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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey. I was wondering if there are any hints and tips to the best intro message. I’ve never been great at things like this and it’s disheartening when you find a woman or couple you think is a good match, you message them, they read it and nothing in return. Help??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could try searching the forum for 'first message' or 'opening message' for the dozens of other threads on the subject and seeing what advice has been guven on the subject

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nobody likes a clever dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey. I was wondering if there are any hints and tips to the best intro message. I’ve never been great at things like this and it’s disheartening when you find a woman or couple you think is a good match, you message them, they read it and nothing in return. Help??"

There isn’t a magic message. What some like, others won’t. We can’t stand when we get the big sell about what they want to do but do like the pleasant, respectful chaps that realise we’re inviting them in to our relationship for a short time. Others like it vice versa. If someone comes across as dominant or ‘alpha’ in their profile or message, we wouldn’t be interested (but others would). If we’re not looking at that particular time though or we’re speaking to another thats going well, we won’t reply just because we don’t want to waste someone’s time. It’s the right message at the right time unfortunately with us and probably many others.

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

Considering you have only been on here for a few months , and got five veris wouldn’t say you are struggling

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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"Nobody likes a clever dick"

Maybe not, but he is being honest.

No one likes unnecessary rudeness and name calling either.

Just our opinion.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Nobody likes a clever dick"

Oops..that's torn it!

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"Nobody likes a clever dick"

Search, read and then interact in the forum. Being a clever dick is actually a good shout, as there’s a wealth of old threads that have more info than a new one is likely to generate.

Send messages based on forum threads and try to strike up genuinely interesting convos off the back of that, and see if it takes you anywhere.

Ease in the cheekiness, and flirting if it feels appropriate. But most of all, assume nothing is going to come of it anyway.

Improved my ratio of first messages converting into convos no end.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

OP....first off, for a lot of people receiving your message, the number of cock pics and no real info about yourself, will mean they don't bother to read or reply to you no matter how good your message is.

Secondly....there is no magic message. Read profiles, find stuff that you find interesting and mention it in your message. Tell them something about you so they have a chance of replying. The number of messages we get asking us how we are, what we're doing, how our day's been .... it's just boring. Someone messages us and tells us something genuinely interesting about themselves and we tend to reply.

Eg...we're meeting a guy next week who messaged us and pointed out that he owned a toy shop. Char has kept all her childhood toys, instantly she wanted to talk to him. We're meeting another guy because his public pics show him playing guitar in a band....instant click for Char who loves live music.

Bry (and Char)

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"Nobody likes a clever dick"

It was good advice.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"Hey. I was wondering if there are any hints and tips to the best intro message. I’ve never been great at things like this and it’s disheartening when you find a woman or couple you think is a good match, you message them, they read it and nothing in return. Help??"

Read the profile of the people you're interested in and tailor your message to suit it. Understand that yours will probably be just one of many messages they get every day and they can't reply to all of them. Only the best/most suitable will get a response but that doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong.

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By *horley GirlWoman
over a year ago

Local-ish

The fact you put safe sex as an interest, but show unprotected sex in your photod is a big turn off for me... Plus too many dick pics, where's the mystery

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By *horley GirlWoman
over a year ago

Local-ish

Veris in person over lock down are also a turn off for me personally

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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Another post that isn't going the way the OP thought.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It was a joke. Wow. Lack of humour too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Even when both parties are tested and negative? Guess each to their own

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