FabSwingers.com forum: What am I doing wrong?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why is it I've had 0 people message me? Am I doing something wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it I've had 0 people message me? Am I doing something wrong?"

Snapchat filters are a little bit of a nonooo

Your intro screams a boy, not a man

Have some confidence.

Single males, well, so so many, you'll have to stand out me thinks

You've only been here ummmm two weeks?..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Carrots mate,chicks love carrots

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is all very constructive feedback thanks actually, I'll change up a few things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get anyone message me either. You have to remember that there are thousands of men on Fab.

Just message plenty of women instead. Be honest, polite and respectful.

Don't send women dick pics and don't be vulgar in the first message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do tell?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I never send unwanted dick pics and I try to send more then just "hi" "hey" stuff like that

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

You're a good looking guy, pics aren't bad.

I'd fill out the profile text a bit. There's no need to mention you're 25, we can see your age. I wouldn't mention that you're getting ghosted or few responses.

I would remove the "young dumb and full of cum" bit.

I'll hasten to add that I get almost no responses from women so take everything I've just said with a pinch of salt, it's not like I'm doing any better.

The numbers are against you, just keep trying, don't lose heart, don't become cynical. You'll probably find what you're looking for eventually.

Best of luck dude

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's helpful thanks, I'll just keep going

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

I've read the first line of your profile.

It says "I can't be bothered".

Is that what you want your message to be to the people that read your profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact your not bothered in your profile bio would turn me off straight away.

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By *uit and bootsMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I've read the first line of your profile.

It says "I can't be bothered".

Is that what you want your message to be to the people that read your profile? "

Was just about to say the same thing!

More positivity required, even if one is being self deprecating

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't know what you mean "I can't be bothered" most people wrote full stories

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Okay help me out how do I do it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Okay help me out how do I do it?"

OP If you hit 'reply +quote' it will help people understand who you are replying to x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Okay help me out how do I do it?

OP If you hit 'reply +quote' it will help people understand who you are replying to x"

Like this?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Okay help me out how do I do it?

OP If you hit 'reply +quote' it will help people understand who you are replying to x"

Oh shit thanks

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

Get out and meet people in the real world. Go to socials or a club, make connections with fellow fab users and then chat to them on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't know what you mean "I can't be bothered" most people wrote full stories "

The fact you have written that gives off the attitude who cont care and not willing to put an effort in. You don't have to write an essay in your bio but that just comes across as rude

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get out and meet people in the real world. Go to socials or a club, make connections with fellow fab users and then chat to them on here.

Good advice cheers

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By *burns7Man
over a year ago

walsall

Tbf being single lad on here is a challenge, coupling up boosts messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't know what you mean "I can't be bothered" most people wrote full stories

The fact you have written that gives off the attitude who cont care and not willing to put an effort in. You don't have to write an essay in your bio but that just comes across as rude"

Oh, I didn't think if that thanks, I'll change it up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tbf being single lad on here is a challenge, coupling up boosts messages "

I hear that for real

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

"Get out and meet people in the real world. Go to socials or a club, make connections with fellow fab users and then chat to them on here.

Good advice cheers"

You are most welcome

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Dear OP, you really need to delete the unpalatable remark "Not really going to bother".

Also, regarding grammar and parenthesis - your profile narrative requires some structure and general tidying up.

And take on board the p+sitive comments from the forumites above. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Dear OP, you really need to delete the unpalatable remark "Not really going to bother".

Also, regarding grammar and parenthesis - your profile narrative requires some structure and general tidying up.

And take on board the p+sitive comments from the forumites above. Good luck."

Thank you my grammar has never been great ngl I just don't want to write loads and loads of information but I'm like a chill guy so I don't want to seem weird I don't know

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

Get over to the London forum and sign up for the London Surrey social in February. It was very well attended last night by the fabulous folk of fab. The Croydon social has also made a reappearance

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've taken all the advice and changed it up a bit any better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbf being single lad on here is a challenge, coupling up boosts messages "

There's an element of truth in that.

99.99% of the messages are shit. There's much more than an element of truth in that.

To be fair, I used to do ok on my old singles profile. Most of my connections came via the forums.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get over to the London forum and sign up for the London Surrey social in February. It was very well attended last night by the fabulous folk of fab. The Croydon social has also made a reappearance

But as a single guy ya know it's not easy like meeting people regardless of how nice or whatever you are

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By *burns7Man
over a year ago

walsall

Tbf it’s called fab swingers so can’t complain when can’t find much when we single just more work

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tbf being single lad on here is a challenge, coupling up boosts messages

There's an element of truth in that.

99.99% of the messages are shit. There's much more than an element of truth in that.

To be fair, I used to do ok on my old singles profile. Most of my connections came via the forums.

