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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know we are in lockdown and meets are not meant to happen but I’m asking for advice for the future. I’ve been on and off this site for around 1 year now and still giving it my all trying to impress somebody that grabs my attention! What am I doing wrong? Any advice given will be appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More pics mate, you’re a good looking lad, few more could help

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

What does giving it your all look like ?

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By *ouple4camsCouple
over a year ago

Dundalk(ish)

Yeah, more pics and more detail in your profile.

No idea what approach you take in messages but if you're one of the "hi, how are you?" brigade or "free tonight, want to meet?" squad then you won't make much progress.

Once clubs reopen get yourself to an event (social or play- doesn't matter) and try and get verified- that goes a long way.

Good luck.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes more pics and also a lengthier, more informative profile. A status that isn't negative would help too. Best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks a lot of taking the time to reply really appreciate it and I’ll put it to good use!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice but I quick question, what makes you take a deeper look and makes you not only reply but really catches your eye?x

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By *ouple4camsCouple
over a year ago

Dundalk(ish)


"Thanks for the advice but I quick question, what makes you take a deeper look and makes you not only reply but really catches your eye?x"

No hard and fast rules for everyone, but for us...

In a message its got to be a bit of an effort to pick something from our profile as a hook to open conversation perhaps, or a compliment on a pic, maybe a comment about sharing a like etc.

Making an effort gets a reply, even if its a polite thanks but not for us. Single word or single line messages get deleted without even a click through to profile.

Pics are very subjective so can't advise on those beyond saying for us make sure they present the image you'd want people to see if the came round, i.e. clean and well presented ( you and the background )

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Great advice, good to get an insight into what some people look for and to be frank I do put in effort to read and I always send a message first taking into account their profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don’t send the usual 1 line messages, I always take time to read the profile and put abit of thought into the message I’m sending x

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By *ouple4camsCouple
over a year ago

Dundalk(ish)


"I don’t send the usual 1 line messages, I always take time to read the profile and put abit of thought into the message I’m sending x"

Keep doing that and you'll get there. Tricky at the minute of course but you're on the right track

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I will do! Plus I think that because I’m not verified that plays a factor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know we are in lockdown and meets are not meant to happen but I’m asking for advice for the future. I’ve been on and off this site for around 1 year now and still giving it my all trying to impress somebody that grabs my attention! What am I doing wrong? Any advice given will be appreciated."

You have a crap profile.

A LOT more effort is needed.

Do you honestly think that it is that easy??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know we are in lockdown and meets are not meant to happen but I’m asking for advice for the future. I’ve been on and off this site for around 1 year now and still giving it my all trying to impress somebody that grabs my attention! What am I doing wrong? Any advice given will be appreciated.

You have a crap profile.

A LOT more effort is needed.

Do you honestly think that it is that easy??"

Stefandher your own profile isn’t exactly great, 1 pic, no verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know we are in lockdown and meets are not meant to happen but I’m asking for advice for the future. I’ve been on and off this site for around 1 year now and still giving it my all trying to impress somebody that grabs my attention! What am I doing wrong? Any advice given will be appreciated.

You have a crap profile.

A LOT more effort is needed.

Do you honestly think that it is that easy??

Stefandher your own profile isn’t exactly great, 1 pic, no verifications "

BiRyan. Our profile tells everyone exactly what we do and what we are looking for, unlike some on here that have a one sentence two-line profile.

The one pic is what we choose. Even with just one we get a load of dick single guys bothering us.

Obviously you are not very aware of this site, our profile is verified by others, in fact many however we choose not to show them. Look to the left of our profile. Four verifications by four couples.

And the biggy of course, we aren't on the Forum asking how to impress people and how to improve our profile.

Enjoy your time on here.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"I know we are in lockdown and meets are not meant to happen but I’m asking for advice for the future. I’ve been on and off this site for around 1 year now and still giving it my all trying to impress somebody that grabs my attention! What am I doing wrong? Any advice given will be appreciated.

You have a crap profile.

A LOT more effort is needed.

Do you honestly think that it is that easy??

