FabSwingers.com forum: Making connections during lockdown

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not meeting during lockdown but looking to make some good connections for when this is all over. Anyone else finding that connections you make fizzle out the longer this lockdown goes on?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

And I thought this was only happening to me!

I have had a lot of very nice, horny and flirtatious chats with several ladies and couples with the promise of taking things further after lockdown. And then the conversation as you say just fizzles out. I think lockdown part 3 has just exasperated everyone - you can only keep edging for so long and it’s coming up to a year now. Can’t blame anyone for feeling fed up can you?

Stay safe and keep smiling x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And I thought this was only happening to me!

Stay safe and keep smiling x"

You too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And I thought this was only happening to me!

Stay safe and keep smiling x

You too

I think your right on everyone feeling abit fed up, we go through times we cant even be bothered with the site but unfortunately I think we are a long way off clubs reopening

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

I can understand what you’re saying. Some do and a very few Dont I’m finding. Just got to plug away and keep positive there’s new friends out there. Hopefully

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can understand what you’re saying. Some do and a very few Dont I’m finding. Just got to plug away and keep positive there’s new friends out there. Hopefully

Thanks we haven't thrown in the towel yet

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

Ops sorry I didn’t mean it like that. And to be honest I’m having the same experience to.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *orderboyblueMan
over a year ago

Scottish Borders

Clubs won't be opening this yr.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ops sorry I didn’t mean it like that. And to be honest I’m having the same experience to."

No offence taken. I only posted cos I wondered if others that had joined during covid were experiencing the same. We joined and boom March lockdown came in so hadn't already got links on here

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Clubs won't be opening this yr. "

Thats what we feel too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, feeling it both on here and dating sites. It's makes it difficult not knowing even when you could approx meet...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rucker1111Man
over a year ago

crewe

I think a lot of people are FaceTimeing camming and the like not like the real thing but could be fun I think not tryed but you never know

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"Not meeting during lockdown but looking to make some good connections for when this is all over. Anyone else finding that connections you make fizzle out the longer this lockdown goes on?"

I empathise with this and I'm probably one of the worst offenders ....

There's only so many " how are you , what you up to , do you have any plans , did you have a good weekend , hope you're keeping safe blah blah blah blah and another blah for good measure " I can do before I get bored through noone's fault .

I have a short attention span when it comes to "abstract people" ... I'm a let's chat for a few days and meet within a couple of weeks kinda girl or the goldfish syndromes takes over .

So after 10 months of this , I am no longer in touch with anyone I chatted to at the beginning.

I'm not that good at keeping in touch with the people I have met either , to be fair I'm a terrible pen pal

Which doesn't mean that things won't rekindle once this is over

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *he Cram-BetweensCouple
over a year ago

A Club or Your Bedroom!

We've taken to asking the people we like to wait and contact us again in the future for the time being as we were also suffering the same problem with the chat going stale after a few days.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We've taken to asking the people we like to wait and contact us again in the future for the time being as we were also suffering the same problem with the chat going stale after a few days. "

We have done that with a few too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not meeting during lockdown but looking to make some good connections for when this is all over. Anyone else finding that connections you make fizzle out the longer this lockdown goes on?

I empathise with this and I'm probably one of the worst offenders ....

I have a short attention span when it comes to "abstract people" ... I'm a let's chat for a few days and meet within a couple of weeks kinda girl or the goldfish syndromes takes over .

So after 10 months of this , I am no longer in touch with anyone I chatted to at the beginning.

I'm not that good at keeping in touch with the people I have met either , to be fair I'm a terrible pen pal

Which doesn't mean that things won't rekindle once this is over

I think you've hit it on the head everyone has had enough and under normal circumstances would have either met or passed by

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even pre covid it could be hard at times to maintain contact if you couldn’t meet up fairly quickly after the initial few messages.

We are currently in contact with a few people from here who have become good friends but our interest in Fab is waning the longer the pandemic continues. I enjoy using the forums and would recommend them as a way of interacting with other Fabsters.

This WILL come to an end eventually. Don’t give up OP

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou so much for your responses, it has put things into perspective for us and we will perhaps try the forums and cam

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

"Thankyou so much for your responses, it has put things into perspective for us and we will perhaps try the forums and cam "

May as well give it a try yes. Not myself I never look any good in pictures or cameras.

could be a very good experience for you both

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thankyou so much for your responses, it has put things into perspective for us and we will perhaps try the forums and cam

May as well give it a try yes. Not myself I never look any good in pictures or cameras.

could be a very good experience for you both "

Trust me i don't look great on camera or pics either but he is much more photogenic

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

"Thankyou so much for your responses, it has put things into perspective for us and we will perhaps try the forums and cam

May as well give it a try yes. Not myself I never look any good in pictures or cameras.

could be a very good experience for you both

Trust me i don't look great on camera or pics either but he is much more photogenic"

Lol that wouldn’t work for me (he’s is much more photogrnic) but he’s going to be busy

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

"Not meeting during lockdown but looking to make some good connections for when this is all over. Anyone else finding that connections you make fizzle out the longer this lockdown goes on?"

