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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi.

It would help if women could reply and message as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the FAQ no reply is a polite no thank you

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"Hi.

It would help if women could reply and message as well "

Maybe there's something about your message or profile that they don't like. Maybe they just don't fancy you.

(Bry)

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

We do... If you match what we're looking for.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

They do, some send the first one as well...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They do, some send the first one as well... "

I can confirm that.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire


"We do... If you match what we're looking for."

agreed

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By *oxycpl4uCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

It's not tinder....women are usually polite but they receive loads of messages from guys and you have to read their profile and see ifnyou match it

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Your best bet could be the horses if you feel that way

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By *ightnurseWoman
over a year ago

plymouth

I’m not even the most attractive woman on here and I get easily 75+ messages a day. If I replied to everyone it would become a full time job. For me, if someone is nowhere near my location, or is not what I describe or I’m not what they describe as a want, I delete. Nothing worse than repeated message after message.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"Your best bet could be the horses if you feel that way "

Are horses well known for replying then?

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

Woman can reply to a meesage and tell someone they're not interested and why and beleive me most men will leave them alone and move on. Ignoring a message aint a polite way of saying no its rude

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By *ightNWet69Woman
over a year ago

dark side of the moon


"Woman can reply to a meesage and tell someone they're not interested and why and beleive me most men will leave them alone and move on. Ignoring a message aint a polite way of saying no its rude "

You would be surprised how many men then reply with abuse. It is not rude to not reply. Women don't ask you to mail them what makes you think you are entitled to a reply? Isn't that kind of rude also?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Woman can reply to a meesage and tell someone they're not interested and why and beleive me most men will leave them alone and move on. Ignoring a message aint a polite way of saying no its rude "

The site FAQs say a non response is a no thank you.

I've tried replying to say no. I got a lot of abuse, begging to change my mind, and manipulation.

Not replying is way less grief.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London


"Woman can reply to a meesage and tell someone they're not interested and why and beleive me most men will leave them alone and move on. Ignoring a message aint a polite way of saying no its rude

You would be surprised how many men then reply with abuse. It is not rude to not reply. Women don't ask you to mail them what makes you think you are entitled to a reply? Isn't that kind of rude also? "
well whatever guy replys back with abuse obviously has issues with rejection, I'm a person who takes rejection easily. I have more respect with people for being honest as at least I know where I stand and know I can't change a person mind

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London


"Woman can reply to a meesage and tell someone they're not interested and why and beleive me most men will leave them alone and move on. Ignoring a message aint a polite way of saying no its rude

The site FAQs say a non response is a no thank you.

I've tried replying to say no. I got a lot of abuse, begging to change my mind, and manipulation.

Not replying is way less grief."
I appreciate that and again if a guy gets abusive because he gets rejected has issues and I would say is block guys who do get disrespectful. I just want a woman to have the courtesy to tell me no and why she rejected me, that way I know where to improve the next time I approach another woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men get abusive when told no we have bi guy telling us that we need to think outside the box and and all men are bi even if they don't admit it much easier to not respond

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

Good thing that I'm not like most guys, while I'm not perfect and never claim to be, I always welcome constructive criticism where I learn from where I go wrong to avoid the same mistake again

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By *anderForestCouple
over a year ago

Lewes


"Woman can reply to a meesage and tell someone they're not interested and why and beleive me most men will leave them alone and move on. Ignoring a message aint a polite way of saying no its rude

The site FAQs say a non response is a no thank you.

I've tried replying to say no. I got a lot of abuse, begging to change my mind, and manipulation.

