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I hear what you're saying but I don't think leaving notes in locker rooms is a great idea for a lot of reasons and I doubt companies like Ann Summers would be too happy about being used to advertise a web site. | |||
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I hear what you're saying but I don't think leaving notes in locker rooms is a great idea for a lot of reasons and I doubt companies like Ann Summers would be too happy about being used to advertise a web site."Love Honey have a partnership with fab don’t they? Perhaps fab could advertise in product delivery. You’re right OP, I’d never heard of fab until a friend who I met on another site told me about it! I couldn’t believe how many men on my post code are on here! Hahaha | |||
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"Reading through the forums and having experienced first hand i can see something needs to be done about the massive inbalance of male to female ratio on FAB. Do you agree? If yes, then I have a simple solution and that is "we" fellow FABers find away to promote this wonderful group to more ladies. Being a single horny male I found this site relatively easily after a search online. However, and ladies let me know if I'm wrong, but I think a lot of ladies don't necessarily have the fervent persistence to actually independently find FAB themselves....? Maybe we need to be leaving "notes" in ladies locker rooms or covertly in a changing room at a sexy lingerie shop...maybe Anne Summers! To encourage more to join! It needs to be somewhere that majority of females will see it and consider joining. Rather than increase males What do you all think??? " You I'm sure are not aware amount of ladies who have left due to the amount of abuse they constantly received so maybe more needs to be done about those who gives out this kind of conduct as most of us are here to enjoy getting to know others and enjoy the experiences that unfold just like amount of fakes that constantly keep coming back after being reported  | |||
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"Reading through the forums and having experienced first hand i can see something needs to be done about the massive inbalance of male to female ratio on FAB. Do you agree? If yes, then I have a simple solution and that is "we" fellow FABers find away to promote this wonderful group to more ladies. Being a single horny male I found this site relatively easily after a search online. However, and ladies let me know if I'm wrong, but I think a lot of ladies don't necessarily have the fervent persistence to actually independently find FAB themselves....? Maybe we need to be leaving "notes" in ladies locker rooms or covertly in a changing room at a sexy lingerie shop...maybe Anne Summers! To encourage more to join! It needs to be somewhere that majority of females will see it and consider joining. Rather than increase males What do you all think??? You I'm sure are not aware amount of ladies who have left due to the amount of abuse they constantly received so maybe more needs to be done about those who gives out this kind of conduct as most of us are here to enjoy getting to know others and enjoy the experiences that unfold just like amount of fakes that constantly keep coming back after being reported "I agree with this, too. Something didn’t sit right with me tonight. I politely asked a guy for face pics which he kindly sent. I also sent some. He then asked me to show him “the goods” to which I replied, “I don’t send nudes before a meet”…. To which he said something along the lines of “troubling, you asked for photos, granted a different area of the body, but won’t show the same courtesy” I said I’m not for you then. I feel uncomfortable about that conversation. It’s quite manipulative language! | |||
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"Reading through the forums and having experienced first hand i can see something needs to be done about the massive inbalance of male to female ratio on FAB. Do you agree? If yes, then I have a simple solution and that is "we" fellow FABers find away to promote this wonderful group to more ladies. Being a single horny male I found this site relatively easily after a search online. However, and ladies let me know if I'm wrong, but I think a lot of ladies don't necessarily have the fervent persistence to actually independently find FAB themselves....? Maybe we need to be leaving "notes" in ladies locker rooms or covertly in a changing room at a sexy lingerie shop...maybe Anne Summers! To encourage more to join! It needs to be somewhere that majority of females will see it and consider joining. Rather than increase males What do you all think??? You I'm sure are not aware amount of ladies who have left due to the amount of abuse they constantly received so maybe more needs to be done about those who gives out this kind of conduct as most of us are here to enjoy getting to know others and enjoy the experiences that unfold just like amount of fakes that constantly keep coming back after being reported "Totally agree. Fab should do more when guys are reported abusive and ban them using their IP address. That would stop alot of rejoining to re-offend. Alot of us genuine guys here get over looked/tarred because of abusive idiots | |||
