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By *ultiO OP   Man
over a year ago

Galway

I'm in a committed relationship (thinking of marriage soon!) but our libido doesn't match up, so I've gotten permission to "play around" a little, or find a FWB to explore.

I am finding it hard to even get a chat on this site, I have sent lots of messages and getting few to no replies is to be expected, women are overwhelmed! and noone is entitled to anyone elses attention but it is demotivating in a way.

I'd be more than happy for socials and taking it slow, but any other advice would be more than welcome 3

Lads, how long did it take for ye to get into the "swing" of things, and what worked for you?

Ladies, how would ye like to be approached? I usually tell a little about myself, but I worry that after 9 years with the same woman I can't flirt very well ha!

And of course, if anyone is interested in chatting or meeting (in any form) do drop me a message, I'd be happy for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’re not prepared for a long wait it’s not for you ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most woman don't like cheating partners even if you claim shes ok with it, they only have your word!

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By *ultiO OP   Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Most woman don't like cheating partners even if you claim shes ok with it, they only have your word! "

Of course! I appreciate that that would be something to be wary of, but why assume the worst?

Regardless, I'm happy to provide proof if needed, especially before a meet. My missus had a profile here to check it out before, but I dont know what would cobstitute as proof for you, so I give my word and if anyone wants something specific as assurance I'd be happy to oblige.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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"Most woman don't like cheating partners even if you claim shes ok with it, they only have your word!

Of course! I appreciate that that would be something to be wary of, but why assume the worst?

Regardless, I'm happy to provide proof if needed, especially before a meet. My missus had a profile here to check it out before, but I dont know what would cobstitute as proof for you, so I give my word and if anyone wants something specific as assurance I'd be happy to oblige."

The best proof is for your to give verbal confirmation.

Would she do that?

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By *ultiO OP   Man
over a year ago

Galway


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The best proof is for your to give verbal confirmation.

Would she do that?"

Definitely when asked, and for sure as a once off to prove it kind of deal.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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The best proof is for your to give verbal confirmation.

Would she do that?

Definitely when asked, and for sure as a once off to prove it kind of deal. "

That should make things a lot easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first started using fab around 8 years ago, a single guy could wait, on average, around 6 months to get a first meet.

Since then, that's grown to between 9 months and a year.

When we're not still in the grips of a pandemic.

Some people are still uncomfortable about meeting at the moment.

If you're looking for a quick fix, I'd suggest looking elsewhere.

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By *ultiO OP   Man
over a year ago

Galway


"When I first started using fab around 8 years ago, a single guy could wait, on average, around 6 months to get a first meet.

Since then, that's grown to between 9 months and a year.

When we're not still in the grips of a pandemic.

Some people are still uncomfortable about meeting at the moment.

If you're looking for a quick fix, I'd suggest looking elsewhere."

Since two people have said about timeframe, I'm not looking for a "quick fix" and I'm not in a rush, I just didn't "know" how long it's supposed to be, or what's in store. So I appreciate the information.

During that 6-12 months before the first meet, would you say that it's expected to be constantly messaging people and staying active or more on and off etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you seem to have been able to wait 9 years to get married so what’s a year or two to wait to meet a woman on Fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot will be put off by the fact you’re attached, plus it’s highly competitive on here due to the uneven ratio of men and women.

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By *ultiO OP   Man
over a year ago

Galway


"A lot will be put off by the fact you’re attached, plus it’s highly competitive on here due to the uneven ratio of men and women. "

Yeah I've got the idea about that now :P I guess I'll just stay relstively active and see what happens. As I said previously, if anyone wants proof of permission at any point let me know and we can discuss it

I thank everyone for their responses so far!

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