Winston

Why do you think that is? That single men find it so hard to connect?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tbf it’s called fab swingers so can’t complain when can’t find much when we single just more work"

Amen

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

"Why do you think that is? That single men find it so hard to connect?"

Supply and demand, my friend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do you think that is? That single men find it so hard to connect?

Supply and demand, my friend."

Interesting

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

"Get over to the London forum and sign up for the London Surrey social in February. It was very well attended last night by the fabulous folk of fab. The Croydon social has also made a reappearance

But as a single guy ya know it's not easy like meeting people regardless of how nice or whatever you are

That's what the socials are about. Meeting like-minded individuals, or lets face it, couples and groups, and having a chat in a safe and social environment. The host will introduce you to people, if I'm there I'll talk to you. It's not easy meeting people as a single guy but it's 10 times better than the slim chance that you will get a message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get over to the London forum and sign up for the London Surrey social in February. It was very well attended last night by the fabulous folk of fab. The Croydon social has also made a reappearance

But as a single guy ya know it's not easy like meeting people regardless of how nice or whatever you are

Real truth, thanks

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Get over to the London forum and sign up for the London Surrey social in February. It was very well attended last night by the fabulous folk of fab. The Croydon social has also made a reappearance

But as a single guy ya know it's not easy like meeting people regardless of how nice or whatever you are

Group socials are aimed at everyone, including single guys (and gals) and we've found them to be very welcoming. I (Mrs) have also been on my own to some.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get over to the London forum and sign up for the London Surrey social in February. It was very well attended last night by the fabulous folk of fab. The Croydon social has also made a reappearance

But as a single guy ya know it's not easy like meeting people regardless of how nice or whatever you are

Group socials are aimed at everyone, including single guys (and gals) and we've found them to be very welcoming. I (Mrs) have also been on my own to some. "

I'll have to check these out

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

"Get over to the London forum and sign up for the London Surrey social in February. It was very well attended last night by the fabulous folk of fab. The Croydon social has also made a reappearance

But as a single guy ya know it's not easy like meeting people regardless of how nice or whatever you are

Group socials are aimed at everyone, including single guys (and gals) and we've found them to be very welcoming. I (Mrs) have also been on my own to some.

I'll have to check these out "

The list will fill up fast for single guys for any social but more so for the one at abfabs. Two birds with one stone, a social and a club visit in one

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Everyone's experience is different, but I have had lots of fantastic meetings and messages, and every single one through the Forum. Get to know the mood of the room, what makes people tick, whilst helping others know what makes you tick.

Perhaps it reduces the sense of being an unknown quantity? I'm not sure. But without false modesty, I'm very much not an obvious catch in the way many men here are, and yet people are lovely to me. It can't hurt, anyway. The Loungers are a welcoming lot. And best of luck to you.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

"I've taken all the advice and changed it up a bit any better?"

Yes much better.

Relax, get to know people, be yourself.

Enjoy!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a single male can be like being a parsnip in a bouquet of flowers. Pic more, post more, party more, have fun, good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've taken all the advice and changed it up a bit any better?

Yes much better.

Relax, get to know people, be yourself.

Enjoy!! "

Super thank you so much

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Being a single male can be like being a parsnip in a bouquet of flowers. Pic more, post more, party more, have fun, good luck!"

Cheers thank you

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

"Everyone's experience is different, but I have had lots of fantastic meetings and messages, and every single one through the Forum. Get to know the mood of the room, what makes people tick, whilst helping others know what makes you tick.

Not a catch? Don't sell yourself short my dear fellow. Just read your glowing verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, expecting other to seek you out. You have to be pro active on here.

If you're thinking that knocking up a quick profile and uploading a handful of pics is going to have people flocking to you, then you're in for a long wait

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes, expecting other to seek you out. You have to be pro active on here.

If you're thinking that knocking up a quick profile and uploading a handful of pics is going to have people flocking to you, then you're in for a long wait"

Strange a colleague of mine made her profile on the same day as me she's been swimming in messages from every gender

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Yes, expecting other to seek you out. You have to be pro active on here.

If you're thinking that knocking up a quick profile and uploading a handful of pics is going to have people flocking to you, then you're in for a long wait

Strange a colleague of mine made her profile on the same day as me she's been swimming in messages from every gender"

That's because she's a she

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, expecting other to seek you out. You have to be pro active on here.

If you're thinking that knocking up a quick profile and uploading a handful of pics is going to have people flocking to you, then you're in for a long wait

Strange a colleague of mine made her profile on the same day as me she's been swimming in messages from every gender"

A woman can create a new account, silhouette, blank profile. And she will still have more messages flood in than she can probably get through. That's Fab for you

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

You could probably sell the BBC aspect. That's an untapped resource you're sitting on...

