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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I need your help to get more female attention / replies. Please advise on how to better my profile x thanks in advance

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

Probably get rid of the last bit in your bio as it comes rather whingey…. Nobody is obligated to reply to anybody they receive a message from. No reply = not interested….

Think about including what you have to offer, a little bit more about yourself and want you’re looking for is always a good start. If you can find a club night or social nearby to you then getting verified at one of those may help you out as well

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"I need your help to get more female attention / replies. Please advise on how to better my profile x thanks in advance "

Plenty of helpful advice on previous threads from other people whom asked similar as yourself op

Good luck

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

Bit boring , you need at least 5 or more photos.

Your profile moaning isn’t helpful should always be positive. We don’t respond to 99% of our hundreds of messages a day.

List your fantasies, desires and wants from the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile looks good to me, no need to change anything. Your profile is a projection of your personality and anyone viewing it will use it to determine whether or not they’re interested in you depending on how much they like or dislike your profile. It should be a true projection of you that doesn’t deceive the viewer into thinking you’re someone you aren’t. At the moment it does that but if you change it based on how other people tell you to then you’re presenting yourself in a way someone else thinks you should and that’s not being honest to anyone who looks at it.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

OP. Go to the Forum Index page and look up other threads about "lack of meets" or "how to get meets" or similar titles. There's a wealth of information and advice there.

Good advice so far, but refrain from putting any negative commenting in your profile; it doesn't go in your favour!

Look at the Site Help / Advice section. But note, it says No Reply means Not Interested.

Ladies are swamped with 100's of messages, so they can be Choosy, and be picky!!

Your profile has to be the equivalent of a Job CV; you have to 'SELL' yourself to stand out above the 1000's of other guys.

Add in Patience & Perseverance by the bucket load, and a thick skin to combat the rejections or low reply numbers.

It does work, but you have to put in the effort.

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"Your profile looks good to me, no need to change anything. Your profile is a projection of your personality and anyone viewing it will use it to determine whether or not they’re interested in you depending on how much they like or dislike your profile. It should be a true projection of you that doesn’t deceive the viewer into thinking you’re someone you aren’t. At the moment it does that but if you change it based on how other people tell you to then you’re presenting yourself in a way someone else thinks you should and that’s not being honest to anyone who looks at it. "

Not sure why you gave that advice his profile says nothing about him except how he feels because he's here we should message him op I would totally disregard that advice instead do a forum search on profile advice and look advice fab rules .... we are not obliged to reply and I eould instantly block your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile looks good to me, no need to change anything. Your profile is a projection of your personality and anyone viewing it will use it to determine whether or not they’re interested in you depending on how much they like or dislike your profile. It should be a true projection of you that doesn’t deceive the viewer into thinking you’re someone you aren’t. At the moment it does that but if you change it based on how other people tell you to then you’re presenting yourself in a way someone else thinks you should and that’s not being honest to anyone who looks at it.

Not sure why you gave that advice his profile says nothing about him except how he feels because he's here we should message him op I would totally disregard that advice instead do a forum search on profile advice and look advice fab rules .... we are not obliged to reply and I eould instantly block your profile "

Don’t you think it’s a good thing though that you can see from his profile that he’s the sort of person who doesn’t think he needs to make an effort with his profile but expects every woman he messages to go to the effort of replying to him to say she isn’t interested when she’s received hundreds of messages and it would be both time consuming and boring for her to reply to them all? He could get loads of advice on how to make his profile perfect and change it so that everyone who looks at it is instantly attracted to him and wants to meet him but he’d still be someone who offers nothing and expects everything in return.

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"Your profile looks good to me, no need to change anything. Your profile is a projection of your personality and anyone viewing it will use it to determine whether or not they’re interested in you depending on how much they like or dislike your profile. It should be a true projection of you that doesn’t deceive the viewer into thinking you’re someone you aren’t. At the moment it does that but if you change it based on how other people tell you to then you’re presenting yourself in a way someone else thinks you should and that’s not being honest to anyone who looks at it.

Not sure why you gave that advice his profile says nothing about him except how he feels because he's here we should message him op I would totally disregard that advice instead do a forum search on profile advice and look advice fab rules .... we are not obliged to reply and I eould instantly block your profile

Don’t you think it’s a good thing though that you can see from his profile that he’s the sort of person who doesn’t think he needs to make an effort with his profile but expects every woman he messages to go to the effort of replying to him to say she isn’t interested when she’s received hundreds of messages and it would be both time consuming and boring for her to reply to them all? He could get loads of advice on how to make his profile perfect and change it so that everyone who looks at it is instantly attracted to him and wants to meet him but he’d still be someone who offers nothing and expects everything in return. "

Just about right.

