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"So far joining up I have had one meet which was indeed good (sadly the individual didnt verify me). However I just cant see where I'm going wrong. I've put plenty of face pics and tried my best to write a profile (not very good at describing myself though). I know that us single guys have to really work at it here but surely I'm not at such a complete sanity shearing level of ugliness. I guess I'm just wondering why it seems so many others have more success than me. " Did you ask the person you met to verify you? | |||
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" Count yourself lucky you had 1 meet in two weeks we been here for 4 months and nothing life goes on no big deal " Thats what happens when you're only looking for unicorns to be fair | |||
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"Ths is a site for swingers, not art enthusiasts-just read your profile & quite honestly your opening gambit is a turn off. Work & Mum? Just say time is limited due to work towards the end of the ad. Don't talk so much about art, if I want someone do to graphic art of Lou then you're the man-but I don't!! Be more positive, more confident, more viril n your approach. More relaxed." I agree only to the extent that the opening paragraph should be at the end of the profile, not the beginning. I think it shows an insight into personality that is so often missing from profiles. | |||
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"Ths is a site for swingers, not art enthusiasts-just read your profile & quite honestly your opening gambit is a turn off. Work & Mum? Just say time is limited due to work towards the end of the ad. Don't talk so much about art, if I want someone do to graphic art of Lou then you're the man-but I don't!! Be more positive, more confident, more viril n your approach. More relaxed. I agree only to the extent that the opening paragraph should be at the end of the profile, not the beginning. I think it shows an insight into personality that is so often missing from profiles. " But do you not find that the ausing thing when you ask people for advice on here? It's all about opinions & we're all very varied. The guy has to care for a disabled mum which clearly takes time, but many people have to care for children of various ages yet don't feel the need to mention it. To us it looks like the guy is after a sympathy f*** which he may well not be. It's all about perceptions. That line work for you, yet it turns us off. There is no right or wrong but clearly if he is having no success, something is wrong. I lost interest after the opening line, too much negativity. The only reason I persisted was because I wanted to be able to answer fully. But the ad is littered with irrelevance & negativity. There is nothing wrong, per se, with his photos, it is how he sells himself. Or fails to. Confident & human is what we look for, not self pity & negativity or brash arrogance & 'in yer face'. A happy medium. | |||
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" Count yourself lucky you had 1 meet in two weeks we been here for 4 months and nothing life goes on no big deal Thats what happens when you're only looking for unicorns to be fair " We not looking for unicorns we are learning to swim and to jump on at the deep end could be suicidal | |||
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" Count yourself lucky you had 1 meet in two weeks we been here for 4 months and nothing life goes on no big deal Thats what happens when you're only looking for unicorns to be fair We not looking for unicorns we are learning to swim and to jump on at the deep end could be suicidal " You'll only find out by taking the plunge. You'll probably find you're very able swimmers! | |||
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" Count yourself lucky you had 1 meet in two weeks we been here for 4 months and nothing life goes on no big deal Thats what happens when you're only looking for unicorns to be fair We not looking for unicorns we are learning to swim and to jump on at the deep end could be suicidal " We'd meet you no problems at all. And we would bring our water wings along and maybe even a lilo. | |||
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" Count yourself lucky you had 1 meet in two weeks we been here for 4 months and nothing life goes on no big deal Thats what happens when you're only looking for unicorns to be fair We not looking for unicorns we are learning to swim and to jump on at the deep end could be suicidal You'll only find out by taking the plunge. You'll probably find you're very able swimmers! " Lol probably able swimmers means there is a chance we could drowned to death | |||
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" Count yourself lucky you had 1 meet in two weeks we been here for 4 months and nothing life goes on no big deal Thats what happens when you're only looking for unicorns to be fair We not looking for unicorns we are learning to swim and to jump on at the deep end could be suicidal You'll only find out by taking the plunge. You'll probably find you're very able swimmers! Lol probably able swimmers means there is a chance we could drowned to death " Or you can just sit there procrastinating & wondering what if? You can't drown cos there's no real water. It's better to regret something that you tried rather than something you didn't try but then you're right. If you maintain that approach, you'll not enjoy it so why fantasise? Why not leave now? | |||
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" We not looking for unicorns we are learning to swim and to jump on at the deep end could be suicidal " Thats fine and taking your time is key to feel comfortable. But also I was purely pointing out that all you're looking for is F's and FF's (lol) of which there are very very very few, even fewer who are real and even fewer who are young attractive and meet couples, so the chances of getting a meet under that circumstance are going to be veeery low :P | |||
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"So far joining up I have had one meet which was indeed good (sadly the individual didnt verify me). However I just cant see where I'm going wrong. I've put plenty of face pics and tried my best to write a profile (not very good at describing myself though). I know that us single guys have to really work at it here but surely I'm not at such a complete sanity shearing level of ugliness. I guess I'm just wondering why it seems so many others have more success than me. " lol your thread has grown arms n legs, look what you've done & had loads of hits on your profile!! | |||
