FabSwingers.com forum: My profile

By *eapingJaguar OP Man
over a year ago

Canvey Island

I am really struggling to meet ladies and couples on here, is there something wrong with the text on my profile or too many c**k pictures on my profile? I always write and message relating to the persons profile so I don’t just copy and paste and I always attach a face picture (maybe I’m ugly) but I never get a reply or the message isn’t read!

Any advise would be very much appreciated, I guess it doesn’t help having cannot accommodate but I have my young son to thing about.

Thank you all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do so many men think there must be some magic formula.

See so many threads asking about what the best message to send is, or how to make a profile more appealing, as if this is some sort if challenge or competition.

The simple fact that I feel many are overlooking is that attractiveness is subjectuve and at the end of the day you could have the best written profile and the most perfectly crafted message, but if they don't fancy you, you're not going to get anywhere.

Just like in the real world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take off that you live “On the Rock” and put Benfleet as this may put some off.!!

Best of luck op.

Tony

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By *eapingJaguar OP Man
over a year ago

Canvey Island

But they don’t even read the messages!!!

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Do you think one face picture, but endless cock pictures are what the women on here want to see ?

If you do, keep it as it is.

A profile should always be organic, so you should constantly see what works and what doesn’t.

But there’s no magic formula as one lady will like something the next won’t.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm probably not your target audience so how useful my suggestions will be is debatable

If you're normally clean shaven, show a clean shaven face picture.

Don't say you'll change according to what the person you're meeting wants, it implies (to me) that you are so eager to meet you'll do what they want.

Suit yourself where cock pictures are concerned. Some like em some don't.

Put a picture of your body on.

Your profile text is pretty standard which is fine. All I'd suggest is that you say a little about the type of people you're looking for and what you're interested in sexually.

Finally don't try and appeal to everyone, you'll only end up appealing to nobody.

Good luck

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By *eapingJaguar OP Man
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Thank you so much for the advice it makes a lot of sense! To be honest you are actually my type I prefer older women and couples so maybe I need to put that on my profile and set the age group to my preference. You have a very sexy body by the way

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thank you so much for the advice it makes a lot of sense! To be honest you are actually my type I prefer older women and couples so maybe I need to put that on my profile and set the age group to my preference. You have a very sexy body by the way"

You're welcome and thanks.

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By *eapingJaguar OP Man
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Your on my hotlist now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But they don’t even read the messages!!!"

Because they will always look at your profile first.

If they feel you're not for them, why would they waste time reading your message.

Those take away leaflets that come through your door. Do you phone them all up to say 'no thanks'?

Do you even look at all of them?

I would imagine the answer to both of those questions, is 'no'

Oh, and about your face pic.

If you're usually clean shaven, why post a face pic where you have a beard?

It's confusing, and certainly not current, and will likely be causing many to move on to the next profile.

You might consider it a minor detail, but to most, it will be an important one

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Your on my hotlist now!"

Well at least we're on one

Do you know about the reply+quote feature under each post? If you click on that it'll quote the person you're replying to and saves confusion

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By *ustfortheforumsWoman
over a year ago

Honestly you are not doing anything wrong, it’s just that women and couples don’t want to meet anyone at this moment in time they would rather meet at a swingers club rather than on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re a nice looking guy OP.

I agree with all the points Nicecouple made but think there are way too many cock pics. One is enough to let people know what it looks like. A couple of body shots maybe? Just casual ones, jeans and T shirt and most definitely one without the beard.

Keep going, the best times are worth waiting for

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By *riginal Sin 66Man
over a year ago

Whitchurch

Ay up.

It's a bloody minefield on here!!

Very difficult for a single man (no Veri no action - no action no Veri)on here.

I try to think that someone somewhere will be interested in me - patience & politeness will (hopefully) win the day.

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By *ustfortheforumsWoman
over a year ago

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By *eapingJaguar OP Man
over a year ago

Canvey Island

"Your on my hotlist now!

