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By *ndermeoverme OP   Man
over a year ago

reading

Is it just me or are all new male newbies on the site finding it hard to meet!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

did you think it was going to be easy?

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By *lan43sumMan
over a year ago

Leicester

You might even get to the point, after 50 odd emails, that when a reply does come you'll think its a bloke pretending to be a couple or lady..lol.. the lack of pics or veris can be a sign?

Just tell yourself that it will be worth the effort!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because you have no verifications and no pics people judge you it's shite x their loss my friend. It wud take one and I'd be away but I think ill go its crap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because you have no verifications and no pics people judge you it's shite x their loss my friend. It wud take one and I'd be away but I think ill go its crap"

no one is gonna give you a chance if you don't put the effort in, this isn't Argos where you place an order and wait, you need to put pics up and actually get off your ass and go to clubs or socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because you have no verifications and no pics people judge you it's shite x their loss my friend. It wud take one and I'd be away but I think ill go its crap"

and you've been on a week!!!! this isn't instashag or an escort site you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because you have no verifications and no pics people judge you it's shite x their loss my friend. It wud take one and I'd be away but I think ill go its crap

and you've been on a week!!!! this isn't instashag or an escort site you know "
. Hahaha at Argos but yes patience is a virtue if you that desperatel you could always go erm professional route

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make an effort with your profile. Go to socials, clubs, read profiles and put some thought into your pics. It's not rocket science. There are successful single men on here. Their success is built on the effort they put in. Putting up a whingy thread about lack of success will get you nowhere (apart from maybe a few blocks)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard for everyone in some guise. Here's my take on the order of "who finds it harder"

1. Single males

2. Couples seeking single bi fem

3. Couples seeking couples

4. Single female

5. The unicorn: aka single bi fem

Unfortunately it's a numbers game. The odds are heavily stacked against single guys due to the ratio of single men. Which in turn makes it difficult for the single woman and couples to sort the wheat from the chaff

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By *lan43sumMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Mr Pirate is spot on! The point about how hard it must be for the ladies or couples to sort the wheat from the chaff (isn't that what you get when you wear her knickers?)is a good point. They must also work at it from the other perspective to get to a short list (or a long list if she wants we or vwe..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say as I did tbh. But it was a while back so maybe it has got harder. Just keep trying m8. You will get there in the end!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its hard work for experianced aswell as newbies sometimes it easier pull in your local pub m8 but enjoy the ride of fab all gud things come to them who wait lol

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Just like everything in life,in order to get something out you need to put something in..

I think research is also important,so do yr homework,read the forums and establish what people want or don't want.

As a single male,i tapped into something that was short on provision and it has been unbelievable.

I rarely do repeats and reject more than I meet.Today I have met with 6 newbies and two possibles tonight.

So don't give up,hang on in there and work at it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want lots of meets do the same as kennelboy, just check his verifies. Unless your straight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or try POF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you want lots of meets do the same as kennelboy, just check his verifies. Unless your straight "

The OP appears str8. Total different if your bi or gay. The numbers add up so much easier than the 50 or so guys that appear to be on here for every fem or cpl seeking a guy!

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"If you want lots of meets do the same as kennelboy, just check his verifies. Unless your straight "

Straight guys can have lots of meets too.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

please excuse my ignorance but what is POF?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"please excuse my ignorance but what is POF? "

Plenty of Fish..... Vanilla dating site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And yes I'm str8 with lots of veris. Wasn't having a pop.....just saying statistically easier for a bi/gay dude.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"please excuse my ignorance but what is POF?

Plenty of Fish..... Vanilla dating site!"

Thanks, I don't think I will investigate further ...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And yes I'm str8 with lots of veris. Wasn't having a pop.....just saying statistically easier for a bi/gay dude."

Makes you really wonder why so many pretend they are straight then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And yes I'm str8 with lots of veris. Wasn't having a pop.....just saying statistically easier for a bi/gay dude.

