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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been here a while and well apart from a few nibbles I just can't figure what I'm doing wrong!

Help!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been here a while and well apart from a few nibbles I just can't figure what I'm doing wrong!

Help!!!!"

Too much competition? So many men to choose from most aren't even looking for single men here

It's more a swinging site, couple swapping etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the photo is about as much use as a chocolate fireguard and no "interests" ticked?....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not sure what you are doing wrong.. probably nothing.

Here is my checklist but note, just what I like, i cannot speak for all women:

Do's

Make me smile. Be honest. Be cheerful and make me laugh. Have fun, sound like you are having fun and loving life.

Donts: Dont make demands. Dont make lewd comments about my photos. Dont keep texting/emailing/messaging. Do respect me.

Not sure this will help especially if you are doing these things suggested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the photo is about as much use as a chocolate fireguard and no "interests" ticked?...."

Ah yes.. I like something on your profile and a decent pic helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im not sure what you are doing wrong.. probably nothing.

Here is my checklist but note, just what I like, i cannot speak for all women:

Do's

Make me smile. Be honest. Be cheerful and make me laugh. Have fun, sound like you are having fun and loving life.

Donts: Dont make demands. Dont make lewd comments about my photos. Dont keep texting/emailing/messaging. Do respect me.

Not sure this will help especially if you are doing these things suggested. "

I ticked all the boxes right?

Lol, jokes aside I respect where you're coming from, too many obsessive types around xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Too much competition? So many men to choose from most aren't even looking for single men here

It's more a swinging site, couple swapping etc "

I disagree. I have had lots of attention and I am interested in single guys and perhaps later on couples. I think this site is as much about swinging as a couple as it is about guys and gals broadening their horizons and finding those with various kinks that match theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Too much competition? So many men to choose from most aren't even looking for single men here

It's more a swinging site, couple swapping etc

I disagree. I have had lots of attention and I am interested in single guys and perhaps later on couples. I think this site is as much about swinging as a couple as it is about guys and gals broadening their horizons and finding those with various kinks that match theirs. "

"most" being the predominant word in all that, I've seen many many many ladies complaining of cock pics being sent their way and desperate single guys just looking to get an instant shag, it's just about having fun and enjoying yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, men seem to think thats what persuades a woman to start chatting. Wrong.. so very wrong.

Example: A rear shot, perhaps black and white & hands held above his head showing of his shoulders and butt .. that will get me interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you've been here 6 weeks? Just what was your sense of expectation?

You are up against literally 100's of other single men - do you think that your profile makes you stand out in anyway?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys ............. yeah I know done all the suggestion changed the profile added, removed and retook pics!

Guessing I must just be expecting to much!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i'll re-add the other pics lets see!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Pics Updated!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, men seem to think thats what persuades a woman to start chatting. Wrong.. so very wrong.

Example: A rear shot, perhaps black and white & hands held above his head showing of his shoulders and butt .. that will get me interested.

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Dxx - I have added some pics and will do the hands over the head shot just for you! May take some time to set it up and work the timer ..........unless of course you are free and can give me a hand!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, you've just won half the battle by posting on this forum and drawing attention to yourself..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK, you have to chase the women, I don't think I've initiated a single message yet and I've been on here a couple of months (and been inundated). Make sure you've read her profile, send her a message referring to it, something nice not lewd, genuine flattery will get you anywhere but don't go over the top, send one message and wait for the reply, don't bombard her/them.

Can't speak for the photos as not seen those yet. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are my initial messages to long? I write about 15 lines I even try and crack a joke but still never get a reply, why?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Are my initial messages to long? I write about 15 lines I even try and crack a joke but still never get a reply, why? "

Depends what the content of the 15 lines is! X

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

useing the wrong bate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cause your as ugly as me maybe ?

Enjoy your Sunday bud

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

well some times a little nibble can be more exiteing than a big bite and a lot less painfull , ouch

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Having had a look, I wouldn't have much of a clue if you were the guy who'll really deliver the goods I want.

Avoid vague outlines of stuff and get more specific about either yourself and/or what you offer. Include what area you're interested in, for travel, and be self-critical about your profile. Could it really justify someone choosing you over the competition?

Get out to swinging clubs and meet others socially, so that you're less of a new stranger.

The other advice offered above is valid, and your photos haven't budged yet, so I'd get moving on that as a priority, so we can work out if the chemistry is there.

Overall, it can take a long time for single guys to get much action on Fab, so those with patience, flexibility and effort are likely to win above the others. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I am in the same boat as you

Tell me what's wrong with my profile ?

It will all come in time someone out there will like u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In simple terms, try to think of everything from the woman's point of view - when you PM her, ask yourself what's in this message for her? You're competing against A LOT of men on here and the cream rises to the top usually (where the cream is someone who's taken the time to give the woman something relevant to them).

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool


"Think I am in the same boat as you

Tell me what's wrong with my profile ?

It will all come in time someone out there will like u "

Hope this helps,

Your profile is 3 lines long. (very short lines too). From reading it I have no idea what type of person you are, there is no wit, no selling yourself, no confidence, no cheekyness, no personality. Just 3 lines of nothing.

thats not a critisism, its a push in the right direction from an oldie lol.

Youre a good looking guy, re write the profile and sell yourself. Ladies love a confident guy.

Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For starters show your profile and get some pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fer feck sake man stop greetin haha

Where you expecting the girls to fall over themselves to get to you..DOH

Give it some time and I'm sure you'll be ball deep in cum covered toilet paper in no time at all.lol

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