Well at least we're on one

Do you know about the reply+quote feature under each post? If you click on that it'll quote the person you're replying to and saves confusion

Thank you so much I was not aware of this x

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By *eapingJaguar OP Man
over a year ago

Canvey Island

"Honestly you are not doing anything wrong, it’s just that women and couples don’t want to meet anyone at this moment in time they would rather meet at a swingers club rather than on here "

Thank you

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By *eapingJaguar OP Man
over a year ago

Canvey Island

"You’re a nice looking guy OP.

Keep going, the best times are worth waiting for

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By *eapingJaguar OP Man
over a year ago

Canvey Island

"You’re a nice looking guy OP.

Keep going, the best times are worth waiting for

Thank you so much

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"But they don’t even read the messages!!!"

Maybe they read your profile and look at your photos before reading your message.

We do that and if what we see is not what we are looking for we just delete the message without even reading.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

OP....you have a nice face but the first pic I see is a close-up of your cock. Get rid of it, get some tasteful nude body shots done instead.

Close your age range a bit....it's a tiny detail but it makes it look like either you'll shag anyone (99yr old?) or you've just not finished your profile.

And yes...most will look at your profile before opening the message. Saves people sending chasing messages...."you've read my mail but not replied.....". If they then delete it, it means they're not interested.

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By *atentHeelsCouple
over a year ago

Salford

I can't see much wrong with your page as it is today. Not much in your bio, but its not law. As for pics I'd say 2 is a bit limiting if you want to appeal. For us, its always about normal pictures - I don't care if there are cock shots or not but if there is then one is fine. Much prefer to see the person in various situ's than their anatomy. So as it stands today, I can't see that much what I would consider wrong with it to be fair.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Hi

Any advise would be very much appreciated, I guess it doesn’t help having cannot accommodate but I have my young son to thing about.

Thank you all"

You need more pictures pal try the kinky fetishism look that gives that wow factor plenty of guys are pretty good at this browse the photo gallery for ideas and hopefully your luck changes

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By *eapingJaguar OP Man
over a year ago

Canvey Island

"OP....you have a nice face but the first pic I see is a close-up of your cock. Get rid of it, get some tasteful nude body shots done instead.

Close your age range a bit....it's a tiny detail but it makes it look like either you'll shag anyone (99yr old?) or you've just not finished your profile.

Thank you so much

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By *eapingJaguar OP Man
over a year ago

Canvey Island

"I can't see much wrong with your page as it is today. Not much in your bio, but its not law. As for pics I'd say 2 is a bit limiting if you want to appeal. For us, its always about normal pictures - I don't care if there are cock shots or not but if there is then one is fine. Much prefer to see the person in various situ's than their anatomy. So as it stands today, I can't see that much what I would consider wrong with it to be fair.

Thank you so much

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By *eapingJaguar OP Man
over a year ago

Canvey Island

"Hi

Any advise would be very much appreciated, I guess it doesn’t help having cannot accommodate but I have my young son to thing about.

Thank you all

You need more pictures pal try the kinky fetishism look that gives that wow factor plenty of guys are pretty good at this browse the photo gallery for ideas and hopefully your luck changes "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

Any advise would be very much appreciated, I guess it doesn’t help having cannot accommodate but I have my young son to thing about.

Thank you all"

Good profile, can't see anything to change, maybe a bit about yourself, likes, dislikes, looking for.

Mrs

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By *ischer400777Man
over a year ago

stanley county durham

I don’t understand why , you are better looking than me and I am doing well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You’re a nice looking guy OP.

Keep going, the best times are worth waiting for

Thank you so much"

Great new pics btw!

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By *atentHeelsCouple
over a year ago

Salford

"Great new pics btw!

Yep, pics are far improved now. Much better than most

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By *eapingJaguar OP Man
over a year ago

Canvey Island

"Hi

Any advise would be very much appreciated, I guess it doesn’t help having cannot accommodate but I have my young son to thing about.

