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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i have been on this site few weeks now, and sent messages and winks.. but have not had any mail,not even a wink. is the site playing up or is it just me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi mate

You've to give the site months not weeks. Single guys outnumber couples and singles women by at least 20 to 1.

Plus you need to work on your profile. Say exactly what it is you are looking for, what you like and what you dont like. And say why you would stand out from all the hundreds of single guys in your area.

Keep reading the forums for help and be patient.

Cheers

Owl

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

fanx 4 the advice m8

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"fanx 4 the advice m8"

text speak won't endear you to many people either

that may sound daft, but i have seen enough forum posts to suggest that that is the case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"fanx 4 the advice m8

text speak won't endear you to many people either

that may sound daft, but i have seen enough forum posts to suggest that that is the case "

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

So you've been here a whole 2 weeks......????

It's a swinging site, not insta-shag. You need patience.

You also need a profile that stands out from the 100's of other people who are contacting the same people you are...

Can you look at your profile and say what on it makes you stand out, and what in your profile will make someone reply to you ahead of 10's / 100's of other people who've mailed them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definatly get rid of the slang and text speak, people like english just an example ladies instead of laydees also like already pointed out its a swinging site not a sex for hire site so be patient and respectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you put as much effort in to your messages as your profile I can thoroughly understand why you are getting zero response.

You are one of thousands of single men looking to meet one of a far far smaller number of single females. You need to stand out and you don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can we have "insta-shag" as a template beside the emoticons? Think it would save a lot of time haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"fanx 4 the advice m8

text speak won't endear you to many people either

that may sound daft, but i have seen enough forum posts to suggest that that is the case "
maybe it's ignorance on my part but if someone messages me in txt spk I automatically think they will talk like Westwood in real life and that's an instant turn off!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like the lady says...This isn't an instant shag site.

You young man need to get known by posting on the forums(check other posts too by single winging guys).

Be polite

non pushy,

courteous,

Respectful,

Charming,

Complimentary,

and

Cheeky

refer to both M+F in couple profiles

Read forum posts and see what ladies and

couples actually want too.

Inject a bit of humour, personality and cheek to your messages and read the profile 1st, colating a message around info in it.

Text talk is a no as is being rude and crude.

Most important... BE PATIENT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have been on this site few weeks now, and sent messages and winks.. but have not had any mail,not even a wink. is the site playing up or is it just me lol"

Is it just you? Take a look at other guys profiles on here and see how you compare. It's easy to do - just complete a search as if you were one of your target female audience and look at the other profiles that come up - a little warning: there will be LOADS of them.

Then look at yours and make your mind up yourself... The good ones will stand out a mile....

Pork

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like the lady says...This isn't an instant shag site.

You young man need to get known by posting on the forums(check other posts too by single winging guys).

Be polite

non pushy,

courteous,

Respectful,

Charming,

Complimentary,

and

Cheeky

refer to both M+F in couple profiles

Read forum posts and see what ladies and

couples actually want too.

Inject a bit of humour, personality and cheek to your messages and read the profile 1st, colating a message around info in it.

Text talk is a no as is being rude and crude.

Most important... BE PATIENT"

I assume you now have this saved on a Word document so you can cut'n paste, bearing how many times you have to repost it!

Pork

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"Hi mate

You've to give the site months not weeks. Single guys outnumber couples and singles women by at least 20 to 1.

Plus you need to work on your profile. Say exactly what it is you are looking for, what you like and what you dont like. And say why you would stand out from all the hundreds of single guys in your area.

Keep reading the forums for help and be patient.

Cheers

Owl"

More like 100 to 1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like the lady says...This isn't an instant shag site.

You young man need to get known by posting on the forums(check other posts too by single winging guys).

Be polite

non pushy,

courteous,

Respectful,

Charming,

Complimentary,

and

Cheeky

refer to both M+F in couple profiles

Read forum posts and see what ladies and

couples actually want too.

Inject a bit of humour, personality and cheek to your messages and read the profile 1st, colating a message around info in it.

Text talk is a no as is being rude and crude.

Most important... BE PATIENT

I assume you now have this saved on a Word document so you can cut'n paste, bearing how many times you have to repost it!

Pork"

Funnily enough...I was just gonna say "read all the other posts" but had a few minutes whilst I was waiting for the bacon to cook!