Difficult to keep things active when the time that passes between initial contact and actual contact is getting so long, but it is simply not worth the risks involved to hook up right now.

Guess it takes more effort to keep in touch with written words here in pms than in actual life off the site meeting face to face.

We have become a nation of expecting instant gratification for things, so I guess we have to learn more patience again.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

For me the conversations that have lasted tend to be ones that aren't primarily sexual. There's only so much you can say about sex before it gets very repetitive and quite dull.

The people I chat to about books, films, memories, ambitions, families, jobs, tv programs, everyday life, well we never run out of things to discuss so the conversation tends to flow more easily.

Of course sometimes the more you get to know each other the more you realise you have little in common and don't want to continue chatting, but it beats trying to talk dirty for ten months!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very up front, I am not not making plans with anyone,I am honest and don't beat about the Bush, I am just going with the flow and just taking each day at a time.

Some are OK some are not, I also found that some guys got needy and get upset if I don't reply right away. So every now and again I come off for a few weeks.

Those who like chatting come back and chat others I don't hear from again

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d love to make some new connections during lockdown. Just chatting for the time being is better than nothing I suppose. At the risk of sounding desperate, message me!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not meeting during lockdown but looking to make some good connections for when this is all over. Anyone else finding that connections you make fizzle out the longer this lockdown goes on?

I empathise with this and I'm probably one of the worst offenders ....

I have a short attention span when it comes to "abstract people" ... I'm a let's chat for a few days and meet within a couple of weeks kinda girl or the goldfish syndromes takes over .

So after 10 months of this , I am no longer in touch with anyone I chatted to at the beginning.

I'm not that good at keeping in touch with the people I have met either , to be fair I'm a terrible pen pal

Which doesn't mean that things won't rekindle once this is over

You are absolutely spot on.. how many times can you say the same things over and over it gets incredibly boring. And so many on here, particularly ladies are very reticent to ditch the text messages and have a phone chat or cam.. I sometimes suggest it as it's something different and it allows you to put a voice to the picture.. Not sure we will get back to any normality this year.. it will take that long to get everyone vaccinated...its like we're trapped inside and living an 90s horror movie..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *antonkid1955Man
over a year ago

cardiff

Absolutely.. I'm in a 3 sum with a local married couple and have been for a number of years.

I would pick them up and take them out for a curry, we would go back to their house and hubby would watch us fuck..he is an excellent cuck,, and he meets my every need.

Can't even meet up for a coffee now..given the texts we send I believe that it's starting to fizzle now,,question is...how do we relight the fire when all this is over?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *antonkid1955Man
over a year ago

cardiff

Absolutely.. I'm in a 3 sum with a local married couple and have been for a number of years.

I would pick them up and take them out for a curry, we would go back to their house and hubby would watch us fuck..he is an excellent cuck,, and he meets my every need.

Can't even meet up for a coffee now..given the texts we send I believe that it's starting to fizzle out ,question is...how do we relight the fire when all this is over?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Absolutely.. I'm in a 3 sum with a local married couple and have been for a number of years.

I would pick them up and take them out for a curry, we would go back to their house and hubby would watch us fuck..he is an excellent cuck,, and he meets my every need.

Can't even meet up for a coffee now..given the texts we send I believe that it's starting to fizzle out ,question is...how do we relight the fire when all this is over? "

When you can meet up they will be gagging for things to continue as they were - just as much as you and everyone else.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

During the first lockdown I stuck up conversations with a few new people. I’ve since gone on to be really good friends with two ladies I chatted to back then. I also started chatting to a number of couples who visited me for massages after restrictions were eased.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not meeting during lockdown but looking to make some good connections for when this is all over. Anyone else finding that connections you make fizzle out the longer this lockdown goes on?"

Totally this.

We have got to the point where if its a message from a profile that may interest us then we explain that for us life is pretty busy currently working through the pandemic, new baby etc however pre covid we would have definitely been interested. Therefore we will add them to our hot list and once the pandemic is finally over, its safe to meet and clubs are open properly if they at that stage want to send us a message again it would be greatly appreciated or we may send a message to them at that point.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was chatting to a man I was very interested in meeting but when the 3rd lockdown started I explained I will not be available until it is allowed.

He did not reply but was online. So I blocked him.

I am not legally allowed to form a bubble because my son's live at home, so I will not.

It is frustrating because I haven't had sex since I parted company from my long-term FWB in Nov 19.

But it is what it is.

I haven't managed to form a connection with anyone during lockdown, most messaging me want to meet for sex now.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread