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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi.

Please take a look at my profile and see if you are interested in helping me work through a psychological ED problem.

If this is of possible interest I am happy to discuss the issue further and provide face pic.

Thank you for your time. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi.

Please take a look at my profile and see if you are interested in helping me work through a psychological ED problem.

If this is of possible interest I am happy to discuss the issue further and provide face pic.

Thank you for your time. X"

I'm sorry you've got this problem, but are you sure this is the best place to try and resolve your problem. Firstly most people on here are here to fullfill their own satisfaction and I'm not sure how helping you would enable this. Secondly surely a loving understanding relationship might be a better place to try and solve your problem. I'm not being negative just honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your view. It's not something I have taken lightly and I understand that this may not be viewed well by some of you. As such, I discussed this with some swinger friends of mine who felt that the community is big and varied enough to accommodate all sorts in a non-judgemental capacity where I can talk openly about it.

Plus once I get past the issue then I wanna have plenty of fun and this seems exactly the place for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you wanting to talk about it or wanting meets to see if you can trigger a penile reaction, or meets where penetrative sex is not a requirement?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for your view. It's not something I have taken lightly and I understand that this may not be viewed well by some of you. As such, I discussed this with some swinger friends of mine who felt that the community is big and varied enough to accommodate all sorts in a non-judgemental capacity where I can talk openly about it.

Plus once I get past the issue then I wanna have plenty of fun and this seems exactly the place for that "

I'm not judging you at all, I empathise with you, and all I'm doing is offering you a different perspective than your swinger friends but I stand by what I originally said, if you don't have any success on here this could in fact compound your problem

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am open to both to be honest.

Yes I want meets with a view to getting a good penile reaction with the intention of reaffirming confidence in that area for me.

That said, I am also here to have fun and perhaps non-penetrative situations are an option that I haven't as yet considered....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for your view. It's not something I have taken lightly and I understand that this may not be viewed well by some of you. As such, I discussed this with some swinger friends of mine who felt that the community is big and varied enough to accommodate all sorts in a non-judgemental capacity where I can talk openly about it.

Plus once I get past the issue then I wanna have plenty of fun and this seems exactly the place for that

I'm not judging you at all, I empathise with you, and all I'm doing is offering you a different perspective than your swinger friends but I stand by what I originally said, if you don't have any success on here this could in fact compound your problem "

Maybe you are right.... putting doubt in my mind really doesn't help though....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for your view. It's not something I have taken lightly and I understand that this may not be viewed well by some of you. As such, I discussed this with some swinger friends of mine who felt that the community is big and varied enough to accommodate all sorts in a non-judgemental capacity where I can talk openly about it.

Plus once I get past the issue then I wanna have plenty of fun and this seems exactly the place for that

I'm not judging you at all, I empathise with you, and all I'm doing is offering you a different perspective than your swinger friends but I stand by what I originally said, if you don't have any success on here this could in fact compound your problem

Maybe you are right.... putting doubt in my mind really doesn't help though.... "

Which reinforces my thoughts exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ha... well I'm glad that already the naysayers have come out.

My statement was actually meant a bit tongue in cheek.

I am confident about what I want/need to do and expected some reactions like this.

Maybe it works and maybe it doesn't but after 10 years of sufferance I don't feel the issue can get any more compounded though I thank you for your opinion. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am open to both to be honest.

Yes I want meets with a view to getting a good penile reaction with the intention of reaffirming confidence in that area for me.

That said, I am also here to have fun and perhaps non-penetrative situations are an option that I haven't as yet considered...."

Many men are voyeuristic, perhaps go to a club on a single guys night (Fridays?) and see if being in close proximity to sexual activity does anything for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your ED has had physical routes ruled out by your GP, then surely you should see a (sex) counsellor? Mental health is extremely underfunded. There are many issues which are not funded by the NHS.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been seeing a counsellor but without a sexual relationship within which to see if we are improving things it has reached an impasse. They have suggested that I could go for sex surrogacy therapy but that is far beyond my financial means so I am essentially seeking the same kind of thing on my own. I figure that being open and honest about it up front relieves some of the pressure and creates an opportunity for all parties to enjoy the occasion regardless of outcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I figure that being open and honest about it up front relieves some of the pressure and creates an opportunity for all parties to enjoy the occasion regardless of outcome "

Good luck with that.

What do you see as you're offering a potentially interested party?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Good luck with that.

What do you see as you're offering a potentially interested party?"

Fair question!

As a result of my issue I consider that I have become very good orally and enjoy it greatly.

I am open to kinks and taboos (leaving the toilet aside that is!) So willing to explore ideas.

Some people like a challenge, I presume there must be a level of gratification to be had around being the one to make everything work and possibly moreso if that then leads to the solution being an ongoing effect.

I'm also a genuinely decent, funny and honest bloke so whatever happens you've met a new friend!

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I am one of the hundreds of fully functioning men who struggle to get ladies to chat to them. Some of them have many positive attributes (big cock, repeaters, sixpacks etc) and have small knocks in their confidence because of being part of a swarm.

I agree that it is a standout (or not) issue that will be treated openly and compassionately here, but will it help you jump the queue?

Im not so sure....but good luck !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Good luck with that.

What do you see as you're offering a potentially interested party?

Fair question!

As a result of my issue I consider that I have become very good orally and enjoy it greatly.

I am open to kinks and taboos (leaving the toilet aside that is!) So willing to explore ideas.

Some people like a challenge, I presume there must be a level of gratification to be had around being the one to make everything work and possibly moreso if that then leads to the solution being an ongoing effect.

I'm also a genuinely decent, funny and honest bloke so whatever happens you've met a new friend! "

This has a more positive spin than on your profile. Your profile is all about others "giving" to you, whereas sexual gratification is a personal thing, you have to appear to want to give to others, and hence appeal to them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

This has a more positive spin than on your profile. Your profile is all about others "giving" to you, whereas sexual gratification is a personal thing, you have to appear to want to give to others, and hence appeal to them."

I appreciate the feedback

Will amend my profile later. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am one of the hundreds of fully functioning men who struggle to get ladies to chat to them. Some of them have many positive attributes (big cock, repeaters, sixpacks etc) and have small knocks in their confidence because of being part of a swarm.

I agree that it is a standout (or not) issue that will be treated openly and compassionately here, but will it help you jump the queue?

Im not so sure....but good luck !"

I'm not trying to 'jump a queue' just trying to find a way forward and hopefully have mutual enjoyment along the way.

If it doesn't happen then so be it. I'm not viewing this as last chance saloon!

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I am sorry if you thought I meant jump the queue literally. I didnt.

I meant that we all need a unique selling point and I'm not sure your profile emphasis was aimed correctly. The resulting posts imply an oral specialisation that would be better highlighted as the 'win' in any meet you have.

Either way......its a jungle out there so good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am sorry if you thought I meant jump the queue literally. I didnt.

I meant that we all need a unique selling point and I'm not sure your profile emphasis was aimed correctly. The resulting posts imply an oral specialisation that would be better highlighted as the 'win' in any meet you have.

Either way......its a jungle out there so good luck "

Ah. Noted. Thank you.

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