FabSwingers.com forum: ATTENTON!!!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Getting attention is in my opinion the most difficult part of being a single male Fabber in his 40's.

The competition is very strong with a lot of great looking fit fellas on here, but are they getting all the attantion?

What about us older gents with a little more to offer than just a 6 pack and a big cock. Or is that what ladies are wanting nowadays. For me once I have attention it usually goes really well. But its the initial "HEY look at me" that I struggle with. Just a question really but any advice would be greatly appreciated. This year has taught me that I need much more fun in my life and I am determined to get it in 2021!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I hate incorrect spelling "ATTENTION!"

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You say any advice would be appreciated. My advice is to read through your profile again and check that everything it says is still relevant. For example you say we will never see a face pic on your profile yet you have two.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah just added those this morning. Thanks for reminding me to update the profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you look and sound good to be honest but don't Diss other people as the reason your not getting attention, good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the reply. I don’t want to diss anyone I am not jealous at all of younger guys with great bodies and big cocks. Good luck to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, getting a tent on is a problem more specific to the looser trousered male.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol thats a funny reply!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You only needed to say "single male" age/body type/cock size, has nothing to do with how successful someone is, of rarely at least... Attraction is everything and we all like something different.. Except for attitude, I think we all like a decent one of those, eh?

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By *unlovers70Couple
over a year ago

Overseas

"I hate incorrect spelling "ATTENTION!"

So do I but funnily enough that's what drew me to read the post

Your profile looks good to me, albeit rather long even for a female - that comment did make me laugh though as so correct

Mrs

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

If you take your time to message really well, be completely honest about your current situation and aren’t too keen / pushy , you will almost always get a reply.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

As has been said already time and patience a lot of us haven’t been getting much attention because of the pandemic. So many aren’t making any plans, so think how you construct your messages and you’ll do well.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

"If you take your time to message really well, be completely honest about your current situation and aren’t too keen / pushy , you will almost always get a reply. "

Yes indeed, and reading/digesting the profiles of those you're messaging helps too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the reply. I don’t want to diss anyone I am not jealous at all of younger guys with great bodies and big cocks. Good luck to them

It's the implication that cause they have a good body they have little else to offer that's a bit disrespectful tho. That's all I was saying.

Good luck.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"Thanks for the reply. I don’t want to diss anyone I am not jealous at all of younger guys with great bodies and big cocks. Good luck to them

It's the implication that cause they have a good body they have little else to offer that's a bit disrespectful tho. That's all I was saying.

Good luck. "

It does seem like a backhanded comment

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was once one of those young fit guys. It certainly was mentioned as more tongue in cheek as like "what the hell does an older guy have to do here to get some attention". I know a load of young guys that are in shape that are nice, decent fellas too. Am I envious, of course, I am. Who wouldnt want to be young, in shape and lusted after! I do know however that the right people will find me in time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I agree about attitude, its my greatest quality and served me well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I never implied that at all. My mind never once thought about that until you raised it.Being a confident secure fella why would I. Good luck to all the big cocked, fit fellas with loads more to offer. Fill your boots because one day you will be writing a postlike the one I did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like a pretty perfect profile to me? I love a well written profile, and your pictures are great! Difficult for me to advise as we aren’t looking for single guys right now so our profile blocks messages, but in hearing from friends who do, they simply get overwhelmed with number of messages and they just can’t keep on top of them, which means great profiles like yours could easily get missed. Perhaps ensuring you post on forums every now and then may encourage people to be directed to you, rather than chancing getting lost in ‘the pile’. I know I will often check out profiles of people I may not have considered before based on forum posts. Hope that’s helpful!! Eve xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never implied that at all. My mind never once thought about that until you raised it.Being a confident secure fella why would I. Good luck to all the big cocked, fit fellas with loads more to offer. Fill your boots because one day you will be writing a postlike the one I did."

Perhaps you didn't mean to but you said this.....

What about us older gents with a little more to offer than just a 6 pack and a big cock. Or is that what ladies are wanting nowadays

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fair cop, wasn't meant that way but I get what you meant by your comment and I now accept that could be read in the way of an insult. Apologies to anyone that may have read it that way and thanks for highlighting it so I can correct myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Massively helpful and very much appreciated Eve. I will take your advice and action it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fair cop, wasn't meant that way but I get what you meant by your comment and I now accept that could be read in the way of an insult. Apologies to anyone that may have read it that way and thanks for highlighting it so I can correct myself."

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think you could improve your profile pic. What is the point of posting a nude pic with a big black scribble on it ? If you dont want to be seen naked, a pic with boxers on would look much better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have everything going for you. Its just there are loads of guys and very few women.

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

As someone who gets her fair share of messages, those which mention something on my profile jump out. Manners are good.

I also frequent the forums a lot so perhaps discussing a topic there or a comment I raised. Those are more likely to get a wee discussion that could lead to more. Not a guarantee but its a start.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"I hate incorrect spelling "ATTENTION!"

So do I but funnily enough that's what drew me to read the post

Your profile looks good to me, albeit rather long even for a female - that comment did make me laugh though as so correct

Mrs

Is it bad I did not register it as being incorrect?

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By *rCh0c0lateMan
over a year ago

Welling

Thanks for the reply ladies. It's always good to hear it from your point of view.

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