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Friendship 1st, sex later?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
28 weeks ago

Anyone else feel the same? Building a rapport with an emphasis more on friendship, especially as benefits are so much nicer (in our opinion) with people we know and like.

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By *avrick180Man
28 weeks ago

Pontypool

Yeah i do believe that as its better to be friends than just a quick shag as friends you can do more go out for food drinks and have a laugh all together

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By *intteaMan
28 weeks ago

Bristol

Yes! I find sex is much better with someone you knew and trust … and just as exciting!

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By *eralDeviantWoman
28 weeks ago

Hull

I'm conflicted because people I wouldn't gel with have said this site isn't for that.

(this site is what you make it I think but anyway)

I don't feel sexual attraction to someone I'm nervious of.

Someone I don't know enough to have established a normal.

I don't get off on the fear/excitment of what a stranger might do.

I think it means Demi or Asexual spectrum for me.

To experiance the highs of amazing sex I want to feel safe in the lull prior, in between and afterwards. Be able to feel at ease with the person. Not feel like a performing sex worker who's on a time limit 😂

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
28 weeks ago

Good to know we’re not alone. We had the same guy for 20+ years for MMF fun but it started and continued as a great friendship

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By *eralDeviantWoman
28 weeks ago

Hull


"Good to know we’re not alone. We had the same guy for 20+ years for MMF fun but it started and continued as a great friendship"

Sounds like the ideal on here for many couples I think.

Awesome to hear such arrangements and friendships do happen 😁

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
28 weeks ago

There must be many people like the three of us. It’s finding them that’s the difficult bit. We get exactly how you feel

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By *aven RedWoman
28 weeks ago

who knows, but it's not raining x

Totally agree with this. Having a connection with someone makes sex so much better x

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By *eesside52Man
28 weeks ago

Stockton

Love the idea of making a friend, having social fun then taking it to the next sexual level xx

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By *eekyscotMan
28 weeks ago

Rhyl

I default to this and prefer it as the sex feels so much better then and you also want to spend time with them as there's intimacy meaning after care as well

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
28 weeks ago

East Sussex

There is a danger that the longer you take to become friends the less likely that sex will happen but in general I used to like to meet someone socially a couple of times

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

100% agree with this. I personally, couldn’t have sex with someone I don’t have a friendship with.

If I can’t laugh and joke with them, I want nothing to do with seeing them naked

Char

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By *ornyoldermanMan
28 weeks ago

morpeth

I think you are refreshingly spot on with the build up… just sex not for me… I like to know my intimate partners

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By *eeker of pleasure!Man
28 weeks ago

Hedge End

Absolutely agree, would much rather build up a friendship here before anything happens (or doesn't happen).....

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By *eralDeviantWoman
28 weeks ago

Hull


"There is a danger that the longer you take to become friends the less likely that sex will happen but in general I used to like to meet someone socially a couple of times "

Is that a danger or is that choosing your play partners to be suited to who you are, who they are and the experiences you want to share?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
28 weeks ago

It seems we are not on our own. There are other men, women and couples who feel the same. In our book, building a closer relationship is so much nicer and truly intimate than just sex for the sake of instant gratification. Why not look forward to seeing people you know well, enjoy their company and look forward to taking to bed? Why not develop an emotional bond with people you genuinely care about? It’s not a danger that you won’t have sex. It’s just respect.

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By *IG G77Man
28 weeks ago

GATLEY

I like to build a friendship and a connection with my meets especially ongoing meets so having that social connection makes for better horny experience

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By *ezmondoMan
28 weeks ago

Banbury

A sexually encounter is a mutual partnership. Where you are working together to ensure you are both experiencing pleasure. There is a scientific reason why sex is better with friendship. It's due to the neurotransmitters in your brain. An orgasm produces dopamine. Which is a quick hit, like a sugar rush.

Satisfaction though, which is gained through friendship, releases oxytocine, which is related more to live. And it's like a slow burn high.

I only know this due to the ADHD rabbit hole I go down about my own condition. I am starved of dopamine and crave dopamine highs.

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