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"So far joining up I have had one meet which was indeed good (sadly the individual didnt verify me). However I just cant see where I'm going wrong. I've put plenty of face pics and tried my best to write a profile (not very good at describing myself though). I know that us single guys have to really work at it here but surely I'm not at such a complete sanity shearing level of ugliness. I guess I'm just wondering why it seems so many others have more success than me." One thing you haven't asked for OP, is a profile critique. If you want one, you need to say so. We can only do this if you ask. Forum rules and all that... | |||
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"I know how u feel been here years n had three good meets but most dont reply, instant block even if u follow all requests in profile, or message gets read but no reply so u dont know where you are. Then theres the odd single female that arranges to meet then stands you up (this is regular) You just gotta chill n let it all run its course. Got stood up just today too lol. " ... ..... i think you make some very good points about the actions of what i regard as the 'bullies and abusers' on this site. They often regard themselves as above their fellow members by a lack of manners and respect. Yes there are many members who include in their message an assurance that they will reply even if it takes awhile. I include the following comment that i have used previously: .... there is the ubiquitous issue that it's difficult for single men to get a meet. And probably one of the main reasons is the ratio of men to women on this site. However, this is not helped by those requesting members to apply/message for a meet - then ignoring their messsage and even blocking them without replying to their message ... this i regard as the actions of a bully and abuser. Yes of course i suspect that some meets/events will attract applications in great quantity but every one of them should receive a reply which reflects courtesy and respect to fellow members. | |||
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" .... without getting bogged down about a profile which most members regard as inept there is the ubiquitous issue that it's difficult for single men to get a meet. And probably one of the main reasons is the ratio of men to women on this site. However, this is not helped by those requesting members to apply/message for a meet - then ignoring their messsage and even blocking them without replying to their message ... this i regard as the actions of a bully and abuser. Yes of course i suspect that some meets/events will attract applications in great quantity but every one of them should receive a reply which reflects courtesy and respect to fellow members." If people can't be bothered to 'waste their time' reading what people actually want, then why should we be bothered to reply to those messages that clearly fail to address what we seek? Bullying? Abuse? Grow up. Any of those who have read our profile, & it is immediately apparent, get a reply even if just a polite 'thanks but no thanks.' manners, after all, cost nothing. But those who have not bothered to read our profile-it goes both ways, we will not bother to reply to their messages. They lack manners to read, so we will not reply. Too many people up their own arse on here? Yes many. Peopple who have a very general profile whom you think are asking for someone like you but then just ignore you. As for ourselves, if you match the initial text, we will respond. | |||
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" Count yourself lucky you had 1 meet in two weeks we been here for 4 months and nothing life goes on no big deal " Whaaaat that's mental!! You 2 have a great profile and super sexy pics what the hell is going wrong in the west mids? If you 2 were more in the east you'd be swamped with offers....including ours X | |||
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" Count yourself lucky you had 1 meet in two weeks we been here for 4 months and nothing life goes on no big deal Whaaaat that's mental!! You 2 have a great profile and super sexy pics what the hell is going wrong in the west mids? If you 2 were more in the east you'd be swamped with offers....including ours X" Oh ma bad!!! Missed the bit that said looking for females and ff couples only lol X | |||
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"....this may sound harsh,but you have asked the question....your profile could be thinned out a bit by losing the 'geeky' sounding elements. " | |||
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"Ths is a site for swingers, not art enthusiasts-just read your profile & quite honestly your opening gambit is a turn off. Work & Mum? Just say time is limited due to work towards the end of the ad. Don't talk so much about art, if I want someone do to graphic art of Lou then you're the man-but I don't!! Be more positive, more confident, more viril n your approach. More relaxed. I agree only to the extent that the opening paragraph should be at the end of the profile, not the beginning. I think it shows an insight into personality that is so often missing from profiles. " we would have to say the same.also single men think couples get lots of meets .we get 100s of emails but %99 of then are a waste of time . we would say just log on once a week to check emails good luck | |||
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"Cause ya ugly like me,I have same problem.." Nope your married not really the same problem is it * cReEpS rOunD cRyPt * -|- | |||
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"So because I didn't reply to the guy who messaged me last night, asking if we could meet so he could "fuck me hard, and slap me around a bit", I'm a bully? Unreal. " Kinky! Who is this guy.... | |||
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"....If not get yourself some rohypnol that does the trick. " Seriously??? NOT something to joke about really, is it????? | |||
