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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello ppl, I think there is far too many single blokes on here, how can I get ppls attention? I have changed profile so many times and message plenty of people making an effort, no replies! What's a guy to do?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself to a club mate. Be polite and socialise with the other there. You can then get people to then verify you to prove that your genuine. On here its quite difficult for a single guy to get meets. I 'Nigel' also have a single profile and bar about 3 verification's the rest have been at clubs. Happy hunting and stick with it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Get yourself to a club mate. Be polite and socialise with the other there. You can then get people to then verify you to prove that your genuine. On here its quite difficult for a single guy to get meets. I 'Nigel' also have a single profile and bar about 3 verification's the rest have been at clubs. Happy hunting and stick with it"
I don't drive so its difficult, I have about 10+ views a day but no messages or fabs? I only get gay guys fabbing me, not cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello ppl, I think there is far too many single blokes on here, how can I get ppls attention? I have changed profile so many times and message plenty of people making an effort, no replies! What's a guy to do?! "

If you've changed your profile that many times is that really the best you can do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get yourself to a club mate. Be polite and socialise with the other there. You can then get people to then verify you to prove that your genuine. On here its quite difficult for a single guy to get meets. I 'Nigel' also have a single profile and bar about 3 verification's the rest have been at clubs. Happy hunting and stick with it I don't drive so its difficult, I have about 10+ views a day but no messages or fabs? I only get gay guys fabbing me, not cool "

If you put up a load of cockshots does it really surprise you that they might appeal to men?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hello ppl, I think there is far too many single blokes on here, how can I get ppls attention? I have changed profile so many times and message plenty of people making an effort, no replies! What's a guy to do?!

If you've changed your profile that many times is that really the best you can do? "
what more can I do? And as far as the cock pics go, they are there for the girls just irritates me when guys fab them lol

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest


"Hello ppl, I think there is far too many single blokes on here, how can I get ppls attention? I have changed profile so many times and message plenty of people making an effort, no replies! What's a guy to do?!

If you've changed your profile that many times is that really the best you can do? what more can I do? And as far as the cock pics go, they are there for the girls just irritates me when guys fab them lol "

you can always keep those photos in your private pics

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Get yourself to a club mate. Be polite and socialise with the other there. You can then get people to then verify you to prove that your genuine. On here its quite difficult for a single guy to get meets. I 'Nigel' also have a single profile and bar about 3 verification's the rest have been at clubs. Happy hunting and stick with it I don't drive so its difficult, I have about 10+ views a day but no messages or fabs? I only get gay guys fabbing me, not cool "

Probably the dripping cum cock shot that does it!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Get yourself to a club mate. Be polite and socialise with the other there. You can then get people to then verify you to prove that your genuine. On here its quite difficult for a single guy to get meets. I 'Nigel' also have a single profile and bar about 3 verification's the rest have been at clubs. Happy hunting and stick with it I don't drive so its difficult, I have about 10+ views a day but no messages or fabs? I only get gay guys fabbing me, not cool

If you put up a load of cockshots does it really surprise you that they might appeal to men?"

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello ppl, I think there is far too many single blokes on here, how can I get ppls attention? I have changed profile so many times and message plenty of people making an effort, no replies! What's a guy to do?!

If you've changed your profile that many times is that really the best you can do? what more can I do? And as far as the cock pics go, they are there for the girls just irritates me when guys fab them lol "

I echo what you say. It is so irritating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice to you would be to go look at lots of profiles yep single guys also, because you will see a vast difference in how people sell themselves. Some don't put a lot of effort in some do, then when you have read lots of profiles then come back and write your own. Look at photo's of guys to see how they have portrayed themselves, yes you will see lots of cock shots and abs, don't worry you won't catch the gay bug or anything lol. Then check out their verifications, why? well this will give you an idea as to whether they are managing to arrange meets on here if they are then ask yourself how are they managing it. As you will see that some are extremely persistant in their approach to lots of people, which am sure get a huge amount of rejection before they actually get a meet or meets. Read lots of threads in the forums, go into the chat rooms and get involved, go to clubs, socials. Don't be pushy be respectful at all times even if told in no uncertain terms that you are not for her or them. Don't get upset that some guys may email you or compliment you on either your pics or profile, it doesn't again mean that you are gay or bi or curious. The point I am trying to make to you is that by putting lots of effort in you will be successful. You only get what you put in, so to speak, pardon the pun. Good Luck am sure you will get there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one veri form a guy that is hidden isn't helping you

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"one veri form a guy that is hidden isn't helping you "
And then complain that men fab your pics. What do you expect with a male veri when profile says straight?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one veri form a guy that is hidden isn't helping you "

Not related to what you've said but your body is serious! Respect to that

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"And as far as the cock pics go, they are there for the girls just irritates me when guys fab them lol "

Tip: A lot of the "girls" like one or two cock pics but will be put off by more, or by photos of cum dripping out of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one veri form a guy that is hidden isn't helping you "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok besides the weird veri from a guy (not judging) your profile although you do have more than some, is missing something....you need something catchy or witty to pull the reader in, that will make them want to find out more about you! Your already a good looking guy with a nice body, but if the wittiness isn't there I know I'm not often interested (again not that you asked lol) just letting you know what attracts me to a guy or couple! I like intelligence and seeing they can show it in their profile is often what makes me say hello back if they message me, because when I get a message I ALWAYS read the profile first!! I don't care how gorgeous the guy is, I need to see what they are about, and if they ask a question that's already in my profile they lose major points!! Also something to keep in mind

