FabSwingers.com forum: Can someone tell me...

By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

What the f is wrong with my profile. I'm an intelligent, 7 out of 10, in work, trim shape, nice dick, tattooed, Bearded and a giving non selfish lover. I don't send dick pics, I don't proposition in the first message, I put thought in, read the profile and respond in kind.

I mean, what the actual? I don't even approach people if I ain't what they are looking for. Yet, despite everyone moaning about idiot blokes, you must be reading those messages cos you ain't reading mine.

What's the deal? I don't have 2 heads or look like a bridge troll? Yet some 50 year old with a micro penis and is 20 minutes of exercise from a cardiac arrest is getting filth. Wtf!!!

I know nothing clearly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What the f is wrong with my profile. I'm an intelligent, 7 out of 10, in work, trim shape, nice dick, tattooed, Bearded and a giving non selfish lover. I don't send dick pics, I don't proposition in the first message, I put thought in, read the profile and respond in kind.

What's the deal? I don't have 2 heads or look like a bridge troll? Yet some 50 year old with a micro penis and is 20 minutes of exercise from a cardiac arrest is getting filth. Wtf!!!

I know nothing clearly."

Maybe it’s the entitlement you have?

So what if the 50 year old is having a good time. He’s clearly doing something on the right lines.

You’ve only been on 3 months.

Perhaps change your approach…

Try going to socials and clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Putting other people down is never a good look.

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By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

What's the deal? I don't have 2 heads or look like a bridge troll? Yet some 50 year old with a micro penis and is 20 minutes of exercise from a cardiac arrest is getting filth. Wtf!!!

I know nothing clearly.

Maybe it’s the entitlement you have?

So what if the 50 year old is having a good time. He’s clearly doing something on the right lines.

You’ve only been on 3 months.

Perhaps change your approach…

Try going to socials and clubs

I've been on and off for years, because when I find someone we go for miles. I don't need to be on here so I delete, I'm exclusive.

Fair enough point though, i don't begrudge anyone their kinky fun, everyone deserves happiness. It is an entitled statement I'm sorry for.

I just don't get why me in a profile isn't interesting at all, but in the clubs I get plenty of attention. I just don't go regularly cos let's face it as a single male it costs a fortune.

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By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Putting other people down is never a good look. "

Agreed, the comparison wasn't meant to be so mean or derogatory, I can see how entitled it sounds too. I'm just frustrated, everyone deserves happiness and I know that

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Your bio is way to long, especially when you admit in the first sentence it needs editing and is a bunch of random ramblings - if you think that, why would I waste my time reading it

I generally check profiles before opening messages, so for me that's why your message wouldn't get read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know a 63 year old with an average peen and he's proper punching above his weight.

Gets loads too.

*just sayin.....

Winston

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

What's the deal? I don't have 2 heads or look like a bridge troll? Yet some 50 year old with a micro penis and is 20 minutes of exercise from a cardiac arrest is getting filth. Wtf!!!

I know nothing clearly.

Maybe it’s the entitlement you have?

So what if the 50 year old is having a good time. He’s clearly doing something on the right lines.

You’ve only been on 3 months.

Perhaps change your approach…

Try going to socials and clubs

I've been on and off for years, because when I find someone we go for miles. I don't need to be on here so I delete, I'm exclusive.

Fair enough point though, i don't begrudge anyone their kinky fun, everyone deserves happiness. It is an entitled statement I'm sorry for.

I just don't get why me in a profile isn't interesting at all, but in the clubs I get plenty of attention. I just don't go regularly cos let's face it as a single male it costs a fortune."

Maybe you don't look so angry in person

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By *oldie100Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

It's all just too much. Few sentences of introduction and at least one public (non dick) pick works for me. Remember women get loads of 'hey babe' messages so can afford be choosy.

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

Echo comments above on profile. Also various jibes at others woven in not a good look. No pics on show of course. The humour…well some may like but some may find it tedious.

However, biggie is your comment about being exclusive. That would put a lot of ladies off. This is a swinging site after all and most want to play with different people or find a swinging partner and meet others together. Those who want to get exclusive and ditch Fab (that’s not swinging) will be a small minority of the already small pool of ladies. Better off on POF for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the deal? I don't have 2 heads or look like a bridge troll? Yet some 50 year old with a micro penis and is 20 minutes of exercise from a cardiac arrest is getting filth. Wtf!!!

