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By *rb2020 OP   Man
over a year ago

romford

This is mainly for the women on here but what is the best introduction message to send to women on here because it is really annoying getting no replies back

Understand women get more messages on here than men on here and expect but what can make me stand out on here a little bit

Because we all know sending a women a picture of your piece doesnt really work

Really appreciate it if you could help me and let me know please

Thank you very much for your time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is mainly for the women on here but what is the best introduction message to send to women on here because it is really annoying getting no replies back

Understand women get more messages on here than men on here and expect but what can make me stand out on here a little bit

Because we all know sending a women a picture of your piece doesnt really work

Really appreciate it if you could help me and let me know please

Thank you very much for your time "

As you've asked the question.....

There isn't a one size fits all message to send to people that guarantees a response. Cut and paste messages are really obvious to those who receive them, as we have, many, many times!

It's great to get involved in the forum's, and pick up tips.....but.

Our perspective is that if you need to ask how to write your profile, and how to message people, you wouldn't work for us. We like people who know who they are, what they want and are honest about what they say.

Be yourself and you'll get responses from people who match up.

Good luck

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By *ustme1820Woman
over a year ago

Southcoast Gosport


"This is mainly for the women on here but what is the best introduction message to send to women on here because it is really annoying getting no replies back

Understand women get more messages on here than men on here and expect but what can make me stand out on here a little bit

Because we all know sending a women a picture of your piece doesnt really work

Really appreciate it if you could help me and let me know please

Thank you very much for your time "
There is no best intro message, people will look for all different things from a message. Having a good profile and pictures might help, not always. Read the persons profile and use that as a basis of a message. You’ve had meets, surely you could use the message style to used to introduce yourself then op

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By *rb2020 OP   Man
over a year ago

romford

Well it was just some advice that was needed why is everyone so uptight on here

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By *rb2020 OP   Man
over a year ago

romford

You get people try to tear in to you for no reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You get people try to tear in to you for no reason"

You asked for advice and you got it. If you think that is tearing into you then I wonder how you will cope on here with people not responding to messages and you getting messages of rejection.

Try seeing the responses you get as constructive even if you don't entirely like what's been said.

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By *rb2020 OP   Man
over a year ago

romford

Did not say it was you

Was just generally talking about it

Grateful and respect the fact you take the time to help me out

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By *rb2020 OP   Man
over a year ago

romford

Getting knocked back on here is part and parcel of being on here and totally get that

That is the way it goes

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By *nblemishedhotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Stratford

Not just you like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well it was just some advice that was needed why is everyone so uptight on here "

You asked for advice dnt think anyone has ripped into you. A well thought out personal message after reading their profile to see if they are for you and vice versa. Saves rejection

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By *rb2020 OP   Man
over a year ago

romford

Yeah that comment was being said just on general

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

Another piece of advice, both for OP and for all who wonder why their messages are not answered. Please read the FAQ, it clearly states no reply= thanks, but no, thanks.

It's impossible to reply to every single message (especially for some women and couples). And sometimes even if you would like to reply, there are just no words to use, because the message was so bad/shocking or difficult to understand.

One more point- do you reply to every single piece of junk mail that comes through your letterbox or inbox in your email?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

For me a good message shows they have read my profile and maybe refers to something in it

Just be polite and friendly, but not crude.

To be fair I think many women will always check profiles too, when deciding if they will reply.

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By *rb2020 OP   Man
over a year ago

romford

A bit lost to what the op member is

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By *rb2020 OP   Man
over a year ago

romford


"Another piece of advice, both for OP and for all who wonder why their messages are not answered. Please read the FAQ, it clearly states no reply= thanks, but no, thanks.

It's impossible to reply to every single message (especially for some women and couples). And sometimes even if you would like to reply, there are just no words to use, because the message was so bad/shocking or difficult to understand.

One more point- do you reply to every single piece of junk mail that comes through your letterbox or inbox in your email?"

What does the op mean

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By *rb2020 OP   Man
over a year ago

romford

And yeah totally understand never send a rude message any way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Original poster... In this thread that's you OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And in answer to your question... There is no best message or magic formula.

My female friend in here gets nigh on 120 messages a day. Mostly it's pure luck if yours even gets opened. matter how well thought out, or well written.

But do what others have said, read the profile.

Just stick with it. And one day, you'll see that little yellow messages icon...

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By *rb2020 OP   Man
over a year ago

romford

Oh okay then thank you very much will defiantly take that on

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

Hi there mate and I’ve been on here for a while now and it really doesn’t matter what you put in your message to a lady most of them say please don’t say hi or hello in your message so what do you put that’s what i world like to know and you really just have to wait and then you will get a lady that will chat with you and more likely it will be late at night when no one is on here

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By *ubwife4uCouple
over a year ago

Kent

Just send a dick pic. All the ladies and couples love them !

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The best message is your message that relates to the person you are contacting. Ie it is honest, reflects you and your personality and is warm. Don't be pushy, arrogant or assuming of anything. You're investing in yourself, not in them and must not expect anything in return ever, apart from respect - even if it's silent. If you can't cope with silent rejection, you need to adjust your expectations. During the pandemic, assume that any message you send that's unsolicited, could be viewed as pushing for a dangerous liaison. Notwithstanding that, everyone has things and people who are of significantly higher priority right now, than some unknown no strings person making contact

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By *rb2020 OP   Man
over a year ago

romford

Thank you for that

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By *rb2020 OP   Man
over a year ago

romford


"Hi there mate and I’ve been on here for a while now and it really doesn’t matter what you put in your message to a lady most of them say please don’t say hi or hello in your message so what do you put that’s what i world like to know and you really just have to wait and then you will get a lady that will chat with you and more likely it will be late at night when no one is on here "

Thank you for that

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"The best message is your message that relates to the person you are contacting. Ie it is honest, reflects you and your personality and is warm. Don't be pushy, arrogant or assuming of anything. You're investing in yourself, not in them and must not expect anything in return ever, apart from respect - even if it's silent. If you can't cope with silent rejection, you need to adjust your expectations. During the pandemic, assume that any message you send that's unsolicited, could be viewed as pushing for a dangerous liaison. Notwithstanding that, everyone has things and people who are of significantly higher priority right now, than some unknown no strings person making contact "

Really well put.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The best message is your message that relates to the person you are contacting. Ie it is honest, reflects you and your personality and is warm. Don't be pushy, arrogant or assuming of anything. You're investing in yourself, not in them and must not expect anything in return ever, apart from respect - even if it's silent. If you can't cope with silent rejection, you need to adjust your expectations. During the pandemic, assume that any message you send that's unsolicited, could be viewed as pushing for a dangerous liaison. Notwithstanding that, everyone has things and people who are of significantly higher priority right now, than some unknown no strings person making contact

Really well put.

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Totally agree. Personally when someone mentions something that's on our profile it just shows they've taken the time to read it too.

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west

Wow there is an actual whole section for introductions here mind has completely blown right now is it really rocket science on how to introduce yourself to someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t send a dick pic with a one liner, be respectful and pick up on something from profile you can use as an introduction... be nice xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be respectful and not send out the same universal message to all

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