action men! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the guys a moron, simple as.

if I was 10mins away I'd not waste a second more waiting to meet "

Wow you jump to conclusions takes a real intelligent man to make a moron decision on that information.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe he just got bored. I chat to lots of people then get fed up and stop replying"

I would go with that guys like women get board its tragic when people see its a guy they assume he MUST meet.

OP its probably he got cold feet or board either way I wouldn't stress over it there are plenty more out there.

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By *ral_isthenewblackMan
over a year ago

london

My honest opinion is he decided against meeting. It's normal and he alone knows. He need not be married etc so pls people don't be too quick to judge.u might be a bbw and red haired don't mean he must meet u etc. He can decide to meet u and also decide not to by changing his mind.i am black and it doesn't mean every woman that loves BBC must meet me does it.i have arranged meets before wit ladies and they ltr have decided not to meet. To me it's life and I moved on.i advice u to move on and stop making a big deal about it.am sure there would be loads of people here that also love bbw and would wanna meet u.u say u guys chat for a while etc.my point then. That's the part u get to know the other and see if u wanna meet and guess he decided not to.its life.its not abnormal and we should not jump to conclusion and say things like he is married etc. Trust me even if he was married and still wanted to meet u he would.i mean it's just sex right.its not like u two want a relationship.thats why we got hotels. So darling move on and happy swinging.life is too short to worry over one.

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By *lay it CurvyWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

It does seem that some people react differently in some situation, maybe he was after the chase. But like most people have already said, sounds like his loss and loads of men seem interested. Try to forget about it (easier said than done)

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By *ral_isthenewblackMan
over a year ago

london

I am pretty sure there are loads of men that love bbw and had written to u before without a reply from u or u had started speaking to people and stopped without giving reasons.my point exactly.its life and that's why we are humans.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Maybe he was just being polite to your messages but just didnt fancy you and didnt want to say .

Or maybe he did then changed his mind for some reason ?

who knows but I wouldnt worry about it im sure there are plenty of guys who would love to meet you

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Are loads of maybes here, married, simply changed his mind, or perhaps he didn't wanna be playing so close to home for what ever reason?

Instead of trying to analyse all, why not consider just acepting these things happen, get ya concrete onesie on! ( ya need thick skin here) move on and consentrate on those who do wanna meet ya... Simples!

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"My honest opinion is he decided against meeting. It's normal and he alone knows. He need not be married etc so pls people don't be too quick to judge.u might be a bbw and red haired don't mean he must meet u etc. He can decide to meet u and also decide not to by changing his mind.i am black and it doesn't mean every woman that loves BBC must meet me does it.i have arranged meets before wit ladies and they ltr have decided not to meet. To me it's life and I moved on.i advice u to move on and stop making a big deal about it.am sure there would be loads of people here that also love bbw and would wanna meet u.u say u guys chat for a while etc.my point then. That's the part u get to know the other and see if u wanna meet and guess he decided not to.its life.its not abnormal and we should not jump to conclusion and say things like he is married etc. Trust me even if he was married and still wanted to meet u he would.i mean it's just sex right.its not like u two want a relationship.thats why we got hotels. So darling move on and happy swinging.life is too short to worry over one."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP if you had posted his scenario from a guys perspective everyone would say she changed her mind. Which she is allowed to do, people don't have to give reasons on here. This happens to all of us your chatting away and the trail goes cold.

Put it down to experience and don't take it personally these things happen.

Plenty more guys on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP if you had posted his scenario from a guys perspective everyone would say she changed her mind. Which she is allowed to do, people don't have to give reasons on here. This happens to all of us your chatting away and the trail goes cold.

Put it down to experience and don't take it personally these things happen.

Plenty more guys on fab

Thats about it guys are allowed to say no too though they might surprise some.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wow thanks that was an eye opener thanks i couldnt care less now but was just curious

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Put it down to experience and don't take it personally these things happen.

Plenty more guys on fab

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By *oeyredbirdCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yip I get bored all the time guys can say one thing and it puts me off!!

