FabSwingers.com forum: Married - Playing without consent

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi Folks - particularly ladies

I get a real mixed bag of responses when I inform folks that I’m married and playing without consent.

From ‘it’s none of my business what you do’ through to the ‘Nope, just plain nope’.

I’ve adopted the immediately informing of this fact once contact is made. I’m getting horror stories of married guys pretending etc - what’s the point?

What’s to be gained by lying, surely any sensible lass/couple will suss this through pre-meet chats, surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When do you inform them? When you’re messaging?

Personally I’d put the information on my profile so people can make an informed choice ahead of any communication.

That seems more transparent and honest to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say you’re all about transparency and yet you choose to hide your verifications?

It’s all a game buddy.

You play it by your rules.

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By *REEPALESTINEMan
over a year ago

derby

Looool

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By *REEPALESTINEMan
over a year ago

derby

You say I’m married and playing without consent and then you go on to say what’s to be gained by lying. Hypocrisy and contradiction at its finest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You say I’m married and playing without consent and then you go on to say what’s to be gained by lying. Hypocrisy and contradiction at its finest

A shag might be gained by lying I suppose.

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By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport

"You say you’re all about transparency and yet you choose to hide your verifications?

It’s all a game buddy.

You play it by your rules.

It does say that he is happy to share them on the profile.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Plenty to be gained by lying. We've met married men without permission twice to our knowledge. We didn't suss it until afterwards. They gained a meet out of it.

I think that if partnered without consent people could mention it on their profile or on the forum without receiving a barrage of abuse or questioning then more of them would be comfortable to declare it leaving everyone on fab with the option to avoid or notm

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By *lasherMan
over a year ago

Faversham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married playing with concert, and do just fine, I have it written on my profile, if I've been messaging someone I make sure that they have seen that I'm married, and if I'm at a club I always let who ever it is I'm going to play with know, all you can do is be as honest as you can lying about it isn't going to get you anywhere.

on here some won't want to know, some will, just like any other reasons, I've not once been turned down at a club because of it mind.

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

Fuck sakes, its a sex site and everybody is lying to one degree or more.

Your a bit nieve to think there's truth in any of it.

Why make a big deal of it anyways, your getting laid, not married.

If you are married, who cares but more liars and people who use it as a poor excuse not to meet.

If you can't be discrete and show some respect by not making a pest of yourself, buggar off.

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

"lying about it isn't going to get you anywhere"

Got you laid when you were younger I'm sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't be interested in a married man in real life, so I don't see why I would care less on Fab. I still have my values and integrity.

I always thank a married man for his honesty, but I also think it's a joke that they show more respect to me than their partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""lying about it isn't going to get you anywhere"

Got you laid when you were younger I'm sure!

Nope not once in my life have I needed to lie to get laid lol

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By *atcockhard85Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Married lads playing without consent is our speciality, Mrs loves doing stuff that their wives won't and I love to get the ego massage (yes, sorry, its true, I am vain!). Love it most when its fully relaxed bi fun.

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By *isge BeathaWoman
over a year ago

Here, There and Everywhere

I think you need to be honest on your profile so that anyone who decides to start any conversation knows what they're getting into.

Also, either hid your verification summary or show some/all of your veris. I'm always wary if they show the summary and nothing else.

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By *uksungCouple
over a year ago

wednesbury

It doesn't bother us either way. Married men like discretion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've stated I am a married male, and find it difficult to even chat or get a reply with a couple or a women on here, I get it it's not for some but surely there are married women without consent to

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Our main thoughts on this are if they don't have any respect for their own partner then they obviously aren't going to have any respect for random people to hope to meet on here.

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By *edgirlWoman
over a year ago

Berkhamsted

I state on my profile that I'm not interested in helping anyone cheat on an unsuspecting partner. Purely because I'd hate to have that done to me so no way will I help anyone do it to someone else. For me that goes against everything about the lifestyle. Cheating is just fucking around, not swinging.

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By *edgirlWoman
over a year ago

Berkhamsted

"Fuck sakes, its a sex site and everybody is lying to one degree or more."

This says waaay more about you than the general fab population.

Yes, there are liars, fakes, wannabes etc. But, for me, those accounts are EASILY recognised and ignored/blocked/reported.

I'm proud to say I'm not lying one bit on my profile. Wanna challenge me on that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck sakes, its a sex site and everybody is lying to one degree or more.

This says waaay more about you than the general fab population.

Yes, there are liars, fakes, wannabes etc. But, for me, those accounts are EASILY recognised and ignored/blocked/reported.

I'm proud to say I'm not lying one bit on my profile. Wanna challenge me on that?"

I second this. I ain't lying either. I don't even have filters on my pics. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on the receiving end of it and it genuinely just killed me inside.