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" .... without getting bogged down about a profile which most members regard as inept there is the ubiquitous issue that it's difficult for single men to get a meet. And probably one of the main reasons is the ratio of men to women on this site. However, this is not helped by those requesting members to apply/message for a meet - then ignoring their messsage and even blocking them without replying to their message ... this i regard as the actions of a bully and abuser. Yes of course i suspect that some meets/events will attract applications in great quantity but every one of them should receive a reply which reflects courtesy and respect to fellow members." Well said | |||
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"....If not get yourself some rohypnol that does the trick. Seriously??? NOT something to joke about really, is it????? " Unsure which is funniest, the initial tongue in cheek comment (lets hope) or your response! | |||
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"I've done that, been bugged by certain members for a face pic, send them one then I get blocked!! I must be ugly haha " Never ever send a lady or couple a face pic first. Golden rule. If they really interested they will send you one to start with | |||
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" Count yourself lucky you had 1 meet in two weeks we been here for 4 months and nothing life goes on no big deal " According to your profile you are in 'high demand'...Hmmmm the mind boggles. Get to a club or put yourself out there if you want a meet! | |||
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"Cause ya ugly like me,I have same problem.." Put it this way: I like the tone of the ops profile...yours on the other hand... | |||
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" Count yourself lucky you had 1 meet in two weeks we been here for 4 months and nothing life goes on no big deal According to your profile you are in 'high demand'...Hmmmm the mind boggles. Get to a club or put yourself out there if you want a meet! " If you read the profile right due to high demand we now have msn/Skype set up that is due to a large amount of ppl we are or have spoken to have asked for msn or Skype just thought I'd reply to stop your mind from boggling as it must hurt xx | |||
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" Count yourself lucky you had 1 meet in two weeks we been here for 4 months and nothing life goes on no big deal According to your profile you are in 'high demand'...Hmmmm the mind boggles. Get to a club or put yourself out there if you want a meet! If you read the profile right due to high demand we now have msn/Skype set up that is due to a large amount of ppl we are or have spoken to have asked for msn or Skype just thought I'd reply to stop your mind from boggling as it must hurt xx " well you lovely couple, may I suggest that you get off your cam/skype/msn and go and meet some real people in the flesh. Having looked at your pictures you would have no shortage of takers.So I don't understand the 4 month baron patch......Now my mind definatley boggles.....Ouch | |||
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" Count yourself lucky you had 1 meet in two weeks we been here for 4 months and nothing life goes on no big deal Thats what happens when you're only looking for unicorns to be fair We not looking for unicorns we are learning to swim and to jump on at the deep end could be suicidal We'd meet you no problems at all. And we would bring our water wings along and maybe even a lilo. " would u meet me? | |||
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"I need help as well - everywhere i seem to go it says 'not looking for single males' or no asians etc not sure what i need to do .......some people mentioned going to socials but not sure how that would help with actually meeting someone " er...cos u would be meeting with someone...u might not get sex from it(at that particular time)..thats what separates swinging from just plain sex sites... | |||
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"I need help as well - everywhere i seem to go it says 'not looking for single males' or no asians etc not sure what i need to do .......some people mentioned going to socials but not sure how that would help with actually meeting someone " What are you looking for if its not to meet someone? This is a swinging site, and as such, I for one need to meet and chat to a person before I would ever consider any further contact. It is not a fuckfest and we dont all shag mindlessly and without discretion. Attending a social is not fucking on the dancefloor with random folk, and is not an orgy. It allows people to chat to likeminded people. Attending a social will get some verifications and will show you are actually a nice bloke..... | |||
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"I need help as well - everywhere i seem to go it says 'not looking for single males' or no asians etc not sure what i need to do .......some people mentioned going to socials but not sure how that would help with actually meeting someone What are you looking for if its not to meet someone? This is a swinging site, and as such, I for one need to meet and chat to a person before I would ever consider any further contact. It is not a fuckfest and we dont all shag mindlessly and without discretion. Attending a social is not fucking on the dancefloor with random folk, and is not an orgy. It allows people to chat to likeminded people. Attending a social will get some verifications and will show you are actually a nice bloke..... " well it opens up better chance of getting a fuckfest lol | |||
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" well it opens up better chance of getting a fuckfest lol" lol | |||
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"So far joining up I have had one meet which was indeed good (sadly the individual didnt verify me). However I just cant see where I'm going wrong. I've put plenty of face pics and tried my best to write a profile (not very good at describing myself though). I know that us single guys have to really work at it here but surely I'm not at such a complete sanity shearing level of ugliness. I guess I'm just wondering why it seems so many others have more success than me. " been here 7 days and had a meet lol some single guys have been here years and not had one so if your to be belived then you are very very rarley lucky. | |||
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