I know nothing clearly.

Maybe it’s the entitlement you have?

So what if the 50 year old is having a good time. He’s clearly doing something on the right lines.

You’ve only been on 3 months.

Perhaps change your approach…

Try going to socials and clubs

I've been on and off for years, because when I find someone we go for miles. I don't need to be on here so I delete, I'm exclusive.

Fair enough point though, i don't begrudge anyone their kinky fun, everyone deserves happiness. It is an entitled statement I'm sorry for.

I just don't get why me in a profile isn't interesting at all, but in the clubs I get plenty of attention. I just don't go regularly cos let's face it as a single male it costs a fortune."
I have always found that I have better luck at clubs and saunas.not necessarily having fun ,but actually having couples and females being friendly and chatting to me.on here you are ignored most of the time even if you just send a polite message to someone.like yourself we are not expecting women to suddenly want to have sex with us ,but to have no replies from people when you are trying to be friendly and non pushy is both frustrating and makes you wonder what you are doing wrong.there are a few very nice and very friendly couples and women on here.some who must get lots of attention,but make the effort to chat and be polite.however these are becoming scarce.

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By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Thanks all, some really constructive comments, really appreciated!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the deal? I don't have 2 heads or look like a bridge troll? Yet some 50 year old with a micro penis and is 20 minutes of exercise from a cardiac arrest is getting filth. Wtf!!!

I know nothing clearly."

A "50 year old with a micro penis" ?? That is extremely rude and nasty.

Plus just because a person is 5O doesn't mean they are going to get a cardiac arrest from excercise.

Maybe mend your attitude towards others.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Your status would be enough to put most off

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Your one pic looks very dominant. It will put off women who aren't looking for this, therefore reducing your pool of potential meets. I suggest a more neutral profile pic.

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Your status is an instant no. Something a teenager would write after learning about squirting for the first time.

No public pics = instant no.

Bio is long and whiny also a no.

You say couples should be friendly but your profile comes across kind of aggressive tbh.

Sorry to be blunt.

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By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Your status is an instant no. Something a teenager would write after learning about squirting for the first time.

No public pics = instant no.

Bio is long and whiny also a no.

You say couples should be friendly but your profile comes across kind of aggressive tbh.

Sorry to be blunt. "

No apology needed, thank you for the honesty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wondering what does XD mean ?

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By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Your one pic looks very dominant. It will put off women who aren't looking for this, therefore reducing your pool of potential meets. I suggest a more neutral profile pic."

Thank you, hearing some of the same things from different people, really useful. I am taking it on board.

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By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Just wondering what does XD mean ?"

It's an emoji, X-D looks wrong but??

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By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

What's the deal? I don't have 2 heads or look like a bridge troll? Yet some 50 year old with a micro penis and is 20 minutes of exercise from a cardiac arrest is getting filth. Wtf!!!

I know nothing clearly.

A "50 year old with a micro penis" ?? That is extremely rude and nasty.

Plus just because a person is 5O doesn't mean they are going to get a cardiac arrest from excercise.

Maybe mend your attitude towards others.

Agreed, definitely. I think I addressed this, I am ashamed of my self, it wasn't necessary at all. It doesn't even represent my real feelings cos I know I'll be 50 one day too. Everyone deserves to be happy and my wild generalisation is bullshit. I'll continue to apologise for it profusely and not run away though.

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By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"I know a 63 year old with an average peen and he's proper punching above his weight.

Gets loads too.

*just sayin.....

Winston "

You legend. I personally apologise that you had to read that, and I'm thankful you've got the strength of character to laugh it off without great offense.

Not right though, it was a shitty thing to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a 63 year old with an average peen and he's proper punching above his weight.

Gets loads too.

*just sayin.....

Winston

You legend. I personally apologise that you had to read that, and I'm thankful you've got the strength of character to laugh it off without great offense.

Not right though, it was a shitty thing to say."

