FabSwingers.com forum: Introducing a new parter to the lifestyle

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi…

Recently visited a club with my new partner.

She’s intrigued by the lifestyle & was keen to go to a club to see what it was like, she even viewed the venue & suggested we attend.

She looked absolutely stunning, hair, nails & makeup which is the norm for her anyway as she knows I like her turning heads in bars, etc.

Dressed in boots, stockings, above the knee leather skirt & a basque with a black lace top… she looked great.

We drove to the venue & then the butterflies set in.

We sat outside for 20 minutes chatting & then she confirmed that she was really nervous… I totally understood her so we drove home ….

I’m looking for any advice or suggestions to make her next visit more successful for her ?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Let her lead.

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By *heonixrising500Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

Visit the club just for a drink till she sure don't push her x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That’s exactly what I did…

I could see she wasn’t comfortable & insisted that we go home & try another time.

Maybe I should mention that I’ve been swinging 10 years plus with a previous partner & as a single guy

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

You did the right thing x

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

You did exactly the right thing. She has to be in control.

Reassure her that going in doesn't mean you / she has to do anything, you're there to take a look and see what it's about, have a drink and maybe chat to others.

Everybody starts somewhere, there mat even be new people like you in the club.

If shes not happy in there - leave together.

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Wish I'd have clicked on the profile 1st

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You did exactly the right thing. She just needs to be the one leading this. Its a really big step if she hasn't done anything like this before. She will either overcome her fear and give it a try or she won't, just be communicative, open and honest. Let it be known it's just a drink then you can go. Its all you can do; good luck.

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By *al4GinCouple
over a year ago

Flintshire

Before we went to club we meet few couples in pubs , we want to social meet , spoke to few couples ,we than arrange to go club for drink and social , once we in felt totally at ease , went along at our pace , it was only on third visit did pop our cherry so to speak

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Wish I'd have clicked on the profile 1st

Oh no, what's wrong with it?

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