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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi everyone,

Back after a very long break counted in years, not weeks!

It's been tough. Not much interest from anybody yet but I appreciate I'm a very small fish in an ocean of dicks, figuratively and literally!

I'm struggling to even get people to view my profile right now.

Anybody prepared to part with some advice on how to improve my profile/and or general approach?

Much appreciated!

L

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have only been on 3 weeks…

What were your expectations rejoining?

For most people it takes time on here. I suggest going to a social and get out there

Good luck

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Can take some people years now to meet someone. You have been in a few weeks. Maybe go to an organised social or a club

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice guys

To be honest I wasn't expecting a meet yet at all, more advice on how to approach people to actually look at my profile as thats more what I'm struggling with.

Expectations aren't massively high at this stage, I just recall speaking to people being a bit easier first time round.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

Dick profile pic. Chances are we'd not bother looking at your profile.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dick profile pic. Chances are we'd not bother looking at your profile.

(Bry)"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the advice guys

To be honest I wasn't expecting a meet yet at all, more advice on how to approach people to actually look at my profile as thats more what I'm struggling with.

Expectations aren't massively high at this stage, I just recall speaking to people being a bit easier first time round. "

Read profiles. Personalise your message to fit the person you messaging.

Go to socials.

Attend clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nooo! Really? I only changed it today to that thinking people would prefer it. Appreciate this advice a lot! I'm changing it back now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Clubs as a single fella sound a bit too daunting! But I'll look out for local socials for sure

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"Clubs as a single fella sound a bit too daunting! But I'll look out for local socials for sure "

Four couples like us (I don't play with other women) who like variety, single guys at a club are a necessity!

(Bry)

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"Nooo! Really? I only changed it today to that thinking people would prefer it. Appreciate this advice a lot! I'm changing it back now "

Better. Overall, a good profile. We're maybe in the minority, though we don't like dicks in profile pics and could do without them being sent to us in messages, we do like to see one tasteful on in the public pics just so we can see it's not awful. Maybe put the previous profile pic in your public, as it wasn't a bad pic.

We'd reply to you, if your message showed that you'd read our profile.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nooo! Really? I only changed it today to that thinking people would prefer it. Appreciate this advice a lot! I'm changing it back now

Better. Overall, a good profile. We're maybe in the minority, though we don't like dicks in profile pics and could do without them being sent to us in messages, we do like to see one tasteful on in the public pics just so we can see it's not awful. Maybe put the previous profile pic in your public, as it wasn't a bad pic.

We'd reply to you, if your message showed that you'd read our profile.

(Bry)"

I shall do exactly that and thank you for taking the time to have a look, much appreciated! As for the club's, good to know there is a demand for single guys, it's just about building up the courage to go alone

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Nooo! Really? I only changed it today to that thinking people would prefer it. Appreciate this advice a lot! I'm changing it back now

Better. Overall, a good profile. We're maybe in the minority, though we don't like dicks in profile pics and could do without them being sent to us in messages, we do like to see one tasteful on in the public pics just so we can see it's not awful. Maybe put the previous profile pic in your public, as it wasn't a bad pic.

We'd reply to you, if your message showed that you'd read our profile.

(Bry)

I shall do exactly that and thank you for taking the time to have a look, much appreciated! As for the club's, good to know there is a demand for single guys, it's just about building up the courage to go alone "

I go to clubs alone so like to meet single men

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" I go to clubs alone so like to meet single men "

Clearly I just need to man up and go, it might be very worth my while clearly haha

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"Clearly I just need to man up and go, it might be very worth my while clearly haha"

Shame you're so far south as you seem like a nice bloke. We're making an effort to get to VA more often (there tomorrow afternoon) but it's a bit of a trek for you.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Clearly I just need to man up and go, it might be very worth my while clearly haha

Shame you're so far south as you seem like a nice bloke. We're making an effort to get to VA more often (there tomorrow afternoon) but it's a bit of a trek for you.

(Bry)"

I appreciate the nice words, thank you! Never say never. I'd feel way more confident visiting a club with somebody then attempting it on my own, even if it meant I had a bit of a drive. You e got to try these things right??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 very samey photos shows little effort. You are not selling yourself very well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

op tha only thing that has changed in the last few years is the explosion of men joining therefore the site is harder than ever for guys

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