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"Reading through the forums and having experienced first hand i can see something needs to be done about the massive inbalance of male to female ratio on FAB. Do you agree? If yes, then I have a simple solution and that is "we" fellow FABers find away to promote this wonderful group to more ladies. Being a single horny male I found this site relatively easily after a search online. However, and ladies let me know if I'm wrong, but I think a lot of ladies don't necessarily have the fervent persistence to actually independently find FAB themselves....? Maybe we need to be leaving "notes" in ladies locker rooms or covertly in a changing room at a sexy lingerie shop...maybe Anne Summers! To encourage more to join! It needs to be somewhere that majority of females will see it and consider joining. Rather than increase males What do you all think??? You I'm sure are not aware amount of ladies who have left due to the amount of abuse they constantly received so maybe more needs to be done about those who gives out this kind of conduct as most of us are here to enjoy getting to know others and enjoy the experiences that unfold just like amount of fakes that constantly keep coming back after being reported
Totally agree. Fab should do more when guys are reported abusive and ban them using their IP address. That would stop alot of rejoining to re-offend. Alot of us genuine guys here get over looked/tarred because of abusive idiots"Plus it's very unprofessional when it's customer based that relies on the customer to keep the business afloat a happy customer provides a successful business | |||
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 you may go months without landing a catch! Excuse the analogue -I'm not saying women are fish!
So my suggestion to try to encourage more ladies who may not be aware of FAB, at least to me doesn't seem like such a bad suggestion.
FAB grows, men become less frustrated as there chances of finding a lovely lady (or ladies!) to have fun with increases, and all those horny ladies who were unaware of the joys of FAB get some welcome sex that they were missing out on! | |||
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"Reading through the forums and having experienced first hand i can see something needs to be done about the massive inbalance of male to female ratio on FAB. Do you agree? If yes, then I have a simple solution and that is "we" fellow FABers find away to promote this wonderful group to more ladies. Being a single horny male I found this site relatively easily after a search online. However, and ladies let me know if I'm wrong, but I think a lot of ladies don't necessarily have the fervent persistence to actually independently find FAB themselves....? Maybe we need to be leaving "notes" in ladies locker rooms or covertly in a changing room at a sexy lingerie shop...maybe Anne Summers! To encourage more to join! It needs to be somewhere that majority of females will see it and consider joining. Rather than increase males What do you all think??? " Our opinion is that the number of single guys on here who act like ignorant wild hunting wolves put a lot of females (and couples) off. Our simple solution is to restrict the number of single guys allowed on the site. Just our opinion of course, but based on the behaviour we see on here! | |||
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"Hello OP here, I hear what you are saying and 100% agree. The guys (and girls) who are being abusive should be banned. However I'm talking more about the very nature of FAB here. FAB is a very very small pond from which to fish from for a lot of guys. The is no denying that the number of guys far exceeds that of the lovely ladies. Again I do NOT condone the abuse some people experience that you've spoken about however I feel it is worth understanding where it is born from. That is the fact that many men are getting frustrated with the lack of responses because there are simply not enough women. Outside of FAB if I got 'rejected' I'd move on and try speaking with another lady. The likely hood is that she would not have been bombarded with propositions and may therefore (if I'm lucky!) say 'yes' to me! However on FAB it is a smaller pond that we are fishing from and therefore no matter how good your equipment and tackle you may go months without landing a catch! Excuse the analogue -I'm not saying women are fish!
So my suggestion to try to encourage more ladies who may not be aware of FAB, at least to me doesn't seem like such a bad suggestion.