Kudos for owning this

take the good advice you’ve been given, relax a bit, get chatting to people. Things will get better from there.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

OP...going by the profile text alone, we'd reply BUT:

No public pics would mean we'd not bother, unless we got a couple of face pics and a body pic in the first message, and

Without actually seeing an example of one of your first messages, we can't say we'd reply for certain.

(Bry)

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By *JandCMCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Me n the wife never answer anyone who hasn't got any public pictures on their profile (don't have to be face pictures).

The write up is so long just didn't even bother to start reading it, needs to be a lot shorter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

needs to be condensed

dont moan about diesel prices

be a bit more misterious instead of telling me everything

its a marathon not a sprint

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By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"needs to be condensed

dont moan about diesel prices

be a bit more misterious instead of telling me everything

its a marathon not a sprint

Thank you, I appreciate the constructive criticism!

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By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Me n the wife never answer anyone who hasn't got any public pictures on their profile (don't have to be face pictures).

The write up is so long just didn't even bother to start reading it, needs to be a lot shorter."

Thank you, I am working on it!

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By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"I know a 63 year old with an average peen and he's proper punching above his weight.

Gets loads too.

*just sayin.....

Winston

You legend. I personally apologise that you had to read that, and I'm thankful you've got the strength of character to laugh it off without great offense.

Not right though, it was a shitty thing to say.

Kudos for owning this

take the good advice you’ve been given, relax a bit, get chatting to people. Things will get better from there. "

Thanks for the kick up the arse, I needed it. I'm working on it.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

OP, as others have said, your profile is a bit too long to read. Also, you have no public photos.

It's great that you have tried the clubs, and yes, I agree they can be expensive, but not all of them. Try some that don't charge an arm and a leg?

Or try organised socials?

One more thing- my best sex was with a man about to turn 60, with an average cock.

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By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"OP, as others have said, your profile is a bit too long to read. Also, you have no public photos.

It's great that you have tried the clubs, and yes, I agree they can be expensive, but not all of them. Try some that don't charge an arm and a leg?

Or try organised socials?

One more thing- my best sex was with a man about to turn 60, with an average cock. "

Shakes head, weeps.

You just read the edit I thought was spot on

I can't wait for the bit where I laugh about this with someone naked.

Oh, and I kicked the ego back a notch or 2, I'll be 50 one day and at this rate it might start shrinking

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By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"needs to be condensed

dont moan about diesel prices

be a bit more misterious instead of telling me everything

its a marathon not a sprint

Is it better???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A pic of your cock, with tape measure markings drawn on it.

Worked for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know a 63 year old with an average peen and he's proper punching above his weight.

Gets loads too.

*just sayin.....

Winston

You legend. I personally apologise that you had to read that, and I'm thankful you've got the strength of character to laugh it off without great offense.

Not right though, it was a shitty thing to say.

Kudos for owning this

take the good advice you’ve been given, relax a bit, get chatting to people. Things will get better from there.

Thanks for the kick up the arse, I needed it. I'm working on it."

We're all a work in progress.

And definitely no offense taken.

Winston

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By *arleycplCouple
over a year ago

Leyburn

Discretion can be used!!!!

We would expect discretion

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By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Discretion can be used!!!!

We would expect discretion "

You'd get it then!

I've met characters who don't know the meaning of the word too, just as fun!

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By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"A pic of your cock, with tape measure markings drawn on it.

Worked for me. "

*scribbles in notepad

Hmm,

*crosses it out

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By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Me n the wife never answer anyone who hasn't got any public pictures on their profile (don't have to be face pictures).

The write up is so long just didn't even bother to start reading it, needs to be a lot shorter."

What do you think now? I'll be working on decent photos this weekend, but I definitely condensed the bio bit.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

"Me n the wife never answer anyone who hasn't got any public pictures on their profile (don't have to be face pictures).

The write up is so long just didn't even bother to start reading it, needs to be a lot shorter.

What do you think now? I'll be working on decent photos this weekend, but I definitely condensed the bio bit."

I do think it's better, well done, OP, for taking advice on board.

From my point of view, your profile bio is quite intriguing, particularly the mention of bag of kinks, but also the rope skills. Never had a chance to experience rope but some designs look really intricate.

At the moment, even without seeing any photos of you, I'd say I'd at least have a chat with you, if you were a bit nearer.

