FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Introductions

Advice for a shy inexperienced new member

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys, I've not long joined this site, I'm not a bad looking bloke and with a decent size. while I have had a couple of replies etc, a large amount of the messages I send don't get a reply so I'm assuming it's because of my inexperience on a site like this and not really knowing what to say. Is there any advice you could give me for better success?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We almost never read messages from guys without a profile picture, and almost never reply to messages from guys without any public pics.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ahh OK, may be a silly question but does it have to be a face picture? I don't mind posting cock pictures but I've seen a lot of profiles dislike that so I wasn't sure what to post. Thanks for your reply!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"Ahh OK, may be a silly question but does it have to be a face picture? I don't mind posting cock pictures but I've seen a lot of profiles dislike that so I wasn't sure what to post. Thanks for your reply! "

We won't meet a guy unless we've seen a face pic or three, and a cock pic. We don't especially like cock pics in first messages, but we expect to see them in a profile.

We do tend to think that if a guy ONLY has cock pics then he thinks that's all there is about him, and quickly pass on by.

A good mix, recent and representative, is all that's needed. Avoiding toilets, messy backgrounds, other women and the "grip of death" that is supposed to make it look big, but just looks like it's being throttled into submission.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *redwilma666Couple
over a year ago

Kilbirnie

Preferably looking for inexperienced couples to share first time experiences. Experienced couples are definitely welcome but would have to show me how it's done.

You want to meet inexperienced couples, but who is going to show you ALL what to do.

Most experienced couples do not want to play at being teachers.

Get photos

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks again for the reply, I'll definitely be taking your advice

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get what your saying but because I can be a shy person on first meets I thought it would be more comfortable for everyone being on the same level. Thanks for your advice

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

Don’t think anyone needs to “show you how it’s done”.....You’ve done sex-stuff before. Just discuss limits, likes and dislikes first and everything else just happens.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"Ahh OK, may be a silly question but does it have to be a face picture? I don't mind posting cock pictures but I've seen a lot of profiles dislike that so I wasn't sure what to post. Thanks for your reply! "

Be careful with your face pics. You never know where they will wind up! If you want to you can upload one and keep it private in your media folder to send to people if you so wish.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Just to add. We'd never insist on a face pic because personality means far more to us and we'd rather discover that by chatting and a social meeting.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I didn't really think of it like that, I will be updating the profile very soon

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's the very reason why I didn't want a face pic on here, I have one in private but I wasn't sure what sort of pictures grab peoples attention when scrolling through profile searches. Thanks!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's great advice, thanks again for your help

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *orth_hantscplCouple
over a year ago

camberley

Do you send a face pic with your message? The trouble is there’s lots of guys that come on here and aren’t really serious about meeting. It’s best for you to think of the best way to sell yourself as well, we’d prefer you were yourself rather than you changing your profile to suit what you think people want.

Obviously the virus has stopped a lot of people from looking for new guys anyway at the moment.

Good luck

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do if they are outside my area but I don't usually send pictures when I message someone because until now I wasn't sure what sort of pictures to send on a message, sending dick pics on a first approach seems a bit awkward to me. Thanks for your input

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I wouldn't reply to a message without a profile pic.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top