FabSwingers.com forum: Please help advice needed

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi guys

Going through a stressful time at the min

I have met a lady - she has a partner

We have been messaging meeting fucking for 6 months . She is starting to become slightly less keen as she was before.

She always Called unreal and was so keen .

Last few weeks she has become a little distant and feels pressured to talk about us . All I want to know is what we are and what she feels and thinks

She can’t talk about it — gets upset and it’s causing her anxiety

We still speak all the time - but I am

Getting not as interested vibes -

We were fucking every week now it’s been once in 3

It’s horrible as she won’t talk and calls me needy

All I want to know is where I stand

It’s making me feel so upset as I love her

Any kind advice would be very very Welcome x

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By *isitingbiMan
over a year ago

London

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By *isitingbiMan
over a year ago

London

Leave her alone. Move on. It sounds like she has.

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By *he RookMan
over a year ago

Hampshire

Seems to me like a she's feeling guilty about doing the dirty behind her fellas back and having second thoughts but at the same time do t want to hurt your feelings. You've had your fun, by all means keep having sex if it's both what you want but I'd be asking myself would I want a relationship or something more with someone I knew cheated on the partner with me? Maybe she just wants sex and that's it. Don't make it more complicated for her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems to me like a she's feeling guilty about doing the dirty behind her fellas back and having second thoughts but at the same time do t want to hurt your feelings. You've had your fun, by all means keep having sex if it's both what you want but I'd be asking myself would I want a relationship or something more with someone I knew cheated on the partner with me? Maybe she just wants sex and that's it. Don't make it more complicated for her. "
Good advise

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Look on the positive side. At least you had a great 5 months with her. Now it's time to move on.

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By *ewildered01Man
over a year ago

Elburton

It does look like your lady has had re think and is pulled my away from you, know your worth clear your mind and walk away before you get too attached and hurt

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I agree with most of the other posters. She needs space. Back off, let her breathe and give her time. Life happens and this place should always be second to that. It’s harsh but that’s the way it is unfortunately.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd try and leave her to it op.

Maybe she's feeling guilty for cheating on her partner, maybe she's moved on and doesn't know how to tell you.

Let her make the next move, can you really trust her if she's going behind another man's back anyway?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the general consensus, chalk it down to good times and bow out gracefully.

I'd probably make a clean break of it, save yrself and more hurt than it appears yr going to feel.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

She has a partner and she's telling you by deeds rather than words that she's backing away from you.

Actions, as they say, speak louder than words. Listen to what her actions are saying and preserve your dignity and self esteem

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Also don't get involved with someone who is (on the face of it) commited to someone else. It always ends in pain for at least one person .

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By *dalisqueWoman
over a year ago

land of make believe

Always take notice of actions,they are the true indication of someone's intent& feelings.

Give her the space she needs.

Sending hugs 🩵

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