FAB grows, men become less frustrated as there chances of finding a lovely lady (or ladies!) to have fun with increases, and all those horny ladies who were unaware of the joys of FAB get some welcome sex that they were missing out on! "Abusive people will eventually be banned which is why it's important to always report abusive messages. however my personal view is that I think it's important to be clear that men are not getting abusive due to frustration around lack of responses due to there being not enough women. The men who are getting abusive (and it isn't all men) are doing so because of their high level of entitlement, their expectations of the site and the fact that they view women as nothing more than a way to relieve their sexual tension. The site could have ten women for every man and these guys would *still* be abusive because they would still experience rejection due to their approach and attitude. Some men behave badly, it's not down to women to stop them by increasing their chances of getting sex. If women want to join a site like fab they will find it. It's often mentioned in the press and there's recently been discussions about it on a site used by mothers. | |||
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"Hello OP here, I hear what you are saying and 100% agree. The guys (and girls) who are being abusive should be banned. However I'm talking more about the very nature of FAB here. FAB is a very very small pond from which to fish from for a lot of guys. The is no denying that the number of guys far exceeds that of the lovely ladies. Again I do NOT condone the abuse some people experience that you've spoken about however I feel it is worth understanding where it is born from. That is the fact that many men are getting frustrated with the lack of responses because there are simply not enough women. Outside of FAB if I got 'rejected' I'd move on and try speaking with another lady. The likely hood is that she would not have been bombarded with propositions and may therefore (if I'm lucky!) say 'yes' to me! However on FAB it is a smaller pond that we are fishing from and therefore no matter how good your equipment and tackle you may go months without landing a catch! Excuse the analogue -I'm not saying women are fish!
So my suggestion to try to encourage more ladies who may not be aware of FAB, at least to me doesn't seem like such a bad suggestion.
FAB grows, men become less frustrated as there chances of finding a lovely lady (or ladies!) to have fun with increases, and all those horny ladies who were unaware of the joys of FAB get some welcome sex that they were missing out on!
Abusive people will eventually be banned which is why it's important to always report abusive messages.
however my personal view is that I think it's important to be clear that men are not getting abusive due to frustration around lack of responses due to there being not enough women. The men who are getting abusive (and it isn't all men) are doing so because of their high level of entitlement, their expectations of the site and the fact that they view women as nothing more than a way to relieve their sexual tension. The site could have ten women for every man and these guys would *still* be abusive because they would still experience rejection due to their approach and attitude. Some men behave badly, it's not down to women to stop them by increasing their chances of getting sex.
If women want to join a site like fab they will find it. It's often mentioned in the press and there's recently been discussions about it on a site used by mothers. "I think you’re right! OP If you are a genuinely decent person, who is clear in what you can offer a woman, & be upfront & honest with what your likes and dislikes are, I guess it shouldn’t matter that there are so many men behaving badly on here, you will find a match or ten! I’ve told many female friends about the site and they’ve joined but, the amount of photo-less profiles that message within the first 30 mins of joining, men asking for blow jobs or a meet now - it can be in the hundreds, it’s enough to put anyone off! I’d recommend sending a few clear face pics with every first message. A smile, showing your teeth, seems to be a good starting point, from reading the forums - it seems many of us go for a nice smile first. Avoid “can I ask you something” or “why” when you receive a ‘no’. Keep chatting on the forums and you’ll find many decent people to talk to and go from there.  | |||
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"Hello OP here, I hear what you are saying and 100% agree. The guys (and girls) who are being abusive should be banned. However I'm talking more about the very nature of FAB here. FAB is a very very small pond from which to fish from for a lot of guys. The is no denying that the number of guys far exceeds that of the lovely ladies. Again I do NOT condone the abuse some people experience that you've spoken about however I feel it is worth understanding where it is born from. That is the fact that many men are getting frustrated with the lack of responses because there are simply not enough women. Outside of FAB if I got 'rejected' I'd move on and try speaking with another lady. The likely hood is that she would not have been bombarded with propositions and may therefore (if I'm lucky!) say 'yes' to me! However on FAB it is a smaller pond that we are fishing from and therefore no matter how good your equipment and tackle you may go months without landing a catch! Excuse the analogue -I'm not saying women are fish!
So my suggestion to try to encourage more ladies who may not be aware of FAB, at least to me doesn't seem like such a bad suggestion.