If we looked at this profile, the first thing that would stand out is the total lack of effort.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Your profile looks good to me, no need to change anything. Your profile is a projection of your personality and anyone viewing it will use it to determine whether or not they’re interested in you depending on how much they like or dislike your profile. It should be a true projection of you that doesn’t deceive the viewer into thinking you’re someone you aren’t. At the moment it does that but if you change it based on how other people tell you to then you’re presenting yourself in a way someone else thinks you should and that’s not being honest to anyone who looks at it.

Not sure why you gave that advice his profile says nothing about him except how he feels because he's here we should message him op I would totally disregard that advice instead do a forum search on profile advice and look advice fab rules .... we are not obliged to reply and I eould instantly block your profile "

So what you're saying is that he should misrepresent himself.

His current profile tells me everything I need to know ow about him, it's perfect in every way.

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"Your profile looks good to me, no need to change anything. Your profile is a projection of your personality and anyone viewing it will use it to determine whether or not they’re interested in you depending on how much they like or dislike your profile. It should be a true projection of you that doesn’t deceive the viewer into thinking you’re someone you aren’t. At the moment it does that but if you change it based on how other people tell you to then you’re presenting yourself in a way someone else thinks you should and that’s not being honest to anyone who looks at it.

Not sure why you gave that advice his profile says nothing about him except how he feels because he's here we should message him op I would totally disregard that advice instead do a forum search on profile advice and look advice fab rules .... we are not obliged to reply and I eould instantly block your profile

So what you're saying is that he should misrepresent himself.

His current profile tells me everything I need to know ow about him, it's perfect in every way. "

Not exactly saying that he should misrerepresent himself at all men seem to struggle with how to come across on here and just want starter points and what to put in about themselves eg should they put humour in should they say what they want as we all know they get berated for it there really was no need for sub to lie saying the OP profile is ok when clearly it isn't that's all I meant

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Your profile looks good to me, no need to change anything. Your profile is a projection of your personality and anyone viewing it will use it to determine whether or not they’re interested in you depending on how much they like or dislike your profile. It should be a true projection of you that doesn’t deceive the viewer into thinking you’re someone you aren’t. At the moment it does that but if you change it based on how other people tell you to then you’re presenting yourself in a way someone else thinks you should and that’s not being honest to anyone who looks at it.

Not sure why you gave that advice his profile says nothing about him except how he feels because he's here we should message him op I would totally disregard that advice instead do a forum search on profile advice and look advice fab rules .... we are not obliged to reply and I eould instantly block your profile

So what you're saying is that he should misrepresent himself.

His current profile tells me everything I need to know ow about him, it's perfect in every way.

Not exactly saying that he should misrerepresent himself at all men seem to struggle with how to come across on here and just want starter points and what to put in about themselves eg should they put humour in should they say what they want as we all know they get berated for it there really was no need for sub to lie saying the OP profile is ok when clearly it isn't that's all I meant "

His profile IS ok, it's him and how he represents himself so clearly, tells me all I need to know.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

It’s very lacking in personality and moaning in your bio is off putting

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Express yourself.

Be different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably get rid of the last bit in your bio as it comes rather whingey…. Nobody is obligated to reply to anybody they receive a message from. No reply = not interested….

Think about including what you have to offer, a little bit more about yourself and want you’re looking for is always a good start. If you can find a club night or social nearby to you then getting verified at one of those may help you out as well "

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always say this when giving advice to guys, if you want to stand out from regular guys, you have to create a fantasy image for women, most women (not all) like their men, tall, dark and handsome. Work and tweak what you have, it's not easy but if you want the attention you have to put in the work.

Also let your profile come across as confident, dominant and also that you have standards.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I always say this when giving advice to guys, if you want to stand out from regular guys, you have to create a fantasy image for women, most women (not all) like their men, tall, dark and handsome. Work and tweak what you have, it's not easy but if you want the attention you have to put in the work.

Also let your profile come across as confident, dominant and also that you have standards. "

Most women want men to be honest and not create a false persona of who they are.

As for the tall dark and handsome thing, it's a myth.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Was going to offer some help OP but you have blocked guys from mailing you. Btw 420 profile views today !

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

I'm sure the OP will be along shortly to thank everyone who's bothered to read his post, assess his profile and reply. After all there's nothing as rude as not replying is there...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try saying what you like and what you're looking for in more detail. Your pictures are ok, try not be to disheartened its nothing personal everyone has a preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was going to offer some help OP but you have blocked guys from mailing you. Btw 420 profile views today ! "

Not helpful!!

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By *orkshireDrifterMan
over a year ago

Nafferton, nr Driffield.

By now you will have realised that solo guys are rather viewed as a nuicance on here and uderstandably so, as couples and women in particular get bombarded by messages and cannot read them all.

You are better waiting for people to come to you, if they want an extra guy, and many do, they will do the selecting.