Not replying is way less grief. I appreciate that and again if a guy gets abusive because he gets rejected has issues and I would say is block guys who do get disrespectful. I just want a woman to have the courtesy to tell me no and why she rejected me, that way I know where to improve the next time I approach another woman"
Shes just not into you

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

And that's fine, I find it ironic how women say men don't communicate but when men do, its not recipricated by women although its not generalising every women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And we also find it ironic that guys keep referring to the women and a lot of the time your messaging a couple profile but apparently we are disrespectful for not responding

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By *omblingFreeCouple
over a year ago

The Village

We are very lucky because we get dozens of msgs every day. Most are one-liners from men who haven't bothered to read our profile or haven't yet learnt the ways of Fab. They get deleted without reply, as part of their learning curve. But if someone has bothered to write (not copy and paste!) a message with us in mind - if he's actually made an effort without once looking beyond the profile pics then he gets a short 'no thank you'. And the same if someone has attached a face pic. In our opinion if you don't reply to a message containing a face pic that becomes a personal rejection. It can't be anything else. Some men can take the rejection and others can take it but need to be let down gently. There is nothing wrong with that. We're not so busy that we can't take a second to say 'no thanks and happy fabbing'. If you really cant be arsed why not copy and paste a polite 'no thank you' and do all your rejections in one splurge of activity.

Sure, sometimes - very rarely - does a guy have something snarky or rude to say in response to our 'no thank you'. The overwhelming majority leave us alone after that and some message to say thank you for replying. It's just manners. And they're tax-free too.

Mr & Mrs D

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't get many messages and I reply when I want to.I used to reply to all but now I don't for several different reasons. I reply now when I want to and I also send first messages when I want to. I don't ever expect a reply though but it's nice if I get one.I don't check sent messages as I think they will reply if they want to .

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Woman can reply to a meesage and tell someone they're not interested and why and beleive me most men will leave them alone and move on. Ignoring a message aint a polite way of saying no its rude

The site FAQs say a non response is a no thank you.

I've tried replying to say no. I got a lot of abuse, begging to change my mind, and manipulation.

Not replying is way less grief. I appreciate that and again if a guy gets abusive because he gets rejected has issues and I would say is block guys who do get disrespectful. I just want a woman to have the courtesy to tell me no and why she rejected me, that way I know where to improve the next time I approach another woman"

Ok. But when I don't want to meet someone, I have no idea if they'll be abusive or not if I reply.

Why should I risk abuse when there's a norm of not replying to say no? Why can't you accept that the norm exists?

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"And that's fine, I find it ironic how women say men don't communicate but when men do, its not recipricated by women although its not generalising every women"

YOU are exactly why the rules are set up as they are. Someone who argues that the world revolves around them. You're rude if you don't answer ME. As mentioned earlier in the thread, replying to every message would be a full time job, even if everyone wasn't abusive and didn't reply back. If you don't get a reply, assume not interested and move on... Simple.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

No Im not, like I said I take rejection on the chin, I never get rude or abusive if a woman turns me down

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"No Im not, like I said I take rejection on the chin, I never get rude or abusive if a woman turns me down"

You're missing a point here....the woman you're messaging doesn't know that you're okay with rejection. It's easier not to reply than risk the abuse.

(Bry)

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"No Im not, like I said I take rejection on the chin, I never get rude or abusive if a woman turns me down

You're missing a point here....the woman you're messaging doesn't know that you're okay with rejection. It's easier not to reply than risk the abuse.

(Bry)"

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

Ok lets agree to disagree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good thing that I'm not like most guys, while I'm not perfect and never claim to be, I always welcome constructive criticism where I learn from where I go wrong to avoid the same mistake again"

Yet your sense of entitlement is crazy to the point where you overlook the very clear rules and guidelines of the website.

Do you actually realise many women and couples can get 100s of messages every 24 hrs.

Now imagine because you cant bulk respond replying individually to each person one by one and stating why not?

It would take hours every single day seven days a week.

It would be akin to taking on an extra part time job.

I remember a single guy at the club used to think like you do one of the single females showed him her inbox then added a new picture (in the eating area where mobiles are allowed) she called him back 2 hours later to show him almost 300 that messages that had poured in. The penny finally dropped then. Maybe reading this the penny will finally drop for you. Your on a website where single men out number single females and couples by a ratio of 100-1 (it's even more in the urban areas).

It's always worth thinking properly about the other person's situation and perspective before ones gets on a high horse just saying bro.

KJ

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

I get loads of messages. I don’t even bother to read most of them. I currently have 57 unread.