FAB grows, men become less frustrated as there chances of finding a lovely lady (or ladies!) to have fun with increases, and all those horny ladies who were unaware of the joys of FAB get some welcome sex that they were missing out on!
Abusive people will eventually be banned which is why it's important to always report abusive messages.
however my personal view is that I think it's important to be clear that men are not getting abusive due to frustration around lack of responses due to there being not enough women. The men who are getting abusive (and it isn't all men) are doing so because of their high level of entitlement, their expectations of the site and the fact that they view women as nothing more than a way to relieve their sexual tension. The site could have ten women for every man and these guys would *still* be abusive because they would still experience rejection due to their approach and attitude. Some men behave badly, it's not down to women to stop them by increasing their chances of getting sex.
If women want to join a site like fab they will find it. It's often mentioned in the press and there's recently been discussions about it on a site used by mothers. "Thats probably the best ive seen it explained. Also anyone else notice tho, that the people who complain about single guys ruining for other single guys, are the single guys. I dont know how they know they all this considering there isnt 5 threads a day on the subject. | |||
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"Hello OP here, I hear what you are saying and 100% agree. The guys (and girls) who are being abusive should be banned. However I'm talking more about the very nature of FAB here. FAB is a very very small pond from which to fish from for a lot of guys. The is no denying that the number of guys far exceeds that of the lovely ladies. Again I do NOT condone the abuse some people experience that you've spoken about however I feel it is worth understanding where it is born from. That is the fact that many men are getting frustrated with the lack of responses because there are simply not enough women. Outside of FAB if I got 'rejected' I'd move on and try speaking with another lady. The likely hood is that she would not have been bombarded with propositions and may therefore (if I'm lucky!) say 'yes' to me! However on FAB it is a smaller pond that we are fishing from and therefore no matter how good your equipment and tackle you may go months without landing a catch! Excuse the analogue -I'm not saying women are fish!
So my suggestion to try to encourage more ladies who may not be aware of FAB, at least to me doesn't seem like such a bad suggestion.
FAB grows, men become less frustrated as there chances of finding a lovely lady (or ladies!) to have fun with increases, and all those horny ladies who were unaware of the joys of FAB get some welcome sex that they were missing out on!
Abusive people will eventually be banned which is why it's important to always report abusive messages.
however my personal view is that I think it's important to be clear that men are not getting abusive due to frustration around lack of responses due to there being not enough women. The men who are getting abusive (and it isn't all men) are doing so because of their high level of entitlement, their expectations of the site and the fact that they view women as nothing more than a way to relieve their sexual tension. The site could have ten women for every man and these guys would *still* be abusive because they would still experience rejection due to their approach and attitude. Some men behave badly, it's not down to women to stop them by increasing their chances of getting sex.
If women want to join a site like fab they will find it. It's often mentioned in the press and there's recently been discussions about it on a site used by mothers. "Spot on. If I get no response to a message, I take it that they're not interested - as per site FAQ's. If I get a 'no thanks' I will thank them for their reply and wish them well. I was raised to be polite. Those who are abusive will continue to be so. It has nothing to do with how many women are on the site. If there were more women on fab, these people would have more people to be abusive to when they don't get the responses they'd be hoping for. | |||
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Most women are perfectly capable of finding and using a website themselves. | |||
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"Hello OP here, I hear what you are saying and 100% agree. The guys (and girls) who are being abusive should be banned. However I'm talking more about the very nature of FAB here. FAB is a very very small pond from which to fish from for a lot of guys. The is no denying that the number of guys far exceeds that of the lovely ladies. Again I do NOT condone the abuse some people experience that you've spoken about however I feel it is worth understanding where it is born from. That is the fact that many men are getting frustrated with the lack of responses because there are simply not enough women. Outside of FAB if I got 'rejected' I'd move on and try speaking with another lady. The likely hood is that she would not have been bombarded with propositions and may therefore (if I'm lucky!) say 'yes' to me! However on FAB it is a smaller pond that we are fishing from and therefore no matter how good your equipment and tackle you may go months without landing a catch! Excuse the analogue -I'm not saying women are fish!
