FabSwingers.com forum: How do I spot a fake profile?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all

I am very new to the scene and don't want to send my private pictures to someone only to find out they are going to be used

on the internet.

Can anybody please advise me?

Many thanks

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By *hangovCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

Someone told us that they were suspicious of anyone who had been on the site a long time and had no verifications.

They actually said it about us before we got verified but it made sense we thought!

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over a year ago

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

"Hi all

I am very new to the scene and don't want to send my private pictures to someone only to find out they are going to be used

on the internet.

Can anybody please advise me?

Many thanks"
if ur gonna narrow ur search down even more incase u send ur pics to a fake, u are gonna have no chance of a meet ... just saying!! perhaps choose ur pics more carefuly until ur comfortable that your choice is genuine

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

They take many guises - but easy to spot.

A profile of a woman that looks like Cheryl Cole, who will meet you immediately, suck you dry and let you cum in her arse is usually a give away.

The profiles without verifications or pics are usually people who just want to talk - they seldom promise the earth like those with photos lifted off the internet.

Bottom line is, if it looks too good to be true, it probably is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never thought of them using private pics that u send xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its difficult to

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Someone told us that they were suspicious of anyone who had been on the site a long time and had no verifications.

They actually said it about us before we got verified but it made sense we thought!"

There's a thread elsewhere about not putting too much faith in verifications.

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By *hangovCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

If veri's don't work then I guess the only thing to do is trust no-one, makes you wonder if it's worth even taking a chance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one of my private pics put online but luckily the only pic I send before I get to know somebody is a face pic with me being fully clothed. My rude pics do not include my face either so if they are stolen I hopefully wouldn't have anything to worry about

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By *hangovCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

Thats a good idea, we are going to take our pics down and replace them with suitably neutral ones!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have also opened a thread with admin as no matter how clean your pics are when you upload them they automatically put the web address on the bottom now so all your pics will say fab swingers on them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some are very easy to door others well always trust your instinct if something Doesn't sound right normally it isn't, the best way is just to chat your soon spot the fakes amongst us

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

A lack of verifications does not mean they are fake! There are many reasons for not having any... one being trying to get folk to talk to you!

As for fakes, some are easy to spot as has been said. A Miss World lookalike who sounds too good to be true generally will be. Look for hints in the photos as well. A woman/couple with an English name but two pin sockets on the wall is a dead give away. I also think there is something sus about profiles that joined and last logged in within an hour.

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By *obroyman17Man
over a year ago

experience!

in general and from speaking to people i think its more of a problem for single girls and couples.

as a single guy you shouldn't have a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it appears too good to be true, it probably is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all

I am very new to the scene and don't want to send my private pictures to someone only to find out they are going to be used

on the internet.

Can anybody please advise me?

Many thanks"

Not easy when you're new to this, but there are a few clues until you develop a gut feel.

1. Female profile showing a clear face pic. Women, for reasons which should be blinding obvious, do not usually have pics on public display which will identify them clearly. I was always wary of any like this, as it's often (but not always) a bloke posing as a woman.

2. Not photo verfied. You don't have to be and there are some very long standing members of Fabs who swing regularly who are not PV'd, but if you are looking for singles, I wouldn't send any pics of me to anyone who wasn't PV'd and specially if they have no veris by meeting.

3. Length of time on site. A lot of fakes are spotted fairly quickly, and are off the site within 3 months. I used to only contact people who had been on the site for at least 3 months.

4. Lack of veris over long time period. There are two schools of thought - one says don't go near anyone who's been on here a year and had no veris (visible or hidden), the other says - it's bloody hard to get meets so how can I have any veris? Just have to use your judgement on that one....

5. Veris: Meeting in person/by webcam. We don't go near anyone who does not have at least ONE veri by meeting. Difficult to do though if you are a single wanting to meet singles. If there is at least one veri by meeting it tells you that there is a real person behind the profile - but NO more than that..

I could waffle on for ages with others, but these are the basics as far as I see them. At least YOU are photo verified, which is to the good.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Women and couples find it far easier to get verified than single men so if they've been here a while and no veri be cautious.

If the pics seem too good to be true run them through tin eye.

If she's 21, size 8, 34dd, been on a short while, no pics or veri and is being predatory be cautious.

If she wants to text you but has no credit.

If she wants to cam but wants to use another site cos her cam won't work.

If she's hot and heavy till you suggest a coffee in Starbucks (very useful even for the genuine ones, meeting on neutral territory can be good and is cheaper than a hotel room if you don't get on).

