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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi everyone, I’m brand new to FabSwingers so after a spot of advice. So far the only messages or contact I’ve had is from other guys. Not that I’m complaining, but I’m really hoping for some MF,MMF,MFF.

Am I doing something wrong, am I the wrong type of guy or just to unappealing to women & couples??

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Give it time xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice pics OP

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Use your message filters to stop men from contacting you

It's against site rules to arrange meets at the moment due to covid (unless you're in an area with no restrictions) so that won't help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Give it time xx"

Absolutely, the four years will just fly by!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Give it time xx

Absolutely, the four years will just fly by!"

They will time waits for no one

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Why dont you try having a chat with your wife about sex. That's my best advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I start a thread so People look at my profile? You need to put the effort in to get that back...it takes time and you will make mistakes but your learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone, I’m brand new to FabSwingers so after a spot of advice. So far the only messages or contact I’ve had is from other guys. Not that I’m complaining, but I’m really hoping for some MF,MMF,MFF.

Am I doing something wrong, am I the wrong type of guy or just to unappealing to women & couples?? "

The fact you're married is going to go against you. Sad fact.

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

I'm gonna guess the 3rd sentence doesn't put guys off. Well done for being honest but you have built a huge wall with the wife not knowing. Maybe being a "sexless" marriage she wouldn't mind where you get your Willie wet......or maybe she has her own fab account;)

Fabs about sharing is caring not simply cheating.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Ask yourself a question Op, how do you stand out from all of the other guys on here.

Someone commented your pictures are great, a pair of underpants and a chest shot. Other guys are showing their faces (I know not everyone can, but those who do have the advantage over guys who don’t) and their bodies better.

You have a decent write up, but the third sentence will always put some off.

Welcome to Fab, you’re one of hundreds if not thousands of male profiles on here, trying to attract one of the few, who may live close by to you.

The reality is, you’re going to have to wait a long time before you’ll get any interest, in my opinion.

But good luck all the same

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

Give it time mate. But above all just be yourself. Some will like you some won’t.but don’t change for someone else’s sake or to fit in

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By *himp_KittenCouple
over a year ago

Preston

Supply and demand... there's a massive supply of single guys, and the demand does not meet the supply.

Then factor in peoples personal preferences in terms of looks, characteristics, physical attributes and age...

Also the fact there's a pandemic currently in play and a lot of people are not meeting or less inclined to strike up new conversations until clubs open / meeting is acceptable.

That should go someway to explaining things..

Make yourself approachable, give people a good idea of who you are and what you can offer to a single female / couple. And post tasteful pics.

All the best

L&A x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone, I’m brand new to FabSwingers so after a spot of advice. So far the only messages or contact I’ve had is from other guys. Not that I’m complaining, but I’m really hoping for some MF,MMF,MFF.

Am I doing something wrong, am I the wrong type of guy or just to unappealing to women & couples?? "

Welcome

Have a read through previous threads on this subject.

Lots of wisdom there.

Make sure you have a well-written and appealing profile, then it's a game of patience, buddy.

Good luck.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"Hi everyone, I’m brand new to FabSwingers so after a spot of advice. So far the only messages or contact I’ve had is from other guys. Not that I’m complaining, but I’m really hoping for some MF,MMF,MFF.

Am I doing something wrong, am I the wrong type of guy or just to unappealing to women & couples?? "

I would stop at the married part and delete the message. This won’t stop some but does stop many. Plus timing no one should be meeting etc etc Good luck though

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By *en EdmundsMan
over a year ago

Anytown


"Hi everyone, I’m brand new to FabSwingers so after a spot of advice. So far the only messages or contact I’ve had is from other guys. Not that I’m complaining, but I’m really hoping for some MF,MMF,MFF.

Am I doing something wrong, am I the wrong type of guy or just to unappealing to women & couples?? "

Got to ask, do the words 'polite and respectful' fit well with ' I am married, wife doesn’t know...'

It would probably put most of the honest and genuine couples and single ladies off.

Don't you think?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

There will be a huge amount of people who feel the way I do. There will be some who prefer people who are playing away, but they will of course be harder to find.

Please don't forget we are still in a pandemic regardless of what the conspiracy theorists and selfish cuntwaffles who want to meet regardless think. This will of course impact things further.

My profile is currently hidden due to a few reasons. One of them being the lack of respect and consideration for others feelings which I'm finding more and more.

I shall copy part of my profile text here.

I'm 5 months out of a relationship with a guy I met on here who I thought was the one, the love of my life, the ying to my yang.... you get the drift. Well, that's gone tits up and I'm a single pringle again. Whoop de fucking doo.

It's left it's mark as you can probably already tell, so I won't be emotionally investing in people again. I'm not apologising for that. My heart has been busted like a fly hitting a windshield by a formula 1 car at top speed and I'm not prepared to open myself up to that kind of torture again.

Well, this is a swinging site so let's talk a bit about that.

Trust. The single most important thing someone can give you, their trust.

There are many ways it can be broken or abused but know this....

When someones trust gets abused it strips their confidence. A part of them dies. They question why they were so stupid, they question their worth, because surely if they had any worth whatsoever then they wouldn't have been taken for a cunt right? Sure they will "get over it" but it won't leave them completely. It will impact them in the future, they will remain guarded, they may never properly trust again.

How would you feel if you broke someones hope, spirit and realised that your actions will probably change their future and how they experience life from that point forward. Think about it. Cruel really isn't it.

Whether it's from saying you're a non smoker when really you ticked that box with a fag in your mouth to saying you're single when you're not, they all amount to the same thing, breaking someones faith in humanity.

