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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago

This sounds very silly, but anyone have this issue, I have met a few woman when going to bars etc, go back have some fun, but it takes me a while to cum sometimes I have to take over lol, it's got to a point where she's even said stop it's not working for you

Even if I have a wank, it's like 30-40 mins

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By *iss DevilWoman
52 weeks ago

Bedford

This is not silly, it's quite normal, from my experience, with men who are not repeaters. I think it stems from the early teenage years when men try to delay their orgasm as much as possible, for a variety of reasons, mostly to do with making sure their partner had enough pleasure. Eventually, this goes the other way, and rather than having to worry about premature ejaculation, they are unable to cum or it takes them ages. Also, many are so used to "self-service", they find it difficult, or even impossible, to cum with a partner.

Explain to your play partner it is not them, it's you. That you are still very much enjoy playing with them.

I find it great, to be honest, when a guy can play for a while without cumming, as long as it's not boring same-position fucking all the time. If they vary things, I get loads of orgasms and to me, it's a win . And if they do cum with me, I see it as a bonus.

I believe people need educating that, just because someone did not cum with them, it wasn't necessarily because the sex was rubbish.

Also, OP, as long as you don't have any medical conditions that could make staying hard and cumming difficult, you shouldn't need to worry about it. Just explain beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
52 weeks ago


"This is not silly, it's quite normal, from my experience, with men who are not repeaters. I think it stems from the early teenage years when men try to delay their orgasm as much as possible, for a variety of reasons, mostly to do with making sure their partner had enough pleasure. Eventually, this goes the other way, and rather than having to worry about premature ejaculation, they are unable to cum or it takes them ages. Also, many are so used to "self-service", they find it difficult, or even impossible, to cum with a partner.

Explain to your play partner it is not them, it's you. That you are still very much enjoy playing with them.

I find it great, to be honest, when a guy can play for a while without cumming, as long as it's not boring same-position fucking all the time. If they vary things, I get loads of orgasms and to me, it's a win . And if they do cum with me, I see it as a bonus.

I believe people need educating that, just because someone did not cum with them, it wasn't necessarily because the sex was rubbish.

Also, OP, as long as you don't have any medical conditions that could make staying hard and cumming difficult, you shouldn't need to worry about it. Just explain beforehand. "

I understand, I do mention it to the ladies, and tbh it goes on and on think I have spent about 1 hour or so and still no outcum lol,

Doctors say it could be stress, anxiety, depression and try to give me meds, it just feel like a dead wood

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By *ilver fox 1000Man
52 weeks ago

i.o.w

Totally agree with what was said in previous posts

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By *hawn ScottMan
52 weeks ago

london Brixton

Yes it is good it some ways but not in others.

Reasons are described above but sometimed it just goes numb and has no feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I have suffered from this in the past. Stemmed from trying to delay cumming so my partner had a more fun. I generally just try to relax during sex now and try not to think about, it’s much better now, and if I do cum, sooner than I would like, I just have fun trying for round two.

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By *hawn ScottMan
52 weeks ago

london Brixton


"I have suffered from this in the past. Stemmed from trying to delay cumming so my partner had a more fun. I generally just try to relax during sex now and try not to think about, it’s much better now, and if I do cum, sooner than I would like, I just have fun trying for round two. "

A watched pot never boils

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By *eedsomeone4fun69Man
52 weeks ago

Bournemouth

I've had this many times and I think _iss devil is probably right as to a reason that could cause it being from learning to delay it, it is a pain when the woman thinks its because you are not enjoying it when you really are. But on the flip side it does lead to good long fun sessions

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

One of the most sensible things I’ve read here!

I absolutely agree. Teenage years spent ‘edging’ meant I have never been premature, but things often need a hand, especially after lots of sex.

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By *cknowMan
52 weeks ago

Glasgow

Had that issue with my wife before I came out as gay.

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