Makes you really wonder why so many pretend they are straight then! "

No pretending here lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you want lots of meets do the same as kennelboy, just check his verifies. Unless your straight

Straight guys can have lots of meets too. "

sorry that name should have been kennelmade who is not straight and varies are from men, apart from the odd couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To alot of newbies they think this is the asda of the swinging world join up send the least amout of words and complain when they dont get a meet straight away.

But its not just newbies we still get mails from established members who just mail are you free this morning for a fuck bloody hell talk about lack of imagination

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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

After just a week on site its not really enough time to say its shit. What is obvious is that your expectations haven't been met, you have to put in time and effort. You wouldn't expect someone to hand you their toothbrush to use , so don't expect them to do that with their body. Time effort, respect helps when looking for meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me or are all new male newbies on the site finding it hard to meet!!!! "

is it just me or are most males on the site moaning that they can't get a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found it hard when I joined but what I realised pretty quickly was I had a shit profile and took action.

Best thing to do is talk to people and build your network up. The forums is a good place to do that.

Sending 50 one line messages is never going to get you anywhere fast.

People always say go to a club or social this can be daunting if you don't know anybody and are not sure what to expect.

It took me about 6 months before I was ready to do that. Single guys do not always receive the warmest welcome. Nothing is guaranteed a night at a club can prove expensive so you need to keep that in mind.

Be patient friendly and let your personality shine hopefully that will get you what you want.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its hard work for experianced aswell as newbies sometimes it easier pull in your local pub m8 but enjoy the ride of fab all gud things come to them who wait lol "

Think some guys can't pull in a pub and sometimes that's the problem , not enough tools in the box or the ones they have are blunt ones !

Not sure if that makes any sense ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because you have no verifications and no pics people judge you it's shite x their loss my friend. It wud take one and I'd be away but I think ill go its crap"

Arguably as you are bemoaning a lack of meets it is very much your loss not there's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me or are all new male newbies on the site finding it hard to meet!!!! "

Your name would put me off. And if it didn't the multiple cock pics would. Or the awful last paragraph of your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me or are all new male newbies on the site finding it hard to meet!!!! "

It's not easy for the guys full stop, it's most certainly a woman's world on here given the amount of guys to women. I'm having a good time, met some lovely people but still get knocked back occasionally. Keep your profile positive, make sure you read the profile if your interested in someone, send them a nice message telling them why based on their pics/profile and attach a face pic. Just bear in mind that the girls get 100's of messages so I don't agree with the no reply not interested mentality, I'll probably message 3 times then take the hint. If you get a negative response, don't be disheartened, probably one of the many fakes of nutters on here so consider it a blessing. There are lots of lovely genuine people, just keep plugging away. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's hard for everyone in some guise. Here's my take on the order of "who finds it harder"

1. Single males

2. Couples seeking single bi fem

3. Couples seeking couples

4. Single female

5. The unicorn: aka single bi fem

Unfortunately it's a numbers game. The odds are heavily stacked against single guys due to the ratio of single men. Which in turn makes it difficult for the single woman and couples to sort the wheat from the chaff"

Why does my catergory say unicorn? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never reply to a profile with a blank pic for profile pic and also no other pics on profile , shows total lack of effort , so I'm afraid it's delete delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me or are all new male newbies on the site finding it hard to meet!!!!

It's not easy for the guys full stop, it's most certainly a woman's world on here given the amount of guys to women. I'm having a good time, met some lovely people but still get knocked back occasionally. Keep your profile positive, make sure you read the profile if your interested in someone, send them a nice message telling them why based on their pics/profile and attach a face pic. Just bear in mind that the girls get 100's of messages so I don't agree with the no reply not interested mentality, I'll probably message 3 times then take the hint. If you get a negative response, don't be disheartened, probably one of the many fakes of nutters on here so consider it a blessing. There are lots of lovely genuine people, just keep plugging away. Good luck."