Don't be that person. And just because you know people do it and get away with it doesn't make it fucking right. Be proud to be a good human, not proud you got away with something that could hurt someones soul.

Respect peoples wishes and personal choices. Lying takes those choices away and that's unfair.

You made it to the "thank fuck that's over with" bit.... go you! I promise it ain't all doom n gloom from this bit onwards.

The only men I will meet are those that are single. I'm not talking "fab single" I'm talking properly fucking single. I ain't a pawn in a game, that game is twisted, sick and utterly fucked up.

Separated doesn't cut it either, it's no different from "fab single" when you're answering to your wife and having to sneak about. I don't do liars and I'm not prepared to be complicit in someone else's web of deception.

So that's the flip side. That's the damage done to the person who's been lied to/cheated on/had their trust betrayed. Only you know in your heart if you're willing to do that to your wife.

There is a brilliant relationship/sex therapist called Esther Perel. Look her up on you tube perhaps, she is fantastic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try either fixing your marriage or get divorced. No excuse for cheating. Us girls on here are not here to replace your lost sex with your wife. I have been cheated on by my ex hubby. If you only knew the hurt you would cause her if she found out! Get a grip on your life as doing this to your wife is disgusting!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There will be a huge amount of people who feel the way I do. There will be some who prefer people who are playing away, but they will of course be harder to find.

Please don't forget we are still in a pandemic regardless of what the conspiracy theorists and selfish cuntwaffles who want to meet regardless think. This will of course impact things further.

My profile is currently hidden due to a few reasons. One of them being the lack of respect and consideration for others feelings which I'm finding more and more.

I shall copy part of my profile text here.

I'm 5 months out of a relationship with a guy I met on here who I thought was the one, the love of my life, the ying to my yang.... you get the drift. Well, that's gone tits up and I'm a single pringle again. Whoop de fucking doo.

It's left it's mark as you can probably already tell, so I won't be emotionally investing in people again. I'm not apologising for that. My heart has been busted like a fly hitting a windshield by a formula 1 car at top speed and I'm not prepared to open myself up to that kind of torture again.

Well, this is a swinging site so let's talk a bit about that.

Trust. The single most important thing someone can give you, their trust.

There are many ways it can be broken or abused but know this....

When someones trust gets abused it strips their confidence. A part of them dies. They question why they were so stupid, they question their worth, because surely if they had any worth whatsoever then they wouldn't have been taken for a cunt right? Sure they will "get over it" but it won't leave them completely. It will impact them in the future, they will remain guarded, they may never properly trust again.

How would you feel if you broke someones hope, spirit and realised that your actions will probably change their future and how they experience life from that point forward. Think about it. Cruel really isn't it.

Whether it's from saying you're a non smoker when really you ticked that box with a fag in your mouth to saying you're single when you're not, they all amount to the same thing, breaking someones faith in humanity.

Don't be that person. And just because you know people do it and get away with it doesn't make it fucking right. Be proud to be a good human, not proud you got away with something that could hurt someones soul.

Respect peoples wishes and personal choices. Lying takes those choices away and that's unfair.

You made it to the "thank fuck that's over with" bit.... go you! I promise it ain't all doom n gloom from this bit onwards.

The only men I will meet are those that are single. I'm not talking "fab single" I'm talking properly fucking single. I ain't a pawn in a game, that game is twisted, sick and utterly fucked up.

Separated doesn't cut it either, it's no different from "fab single" when you're answering to your wife and having to sneak about. I don't do liars and I'm not prepared to be complicit in someone else's web of deception.

So that's the flip side. That's the damage done to the person who's been lied to/cheated on/had their trust betrayed. Only you know in your heart if you're willing to do that to your wife.

There is a brilliant relationship/sex therapist called Esther Perel. Look her up on you tube perhaps, she is fantastic."

You hit the nail on the head. I have been cheated on by my ex and it ripped my heart out. No excuse for cheating. I am now with an increadible soulful human being who is the love of my life. Hand in there lovely he is out there. To the OP either grow a pair and divorce or or fix your fucking marriage!

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By *en EdmundsMan
over a year ago

Anytown


"Hi everyone, I’m brand new to FabSwingers so after a spot of advice. So far the only messages or contact I’ve had is from other guys. Not that I’m complaining, but I’m really hoping for some MF,MMF,MFF.

Am I doing something wrong, am I the wrong type of guy or just to unappealing to women & couples?? "

Guessing this thread hasn't turned out the way that the OP thought.

Thing is, swingers still have morals too!!

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Cheating is not swinging !! a oldie but goodie !! but least you are honest about it !!

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By *UCKER56Man
over a year ago

Walsall

Get some decent cock photos on here for public view if you can't put face pics on. We're all in here for pretty much the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone, I’m brand new to FabSwingers so after a spot of advice. So far the only messages or contact I’ve had is from other guys. Not that I’m complaining, but I’m really hoping for some MF,MMF,MFF.

Am I doing something wrong, am I the wrong type of guy or just to unappealing to women & couples??

The fact you're married is going to go against you. Sad fact. "

Well. It's not really "sad" is it. Personally I'm quite happy that most fabbers seem to be against meeting cheats and liars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have only been on here for two weeks. That is no time at all. Some men have to wait for months to get their first meet.

There are far more single men on here than there are women/couples. What are you offering that the other guys aren't?

We are in the middle of a pandemic. People really shouldn't be meeting right now.

Being married on on here without your wife's knowledge will drastically lower your pool of people who are going to be interested. That's just the way it is.

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By *vfunwithyouxMan
over a year ago

South East

How very well stated

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