Thank you

Thank you all

Good profile, can't see anything to change, maybe a bit about yourself, likes, dislikes, looking for.

Mrs"

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By *eapingJaguar OP Man
over a year ago

Canvey Island

"You’re a nice looking guy OP.

Keep going, the best times are worth waiting for

Thank you so much

Great new pics btw!

Thank you

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By *eapingJaguar OP Man
over a year ago

Canvey Island

"Great new pics btw!

Yep, pics are far improved now. Much better than most

Brilliant thank you

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By *uck-Me-Hard-Scotland-M2MMan
over a year ago

Barnhill (outside Dundee)

Can I suggest site support to add to your profile. Silver will give you 50 days for a fiver. You can do it by text if needed.

At the very least, this will allow you to see who has looked at your profile. Increased message limit will then allow you to write and say "Thanks".

Take care and good luck.

https://www.fabswingers.com/supporters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone else noticed that, in general, these threads are started by people who, on the face of it, are looking for pointers on how to achieve better success on fab, but you soon begin to realise that thus is a smokescreen, as they never respond to constructive criticism - either with a comment or by taking the advice on board - and only react to those comments that are supportive or otherwuse blowing sunshine up their arse, showing everyone that it's nothing more than a self gratifying, ego boosting look at me thread

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By *uck-Me-Hard-Scotland-M2MMan
over a year ago

Barnhill (outside Dundee)

"Anyone else noticed that, in general, these threads are started by people who...."

In fairness to OP of this one, he did make an effort to change pics.

I don't read them now if main pic is dick pic. But there does seem to be a glut of them now or am I just noticing them.

I sometimes pause from jumping in, wondering if guys might get offended at comments - partic on their pics - from someone not of the hetero tribe.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Hi

Any advise would be very much appreciated, I guess it doesn’t help having cannot accommodate but I have my young son to thing about.

Thank you all"

Ican only say why i would pass on by.

The public photo mix is OK (not all cock but a little meh..)

Im personally not into hairy guys

The limitations for daytime (while i understand the reason) is no good

You have met, from the verification, before covid so you have to accept that it has had a bug impact on everything and everyone within fab, not just single guys...

Perhaps now thinks are relaxing you could try to get out to a few social events or clubs

Fab is not a place for guaranteed sex if you want that call an escort

Fab is a place to learn patience, talk, interact on the forums and chill

Expect nothing be grateful for anything

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By *eapingJaguar OP Man
over a year ago

Canvey Island

"Hi

Any advise would be very much appreciated, I guess it doesn’t help having cannot accommodate but I have my young son to thing about.

Thank you for your feedback

Thank you all

Ican only say why i would pass on by.

The public photo mix is OK (not all cock but a little meh..)

Im personally not into hairy guys

The limitations for daytime (while i understand the reason) is no good

You have met, from the verification, before covid so you have to accept that it has had a bug impact on everything and everyone within fab, not just single guys...

Perhaps now thinks are relaxing you could try to get out to a few social events or clubs

Fab is not a place for guaranteed sex if you want that call an escort

Fab is a place to learn patience, talk, interact on the forums and chill

Expect nothing be grateful for anything

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"Hi

Any advise would be very much appreciated, I guess it doesn’t help having cannot accommodate but I have my young son to thing about.

Thank you all

Ican only say why i would pass on by.

The public photo mix is OK (not all cock but a little meh..)

Im personally not into hairy guys

The limitations for daytime (while i understand the reason) is no good

You have met, from the verification, before covid so you have to accept that it has had a bug impact on everything and everyone within fab, not just single guys...

Perhaps now thinks are relaxing you could try to get out to a few social events or clubs

Fab is not a place for guaranteed sex if you want that call an escort

Fab is a place to learn patience, talk, interact on the forums and chill

Expect nothing be grateful for anything

Absolutely spot on.

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