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

LOL ohhh dear ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dats cus he looks like a gangsta init! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm absolutely gutted I'm to old for you,

can someone please console me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm absolutely gutted I'm to old for you,

can someone please console me "

i'm sat here with me hat on back to front anytime ur ready julie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm absolutely gutted I'm to old for you,

can someone please console me

i'm sat here with me hat on back to front anytime ur ready julie "
its "me Julie" innit like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm absolutely gutted I'm to old for you,

can someone please console me

i'm sat here with me hat on back to front anytime ur ready julie its "me Julie" innit like "

I must warn you however that I am less gangsta and more Benny Hills Milkman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm absolutely gutted I'm to old for you,

can someone please console me

i'm sat here with me hat on back to front anytime ur ready julie its "me Julie" innit like

I must warn you however that I am less gangsta and more Benny Hills Milkman "
mmmmmm can I have your gold top

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm absolutely gutted I'm to old for you,

can someone please console me

i'm sat here with me hat on back to front anytime ur ready julie its "me Julie" innit like

I must warn you however that I am less gangsta and more Benny Hills Milkman mmmmmm can I have your gold top "

Gold ?

Mine is silver with red stripes

I should get it checked out really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm absolutely gutted I'm to old for you,

can someone please console me "

im 10 years out of date too hes the only single guy on here i fancied too..oh well moving on swiftly. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm absolutely gutted I'm to old for you,

can someone please console me

i'm sat here with me hat on back to front anytime ur ready julie its "me Julie" innit like

I must warn you however that I am less gangsta and more Benny Hills Milkman mmmmmm can I have your gold top

Gold ?

Mine is silver with red stripes

I should get it checked out really "
**TAXI**.............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard graft mate! I've been digging and digging hoping to find a little nugget (or a big one I'm not fussy) but I'm nearly through to Austrailia! It's a ladies choice and they can afford to be fussy! No its 1000:1 lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm absolutely gutted I'm to old for you,

can someone please console me

im 10 years out of date too hes the only single guy on here i fancied too..oh well moving on swiftly. lol "

Tease

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"fanx 4 the advice m8

text speak won't endear you to many people either

that may sound daft, but i have seen enough forum posts to suggest that that is the case "

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

As others have already said, it just takes time and patience. You need to be willing to put the effort in and make yourself known and take everything with a pinch of salt as you're literally just looking for single women which is a VERY small pond to fish in which is already surrounded by millions with their rods out, waiting...

Just a few things I noticed which may need to be looked at:

- Your profile is 2 lines long and is made up of text speak. - This won't go down well with a lot of people.

- You say what YOU want ("Single *STRAIGHT* guy needs women / I need a gd Fucking !!" ect), but NOTHING about what you can offer in return!

- You can't accommodate. I KNOW you probably have a good reason, but you have to understand that this will also put a lot of people off.

Aside from that you have some ok pictures, at least they're not all cock-shots. Just take some time, get to know people and try not to be pushy.

Good things come to those who wait.

- Amy. x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"fanx 4 the advice m8

text speak won't endear you to many people either

that may sound daft, but i have seen enough forum posts to suggest that that is the case "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love that reply...very funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you put as much effort in to your messages as your profile I can thoroughly understand why you are getting zero response.

You are one of thousands of single men looking to meet one of a far far smaller number of single females. You need to stand out and you don't."

oh he stands out alright!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the type of guy we avoid. The guy is 34 so not a youngster, but still messages in some strange language. Very strange....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looked at your pics and your profile and you have asked so........you sound quite aggressive and that you just want to empty your balls into some poor woman. Your pics also give that impression - i for one would so not be interested sorry but you did ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without this sounding awful you come across quite desperate. This is a swinging site, swinging isn't just a way to get your end away. Make your profile a little less aggressive and don't use text speak, we "laydees" don't really like it!

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Whicheva.....

Fings........

Baseball cap......

Good luck OP....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dats cus he looks like a gangsta init! Lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also asking for advice then not logging in for a week may not be helping you lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yo yo yo homeboi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

You also need a profile that stands out from the 100's of other people who are contacting the same people you are...

Can you look at your profile and say what on it makes you stand out, "

You are having a laugh ain't you

His pics and profile does stand out... like nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive ever seen before....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it me or is that winged cross way slanted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

checked out the pro.....this is emes here.. as you said good luck lol oh my.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The teenage text speak coming from a 34 year old man is definitely something that doesn't float our boat, good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dats cus he looks like a gangsta init! Lol "

u dissin ma homie biatch?? Lols n all dat crap innit....

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By *oneythiefMan
over a year ago

Perthshire

Maybe it's the whole chav look that's putting people off??

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