I would never willingly play with a married person male or female. My profile states this incredibly clearly, it's none of my business what people get upto but it is if you're trying to involve me in it.

I get so many messages from people playing away without consent after I say nope they then try to give me all sorts of justifications for why they're doing it.

I genuinely don't care why someone is doing it. I want no part of it.

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By *edgirlWoman
over a year ago

Berkhamsted

I won't ever fuck married men who are hiding it from their partner because...

I NEVER wanna be the one that's cheated on, unaware, non consensual parter.

In return, I NEVER wanna be the CHEATER because there's literally no excuse/reason to lie or cheat.

I'm fully open. If u aren't then just F off lol

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull

"Hi Folks - particularly ladies

I get a real mixed bag of responses when I inform folks that I’m married and playing without consent.

From ‘it’s none of my business what you do’ through to the ‘Nope, just plain nope’.

an affair you mea, call it what it is

I’ve adopted the immediately informing of this fact once contact is made. I’m getting horror stories of married guys pretending etc - what’s the point?

What’s to be gained by lying, surely any sensible lass/couple will suss this through pre-meet chats, surely?"

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

"Hi Folks - particularly ladies

I get a real mixed bag of responses when I inform folks that I’m married and playing without consent.

From ‘it’s none of my business what you do’ through to the ‘Nope, just plain nope’.

I’ve adopted the immediately informing of this fact once contact is made. I’m getting horror stories of married guys pretending etc - what’s the point?

What’s to be gained by lying, surely any sensible lass/couple will suss this through pre-meet chats, surely?"

Oh not to be contrary

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By *orthwestbikerxxMan
over a year ago

lancs

I'm married after menopause became a near sexless marriage apart from odd blow job .

I'm only.lookin for sex nothing more Dont wanna split anyone up Dont wanna put pressure on my wife to do something she doesn't want anymore .So by playing on here is just sex nothing more A few people if I'm lucky having a good time .

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Married lads playing without consent is our speciality, Mrs loves doing stuff that their wives won't and I love to get the ego massage (yes, sorry, its true, I am vain!). Love it most when its fully relaxed bi fun. "

I don’t think that’s anything to be proud about in my opinion

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Fuck sakes, its a sex site and everybody is lying to one degree or more.

Your a bit nieve to think there's truth in any of it.

Why make a big deal of it anyways, your getting laid, not married.

If you are married, who cares but more liars and people who use it as a poor excuse not to meet.

If you can't be discrete and show some respect by not making a pest of yourself, buggar off.

Speak for yourself on that one. I’m real life single not fab single

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By *ewbie09Man
over a year ago

alcester

I recently got caught out doing this. My advice for what’s it’s worth… don’t do it. Be honest with yourself and ur Mrs. If you don’t want to be with her then tell her and leave. It’s not worth the pain and suffering that I am experiencing right now

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd say always be upfront ,those who lie take away other peoples choices ie not to meet if they know they're attached.

Not everyone will meet anyone cheating,me included,but I admire those who are honest about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd say always be upfront ,those who lie take away other peoples choices ie not to meet if they know they're attached.

Not everyone will meet anyone cheating,me included,but I admire those who are honest about it."

Totally agree. No judgement of someone who is attached playing away without consent that's their choice. But be honest so I also have a choice.

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By *esi70Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

Just let people do what they want. If married guys want to meet others, and tell them, then if others are happy with then it's no concern of those who don't want to.

Everyone has their own reasons for doing what they do.

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By *inballs99Man
over a year ago

Blackheath

I really am only writing this as I have nothing else to do currently, people are going to do what they want whatever the circumstances,it's a choice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same old chat - married men cheating - wrong

Married woman cheating - super hot ????

The harm caused by cheating is unreal and not something anyone wants to go through.

Life is more complex, why is he cheating, if you’re not making him sexually happy is so bad? If he opened up to his wife about his desires or boredom would you appreciate and try and change things.

Does he spend time with his kids and treat you well? Do you enjoy your time together, do you tell him that he’s fit?

Do most men actually want sex? Or actually attention?? Men can be quite needy

The guy with depression, alcohol addiction we all feel sorry for, the guy with the unhappy relationship who supports his family but needs sex ….

…so these are just some things I’m throwing out there…. Not wrong not right not black or white… my opinion cheating long term having an affair is not the way forward….

I’m married we play together…. It’s fun I’m jealous… that’s also not a problem… nothing better than attention from your own wife, nothing better than a touch on your skin from her..it’s great when she takes care of herself.

So respect, I see people on here who are criticising the cheaters about respecting their wife… but some of these people looking at their pictures have little respect for their own body (controversial you say). Just think and look at yourself before you criticise the cheater…. It’s great that this guy is being honest with his meets (he would be honest with his wife but he can’t) ….

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