So my suggestion to try to encourage more ladies who may not be aware of FAB, at least to me doesn't seem like such a bad suggestion.
FAB grows, men become less frustrated as there chances of finding a lovely lady (or ladies!) to have fun with increases, and all those horny ladies who were unaware of the joys of FAB get some welcome sex that they were missing out on!
Abusive people will eventually be banned which is why it's important to always report abusive messages.
however my personal view is that I think it's important to be clear that men are not getting abusive due to frustration around lack of responses due to there being not enough women. The men who are getting abusive (and it isn't all men) are doing so because of their high level of entitlement, their expectations of the site and the fact that they view women as nothing more than a way to relieve their sexual tension. The site could have ten women for every man and these guys would *still* be abusive because they would still experience rejection due to their approach and attitude. Some men behave badly, it's not down to women to stop them by increasing their chances of getting sex.
If women want to join a site like fab they will find it. It's often mentioned in the press and there's recently been discussions about it on a site used by mothers.
I think you’re right!
OP If you are a genuinely decent person, who is clear in what you can offer a woman, & be upfront & honest with what your likes and dislikes are, I guess it shouldn’t matter that there are so many men behaving badly on here, you will find a match or ten!
I’ve told many female friends about the site and they’ve joined but, the amount of photo-less profiles that message within the first 30 mins of joining, men asking for blow jobs or a meet now - it can be in the hundreds, it’s enough to put anyone off!
I’d recommend sending a few clear face pics with every first message. A smile, showing your teeth, seems to be a good starting point, from reading the forums - it seems many of us go for a nice smile first.
Avoid “can I ask you something” or “why” when you receive a ‘no’.
Keep chatting on the forums and you’ll find many decent people to talk to and go from there.
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"Reading through the forums and having experienced first hand i can see something needs to be done about the massive inbalance of male to female ratio on FAB. Do you agree? If yes, then I have a simple solution and that is "we" fellow FABers find away to promote this wonderful group to more ladies. Being a single horny male I found this site relatively easily after a search online. However, and ladies let me know if I'm wrong, but I think a lot of ladies don't necessarily have the fervent persistence to actually independently find FAB themselves....? Maybe we need to be leaving "notes" in ladies locker rooms or covertly in a changing room at a sexy lingerie shop...maybe Anne Summers! To encourage more to join! It needs to be somewhere that majority of females will see it and consider joining. Rather than increase males What do you all think??? You I'm sure are not aware amount of ladies who have left due to the amount of abuse they constantly received so maybe more needs to be done about those who gives out this kind of conduct as most of us are here to enjoy getting to know others and enjoy the experiences that unfold just like amount of fakes that constantly keep coming back after being reported "I can only imagine the messages a single lady gets, we are a couple but we still get hundreds of single guy messages, it’s not tinder ffs! No we don’t want to see your bizzare shaped ungroomed penis. Chat nicely to us like you have just met us in a bar Atkeast to start. Luckily some guys have the gentlemanly qualities that pricks our ears  | |||
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I honestly believe a nominal membership fee would create a better site for everyone instead of just paying for extras. It would keep down people who aren't serious, and people might be a little more respectful if they think they're going to be banned after they've paid their money. | |||
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"Reading through the forums and having experienced first hand i can see something needs to be done about the massive inbalance of male to female ratio on FAB. Do you agree? If yes, then I have a simple solution and that is "we" fellow FABers find away to promote this wonderful group to more ladies. Being a single horny male I found this site relatively easily after a search online. However, and ladies let me know if I'm wrong, but I think a lot of ladies don't necessarily have the fervent persistence to actually independently find FAB themselves....? Maybe we need to be leaving "notes" in ladies locker rooms or covertly in a changing room at a sexy lingerie shop...maybe Anne Summers! To encourage more to join! It needs to be somewhere that majority of females will see it and consider joining. Rather than increase males What do you all think??? You I'm sure are not aware amount of ladies who have left due to the amount of abuse they constantly received so maybe more needs to be done about those who gives out this kind of conduct as most of us are here to enjoy getting to know others and enjoy the experiences that unfold just like amount of fakes that constantly keep coming back after being reported
