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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello!

I really just want to get my first meet out the way! Being honest I have slept with plenty of girls in the non swinging world but just want to meet with a couple!

Anyone got any advice on how to get this first meet out the way as a lot of couples don't trust young guns x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello!

I really just want to get my first meet out the way! Being honest I have slept with plenty of girls in the non swinging world but just want to meet with a couple!

Anyone got any advice on how to get this first meet out the way as a lot of couples don't trust young guns x"

Go to a club, The club we go to the most is open to single guys on fridays and sundays and there are lots of couples that go to meet single guys... and get them to verify you on fab after you have met. its a good way to be social and also a good way to meet couples that actually want single guys.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That may be something I will have to look at doing! I will have to get past the nerves and just do it! I have always found the idea of a club as a lot more daunting than just meeting with people xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That may be something I will have to look at doing! I will have to get past the nerves and just do it! I have always found the idea of a club as a lot more daunting than just meeting with people xx"

well its probally not as daunting as you think, and you will get people give you a chance who will just dismiss you completely on here, so just go along to one with no expectations to play but socialise and have a crack with a few couples and maybe you play that night or maybe you make a few contacts to play in future in private, or at least get some verifications from people who are on here who just want to say ur a good guy and they met you and your genuine etc, whichever the outcome it should help you get meets on here afters

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Robbie, your talking a lot of sense there. I definatly am going to consider a club now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That may be something I will have to look at doing! I will have to get past the nerves and just do it! I have always found the idea of a club as a lot more daunting than just meeting with people xx"

well i would say come down to our local club its very friendly and people are very open to chatting down there, but your a bit far away lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Far is an understatement but if I ever find myself on a lonely night down there if I go there with work I will have to give it a try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Far is an understatement but if I ever find myself on a lonely night down there if I go there with work I will have to give it a try

lol clearly your not a fan of travel then lol... we have travelled far and wide to meet new people and try out new clubs lol its all part of the fun, seeing new places, meeting new people and having new experiences ( or the same ones with new people in new places

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello!

I really just want to get my first meet out the way! Being honest I have slept with plenty of girls in the non swinging world but just want to meet with a couple!

Anyone got any advice on how to get this first meet out the way as a lot of couples don't trust young guns x"

A club is your best way to go not that I've ever been to one so can't advise you where to go sorry. Just be polite and honest about what your looking for and always be yourself and good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think making that extra effort in getting out and about and verified shows also to others that you are genuine..not a dreamer or timewaster as well.just remember that the verification can work against you as well.too many may make you just appear a party animal.hope this makes sense?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Its not that I am not a fan of traveling to meet people lol its more of the fact that's its a very long way to go for a club, as there are probaly similar clubs closer. However when its a case of traveling to meet people it is often worth going further a field for a more quality meet xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeh I get you! To be honest I would prefer to find quality repeated meets than just one night things x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe talking about 'getting it out of the way' puts anyone off being your first?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For someone who has never been to a swingers club before (like myself) it's going to be a bit of a daunting experience to go into one on your own, never mind drive 'far & wide' to get there as well.

Personally I wouldn't go out to a 'normal' club on my own - bit of the 'spare part at a wedding' syndrome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try going to an organised social event where likeminded people have a meal and a drink,been to one myself its a good way for people to find out your a genuine person

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over a year ago

other stuff that will hold you back other than verifications or age etc is another thing

you cant accomodate, nor do you have any face pics in public,

although this dont mean you wont find meets people often get suspicious that maybe your attached even if your not, and also people like to see whos messages they are reading, often click profiles before click messages.

so helps a lot if you got facepic, bodypic, cock pic and pictures should be in roughly equal proportions, no one needs to see 50 pics of just one of them from different angles. but a couple of each or just one of each will help create a lot of interest as well

you might not want to disclose your face thought, thats your choice but quite often the chance you might of got to start conversation with someone new might pass if you dont as they pic someone who does show their pics publically , might not be fair but these are things that often hold guys back also on here, when they wondering a few weeks/months down the line why they still havent got anywhere.

so if you want to help improove your chances think about getting them also.

bit like ive done on mine, that coupled with my verifications works well for me when contacting new people and also get people message me also

as it gives people a chance to check out your profile and even lust after it, like you must have a few profiles with class pictures that you always check out every so often coz u fancy them, well if they didnt show their face or anything then you probally wouldnt bother looking back again, but if its all to see then gives people the chance to fancy you to get in touch themselves.

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