I don’t owe you a response. A message is an invitation not a demand.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Nobody is entitled to reply, anyone that strongly believes they are, are probably the same people that don't take no for an answer on the club scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No Im not, like I said I take rejection on the chin, I never get rude or abusive if a woman turns me down"

Let's say you send 10 messages a day and get a reply from every one that says "no thanks, we don't find you attractive".

Using your logic you now have to reply to every single one saying "thank you for letting me know you're not attractive.

70 a week. Every week. For a year.

I'm wondering how long your sense of entitlement would last.

Winston

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By *ang Average guyMan
over a year ago

Farnborough


"No Im not, like I said I take rejection on the chin, I never get rude or abusive if a woman turns me down

Let's say you send 10 messages a day and get a reply from every one that says "no thanks, we don't find you attractive".

Using your logic you now have to reply to every single one saying "thank you for letting me know you're not attractive.

70 a week. Every week. For a year.

I'm wondering how long your sense of entitlement would last.

Winston

"

You've summed my inbox up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just want a woman to have the courtesy to tell me no and why she rejected me, that way I know where to improve the next time I approach another woman"

You haven't been here long, if you sent an unsolicited message to "a woman" are you saying that she has to reply to you and every single message she gets ?

It's no different to you talking to a random person in the street, they either talk or not but they don't need to tell you why, it's their choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can and we do.

Just not to the ones that clearly haven’t read the profile or the ones that consist of;

Hi

Hey

Wat U up 2

Nice tits

Fancy a f##k

U free now

Want to suck my cock

I love old women……..

Do you take it up the arse

I could go on but you get the picture.

These came from men who described themselves as genuine and respectful and

made up 95% of all messages I received to the point I’ve now blocked single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi.

It would help if women could reply and message as well "

They do, if they're interested.

If you find you're receiving no replies, maybe think about your approach.

Good luck.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

Clearly some people are missing the point what I'm trying to say but its fine, lets move on and think of something constructive to talk about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Clearly some people are missing the point what I'm trying to say but its fine, lets move on and think of something constructive to talk about"

It's easy to suggest how others should behave, if you don't have their experience.

You'll be surprised how much of a fuss, a polite no can be, and worse, can create.

Nobody owes anybody anything here, sending a message doesn't change that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We can and we do.

Just not to the ones that clearly haven’t read the profile or the ones that consist of;

Hi

Hey

Wat U up 2

Nice tits

Fancy a f##k

U free now

Want to suck my cock

I love old women……..

Do you take it up the arse

I could go on but you get the picture.

These came from men who described themselves as genuine and respectful and

made up 95% of all messages I received to the point I’ve now blocked single guys."

100% true the majority of messages we receive get the delete treatment. Too many guys send messages that are either boring unimaginative or totally crude or reek of an entitled attitude....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good thing that I'm not like most guys, while I'm not perfect and never claim to be, I always welcome constructive criticism where I learn from where I go wrong to avoid the same mistake again"

Constructive criticism .........

Nobody owes you an explanation, or even a polite rejection, just because you chose to message them.

Accept that.

People are offering you constructive criticism right here on this thread, with explanations on why some choose to not reply.

How well are you, actually taking it?

For the record, I tend to reply to all messages.

There are times I choose to ignore, as an example, when profile states we're not looking, and we receive a message from a blank profile asking to meet now.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"How well are you, actually taking it?"

Can take rejection, apparently, but not constructive advice.

(Bry)

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Woman can reply to a meesage and tell someone they're not interested and why and beleive me most men will leave them alone and move on. Ignoring a message aint a polite way of saying no its rude

The site FAQs say a non response is a no thank you.

I've tried replying to say no. I got a lot of abuse, begging to change my mind, and manipulation.

Not replying is way less grief. I appreciate that and again if a guy gets abusive because he gets rejected has issues and I would say is block guys who do get disrespectful. I just want a woman to have the courtesy to tell me no and why she rejected me, that way I know where to improve the next time I approach another woman"

Why do you think a woman owes you a reply, let alone give you ‘constructive criticism’?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Clearly some people are missing the point what I'm trying to say but its fine, lets move on and think of something constructive to talk about"

No everybody clearly understood your point and then they have spent time braking down the simple logistics that make your point rather ridiculous. To the point that anyone blessed with a basic concept of arithmetic would clearly get it by now if they weren't blinded by entitlement.