If she is very specific about which hotel, expects you to pay.

If she expects 'gifts'.

If you only ever speak to the male half of a couple - she's always running late at work...

Get a ten pound supermarket phone so you're not handing out your number, don't give your address unless you've actually met and are comfortable with it and if someone way hotter than you is insistent they'll only meet at your house then ask yourself why - I have a friend who instead of the promised bj got burgled. (not from this site)

But most on here are genuine and here for their own pleasure just like you.

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

"Women and couples find it far easier to get verified than single men so if they've been here a while and no veri be cautious.

If the pics seem too good to be true run them through tin eye.

If she's 21, size 8, 34dd, been on a short while, no pics or veri and is being predatory be cautious.

If she wants to text you but has no credit.

If she wants to cam but wants to use another site cos her cam won't work.

If she's hot and heavy till you suggest a coffee in Starbucks (very useful even for the genuine ones, meeting on neutral territory can be good and is cheaper than a hotel room if you don't get on).

If she is very specific about which hotel, expects you to pay.

If she expects 'gifts'.

If you only ever speak to the male half of a couple - she's always running late at work...

But most on here are genuine and here for their own pleasure just like you.

From my experience as a genuine single man over 50... believe me it is almost impossible to get folk to talk to you!

I am genuine and will meet, happy to pass on a phone number (only used for this) and will take calls from withheld numbers.

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By *leasing_to_the_thighsMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

Ive seen alot of fake profiles on here and a few tell tale signs are

if the pictures they are using are really small and low quality they more then likely wont be there own.

Another thing is a good observation of pics some women i have seen using completly different women in pics which were quite easily obvious to tell

And sometimes even profiles that are verified are fake usually a profile using stunnin pictures of a 20 yr old girl yet her verifications are from less then stunnin mature men and now i no this can just be her type but common sense is also applied here sometimes and they will be falsy verified so it looks like both partys have had a meet i also noticed on a profile a girl had many verofications but they were all on continious days and from people on opposite ends of the country which was very strange and unbeliveable

After time on here i think u can just spot a fake profile from a mile off well i can anyway ive seen alot lol

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By *rallvalCouple
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Hi all

I am very new to the scene and don't want to send my private pictures to someone only to find out they are going to be used

on the internet.

Can anybody please advise me?

Many thanks"

Scan over the profile and see if the pictures seen ligit

Does the same person appear in them all? Fakers can be lazy; we were contacted by a single woman and when we checked the photos she kept changing skin tone, body shape, height and tattoos in each one.

Are they free whenever you are or free right now? Are they stunning, fit and willing to do anything?

If they sound too good to be true be suspicious. Sadly there are very few 20 year old nymphomaniac gymnasts who model underwear part time and own a brewery but some fake profiles would have you think they exist.

Are they only willing to meet in a hotel that you pay for? A social meet in a public place first will help solve that. Stringing along some poor guy/couple for a laugh is not uncommon, a single woman or couple refusing to meet in a public place can be suspicious as well.

Verifications are useful but not infallible. Check up the verifications, are they only verified by single guys or recent members? That can ring alarm bells when a couple has only verifications from a bunch of guys that all seem to have verified each other. All that is needed is for a fake profile to become verified (which is easily done) and then that person sets up and verifies new profiles who all verify each other.

We prefer to verify on webcam. It is amazing just how many women have a broken webcam or when talking to a couple it is amazing just how many times that the female half has just 'stepped out for a minute'. Verifying on a webcam is almost impossible to fake. For couples a phone call fem to fem is also difficult to fake.

Webcam verification also gets around those people who 'bend time'. Been contacted by a couple in their 40s with slightly odd photos that looked a little dated. On webcam they looked 15-20 years older than their scanned polaroids.

Generally people on here are very nice people. Don't be put off by the occassional idiot.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I have found this very interesting and informative. Think I will pop out and buy a cheap phone x

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By *thlete0Couple
over a year ago

southend

Sometimes we hide our profile- and someone just blocked us as they think we are fake ha ha

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Mr yule of thumb:

1) IF been on the site more than 6 months and no verification (admin green FLAG veri, or any meet/webcam green TICK veri).

Saying that, a profile with "only" a webcam verification to me means the person was able to buy a £10 webcam from Asda,.. not proof of a swinger in my opinion

2) Long list of friends but no verifications (after 6 months) is a tell tale of a "friends collector" - to wither look popular or get access to private pictures (pic collector?)