Stefandher your own profile isn’t exactly great, 1 pic, no verifications "

The Op asked for Profile advice not Stefandher, in fact commenting on their profile and criticising them can lead to a forum ban.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know we are in lockdown and meets are not meant to happen but I’m asking for advice for the future. I’ve been on and off this site for around 1 year now and still giving it my all trying to impress somebody that grabs my attention! What am I doing wrong? Any advice given will be appreciated.

You have a crap profile.

A LOT more effort is needed.

Do you honestly think that it is that easy??

Stefandher your own profile isn’t exactly great, 1 pic, no verifications

The Op asked for Profile advice not Stefandher, in fact commenting on their profile and criticising them can lead to a forum ban.

"

We did comment on his profile didn't we?

We didn't criticise, we simply stated a fact.

He wanted to know what he is doing wrong, we told him.

Simple really.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"I know we are in lockdown and meets are not meant to happen but I’m asking for advice for the future. I’ve been on and off this site for around 1 year now and still giving it my all trying to impress somebody that grabs my attention! What am I doing wrong? Any advice given will be appreciated."

The interest in this site has seriously diminished recently due to Covid restrictions, so people who would normally be on the site looking for meets or going to clubs won’t be around.

You have a general guy profile and that’s not a compliment, it just doesn’t stand out. Add more pictures and create a bio worth reading then hopefully you’ll get some interest in the future.

However the best way to get the most out of the site is by posting on the forums or chat rooms. Then when socials and clubs reopen, get to some and get known.

Good luck Op

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"I know we are in lockdown and meets are not meant to happen but I’m asking for advice for the future. I’ve been on and off this site for around 1 year now and still giving it my all trying to impress somebody that grabs my attention! What am I doing wrong? Any advice given will be appreciated.

You have a crap profile.

A LOT more effort is needed.

Do you honestly think that it is that easy??

Stefandher your own profile isn’t exactly great, 1 pic, no verifications

The Op asked for Profile advice not Stefandher, in fact commenting on their profile and criticising them can lead to a forum ban.

We did comment on his profile didn't we?

We didn't criticise, we simply stated a fact.

He wanted to know what he is doing wrong, we told him.

Simple really."

Absolutely agree

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield


"I know we are in lockdown and meets are not meant to happen but I’m asking for advice for the future. I’ve been on and off this site for around 1 year now and still giving it my all trying to impress somebody that grabs my attention! What am I doing wrong? Any advice given will be appreciated.

You have a crap profile.

A LOT more effort is needed.

Do you honestly think that it is that easy??

Stefandher your own profile isn’t exactly great, 1 pic, no verifications

The Op asked for Profile advice not Stefandher, in fact commenting on their profile and criticising them can lead to a forum ban. "

Erm... Maybe worth reading what was actually said not what you think was said before you you get your knickers in a twist with:


" We did comment on his profile didn't we?

We didn't criticise, we simply stated a fact.

He wanted to know what he is doing wrong, we told him.

Simple really."

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By *en EdmundsMan
over a year ago

Anytown


"I know we are in lockdown and meets are not meant to happen but I’m asking for advice for the future. I’ve been on and off this site for around 1 year now and still giving it my all trying to impress somebody that grabs my attention! What am I doing wrong? Any advice given will be appreciated.

You have a crap profile.

A LOT more effort is needed.

Do you honestly think that it is that easy??

Stefandher your own profile isn’t exactly great, 1 pic, no verifications "

I have taken a look at their profile. It is well written, and explains exactly what they want and don't want, and they are verified. Oh, and even if there is only one photo, it is pretty good!

Maybe you could explain what is so bad about it Biryan, or are you just another single guy mouthing off??

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"I know we are in lockdown and meets are not meant to happen but I’m asking for advice for the future. I’ve been on and off this site for around 1 year now and still giving it my all trying to impress somebody that grabs my attention! What am I doing wrong? Any advice given will be appreciated.

You have a crap profile.

A LOT more effort is needed.

Do you honestly think that it is that easy??

Stefandher your own profile isn’t exactly great, 1 pic, no verifications

I have taken a look at their profile. "

When you helped write it?

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