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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all, Is it a waste of my time trying for some adult fun on this site because i`m married but going it alone? I`ve been married almost 30 years, love her to bits, but sex life died many years ago.I just want to have some fun while i`m still young enough to enjoy it! Been on this site 2 weeks and only seem to attract bi guys who want a BJ! I may be up for that one day but for now i`m staying straight!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

probably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

welcome to fab and welcome to the world of being a newbie , theres some fantastic people on here but theres twats who dont read profiles n see this site as thier personal cattle market/free escorts site/pick up joint , not just men either

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Perhaps if you put on your profile you're married those that don't mind your marital status will see from the off.

Ooh...and if you don't want bi men contacting you perhaps you should remove you're looking for tvs...just a thought!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thxs, never realised it was on!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thxs, someone just explained its a swinging site not sex site, i now realise the difference.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Hi all, Is it a waste of my time trying for some adult fun on this site because i`m married but going it alone? I`ve been married almost 30 years, love her to bits, but sex life died many years ago.I just want to have some fun while i`m still young enough to enjoy it! Been on this site 2 weeks and only seem to attract bi guys who want a BJ! I may be up for that one day but for now i`m staying straight!! "

2 weeks...... seriously....

can i ask what your expectation was...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thxs, never realised it was on! "

and the tv on your friends list?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"thxs, never realised it was on!

and the tv on your friends list? "

Haahaahaahaa!

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

And where are the photos..? try reading other profiles and upgrade yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all, Is it a waste of my time trying for some adult fun on this site because i`m married but going it alone? I`ve been married almost 30 years, love her to bits, but sex life died many years ago.I just want to have some fun while i`m still young enough to enjoy it! Been on this site 2 weeks and only seem to attract bi guys who want a BJ! I may be up for that one day but for now i`m staying straight!! "

Sorry mate, but welcome to the world of being a 'single-male-newbie' on this (or any other) swingers site.

Have a look through the forums - specially the introductions one - and see what the general 'advice' from the contributors is to guys in your position.

The one bit I will give you is.... if you want to get started, find a local club and take a deep, manly breath, and go there. You'll get known quickly and you might get lucky first night out.

One thing you DO need in this world is........ bucket loads of patience....

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Would I be right in assuming your Mrs doesn't know you're on here? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all, Is it a waste of my time trying for some adult fun on this site because i`m married but going it alone? I`ve been married almost 30 years, love her to bits, but sex life died many years ago.I just want to have some fun while i`m still young enough to enjoy it! Been on this site 2 weeks and only seem to attract bi guys who want a BJ! I may be up for that one day but for now i`m staying straight!!

2 weeks...... seriously....

can i ask what your expectation was... "

Fabio, Got a quick update for you from a fem you were speaking with until recently, sorry only way i could contact you Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thxs, someone just explained its a swinging site not sex site, i now realise the difference."

many use this as just a simple sex site, though swinging or just sex... very little difference really, just sex wifb a bit more social side to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of what you need to know about using FAB has ben said above me; but having looked at your profile and in my opinion only; i think the storey you give out comes accross as "look at poor old me and take pity"

lighten it up a bit add some homour and be honest

Happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all, Is it a waste of my time trying for some adult fun on this site because i`m married but going it alone? I`ve been married almost 30 years, love her to bits, but sex life died many years ago.I just want to have some fun while i`m still young enough to enjoy it! Been on this site 2 weeks and only seem to attract bi guys who want a BJ! I may be up for that one day but for now i`m staying straight!! "

If you want my advice, my friend. Take up offers from some of the bi guys! I've been on Fab for 2 months and so far have had 12 meets - only 3 women, but 9 men!

A little bi action goes a LONG way, half a loaf is better then no bread at all, etc. I realise this may be a massive step for you to take, but believe me, you will enjoy yourself immensely.