Be patient and yes, get rid of the moan at the end of your profile. Better pictures too might help.....

Good luck.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

This thread says everything we'd ever want to know about the OP. If he doesn't have the basic manners to acknowledge people who've replied to him, then we wouldn't entertain the idea of chatting to him.

(Bry)

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Was going to offer some help OP but you have blocked guys from mailing you. Btw 420 profile views today !

Not helpful!!"

I want to help him but privately !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always say this when giving advice to guys, if you want to stand out from regular guys, you have to create a fantasy image for women, most women (not all) like their men, tall, dark and handsome. Work and tweak what you have, it's not easy but if you want the attention you have to put in the work.

Also let your profile come across as confident, dominant and also that you have standards. "

How do you know that OP is confident, dominant and has standards? You’re telling him to portray himself in a way that may be nothing like his true self which is dishonest, disrespectful and a bit stupid because he’ll end up attracting someone who’s looking for traits that he doesn’t really have and he’ll soon get found out.

I notice that you come across as confident, dominant and as having standards in your profile so does that mean you’re portraying a false image of yourself like you’ve advised OP to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was going to offer some help OP but you have blocked guys from mailing you. Btw 420 profile views today !

Not helpful!!

I want to help him but privately !! "

Why can’t you say what you want to say to him here? It sounds to me as though you don’t want anyone knowing what you tell him because you plan to advise him to do something he shouldn’t do.

By the way, on a completely separate note, a guy who was in a group with me on Kik used to like editing pictures that I posted of my tiny cock and would make it look like I had a huge cock. Apparently it’s really easy to do and looks very realistic.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Was going to offer some help OP but you have blocked guys from mailing you. Btw 420 profile views today !

Not helpful!!

I want to help him but privately !!

Why can’t you say what you want to say to him here? It sounds to me as though you don’t want anyone knowing what you tell him because you plan to advise him to do something he shouldn’t do.

By the way, on a completely separate note, a guy who was in a group with me on Kik used to like editing pictures that I posted of my tiny cock and would make it look like I had a huge cock. Apparently it’s really easy to do and looks very realistic. "

Your just looking for an argument. I wanted to help him not you or anyone else. Go rain on someone else’s parade .

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Your profile looks good to me, no need to change anything. Your profile is a projection of your personality and anyone viewing it will use it to determine whether or not they’re interested in you depending on how much they like or dislike your profile. It should be a true projection of you that doesn’t deceive the viewer into thinking you’re someone you aren’t. At the moment it does that but if you change it based on how other people tell you to then you’re presenting yourself in a way someone else thinks you should and that’s not being honest to anyone who looks at it. "

This is spot on .Why change to suit others .If you do it's s false portrayal of who you are.

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By *redy81Man
over a year ago

London

Posting any pure negativity in your profile won't help you, especially if that takes half of your bio... If you really want to say something that you don't like, say it with a bit of sarcasm, but make sure it's only the smaller part of your profile.

Someone mentioned being tall, handsome and dark if you want to "stand out" here, and there is truth in that. Though I would rather say, since I'm here, I learned what do the majority of women like, if they don't need to be shy to express their preferences: you should be gym fit, non-hairy, black and have a huge dick. You can help two of those, half way to success!

On a serious note, I would rather suggest any single guy visit clubs instead of putting too much effort into this page for meets. You will have way more success there, probably with women who match your preferences more anyway. Here we are absolutely at the bottom of the food chain coz of the number ratio.

I tried to use this page for meets after lockdown when clubs were still closed and had the luck to meet a couple of amazing girls, but the time I invested to find those few gems who were also interested to see me was insane. Seriously insane. If I had no previous experiences in clubs about how can I succeed in flirting, I would have lost all my self-confidence here for sure. Since I could go back to clubs, and yes, that is still much-much better.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"I need your help to get more female attention / replies. Please advise on how to better my profile x thanks in advance "

Drop the emoji on your profile pic, just use a simple blurring technique instead.

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By *utty200Couple
over a year ago

nearby

Any profile that shows someone expects a reply even if it's a no thanks puts us off instantly and comes across as demanding , couples and females messages can grow into the 1000's over a few days of not logging on .

We had an offer of 2 for 1 pizzas through the door the other day , should we ring and say thanks for the kind offer but no thanks

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Another profile advice thread, where the advice given isn’t taken on board

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

Like it or not, on here your profile is your marketing. No one likes untrue statements but then again no info at all will only engage the few who like a bit of a gamble. Let them know what they could be getting then They can make an informed decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread says everything we'd ever want to know about the OP. If he doesn't have the basic manners to acknowledge people who've replied to him, then we wouldn't entertain the idea of chatting to him.

(Bry)"

I totally agree here, I find very odd that he complains about people not getting back to him, but doesn't respond to anyone on his own thread.

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