I agree with this, too. Something didn’t sit right with me tonight. I politely asked a guy for face pics which he kindly sent. I also sent some. He then asked me to show him “the goods” to which I replied, “I don’t send nudes before a meet”…. To which he said something along the lines of “troubling, you asked for photos, granted a different area of the body, but won’t show the same courtesy” I said I’m not for you then. I feel uncomfortable about that conversation. It’s quite manipulative language!"That’s horrible, imagine what that meet would be like! You’ve dodged a bullet there | |||
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"Hello OP here, I hear what you are saying and 100% agree. The guys (and girls) who are being abusive should be banned. However I'm talking more about the very nature of FAB here. FAB is a very very small pond from which to fish from for a lot of guys. The is no denying that the number of guys far exceeds that of the lovely ladies. Again I do NOT condone the abuse some people experience that you've spoken about however I feel it is worth understanding where it is born from. That is the fact that many men are getting frustrated with the lack of responses because there are simply not enough women. Outside of FAB if I got 'rejected' I'd move on and try speaking with another lady. The likely hood is that she would not have been bombarded with propositions and may therefore (if I'm lucky!) say 'yes' to me! However on FAB it is a smaller pond that we are fishing from and therefore no matter how good your equipment and tackle you may go months without landing a catch! Excuse the analogue -I'm not saying women are fish!
So my suggestion to try to encourage more ladies who may not be aware of FAB, at least to me doesn't seem like such a bad suggestion.
FAB grows, men become less frustrated as there chances of finding a lovely lady (or ladies!) to have fun with increases, and all those horny ladies who were unaware of the joys of FAB get some welcome sex that they were missing out on! "One piece about Fab on Loose Women and the numbers would soar. Advertising is the answer! | |||
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"Apologies if I am covering old ground, I haven't read to all the replies..... Rather than increasing the amount of women on the site, maybe they should look at reducing the amount of men. Maybe a 3 strikes and you're out approach (when people are reported), automatically deleting old profiles.... Mind you, reading that back it wouldn't actually work because they'd just make new ones
I honestly believe a nominal membership fee would create a better site for everyone instead of just paying for extras. It would keep down people who aren't serious, and people might be a little more respectful if they think they're going to be banned after they've paid their money. "Surely a 3 strikes rule should be applied to all members regardless of gender. As for a nominal fee, I'm not so sure that would have the required impact either, in fact, I think it would actually make the problem worse as if there are a few 'entitled' single men now, how bad are they going to be if they're having to pay to be here - even more entitled. There are a few other threads on the subject of reducing the number of men on fab - and these suggestions get raised again and again, an just as equally flaws in these theories are mentioned | |||
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"I agree there are either far too many men or far too few women. I've been a paid up member for nearly 3 years and struggle to ever get a simple reply! I choose women who are listed as looking for my age group and type, live within 20 miles and must have sent over 300 messages over the 3 years. Im always polite, never beg, have honest photos, not bad looking, nice body. I don't send dick pics and most women don't even read my messages, almost all never reply. In all this time, I think I've had 3 replies (from females I've messaged) 2 saying no thanks, which is fine, and 1 who wanted to meet then cancelled at the last minute. I genuinely don't know why I bother with this site, not a member of any other, so just continue to dip my toe in every now and then. Pmsl at this site for introducing me to the life of swinging, all I've done is swing my debit card. More females may help however, I believe that if a woman likes the idea of this type of lifestyle then they'll find the site by themselves. Happy swinging everyone "Im not sure if your joking or being serious with your profile lol | |||
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"What I dont understand is why so many men have profiles pretending to be female?? There are plenty of visible pics,plenty of women looking for me ,what do they get out of it ?? ?? x" Because other men and possibly other women will indulge in sexy chat with a woman more readily than a man | |||
