FabSwingers.com forum: What am I doing wrong?

By *ettieAndIrving OP Man
over a year ago

Derby

Honest opinions on my profile please.

I know guys get given short shrift here but it feels like I've fallen through the cracks.

Thanks guys.

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

Pics are decent but I'm confused by the last paragraph, first one was good tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any advice on my bio?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you’ll be lucky to find a woman willing to let a virtual stranger tie her up and “poke her bottom”

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"Honest opinions on my profile please.

I know guys get given short shrift here but it feels like I've fallen through the cracks.

Thanks guys."

Our opinion is that it is quite poor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think you’ll be lucky to find a woman willing to let a virtual stranger tie her up and “poke her bottom”"

THIS and a lot of women on here aren’t into kink!

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

It looks ok to me, bio a bit short but I guess that's what messages are for

The second paragraph needs looking at the first part doesn't make sense, the middle sounds like you've come out of a bad relationship & are bringing that baggage with you & the end well, it's the point & I thought it was funny but could also scare a few off too

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

You're probably not doing anything wrong other than expecting an easy shag.

Your profile tells me everything I need to know.

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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Trivial, and offers nothing except what you want not what you have to offer really, so that tells us everything we need to know about you.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

"Think you’ll be lucky to find a woman willing to let a virtual stranger tie her up and “poke her bottom”

THIS and a lot of women on here aren’t into kink! "

But a lot are, however this isn’t how you ask for it!

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Bio is rubbish

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"You're probably not doing anything wrong other than expecting an easy shag.

Your profile tells me everything I need to know. "

Sadly you are correct.

We see this often on here. A few token words as bio, then the guys are surprised because they aren't offered sex!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think you’ll be lucky to find a woman willing to let a virtual stranger tie her up and “poke her bottom”

THIS and a lot of women on here aren’t into kink!

But a lot are, however this isn’t how you ask for it! "

I am into kink myself but what I meant is that it will significantly reduce the amount of women who will be suitable for the OP and add to that the fact men outnumber women by a lot but yes his profile definitely isn’t helping!

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
over a year ago

near you...

You might want to think about expanding on your bio. I know no-one wants war&peace but, considering the level of trust you want people to place in you, some extra words of assurance might help.

Also - your last and only veri was 4+ years ago. Would definitely be worth getting more recent ones.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Any advice on my bio?

Bad form to jump on someone else's post. Start your own.

(Bry)

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

The main thing you are doing wrong is expecting something to happen. It's always best when going into anything swinging related to have expectations. So many join this site and go to clubs thinking that they are guaranteed sex or whatever else, it just doesn't work like that.

Also.....would you really go with a 99 year old?

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

Very average profile. Usual mistakes - close up cock pics, 18-99 age range, very little text so nothing to form a conversation from. Also (and this is personal opinion) you look SO much better with the beard that we'd suggest getting rid of the clean shaven pics. The pics are also a bit repetitive.

But - Who's the woman in the 4th Dec 2020 pic? Can you bring her to our place?

Mostly it's numbers. We've explained in lots of other threads how we literally need just 1% of the offers we get.

(Bry)

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"Any advice on my bio?

Should start your own thread.

But seeing you asked. Well below average.

Looking around, do you think it is good? Your own thoughts? ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honest opinions on my profile please.

I know guys get given short shrift here but it feels like I've fallen through the cracks.

Thanks guys."

You looking for Blood, Guts and Pussy?

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Second paragraph is off putting

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

Your bio is lacking

Look at mine it's by no means perfect and boy do I find it hard work sometimes on here but you simply have to put an almighty amount effort in and sorry chap you haven't.

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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

You sound like an alcoholic, and not really sure what else to make of the rest of it it as it's pretty basic and doesn't stand out. Saw 100s of similar profiles usually after a message along the lines of "hi how are you XXX" and they are promptly deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Second paragraph is off putting"

Very!

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

OP,

Your profile is biased towards Kink and related styles, which will suit some others but not all.

Your second paragraph is a mix of different points, but all jumbled up and overall, it lets you down. Any hint of negativity too in that paragraph must be removed as it will mean viewers will move on to another profile.

Your Profile is akin to a Job CV. You have to describe what you can contribute to a meet, but equally, say what you wish from one too!

To stand out against the 1000's of other guys all seeking the same thing, you have to "Sell" yourself.

Look for Socials in your area or even Clubs too, where specific themed events more in the style you seek could be a starting point.

But consider this, you've been on here during a pandemic. Before that, it could take any guy up to a year to get noticed; now it's even tougher.

Put in the effort and you have a chance, but pair it with Perseverance and Patience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The jokey second paragraph will appeal to any kinkster

A little humour, you must be a Northerner not taking this whole merry go round seriously

Patience is needed oh and try other media platforms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If advice is being given, I'd appreciate some following a dry 2021.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"If advice is being given, I'd appreciate some following a dry 2021."

Prob because your married?

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"If advice is being given, I'd appreciate some following a dry 2021."

Don't jump on others posts - make you're own and ask there.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If advice is being given, I'd appreciate some following a dry 2021.

Prob because your married?"

Agreed! I wouldn’t meet a married man and I’m guessing there’s other women who feel the same.

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"If advice is being given, I'd appreciate some following a dry 2021."

Everything is correct.

Jumping on other people's threads is rude.

And most people do not find disrespect and dishonesty attractive. There are loads of honest single guys on here.

So do you really not know why no one shows interest??

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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

"You sound like an alcoholic, and not really sure what else to make of the rest of it it as it's pretty basic and doesn't stand out. Saw 100s of similar profiles usually after a message along the lines of "hi how are you XXX" and they are promptly deleted. "

This was in relation to the hijacker not the OP...tallguy that was for you. Sorry OP

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"If advice is being given, I'd appreciate some following a dry 2021."

You say you give utmost respect.

What about to your wife??

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