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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why's it so hard for newbies / single men to have fun on here? Hardly Brad Pitt but not even a bite yet ??

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By *ustme1820Woman
over a year ago

Southcoast Gosport


"Why's it so hard for newbies / single men to have fun on here? Hardly Brad Pitt but not even a bite yet ??"
what were you expecting as a married man within three weeks of being here op?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes time to get to know people, did you expect women to fall at your feet from day one??

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Many single men say the same thing.

It tends to be a case of getting out what you put in and managing expectations. Sex isn't guaranteed.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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"Why's it so hard for newbies / single men to have fun on here? Hardly Brad Pitt but not even a bite yet ?? what were you expecting as a married man within three weeks of being here op?. "

This.

And did you really expect quick success with very little effort.

What we're your expectations? This is called Fabswingers, not Instantfreesex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've been here three weeks, your profile text comprises of just two sentences, but at least you have a profile pic.

Yeah, I'm surprised the women aren't beating a path to your door

Single men massively, and I do mean massively outnumber the ladies and couples on fab, by at least 100 to 1 so you need to stand out from the crowd.

I can't give you profile advice as you haven't specifically asked for it, but you should be asking yourself if it's the best it can possibly be.

Try and put yourself in someone elses shoes.

Or were you perhaps of the view that all you need do would be to knock up a quick profile in five minutes and sit back and wait for the offers to come flooding in?

Fab doesn't work like that.

You need to be pro-active. Communicate with people.

Oh, and your current status is unlikely to impress either.

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex


"Why's it so hard for newbies / single men to have fun on here? Hardly Brad Pitt but not even a bite yet ??"

It's not hard if you approach it properly . The last 12 months are not typical with clubs and swinger pub socials postponed.

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By *lamorousBeautyLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"Why's it so hard for newbies / single men to have fun on here? Hardly Brad Pitt but not even a bite yet ??

It's not hard if you approach it properly . The last 12 months are not typical with clubs and swinger pub socials postponed. "

In general too wide a question but if you are asking specifically for yourself, I will give a blunt answer - because you are coming across as an angry man who is also entitled. This is very unattractive to many, personally I avoid angry men like the plague.

In addition to that, remember that many will stay away from getting involved with a married man who seems not to have his wife's permission to have sex with others. There will be people who will be interested however.

I would suggest to work on your attitude, expectations and profile. It is not easy to find a match and it requires effort (which takes different forms for all of us). It can be very rewarding when things work out - having realistic expectations and putting your best foot forward helps a lot.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

3 weeks is nothing plus your married so…..

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

Some men have been on here more than a year with no luck. Not quite sure what you were expecting op.

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By *ristolmark87Man
over a year ago

Southsea

Been on here couple of years not had much luck but you have to keep trying plus women on here get so many message they dont always get through them all plus timewasters probably not helping on here

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

OP, as others have said, what were your expectations when joining this site? Particularly when not that many people are happy to meet strangers yet?

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Effort = reward

Negativity reduces your chances further

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By *ionrampant500Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

Where on his profile does it say he is married?

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By *ustme1820Woman
over a year ago

Southcoast Gosport


"Where on his profile does it say he is married?

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it was on the op’s profile which he’s now removed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a newbie myself for about 3 months,if u haven't got a massive cock or look like a greek god,the chances of getting any interaction on here is very low.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"Being a newbie myself for about 3 months,if u haven't got a massive cock or look like a greek god,the chances of getting any interaction on here is very low."

Not true.. Plenty people meet and we are all ordinary folks.

Your profile is lacking photos , narrative and if it is s correct unfortunately you may find some like taller gentlemen.

The truth is joining during a pandemic is never going to be the best time.

Now things are opening up you should look at going to social events and some clubs perhaps.

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"Being a newbie myself for about 3 months,if u haven't got a massive cock or look like a greek god,the chances of getting any interaction on here is very low."

Utter nonsense. M is not a Greek God and doesn't have a massive cock (sorry M )

However he has well over 120 meet verifications on his single male profile.

E

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh what a surprise, OP is UNLOS

We see so many of these single men who join fab with high expectations thinking that it's dial-a-shag and that everyone fucks everyone - like some massive orgy.

Swinging is just as misunderstood as other things like the freemasons

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd


"Being a newbie myself for about 3 months,if u haven't got a massive cock or look like a greek god,the chances of getting any interaction on here is very low."

Effort in = results. If you make an effort with your profile and pics and attend socials, you’ll find fab more rewarding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a newbie myself for about 3 months,if u haven't got a massive cock or look like a greek god,the chances of getting any interaction on here is very low.

Effort in = results. If you make an effort with your profile and pics and attend socials, you’ll find fab more rewarding. "

Totally agree, been here 3 months and had 12 meets not including the regular meets that have been around 3 times a week. And no, dont have a massive cock and don't look like a Greek god.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"Being a newbie myself for about 3 months,if u haven't got a massive cock or look like a greek god,the chances of getting any interaction on here is very low."

Having a profile pic should give you a little bit more of a chance.

We can't understand why it isn't mandatory to have one.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Why's it so hard for newbies / single men to have fun on here? Hardly Brad Pitt but not even a bite yet ??

It's not hard if you approach it properly . The last 12 months are not typical with clubs and swinger pub socials postponed.

In general too wide a question but if you are asking specifically for yourself, I will give a blunt answer - because you are coming across as an angry man who is also entitled. This is very unattractive to many, personally I avoid angry men like the plague.

In addition to that, remember that many will stay away from getting involved with a married man who seems not to have his wife's permission to have sex with others. There will be people who will be interested however.

I would suggest to work on your attitude, expectations and profile. It is not easy to find a match and it requires effort (which takes different forms for all of us). It can be very rewarding when things work out - having realistic expectations and putting your best foot forward helps a lot."
I tend to just post to people I like politely telling them I am interested a d if I get a reply thats fine if I don't or they delete my message I don't worry about it. This site is not worth getting myself in a twist about.

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