3) Profiles that will only accept videos of the other person as proof of legitimacy - sounds like they are starting their own porn site on the cheap and your video could be used there

4) If the only pictures look like they've been lifted off a catwalk or model magazine.. they probably were

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By *coobyroo218Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

The only real way is to get them both on cam at the same time, or phone the female for a quick chat as well with him.

Meet for a social fisrt so you do not spend time ond money.

You will have to give out pics to start but just chat first and get a feel for them, if they have pics in their profile but are set to private chat a little then ask to invite as a friend to see the pics, if they still have no face pics ask for one, if they donot supply one move on.

Its not hard to ween out the fakes and the more you do it the more you can spot them a mile off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest It's hard.

I give my mobile number to people I'd really like to meet after I've spoken to them for a bit But half of them never call.

Even the ones that ask for it don't call most of the time.

Then theres one that gave me theirs first and asked me to text them as they are not on here often but were really impressed by me, I replied giving them my number so they knew who was texting. I texted them just after they had read the message I sent with me mobile and they still didn't reply, I messaged them on here to check if they made a mistake on a digit and they deleted the message without reply.

They seemed really nice and were verified too 10 TIMES.

I think It's a lot of trail and error mate to route out the fakes.

you can do think like look for verified but check if it a verified in person, on phone or webcam. Verified from a meeting in person seems the best to look for, I think verifications should only be allowed following a meeting in person.

Ask for face pics, give a mobile number or ask if they would like to exchange numbers this can combat fakes and put them off but is still not 100%.

Also when you get a message read their profile if they put something on their profile like "no pic no reply" but message you first without attaching a pic that can be another sign.

Also look for other hipacritical behavior as some tell you want they think you want to hear on their profile but say completely different in a private message.

But as I said mostly trial and error.

Good luck mate.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I also like the ones that email wanting to meet - then when you meet (say at a social) and you introduce yourself they blank you.

You think "Oh well, no interest in person", only for them to later email again "sorry we didn't get to play" with invite to another party... only for them to blank again in person. time to change the cologne I suspect! Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verification's mean nothing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi again

Sorry for the late response (hard drive failed!)but thank you for all of the helpful comments.I am sure they will serve me well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They take many guises - but easy to spot.

A profile of a woman that looks like Cheryl Cole, who will meet you immediately, suck you dry and let you cum in her arse is usually a give away.

The profiles without verifications or pics are usually people who just want to talk - they seldom promise the earth like those with photos lifted off the internet.

Bottom line is, if it looks too good to be true, it probably is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Verification's mean nothing.

Curious answer!

I'd say webcam veri's mean little except that someone owns a webcam.

Hidden veri's could be anything.

However a profile with multiple veri's from different people would indicate to me that there's a strong possibility that the profile owner/owners are genuine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Verification's mean nothing.

Care to expand on that...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another way to spot time wasters is to look at the profile, see how long they have been members and just how much of the profile is actually completed.

Without a completed Profile why would anyone wish to meet, especially if no pictures or they will not cam either.

I suppose it is left to your own judgement...but once youve been here awhile, some of the fake profiles do stand out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Verification's mean nothing.

Care to expand on that...?

Yes Ok.

My partner and I have a joint profile on here. So far we've had four "meets" from verified members on this site.

1. The guy who swore he was straight on his profile was actually bi, and was keener to get off with me than the Mrs.

2. The guy let us down on the first meet. Text us while we were at the pub to say sorry and could we arrange for the same day and time the following week. We said yes. The following week, while we were at the pub, he text us calling us "gullible fuckers" along with other abuse. Blocked us before we could get home and report him.

3. This guy was creepy. Despite it being a purely social initial meet he couldn't stop touching the Mrs up under the table. When she asked him to stop he said something like your a swinger so it's what your here for you know you want it. On an initial social meet? I think not. To be honest I would be worried about single ladies who meet this guy.

4. Met a bloke for a social meet one Thursday who we thought was ok. Afterwards we said we would get back to him at the weekend to let him know if we would like to meet him for a more personal encounter. He went ballistic demanding to know immediately if he was going to get any and when, I told him to get lost. He called us time wasters.

All had several verification's. All were horrible people.

So to us, verification's mean absolutely nothing.

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By *hangovCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

What awful experiences, is there no way to avoid this other than using clubs instead of online meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone wanting to use my pic can its just a cock.pic.

Sadly though there are a few fakes here abd until you are on contact hard to tell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Verification's mean nothing.