So because single females get 100s of messages we should reply to them all as you don't agree with the no reply - no interest mentality. Just to tell you it's in the faqs and I and every other single female run our profiles how WE want not just for the benefit of single fellas and 3 messages jeez! Take the hint at one! That doesn't help anyone.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or if they ask are you vwe just like me say no i only got a 6inch fuse but at end of fuse is 14 stone of dynamite that will blow you away if you light the fuse

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Just because you have no verifications and no pics people judge you it's shite x their loss my friend. It wud take one and I'd be away but I think ill go its crap"

How can it be their loss? If they don't want to meet people without pics or veris then I'd say they were on a winner.

It's not difficult to put up a pic or get a veri.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are serious about it you will persist, learn from your mistakes and eventually make a breakthrough,

Alternatively if you are not you will have a moan and give up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me or are all new male newbies on the site finding it hard to meet!!!!

It's not easy for the guys full stop, it's most certainly a woman's world on here given the amount of guys to women. I'm having a good time, met some lovely people but still get knocked back occasionally. Keep your profile positive, make sure you read the profile if your interested in someone, send them a nice message telling them why based on their pics/profile and attach a face pic. Just bear in mind that the girls get 100's of messages so I don't agree with the no reply not interested mentality, I'll probably message 3 times then take the hint. If you get a negative response, don't be disheartened, probably one of the many fakes of nutters on here so consider it a blessing. There are lots of lovely genuine people, just keep plugging away. Good luck.

So because single females get 100s of messages we should reply to them all as you don't agree with the no reply - no interest mentality. Just to tell you it's in the faqs and I and every other single female run our profiles how WE want not just for the benefit of single fellas and 3 messages jeez! Take the hint at one! That doesn't help anyone."

Tell you're here for the ladies Chellesterfem, and it's facts dear. What I meant OP was if you happen to be in the 100's that don't get read, opportunities can be missed. The friends I have on here say they could never get through them all. For the record, I've got some great friends on here that I've met in just that way whom, if I'd assumed they weren't interested, as opposed to my message being buried in the mire, I would never have met. It's your call but I've had a lot of success on here, always been polite and never had anyone getting arsey because I messaged them more than once. If it wasn't 10 to 1 males to females, and I hadn't been told what I've been told, I might approach it differently. Don't give up fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not having any luck either, though I do think I'm learning all the time. Patience is what it's all about, luck was the wrong word to use, it's no different to dating, you wouldn't get a date by just walking up to someone in Asda and saying 'fancy a drink sometime' , though some do, the same obviously applies here.

I'm not going to give up.

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"Is it just me or are all new male newbies on the site finding it hard to meet!!!! "
i dont get it, you have the cock pics the profile, maybe you need a sky remote shot to prove size and show its not camera angles you have been on a week now you should be getting meets by now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't it funny how threads like this start off so well but rarely seem to get further imput from the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because you have no verifications and no pics people judge you it's shite x their loss my friend. It wud take one and I'd be away but I think ill go its crap

and you've been on a week!!!! this isn't instashag or an escort site you know "

well said

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By *ndermeoverme OP   Man
over a year ago

reading

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By *ndermeoverme OP   Man
over a year ago

reading

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By *ndermeoverme OP   Man
over a year ago

reading


"Isn't it funny how threads like this start off so well but rarely seem to get further imput from the OP "

I'm looking for input and the vast majority has been positive. Now I know!!!!

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By *ndermeoverme OP   Man
over a year ago

reading


"I found it hard when I joined but what I realised pretty quickly was I had a shit profile and took action.

Best thing to do is talk to people and build your network up. The forums is a good place to do that.

Sending 50 one line messages is never going to get you anywhere fast.

People always say go to a club or social this can be daunting if you don't know anybody and are not sure what to expect.

It took me about 6 months before I was ready to do that. Single guys do not always receive the warmest welcome. Nothing is guaranteed a night at a club can prove expensive so you need to keep that in mind.

Be patient friendly and let your personality shine hopefully that will get you what you want.

Good luck"

Thanks. That's helpful and kind info. Bless

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