FabSwingers.com forum: Advice needed

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been floating round a while now and am finding it really difficult to even get a response to messages. What's the secret any advice gratefully received.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Most won't respond when you have no pictures and a silhouette as your avatar is an instant no from quite alot before they even get to your profile anyway

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

It's tricky and often potluck to start a chat and arrange a meet on here. Get down to a social or a club. It's fine to go as a single guy and chat with people. Hoping to find someone on here to go to a club with you is a big ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many here will view a profile before opening up the message linked.

Their minds are usually made up before they've opened up the message, unless that message really catches their attention.

Do you feel your profile and your messages are enough to tempt?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Many here will view a profile before opening up the message linked.

Their minds are usually made up before they've opened up the message, unless that message really catches their attention.

Do you feel your profile and your messages are enough to tempt?"

Well I kind of thought it was OK but maybe I need to have a rethink

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess so but I wasn't holding out a lot of hope on that one just thought it may be a conversation point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most won't respond when you have no pictures and a silhouette as your avatar is an instant no from quite alot before they even get to your profile anyway "

Fair point.

Love your honesty in your profile by the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Goldie,

Your bio is really good, however I agree that not having any photos is likely to be a big no no to others when receiving messages from yourself.

When we see a couple that we would like to get to know more, we always send face photos with our first message. If we are not their type, then that's all good. But at least we all know where we stand from the get go.

It might be worth uploading pics that don't include your face so you have a profile photo.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

There's a filter to block picture-less profiles so that alone is a hint at why you are struggling.

Even profiles with lots of pics still struggle so having none in will make it almost impossible.

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"Been floating round a while now and am finding it really difficult to even get a response to messages. What's the secret any advice gratefully received.

There's no secret "secret" as such.

Your message could be Shakespearian, but if there's nothing to see and little to read, your message is without worth.

Privacy is a concern for a lot of people. Profile pics can be taken or edited that don't show distinguishing features.

I've never entered a shop that didn't have a window display, or bought a book that didn't have an enticing cover note.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many here will view a profile before opening up the message linked.

Their minds are usually made up before they've opened up the message, unless that message really catches their attention.

Do you feel your profile and your messages are enough to tempt?

Well I kind of thought it was OK but maybe I need to have a rethink

What, for example about anothers profile catches your attention enough to want to send them a message?

And what about your profile do you hope will be enough to tempt them to message you back?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Many thanks definitely some good advice

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'll echo all the other replies op,

The lack of any pics will get you deleted by most women /couples.

You may be well known,but you can add non identifiable pics such as clothed but with head cropped off or parts of you that people wouldn't recognise ie bum ,thighs etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No photos ?? What do you expect ?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hi op

I'm reluctant to post pics online as I'm well known, as you've mentioned but want to attend a club Im guessing that you won't be wearing a balaclava you might actually meet folk you know at clubs like many do I assume but is about respect

Few body pictures crop face if that concerned many do it

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By *LIVEANDKICKING100Man
over a year ago

DUBLIN

Lower your expectations and learn to be patient.

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