FabSwingers.com forum: Is it actually possible to have great sex with no feelings?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was on this site a few years ago and was meeting a few different people having great fun.. But eventually just ended up meeting the same person. It was seriously mind blowing sex, passionate and always exciting,even after meeting her for a coupe of years it never got boring. There was an age gap, I was 24 and she was 48. I should add she was married (and still is) but her husband was also on the swinging scene and had full knowledge. It became pretty obvious feelings were developing and then the bombshell L word was dropped. We stopped meeting because it got complicated and I tried to have a normal relationship with someone my own age.

My point is, if we are all looking for that perfect sexual encounter, if you keep having meets isn't it just a matter of time before you meet someone where feelings develop? I know the lady is now unhappy, so is it really better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?

M x

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I have been seeing a man for years... he always says he loves me I also got involved with a man yrs ago who said he loved me but lied so who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know because I'm usually the one who loves and loses

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

its lovely when you think they mean it but complicates things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex with feelings isn't just sex

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

op it is possible to fuck someone with no feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe there are both types of sex.

They are both enjoyable but in different ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No as I have had a friend with benefits for nearly 3 years, we are not in love, we love each others company but he is now kind of seeing someone else and whilst I miss him occasionally, its not the mind blowing way that accompanies the L word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its called a wank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes its called respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know !!!! Don't think I have ever really been in love !!!!! In lust !! Yes ! But not true love !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cold sex can never be great sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cold sex can never be great sex "

Never done it and never will x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cold sex can never be great sex

Never done it and never will x "

I usually keep my coat on xx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I have had excellent sex without even knowing the guys name, let alone getting emotionally close to him.

You get what you want out of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cold sex can never be great sex

Never done it and never will x "

Oh I have !!!! For bloody years !!!!!

... Going through the motions !! To be a good wife!! Done with that now !!!!! Never going to that place ever again !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

best I shut up

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

"best I shut up

you forgot your coat lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if it's better to have loved & lost as it hurts like hell....

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

"best I shut up

Why, were you the husband? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"best I shut up

Why, were you the husband? Lol"

I can't remember lol xx

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

"best I shut up

Why, were you the husband? Lol

I can't remember lol xx"

Now that is cold! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"best I shut up

Why, were you the husband? Lol

I can't remember lol xx

Now that is cold! Lol"

Have we met ? Lol c

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

No, actually but we have shared lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, actually but we have shared lol"

Sharing is the way forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it is possible, i met a guy numerous times, had amaaazing sex and had it been under other circumstances he'd have made a great bf but things werent right and hes now loved up off fab and we keep in touch not for sex but for an odd chat. so yes its possible

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

"No, actually but we have shared lol

Sharing is the way forward

Sharing is caring!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is Fab..it is what it is...but is nice to make a friend. After all sex is a close relationship....women are not just sex objects.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

"Not sure if it's better to have loved & lost as it hurts like hell....

especially when they love someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but not over a long period of time.

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By *ubywants2playCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yes you absolutely can, I've had excellent fun from playmates off Fab, but I've never felt emotionally attached to them.

Having said that, I do like to keep in touch with playmates too - even if we're not playing. Not because I need to but because I only play with people I like personality wise, so I inevitably care for them as a friend. Naturally I care for some more than others but I've never developed feelings for them.

I think loveless sex is better in lots of ways as you know the horn is all about the chemistry and desire and not about love..... And it's the chemistry and desire that's does it for me most.

Long live loveless sex!! And long live the absolutely fcking amazing love based, filth driven hot tricking reclaim sex I get when I meet back up with Jonny!!!

R xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was talking to a friend the other day about this. When you're with someone the sex can be absolutely mind blowing, and be really sensual and feel really close which I personally think is the best. On the other hand (no pun intended) you can have fb, fwb or even meet other people and have good sex, but I don't think you can beat the sex you have with a partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been seeing a man for years... he always says he loves me I also got involved with a man yrs ago who said he loved me but lied so who knows"

i met sum1 off here had 14 month relationship,, i loved him and he ssid he loved me.. then he cheated on me with ex!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"best I shut up

Why, were you the husband? Lol"

Thought I recognised that chest !!!!!!

Grrrrr!

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

"I have been seeing a man for years... he always says he loves me I also got involved with a man yrs ago who said he loved me but lied so who knows

i met sum1 off here had 14 month relationship,, i loved him and he ssid he loved me.. then he cheated on me with ex!!"

nice of him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"best I shut up

Why, were you the husband? Lol

Thought I recognised that chest !!!!!!

Grrrrr!"

I've trimmed it for gods sake lol

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By *haft10Man
over a year ago

Wandsworth

I will fuck you until you love me

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