Good luck and good work, keep it up.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Fab will typically be frustrating for single men at some point(s), especially when getting established. Perhaps have club or local buddies who you can lose some of it with.

Sell yourself here. Those public photos will be necessary - people may revisit your profile several times, to develop more certainty of you. Not everything is quick.

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By *onynhannahMan
over a year ago

WHITBY

Think I might be the 50 something your talking about. Just be you is my advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Putting other people down is never a good look. "

Yeah . What a sad comment …

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Putting other people down is never a good look.

Yeah . What a sad comment … "

Poor guy's already admitted poor judgement in that comment and apologised for it. Give him a chance - he's acknowledging advice and making changes.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Putting other people down is never a good look.

Yeah . What a sad comment …

Poor guy's already admitted poor judgement in that comment and apologised for it. Give him a chance - he's acknowledging advice and making changes.

(Bry)"

This.

Winston

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

"Putting other people down is never a good look.

Yeah . What a sad comment …

Poor guy's already admitted poor judgement in that comment and apologised for it. Give him a chance - he's acknowledging advice and making changes.

(Bry)

This.

Winston "

It wasn’t just that comment. It was various put downs dotted throughout his profile. Fair play to apologise and change but deleting a few words doesn’t change mindset. Some things you just can’t unsee/unread……

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi mate.

52 year old here.

I’ve got two regular fb’s from here, two from other sites, four I’m chatting to. I’ve been on here since August.

I’ve got plenty of ‘filth’ largely because I don’t come across as a twat.

Your profile blurb smacks of desperation. You’ve written it as if you’re trying to please everyone. It’s transparent you’re just trying to get your kicks.

There’s no photos of you.

Don’t wink. As single guys, only wankers wink, unless you do it with an immediate message.

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By *nicorn4uWoman
over a year ago

telford

"Hi mate.

52 year old here.

I’ve got two regular fb’s from here, two from other sites, four I’m chatting to. I’ve been on here since August.

I’ve got plenty of ‘filth’ largely because I don’t come across as a twat.

Your profile blurb smacks of desperation. You’ve written it as if you’re trying to please everyone. It’s transparent you’re just trying to get your kicks.

There’s no photos of you.

Don’t wink. As single guys, only wankers wink, unless you do it with an immediate message."

Yes as he said he’s got 2 fuck buddies from off this site and 2 from another site he is on and he’s also talking to 4 and he’s only been on here since august so you see you just got to stop being a twat OP …. Oh and he also forgot to say that he has a wife at home !! What a life this man leads wonder he’s got anytime for a shit !

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A pic of your cock, with tape measure markings drawn on it.

Worked for me.

*scribbles in notepad

Hmm,

*crosses it out"

Wise idea.

I’ll let it continue working for me. No copying my great ideas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Halve the bio

Put a better profile pic up as kinda looks like a crucifix

It's ok having an ego....just tone it down a little

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By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Halve the bio

Put a better profile pic up as kinda looks like a crucifix

It's ok having an ego....just tone it down a little

Thanks for the advice, I'll take it on board

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By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"A pic of your cock, with tape measure markings drawn on it.

Worked for me.

*scribbles in notepad

Hmm,

*crosses it out

Wise idea.

I’ll let it continue working for me. No copying my great ideas. "

Never met a woman who doesn't like chocolate, I like your pictures

I won't copy, promise

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By *tar25 OP Man
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"Hi mate.

52 year old here.

I’ve got two regular fb’s from here, two from other sites, four I’m chatting to. I’ve been on here since August.

I’ve got plenty of ‘filth’ largely because I don’t come across as a twat.

Your profile blurb smacks of desperation. You’ve written it as if you’re trying to please everyone. It’s transparent you’re just trying to get your kicks.

There’s no photos of you.

Don’t wink. As single guys, only wankers wink, unless you do it with an immediate message."

I can see I offended you, the difference between us is I wasn't trying to. I'm going to imagine you are/were in a similar headspace when you wrote this and choose not to be offended. You might feel aa different now, as I do.

Dimming other people's light doesn't make ours brighter. So I won't announce my decryption of your statement in the form of a personal attack.

Take my sincere apology and have a great day, mate.

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