Guess im just fussy kx

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By *oeyredbirdCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I am pretty sure there are loads of men that love bbw and had written to u before without a reply from u or u had started speaking to people and stopped without giving reasons.my point exactly.its life and that's why we are humans."
totally agree kx

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By *uckable69Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Well said x

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By *aurenkaWoman
over a year ago

London

lick_u_2_cum -- I have a question which intrigues me -are aware that u blocked all woman ? Or it just by mistake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"100% married all talk no action, you will come across loads on here

Maybe he felt you lived too close but id put my money on him being married.

That's very ture, I'd just ask him to be honest"

asking someone on here to be honest ?? lol

I have as much chance of getting a wank off da queen as getting honesty off here

Well sorry to the 2 or 3% who are honest but youz know what i mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like just another cock....a wannabe....the kind that gives us decent single blokes a bad name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds like just another cock....a wannabe....the kind that gives us decent single blokes a bad name."

How do you work that out?

As has been said, she apparently 'ticked all the boxes' in terms of what he was after but obviously she didnt or he'd have met her...couldnt it just be that simple rather than blindly accusing him of being married and miscalling him when you know absolutely nothing other than what has been said by one person .... Jesus H Christ is a guy not allowed to change his mind on here????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds like just another cock....a wannabe....the kind that gives us decent single blokes a bad name."

agree another time waster!!

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By *oeyredbirdCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

This is to funny lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sounds like just another cock....a wannabe....the kind that gives us decent single blokes a bad name.

agree another time waster!!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"lick_u_2_cum -- I have a question which intrigues me -are aware that u blocked all woman ? Or it just by mistake"

LOL

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"100% married all talk no action, you will come across loads on here

Maybe he felt you lived too close but id put my money on him being married.

That's very ture, I'd just ask him to be honest

asking someone on here to be honest ?? lol

I have as much chance of getting a wank off da queen as getting honesty off here

Well sorry to the 2 or 3% who are honest but youz know what i mean "

Think the queen would be disgusted hearing such sexual things lmao one would not be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think the queen would be disgusted hearing such sexual things lmao one would not be happy

her majesty needn't feel obliged to join one for debauched frolics... but could you an epic meet in the palace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he must be mental,if you lived 10mins from me id be knocking your door down!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Think the queen would be disgusted hearing such sexual things lmao one would not be happy

her majesty needn't feel obliged to join one for debauched frolics... but could you an epic meet in the palace

Haha imagine that we would have the palace booming with all the noise from all the kinky antics we would be rocking her antiques

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"he must be mental,if you lived 10mins from me id be knocking your door down!"

;) good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will be knocking her door down very shortley xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant see why your suprised. Probably 90% dont show up in our experience. We think they just get their kicks chatting on here. Its a case of sussing out the wankers. Which we havent managed yet. We invite about ten guys and rarely get more than three show up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like most have said could be in a relationship. But most probably got cold feet and chicken out. A lot of guys can talk the talk but when it comes down to it there can be a lot a pressure on a man. Some men struggle with condoms pressure to perform, pressure to perform well and make all your fantasies and dreams come true over and over and over and over. I never look at it like that I may never get hard or meet again.

Another genuine reason (not so in his case if he's still on line) is actually going through with sex with a relative stranger in the cold light of day sometimes they just can't do it and find its not for them.

More often than not its time wasters who get there thrill from the chase and talking about it.

Ignore him find someone more worthy and when verified send him a message say how you had such a wonderful time etc etc etc then block him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe just a little too close to home

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By *ery curious maleMan
over a year ago

Bishop Auckland

As mentioned above he's probably a married fantasist and a muppet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I will be knocking her door down very shortley xxxxx"

Ohh yesss you sure will reddez hurry up and get your sexy self down to me and give me your ginger cock xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Like most have said could be in a relationship. But most probably got cold feet and chicken out. A lot of guys can talk the talk but when it comes down to it there can be a lot a pressure on a man. Some men struggle with condoms pressure to perform, pressure to perform well and make all your fantasies and dreams come true over and over and over and over. I never look at it like that I may never get hard or meet again.

More often than not its time wasters who get there thrill from the chase and talking about it.

Ignore him find someone more worthy and when verified send him a message say how you had such a wonderful time etc etc etc then block him

Thats ok i dont need to message him he gets to see what ive done previously

thats why i havent blocked him lol

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