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"What I dont understand is why so many men have profiles pretending to be female?? There are plenty of visible pics,plenty of women looking for me ,what do they get out of it ?? ?? x Because other men and possibly other women will indulge in sexy chat with a woman more readily than a man" Sexual gratification bit creepy and doesn't safe guard other members as they haven't been verified by the site should a meet be arranged but also other members finding their images stolen and probably on another site needs to be at least some kind of security and claiming to be someone who they aren't leaving others vulnerable. | |||
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"What I dont understand is why so many men have profiles pretending to be female?? There are plenty of visible pics,plenty of women looking for me ,what do they get out of it ?? ?? x" Wank fodder. | |||
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"Hello OP here, I hear what you are saying and 100% agree. The guys (and girls) who are being abusive should be banned. However I'm talking more about the very nature of FAB here. FAB is a very very small pond from which to fish from for a lot of guys. The is no denying that the number of guys far exceeds that of the lovely ladies. Again I do NOT condone the abuse some people experience that you've spoken about however I feel it is worth understanding where it is born from. That is the fact that many men are getting frustrated with the lack of responses because there are simply not enough women. Outside of FAB if I got 'rejected' I'd move on and try speaking with another lady. The likely hood is that she would not have been bombarded with propositions and may therefore (if I'm lucky!) say 'yes' to me! However on FAB it is a smaller pond that we are fishing from and therefore no matter how good your equipment and tackle you may go months without landing a catch! Excuse the analogue -I'm not saying women are fish!
So my suggestion to try to encourage more ladies who may not be aware of FAB, at least to me doesn't seem like such a bad suggestion.
FAB grows, men become less frustrated as there chances of finding a lovely lady (or ladies!) to have fun with increases, and all those horny ladies who were unaware of the joys of FAB get some welcome sex that they were missing out on! "OP - abusive men choose to be abusive. Saying they can’t help it because they’re frustrated is excusing abuse. “I wanted sex and I didn’t get it, so I messaged a women and called her a fat ugly bitch”. That’s entitlement and abuse. Men are taught to feel entitled to women’s time, attention and bodies. Some men later think about this and learn that they aren’t entitled to anything. Those who continue to feel entitled also feel justified in verbally, physically or sexually abusing women. There is NO excuse. Your attitude to women is a concern. Your “solution” is to find more women to join Fab to give the potentially-abusive men someone to meet so they don’t get frustrated and then abusive??? Let’s say I’m new to Fab, having joined as part of your appease-abusive-men recruitment drive. I’m now alone in a room with one of these guys (one of the ones who gets abusive when he’s “frustrated”). What do you think is going to happen to me when I say no to something he wants? Will I get screamed at? Coerced? Assaulted? Threatened? Manipulated? Hurt? You need to look long and hard at your attitude to abuse against women. As a separate point, Fab makes a lot of money for its owners (as published on Companies House). The business model requires a lot of £5-a-time subscribers and there’s a disincentive to remove men in large numbers. | |||
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"Men aren't taught to feel entitled to women’s time, attention and bodies. Nowhere in my upbringing was this a thing. Its very simple, you have nice men and areshole men, and you have nice women and arsehole women. Surely the arseholes are easily spotted?! Bottom line, its a bit shallow to dump all men into this group of disrespectful aresholes, we're not all like that. " No offence intended, but there a lot of men who profess to be decent in public on this forum, but in private behave like scum. That means for the few decent guys on here it is even harder than ever! | |||
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"Men aren't taught to feel entitled to women’s time, attention and bodies. Nowhere in my upbringing was this a thing. Its very simple, you have nice men and areshole men, and you have nice women and arsehole women. Surely the arseholes are easily spotted?! Bottom line, its a bit shallow to dump all men into this group of disrespectful aresholes, we're not all like that. No offence intended, but there a lot of men who profess to be decent in public on this forum, but in private behave like scum. That means for the few decent guys on here it is even harder than ever!" Totally agree, there are so many men that claim to be gentlemen who then turn into giant arseholes in private, not only on here but in the outside world. | |||