Yet instead of accepting the constructive advice and points raised or try to debate them you yet again display a further sense of entitlement by trying to tell everyone to move on / change the subject, new flash that's not going fly on public forums they topic will go where it goes based on individual responses not because you try to dictate it.

Maybe address some of the salient points about the 20 hours of work spent every week that you expect some women and couples to take on to reply to people they aren't interested in just so you get to know why not?

KJ

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Clearly some people are missing the point what I'm trying to say but its fine, lets move on and think of something constructive to talk about"

What you've said is because you wouldn't abuse someone, we should reply just in case the person we're replying to won't abuse us.

I think you're missing the point, frankly. I have no idea if BiggusDickus666 (apologies if that's a real user) is going to abuse me or not if I get a message. But I do know, from experience, that I get less abuse from hitting the delete button than I do from replying. I also know that deleting means that if I raise my filters in future, he can't message me again.

Further, I know that the norms of the site, that no reply means no thank you, are clearly stated in the site FAQ.

Given the experiences you've had people tell you about and the clear norm that the site itself sets out, why should we change the way that the site works for many if not most people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" But I do know, from experience, that I get less abuse from hitting the delete button than I do from replying. "

And that paragraph sadly sums it up perfectly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good thing that I'm not like most guys, while I'm not perfect and never claim to be, I always welcome constructive criticism where I learn from where I go wrong to avoid the same mistake again"

The irony in saying you "learn from where I go wrong to avoid the same mistake again" and yet in this very thread, despite pretty much everyone explaining where you're going wrong, you're adamant you are right.

Got to ve honest, you sound like most guys who start threads on this subject.

Winston

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

My point is most women ignore messages in general and I'm talking about on here, even my female friends and family members ignore messages sent to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My point is most women ignore messages in general and I'm talking about on here, even my female friends and family members ignore messages sent to them "

Dude, you've really hammered your point home, we get it.

You're the kind of guy who I would reply to saying "no thank you", and then you say "okay but can you tell me why?" and then I might say "you're just not my type" and then you say "oh, so you don't like X guys?" And then I find myself having to justify why I don't like you whilst trying not to hurt your feelings in a conversation I never wanted in the first place. It's annoying and a waste of time and my inbox is full of exchanges like this. Don't even get me started on the amount of a-holes who've signed off with "yeah well I'm not into fat/ugly/dumb b*these anyway" or something similar...

No reply means not interested, it's literally not your business why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we jump straight to the block button.

anyone who hasnt read the profile, one liners, meet me now, all blocked and deleted without reply.

maybe gotten a little cynical, but as others have said we have had some rather pushy and nasty messages for not replying, or not fast enough. it really isnt on, and if you cant be bothered to read the profile then why should we explain it? why should we entertain some random person's justification why we should for example, drive over an hour on a schoolnight to meet them in their 2 star hotel just because they are there for work?

its all there in black and white.

we dont owe anyone anything, even a reply and blocking someone is rather a definite statement in itself.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Your best bet could be the horses if you feel that way

Are horses well known for replying then?"

Depends if it wins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely craving a bi mmf experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi.

It would help if women could reply and message as well "

It would help if folk would read the profile first, where it can sometimes contain the very reasons why there's no reply!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you sure that you’re sending enough cock pictures?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My point is most women ignore messages in general and I'm talking about on here, even my female friends and family members ignore messages sent to them "

I'm not convinced you're reading the explanations pretty much everyone has given you.

Or if you've read them you've not understood a word.

In the same way some men don't read or understand a profile biog.

Examples of the kind of message we might get -

"hi, I see your just up the road from me, would you like to meet up this morning?"

"Hi, would you like to meet up and fuck" (from someone 25 years below our age preferences, who also ignores the site generated pop up telling him he's outside our preferences)

"Hello darling, you're the most beautiful woman I've seen on Fab, just the sort of woman I'm looking for" bearing in mind this is a couples profile.

