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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hiya Newbies
First = we were all new once, none of us know all the answers individually but collectively you will get some good advice from many on here, read it, digest it and then decide for yourselves which way you want to swing (total pun intended)
A few starters
Never send pictures on MSN or anywhere else until you are personally satisfied that the person your sending them to is what/who you think they are.
Genuine people are never scared to prove they are genuine one way or another. If in doubt "kick it out" has been our personal policy and as a result we have never fallen foul of the fakes, perhaps we have missed out on some nice genuine people but better that than the alternative.
If your not sure ask, almost everyone on this site will be happy to try and help.
If your in a position to get to a social event, do it, many are advertised on the EVENTS board here and they can be a good way of getting an insight into the scene without taking part, you get a chance to meet and chat to a lot of people.
As above a visit to a club is good, you dont have to do anything sexual in a club, but again its a good chance to really see the scene at work so to speak and decide what is good and what isnt good for you.
Set your personal criteria, (couples only, single fems, single guys, soft swap, full swap, anal, KISSING (often forgotton often important) safe sex, parties, private meets, gangbangs, seperate rooms) whatever they are.
As time goes by many people change thier initial criteria, try to discuss any changes you fancy before you do it not during or after
Take your time, its not a race and for most people quality beats quantity.
Getting to know people in the forums or chatrooms never does any harm and can be really helpfull.
Never do anything you don't BOTH feel 100% comforatble with
My personal guidelines that have stood me in good stead for the last 10 years
SWINGING is fantastic fun but not worth losing a relationship for.
Sex is fun but not worth dying for = play safe
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