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"Reading through the forums and having experienced first hand i can see something needs to be done about the massive inbalance of male to female ratio on FAB. Do you agree? If yes, then I have a simple solution and that is "we" fellow FABers find away to promote this wonderful group to more ladies. Being a single horny male I found this site relatively easily after a search online. However, and ladies let me know if I'm wrong, but I think a lot of ladies don't necessarily have the fervent persistence to actually independently find FAB themselves....? Maybe we need to be leaving "notes" in ladies locker rooms or covertly in a changing room at a sexy lingerie shop...maybe Anne Summers! To encourage more to join! It needs to be somewhere that majority of females will see it and consider joining. Rather than increase males What do you all think??? You I'm sure are not aware amount of ladies who have left due to the amount of abuse they constantly received so maybe more needs to be done about those who gives out this kind of conduct as most of us are here to enjoy getting to know others and enjoy the experiences that unfold just like amount of fakes that constantly keep coming back after being reported
I agree with this, too. Something didn’t sit right with me tonight. I politely asked a guy for face pics which he kindly sent. I also sent some. He then asked me to show him “the goods” to which I replied, “I don’t send nudes before a meet”…. To which he said something along the lines of “troubling, you asked for photos, granted a different area of the body, but won’t show the same courtesy” I said I’m not for you then. I feel uncomfortable about that conversation. It’s quite manipulative language!"He was probably just a photo collector. I don’t share intimate photos now. I have a few for friends only and if I don’t chat or meet someone on a regular basis I unfriendly them so they don’t have access. | |||
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"Reading through the forums and having experienced first hand i can see something needs to be done about the massive inbalance of male to female ratio on FAB. Do you agree? If yes, then I have a simple solution and that is "we" fellow FABers find away to promote this wonderful group to more ladies. Being a single horny male I found this site relatively easily after a search online. However, and ladies let me know if I'm wrong, but I think a lot of ladies don't necessarily have the fervent persistence to actually independently find FAB themselves....? Maybe we need to be leaving "notes" in ladies locker rooms or covertly in a changing room at a sexy lingerie shop...maybe Anne Summers! To encourage more to join! It needs to be somewhere that majority of females will see it and consider joining. Rather than increase males What do you all think??? You I'm sure are not aware amount of ladies who have left due to the amount of abuse they constantly received so maybe more needs to be done about those who gives out this kind of conduct as most of us are here to enjoy getting to know others and enjoy the experiences that unfold just like amount of fakes that constantly keep coming back after being reported
I agree with this, too. Something didn’t sit right with me tonight. I politely asked a guy for face pics which he kindly sent. I also sent some. He then asked me to show him “the goods” to which I replied, “I don’t send nudes before a meet”…. To which he said something along the lines of “troubling, you asked for photos, granted a different area of the body, but won’t show the same courtesy” I said I’m not for you then. I feel uncomfortable about that conversation. It’s quite manipulative language!
He was probably just a photo collector. I don’t share intimate photos now. I have a few for friends only and if I don’t chat or meet someone on a regular basis I unfriendly them so they don’t have access."If people choose to send nudes, that’s absolutely their choice. I just didn’t like the way he tried to make me feel like I was in the wrong for choosing not to! It’s screams of entitlement and it’s a right turn off!! | |||
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"There are ways Fab could identify all users then a ban would actually be enforceable. A decent sized initial registration fee/ deposit would also discourage rule breaking on the site as this would then be lost " Ive been on other sites where you pay alot more. Dosnt make any difference. Also it would put alot of people off, mostly women. | |||
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" Ive been on other sites where you pay alot more. Dosnt make any difference. Also it would put alot of people off, mostly women." I agree. There’s always a disproportionate ratio of men to women on sites like this despite paying or not. | |||
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