I have to disagree with that statement. If multiple verifs have been posted, then anyone looking at someones profile can then check through the other linked (friends/verifiers) profiles and verifs they have. It helps to build up a bigger picture. If someones profile seems suspicious, this is a good way of helping to gather more information.

I was contacted by a single lady the other day because she had saw my profile, noticed that she recognised people that had verified me & decided to make contact.

I notice you don't have any listed? Is that why you think they don't count for anything? Just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Verification's mean nothing.

Care to expand on that...?

Yes Ok.

My partner and I have a joint profile on here. So far we've had four "meets" from verified members on this site.

1. The guy who swore he was straight on his profile was actually bi, and was keener to get off with me than the Mrs.

All had several verification's. All were horrible people.

So to us, verification's mean absolutely nothing."

That does sound like you've had a nightmare there by the way buddy. Hopefully you'll get better luck soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That sounds like a particularly upsetting set of meets, lets hope you choose wisely next time. For us, we have met a few select and always had a great time. A couple have not worked out, just no chemistry, but even on those times we have parted as mates!

The photo veri thing has never held us back, but we do acknowledge that singles have it tougher. Well, single males that is.

But one thing that runs through all of these posts is that people really should be urged to only meet in public places initially. We ALWAYS do, and always will. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im new here and all of them are a real eye opener, but 3 is just horrendous. Just goes to show how important social meets in public places are pretty much essential.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They dont have Genuine in there profile name

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By *layboy101Man
over a year ago

brum

As if someone would even bother trying to make a fake profile. How does that benefit them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As if someone would even bother trying to make a fake profile. How does that benefit them?"

To gain access to people who are. Even if not in person, they may get explicit pictures they would otherwise not see.

Much worse - and there is unlimited anecdotal evidence of this in this forum - are people turning up for a meet, thinking they are meeting a particular sort of person, only to be confronted by someone looking nothing like the fake pics they'd been shown.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have been on this site for a couple of months now,i have had my photo verified but still cant get any meets,its really hard as it seems there are far more guys,and im not a fake i just dont seem to get anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Instinct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all

I am very new to the scene and don't want to send my private pictures to someone only to find out they are going to be used

on the internet.

Can anybody please advise me?

Many thanks

Scan over the profile and see if the pictures seen ligit

Are they free whenever you are or free right now? Are they stunning, fit and willing to do anything?

Generally people on here are very nice people. Don't be put off by the occassional idiot."

At the end of the day think with your head and not your dick. We get the fakes trying it on all the time. The above advice is very good.

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By *urreyfun2008Man
over a year ago

East Grinstead

Social meets are a good way to not be too put out from fakes, at least if stood up at a coffee shop you can have a coffee and cake, rather than feel silly in a empty hotel room.

One option is to search for text from a profile in Google and see where else it pops up, fakers are lazy and will often re-use text.

When I am looking at couples profiles, pictures of them only on their own, with timers no reason you cannot get a reasonable couple people these days.

Another thing is to see whether people pop-up on webcam in the chats and use the forums.

By the way for those whose pictures appear elsewhere most site admins on websites will remove a photo if you can show it is yours. Have done photo work for a camgirl and she spends a fair bit of time getting paid sets removed from freebie sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it appears too good to be true, it probably is!"

If it appears to be too bad to be fake then it probably isn't lol

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By *erverts R usCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

my partner (fem) will only play at clubs now due to a few scary meets she had on fab fk she's so lucky in a couple of instances when she had been chatting to both meets for months and they kinda snowballed outta control xx we would advice you to get your face seen at the fab social nights and meet people there or at clubs with good staff and security set up xx dont give up on fab as we have met some wonderful people through the site xx stay safe and always tell someone where and who you are meeting xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have also opened a thread with admin as no matter how clean your pics are when you upload them they automatically put the web address on the bottom now so all your pics will say fab swingers on them

But once pic is stolen it can be cropped to removed watermark. I just send a face pic, and won't let anyone see my friends pics until I have met them in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately there are lots of fakes, and I'm ashamed to say, mostly male! I think everyone learns the hard way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we had been textin a couple n the female was textin she wanted to meet today ... doggin... all her messages were quite dirty i thought was more like a man tbh then called her thisv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we had been textin a couple n the female was textin she wanted to meet today ... doggin... all her messages were quite dirty i thought was more like a man tbh then called her this morning n she didnt answer so texted n the bloke said she in bed ... n tell me details pretty sussed i think

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