Happy effing or swinging whatever it is you plan to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You couldn't be any sexier, all I can say the ladies are missing out on a very hot guy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all ur input guys surprised I actually got any replies lol.. I know the veri from a guy looks strange but I was just trying to prove a point there, some ppl won't meet unless got veri's but then how do I get them without a meet?.. I have had a few meets and hopefully soon I will get the veri's I need. Its hard to write a bio without looking desperate lol! I just don't understand when it says like 24ppl viewed me yet I don't get any messages? Maybe this isn't for me.. Just looking for some excitement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all ur input guys surprised I actually got any replies lol.. I know the veri from a guy looks strange but I was just trying to prove a point there, some ppl won't meet unless got veri's but then how do I get them without a meet?.. I have had a few meets and hopefully soon I will get the veri's I need. Its hard to write a bio without looking desperate lol! I just don't understand when it says like 24ppl viewed me yet I don't get any messages? Maybe this isn't for me.. Just looking for some excitement "

You're only young and don't accommodate and the majority of swingers here are in the age bracket that have kids your age so would therefore deter them from meeting someone who could be one of their mates

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

As a general rule ladies prefer to see body shots not cock shots. Keep one in friends only and then get snapping a variety of body, bum and torso pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all ur input guys surprised I actually got any replies lol.. I know the veri from a guy looks strange but I was just trying to prove a point there, some ppl won't meet unless got veri's but then how do I get them without a meet?.. I have had a few meets and hopefully soon I will get the veri's I need. Its hard to write a bio without looking desperate lol! I just don't understand when it says like 24ppl viewed me yet I don't get any messages? Maybe this isn't for me.. Just looking for some excitement "

So are you saying that people who view your profile must send you a message then? Sorry but that is not how it works, if I viewed say 100 people in a day, I wouldn't send them all a message as they may not all be what I am looking for, I mean I have viewed your profile but given what my profile says should I send you a message? No because you are not what I am looking for. And people often look to perve at people's pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all ur input guys surprised I actually got any replies lol.. I know the veri from a guy looks strange but I was just trying to prove a point there, some ppl won't meet unless got veri's but then how do I get them without a meet?.. I have had a few meets and hopefully soon I will get the veri's I need. Its hard to write a bio without looking desperate lol! I just don't understand when it says like 24ppl viewed me yet I don't get any messages? Maybe this isn't for me.. Just looking for some excitement

So are you saying that people who view your profile must send you a message then? Sorry but that is not how it works, if I viewed say 100 people in a day, I wouldn't send them all a message as they may not all be what I am looking for, I mean I have viewed your profile but given what my profile says should I send you a message? No because you are not what I am looking for. And people often look to perve at people's pictures"

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

your image probably works against you. i know i know, your mates probably think you are cool, but most people here are not 23 and think thin beards and caps are cool.

to be frank, to me, you look like a bit of a knob. I dont mean you are, but I mean you look like the kind of people you see on the street who are.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Hello ppl, I think there is far too many single blokes on here, how can I get ppls attention? I have changed profile so many times and message plenty of people making an effort, no replies! What's a guy to do?! "

Well you can hang around and Hope that all of the other single guys leave,, or

if your approach isn t giving you the results you seek change that approach, one of the definitions of insanity is to do the same things over and over again and expect a different result, ,,

Theres loads of threads offering advice on vonstructing a profile, its generic advice, you know yourself best you say 'sounding desperate' selling yourself, strange way of looking at it in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only add to what has been said already. Your profile could have more content. Average age on here is probably 40's.

To be honest if I saw you walking towards me on the street looking like that pic with the cap on I would probably feel uncomfortable and try to avoid you, so why would we meet you?

Please do not take offence as none is meant. Everyone is looking for something different and you will probably appeal to the younger people on here.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Lots of sound advice here for you. Best of luck.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Hello ppl, I think there is far too many single blokes on here, how can I get ppls attention? I have changed profile so many times and message plenty of people making an effort, no replies! What's a guy to do?!

If you've changed your profile that many times is that really the best you can do? what more can I do? And as far as the cock pics go, they are there for the girls just irritates me when guys fab them lol "

You can opt out of having your pictures fab'd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello ppl, I think there is far too many single blokes on here, how can I get ppls attention? I have changed profile so many times and message plenty of people making an effort, no replies! What's a guy to do?! "

It's very difficult my friend. What do women want? Who knows ..but they'll find you if it's you or respond etc..

There's nothing really you can do but stick at it - why not also try some other sites, as well? ..I've had much more success elsewhere to be honest.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Hello ppl, I think there is far too many single blokes on here, how can I get ppls attention? I have changed profile so many times and message plenty of people making an effort, no replies! What's a guy to do?! "

Without wanting to be rude, you say you have changed your profile many times. It looks as if it took you a couple of minutes to knock up. It doesn't really say much about you and what you are looking for / enjoy. There is nothing that grabs your attention and makes someone want to find out more.

You have far too many cock pics for my liking but some women may like them.

A good single male profile will easily stand out from the rest. So would recommend making a bit more an effort...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a girl and I don't like cock pics at all. Bluergh!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a girl and I don't like cock pics at all. Bluergh!!!"

2 out of 3 of your pics are Fanny pics

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Profile updated.. Not gone too much into it but how's it look?

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