"Your wife is fucking gorgeous"

Given what our profile biog says, why the fuck would we reply to those?

What the fuck makes you think those ate the sort of message we should reply to?

Your lack of understanding and apparent sense of entitlement is exactly the reason why we don't reply.

Winston

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London


"My point is most women ignore messages in general and I'm talking about on here, even my female friends and family members ignore messages sent to them

I'm not convinced you're reading the explanations pretty much everyone has given you.

Or if you've read them you've not understood a word.

In the same way some men don't read or understand a profile biog.

Examples of the kind of message we might get -

"hi, I see your just up the road from me, would you like to meet up this morning?"

"Hi, would you like to meet up and fuck" (from someone 25 years below our age preferences, who also ignores the site generated pop up telling him he's outside our preferences)

"Hello darling, you're the most beautiful woman I've seen on Fab, just the sort of woman I'm looking for" bearing in mind this is a couples profile.

"Your wife is fucking gorgeous"

Given what our profile biog says, why the fuck would we reply to those?

What the fuck makes you think those ate the sort of message we should reply to?

Your lack of understanding and apparent sense of entitlement is exactly the reason why we don't reply.

Winston

"
I understand loud and clear

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By *ightNWet69Woman
over a year ago

dark side of the moon


"My point is most women ignore messages in general and I'm talking about on here, even my female friends and family members ignore messages sent to them

Dude, you've really hammered your point home, we get it.

You're the kind of guy who I would reply to saying "no thank you", and then you say "okay but can you tell me why?" and then I might say "you're just not my type" and then you say "oh, so you don't like X guys?" And then I find myself having to justify why I don't like you whilst trying not to hurt your feelings in a conversation I never wanted in the first place. It's annoying and a waste of time and my inbox is full of exchanges like this. Don't even get me started on the amount of a-holes who've signed off with "yeah well I'm not into fat/ugly/dumb b*these anyway" or something similar...

No reply means not interested, it's literally not your business why. "

Absolutely this

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By *arl JamesMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"My point is most women ignore messages in general and I'm talking about on here, even my female friends and family members ignore messages sent to them

Dude, you've really hammered your point home, we get it.

You're the kind of guy who I would reply to saying "no thank you", and then you say "okay but can you tell me why?" and then I might say "you're just not my type" and then you say "oh, so you don't like X guys?" And then I find myself having to justify why I don't like you whilst trying not to hurt your feelings in a conversation I never wanted in the first place. It's annoying and a waste of time and my inbox is full of exchanges like this. Don't even get me started on the amount of a-holes who've signed off with "yeah well I'm not into fat/ugly/dumb b*these anyway" or something similar...

No reply means not interested, it's literally not your business why. "

Yea I think I get it, kinda strange when you meet a girl in person she asks you to message her then she does not reply, I guess they do not want to risk a bad reaction from the guy they have met at a club that they are not into so they allow you to message knowing they are not interested and will not reply lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My point is most women ignore messages in general and I'm talking about on here, even my female friends and family members ignore messages sent to them

Dude, you've really hammered your point home, we get it.

You're the kind of guy who I would reply to saying "no thank you", and then you say "okay but can you tell me why?" and then I might say "you're just not my type" and then you say "oh, so you don't like X guys?" And then I find myself having to justify why I don't like you whilst trying not to hurt your feelings in a conversation I never wanted in the first place. It's annoying and a waste of time and my inbox is full of exchanges like this. Don't even get me started on the amount of a-holes who've signed off with "yeah well I'm not into fat/ugly/dumb b*these anyway" or something similar...

No reply means not interested, it's literally not your business why.

Yea I think I get it, kinda strange when you meet a girl in person she asks you to message her then she does not reply, I guess they do not want to risk a bad reaction from the guy they have met at a club that they are not into so they allow you to message knowing they are not interested and will not reply lol "

Or there's something about the message you send that puts her off.

LA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My point is most women ignore messages in general and I'm talking about on here, even my female friends and family members ignore messages sent to them

Dude, you've really hammered your point home, we get it.

