FabSwingers.com forum: Whats the secret?

By *amv1995 OP Man
over a year ago

luton

Evening all.

Been searching for a regular fwb for a while now. Ive had the total sum of 0 luck. At best i get a reply saying thanks but no thanks…

Whilst im ok with rejection, its lead me to think maybe im giving off a bad vibe? Anyone got advice for first messages? Profile bits and bobs?

Ive tryed my best in intial messages to stand out, but it seems im one of 100’s of people a day you lucky lady’s are recieving contact from.

Any advice from seasoned pro’s would be welcomed.

Thanks in advance everyone!

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Your attached so will put most off

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"Evening all.

Been searching for a regular fwb for a while now. Ive had the total sum of 0 luck. At best i get a reply saying thanks but no thanks…

Whilst im ok with rejection, its lead me to think maybe im giving off a bad vibe? Anyone got advice for first messages? Profile bits and bobs?

Ive tryed my best in intial messages to stand out, but it seems im one of 100’s of people a day you lucky lady’s are recieving contact from.

Any advice from seasoned pro’s would be welcomed.

Thanks in advance everyone!

Always ask this. What does professional have to do with it.

By the way OP. Check your spelling.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

You're simply up against it with numbers. We've explained on other threads how we only need 1% of the guys that message us. You have to get in touch at exactly the right time and basically tick every boxes and set off no alarms.

You've got a head start on some by having a face pic. But (and none of these are in no way suggesting your anything other than genuine):

You've no meet verifications (all our no-shows have been unverified guys...either lost their nerve or never intended to meet)

Your age range is set all the way to 99....would you really?

You say you're in a relationship and can't accommodate but claim that your partner knows. Couples and single women get fed this line every single day....I'm sure it's sometimes true.

Your spelling and grammar is a bit rough. It shouldn't matter but people have to have a way to whittle lists down and unfortunately we'd choose someone who ran their text through a spell check or grammar check (or even a friend) as it can come over as lazy.

Same with the black bars on the photos. They look like screenshots which to some will suggest they're not you, to others suggest you can't be bothered, and also means your profile pic looks a little odd. Personally we'd recommend your face pic as a better profile pic.

(Bry)

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

According to your profile,

You are in a relationship.

You have limited free time.

So basically you appear to want someone who will be available for a shag, when it's convenient for you.

I see the benefits you would get.

What's in it for her?

Especially on fab, where ladies get hundreds of offers a day.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"professional"....just a load of self proclaimed pretentious rubbish.

We'd say the best thing for single guys struggling on here is to head to a club and see if they fit into the scene.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Also you say discretion is needed which probably points to that she doesn't know you are on here.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's a numbers game. If what you offer is in massive oversupply. And you want something that is in short supply - and then cut it to an even smaller number, ie long term fb - you will find it hard.

Many don't want attached males.

Visiting clubs could be good, especially with your partner.

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

""professional"....just a load of self proclaimed pretentious rubbish.

We'd say the best thing for single guys struggling on here is to head to a club and see if they fit into the scene.

Glad you said about the pretentious crap.

We agree.

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

Just thinking OP.

It might help you if your partner were to confirm that she allows you to play.

If as you say she knows, surely would she do that?

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By *amv1995 OP Man
over a year ago

luton

Hey spandaa. Message received.. you dont like single guys!

Have a wonderfull christmas.

Best- Sam.

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

It's a numbers game you and I and all the single guys on here are not 10 a penny but more like 1000 a penny

I have found that don't just use fab for finding meets there are other sites for this plus ....

And I'm going a little left field here but do you remember a little old technique called going out on the pull in a pub,nightclub ,party etc do that as well as fab and you will start to get meets

I hope that helps a little

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By *ouplecu2015Couple
over a year ago

Reading

Kik chat??

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