FabSwingers.com forum: being ignored

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ok I feel like a right moaning git but i don't know what else I can do.

I know there are more guys than girls on here and not everyone is attracted to each other.

I have been fully open and honest in my profile. I take time to be respectful and send longish messages and not one liners and still nothing anyone any tips?

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By *lexAndSunflowerCouple
over a year ago

Torbay

Tbh a lot of people have 99 unread messages already and tend to meet new people at socials or clubs.

It’s super hard to get noticed via messages.

We do reply to people but know a lot who use block as no rather than replying. Many people are aggressive when people try to say no and it’s not worth the aggro.

So go to a social, get into a local group chat with other similar people and go from there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As has been said many, many times, most won’t even open a message from someone with a silhouette for a profile pic.

If they do they will click on the profile and public pics.

Maybe thats a good place to start..

It doesn’t matter how good your first message is if people don’t like what they initially see.

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By *lexAndSunflowerCouple
over a year ago

Torbay

Yeah didn’t notice - no profile photo, no verifications = we don’t even allow messages from people like that.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

No profile pic = no reply

Unexciting bio that tells me nothing about whether we’re compatible = no reply

Whiny status of forum post = no reply

People are on here for a sexy time. There are some spectacular make profiles. No one will meet you if they can’t tell what you look like or are into. And lots of us have professional jobs, so the comment about that being the reason for limited pics won’t wash.

Maybe this isn’t for you if it’s upsetting you that you’re not getting what you want.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"No profile pic = no reply

Unexciting bio that tells me nothing about whether we’re compatible = no reply

Whiny status of forum post = no reply

Maybe this isn’t for you if it’s upsetting you that you’re not getting what you want. "

*spectacular MALE profiles

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

OP, what did you expect coming here? That you'd set up a very generic profile, with generic age range, silhouette as a profile pic and one public photo and be swimming in offers from horny women? Sadly, it doesn't work like that.

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By *lexAndSunflowerCouple
over a year ago

Torbay

In summary

18-99 (seriously)

No photo

All interests ticked

No location

Profile is bland

As a single man you need to up your game by approximately 100000%

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By *orthernLightsCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Agree with everything that’s been said previously. Additionally, send face pictures when you message, it’s always good to know what people wanting to meet look like.

Also, without knowing what your messages contain, being in Fab due to a relationship ending badly isn’t a good reason and will put most people off. Suggest you get off Fab until you’re over the relationship break up and only return when you know this is something you really want to do rather than a rebound reaction. Luckily we’re in North East so unlikely to be propositioned by you when you remove the relationship line and add a couple more pictures.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

i would add if you are not vanilla and have kinks then give some hints as to what they are - you might narrow the range of people potentially interested in you but you might find people with similar interests.

Some people hate this way of describing it but you've got to market yourself and make yourself stand out compared to others. Go in your area and search for men looking to meet ladies and go through the profiles. That's your competition - how do you compare? Look at the more successful men with veris in particular - especially those meeting people via Fab rather than at clubs. Best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first thing a woman looks at... is your profile, even before reading your message!.

You have no pictures, it's pretty generic like others have said, it isn't welcoming or attractive

Get some torso pictures, you can crop your head off

Send a face picture with your messages

Always READ the profile of the person you're interested in.

Make your profile interesting and positive

Most of all:: Be respectful!

Move on if you don't get a reply or interest

Not everyone is lucky on Fabs, you could go many many months between meets, patience is needed

Good luck

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

As others have said; we wouldn't really be bothered with the blank profile picture. You can be creative and still be anonymous. A picture can be worth a thousand words.

Apart from that you quite possibly need to put more effort in and adjust your expectations accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Comes with the territory. You get used to it.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

What's the difference between being single and separated ?

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By *atch1982Man
over a year ago

Abingdon

After many years here on a couple of different profiles, I have stopped messaging and just let nature take its course!

You can either put in lots of effort and get nothing, or put in no effort, enjoy the bits of the site you like, and still get nothing, but at least you are enjoying yourself!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Op a few people have taken the trouble to respond to your post about being ignored. How do you feel about what they've said?

Sometimes some good connections can be formed by chatting in the forum

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By *hrimper36Couple
over a year ago

Central France dept 36

"ok I feel like a right moaning git but i don't know what else I can do.

I know there are more guys than girls on here and not everyone is attracted to each other.

I have been fully open and honest in my profile. I take time to be respectful and send longish messages and not one liners and still nothing anyone any tips?"

And you have ignored every reply on your thread which is a bit of a no-no really but I guess that if you don’t like the advice then you don’t like the advice.

This is not a “get your cock wet for free site” it’s a swingers site full of different approaches to the lifestyle that most of us choose to live by.

I won’t offer advice but others have so best of luck and have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always disappointing when OP’s don’t bother to come back to their own thread, especially when ironically it’s about being ignored!

C’est la vie. Effort brings rewards.

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