You're the kind of guy who I would reply to saying "no thank you", and then you say "okay but can you tell me why?" and then I might say "you're just not my type" and then you say "oh, so you don't like X guys?" And then I find myself having to justify why I don't like you whilst trying not to hurt your feelings in a conversation I never wanted in the first place. It's annoying and a waste of time and my inbox is full of exchanges like this. Don't even get me started on the amount of a-holes who've signed off with "yeah well I'm not into fat/ugly/dumb b*these anyway" or something similar...

No reply means not interested, it's literally not your business why. "

He doesn't get that it is his sense of entitlement that he needs to know why that's a huge part of the problem.

Your post showing the type of exchange he expects broke it down perfectly.

KJ

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By *ust_JamesMan
over a year ago

Dalston

Don't bother, no matter what forum/chat site you use, if they're not gonna message you, they're not bothered because:

1: they get tons everyday.

2: not being original enough to grab their attention (myself included)

3: Don't like some of the pics you put on your profile (myself included)

4: think you're just another breeze in the wind to them and just not their type!

5: Had enough of single guys as it is!!

Those are the reasons that I can think of, off the top of my head of why they don't respond to any single guys anywhere. it's just the way it is and it's best to accept it and move on

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

Yeah I wont be messaging women privately on this site going forward, will only be talking through the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read the FAQ no reply is a polite no thank you "

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By *oding1Man
over a year ago

marlow


"Most men get abusive when told no we have bi guy telling us that we need to think outside the box and and all men are bi even if they don't admit it much easier to not respond "

Not me!

I thank everyone who bothers to reply and wish them well. Dosnt cost anything good manors

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By *un and Frolics 1Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

I reply to every message, even if it's a no thanks, just polite

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By *ust_JamesMan
over a year ago

Dalston


"Most men get abusive when told no we have bi guy telling us that we need to think outside the box and and all men are bi even if they don't admit it much easier to not respond

Not me!

I thank everyone who bothers to reply and wish them well. Dosnt cost anything good manors "

Manners doesn't cost anything, thank you!

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London


"I reply to every message, even if it's a no thanks, just polite "
Thank you, thats all I ask even if you're not interested. As like I said to everyone I can take rejection without getting a abusive respone from me

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By *aclovin8Man
over a year ago

cavan

The ratio of men to women is crazy so its really a womans world on here. That being said some ladies think they are the cheese because of all the attention they get because of the number of guys on fab.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton


"Woman can reply to a meesage and tell someone they're not interested and why and beleive me most men will leave them alone and move on. Ignoring a message aint a polite way of saying no its rude

You would be surprised how many men then reply with abuse. It is not rude to not reply. Women don't ask you to mail them what makes you think you are entitled to a reply? Isn't that kind of rude also? well whatever guy replys back with abuse obviously has issues with rejection, I'm a person who takes rejection easily. I have more respect with people for being honest as at least I know where I stand and know I can't change a person mind"

And we can tell who can take it and who can't how, exactly?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"The ratio of men to women is crazy so its really a womans world on here. That being said some ladies think they are the cheese because of all the attention they get because of the number of guys on fab."

Especially when you take into consideration maybe less where a user may be living as well. I don't like attention it's not then norm not desperate. It's more about the connection

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"The ratio of men to women is crazy so its really a womans world on here. That being said some ladies think they are the cheese because of all the attention they get because of the number of guys on fab."

Market forces my boy, market forces.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Woman can reply to a meesage and tell someone they're not interested and why and beleive me most men will leave them alone and move on. Ignoring a message aint a polite way of saying no its rude

You would be surprised how many men then reply with abuse. It is not rude to not reply. Women don't ask you to mail them what makes you think you are entitled to a reply? Isn't that kind of rude also? well whatever guy replys back with abuse obviously has issues with rejection, I'm a person who takes rejection easily. I have more respect with people for being honest as at least I know where I stand and know I can't change a person mind

And we can tell who can take it and who can't how, exactly? "

It's been explained to him several times.

Winston

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