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By *ittlemissTinselTitsCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

"I don't get anyone message me either. You have to remember that there are thousands of men on Fab.

Just message plenty of women instead. Be honest, polite and respectful.

Don't send women dick pics and don't be vulgar in the first message. "

Quite but hello hotty!

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

"Strange a colleague of mine made her profile on the same day as me she's been swimming in messages from every gender"

Supply and demand, remember?

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By *etterdays2021Man
over a year ago

PETERBOROUGH

Nothing mate... to many guys here...and women are picky..but theres someone for everyone i guess..hopes up..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it I've had 0 people message me? Am I doing something wrong?"

As the song says ... Welcome to the Jungle...

..it's just the way it is here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Carrots mate,chicks love carrots

And rabbits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol oh gosh, I really need to check out these forums more often, first off hun, like a chap said... there's thousands of single men on here allll Street the very same thing you are, my advice is to attend one of these club nights as a single and attempt to build strong bonds there x

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

I'm sure this poor lad has been shredded enough on this savage forum but I would say your profile sounds a bit like a dating profile .. this place might be a bit out of your comfort zone..

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Why is it I've had 0 people message me? Am I doing something wrong?"
could be your age, nice pics, need more write up, could be the way you message, remember your profile is your advert

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol oh gosh, I really need to check out these forums more often, first off hun, like a chap said... there's thousands of single men on here allll Street the very same thing you are, my advice is to attend one of these club nights as a single and attempt to build strong bonds there x "

Love how you blame yourself for this happening before you start giving your advice to op.

I'm not criticizing by the way, just noting as I thought it was nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbf being single lad on here is a challenge, coupling up boosts messages

There's an element of truth in that.

99.99% of the messages are shit. There's much more than an element of truth in that.

To be fair, I used to do ok on my old singles profile. Most of my connections came via the forums.

Winston

Why do you think that is? That single men find it so hard to connect?"

Broad sweeping generalisation time......

A lot of men join Fab thinking it's full of sex starved women who just want cock. Any cock, they're not fussy.

All they need to do is upload 47 unflattering, blurry pictures of their cock, write a biog that consists of "need a wet hole, HMU", send a few hundred cut and paste "I'm horny, wanna ride my pole" messages and women will flock to them.

They dont understand it's the equivalent of walking up to a total stranger in a bar, flopping your cock out and saying "fancy a fuck".

Life and Fab in particular isn't like that.

Manners, respect, presentation and attraction still apply, even more so on line, especially on sites like Fab, where estimates suggest there's 100 women for every man.

It's a cliche, but your profile is your shop window. Think about the shops you go in...... Not the boarded up, deserted ones with smashed windows. And certainly not the ones that don't have anything in you want to buy.

Fab offers a myriad of ways to connect, messages, the forums, clubs, socials.

In my (single man) experience one of those rarely worked for me.

People will say its easier as a couple. However manners, respect, presentation and attraction still apply.

Attraction is possibly harder as 3 or 4 people need to feel the attraction. For many couples add in childcare and school events and co-ordination is a nightmare.

Good quality pictures, a hint of humour and (non sexual) fun, plus a biog that shows your character, what you offer and what you're looking for is the bare minimum. Make it a comfortable read.

Find the tools that work for you and use them.

Good luck.

Winston

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By *ixie BeanMan
over a year ago

Wallasey

I find the easiest way to get a full inbox is to be controversial on the forums ...and if you're controversial enough you're guaranteed atleast 1 DM ...usually saying "forum ban" ..but it's still a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it I've had 0 people message me? Am I doing something wrong?"

Most women and couples don't message people, they wait for messages.

You seem like a decent bloke. Definitely try the socials.

Good luck.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

nope your doing absolutely fuck all wrong,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op, your profile is your shop widow, kinda like try b4 you buy in essence, try and give a snap shot into who are, present some of your personality through text.

Look at some of the male profiles, there pics, there text to give you a heads up..there are some great examples on the forums of male profiles, and how they work it.

Get involved on here, like it's bern said, fab offers so many ways to connect wirh ppl, socials, clubs and the like, just use fab as a stepping stone into the wider community.

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By *edsmudgeMan
over a year ago

oxford

"I find the easiest way to get a full inbox is to be controversial on the forums ...and if you're controversial enough you're guaranteed atleast 1 DM ...usually saying "forum ban" ..but it's still a message

Can vouch for this ,

Got a ban

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

think i might go for a ban..

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

You drive a Golf dude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You mean you've had no men message you to suck your dick even if your profile says straight.... Dude

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

"You mean you've had no men message you to suck your dick even if your profile says straight.... Dude"

And I thought that it was just me that got those

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By *exymarvelMan
over a year ago

cardiff

"You mean you've had no men message you to suck your dick even if your profile says straight.... Dude

And I thought that it was just me that got those

We all get those

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