If God had created half a dozen sexes, people could say "well, I like 1,2 & 4 but I'll leave the rest, thanks". But He didn't, He only created TWO, so why can't we just enjoy them both?

If you can't get any interested women, take the plunge and go for your first man. I know it will probably seem very different and strange to you at first, but it can be very beautiful, and will help to relieve some of your frustration. Have fun, my friend!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"thxs, never realised it was on!

and the tv on your friends list? "
I need some friends! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps if you put on your profile you're married those that don't mind your marital status will see from the off.

Ooh...and if you don't want bi men contacting you perhaps you should remove you're looking for tvs...just a thought!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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If you want my advice, my friend. Take up offers from some of the bi guys! I've been on Fab for 2 months and so far have had 12 meets - only 3 women, but 9 men!

A little bi action goes a LONG way, half a loaf is better then no bread at all, etc.

"

The most sweeping bit of advice I have heard in some time.

What worked for you won't necessarily work for the OP.

Your own curiosities may have been far further on than the OP's are, if indeed he has any (I remain uncovinced he does)

He may enjoy it, it may also mess with his head and feel that he has compromised his sexuality in return for some sexual contact of any sort.

I'm a bi bloke myself but would never dream of advising guys to try it.

That step has got to come from the individual and not through others egging them on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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If God had created half a dozen sexes, people could say "well, I like 1,2 & 4 but I'll leave the rest, thanks". But He didn't, He only created TWO, so why can't we just enjoy them both?

"

So why can't people just say "well I like 1 but I'll leave the other,thanks"?

Still,for some I suppose any hole's a goal

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Hi all, Is it a waste of my time trying for some adult fun on this site because i`m married but going it alone? I`ve been married almost 30 years, love her to bits, but sex life died many years ago.I just want to have some fun while i`m still young enough to enjoy it! Been on this site 2 weeks and only seem to attract bi guys who want a BJ! I may be up for that one day but for now i`m staying straight!!

If you want my advice, my friend. Take up offers from some of the bi guys! I've been on Fab for 2 months and so far have had 12 meets - only 3 women, but 9 men!

A little bi action goes a LONG way, half a loaf is better then no bread at all, etc. I realise this may be a massive step for you to take, but believe me, you will enjoy yourself immensely.

If God had created half a dozen sexes, people could say "well, I like 1,2 & 4 but I'll leave the rest, thanks". But He didn't, He only created TWO, so why can't we just enjoy them both?

If you can't get any interested women, take the plunge and go for your first man. I know it will probably seem very different and strange to you at first, but it can be very beautiful, and will help to relieve some of your frustration. Have fun, my friend!!

"

At least you're honest about not being fussy and any holes a goal: can't fault you for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all, Is it a waste of my time trying for some adult fun on this site because i`m married but going it alone? I`ve been married almost 30 years, love her to bits, but sex life died many years ago.I just want to have some fun while i`m still young enough to enjoy it! Been on this site 2 weeks and only seem to attract bi guys who want a BJ! I may be up for that one day but for now i`m staying straight!!

If you want my advice, my friend. Take up offers from some of the bi guys! I've been on Fab for 2 months and so far have had 12 meets - only 3 women, but 9 men!

A little bi action goes a LONG way, half a loaf is better then no bread at all, etc. I realise this may be a massive step for you to take, but believe me, you will enjoy yourself immensely.

If God had created half a dozen sexes, people could say "well, I like 1,2 & 4 but I'll leave the rest, thanks". But He didn't, He only created TWO, so why can't we just enjoy them both?

If you can't get any interested women, take the plunge and go for your first man. I know it will probably seem very different and strange to you at first, but it can be very beautiful, and will help to relieve some of your frustration. Have fun, my friend!!

At least you're honest about not being fussy and any holes a goal: can't fault you for that. "

I am also married and I am lucky enough to have had two meets...my profile clearly states my reasons..but you will find many on here are couples looking for couples....don't give up!

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By *hyguy 43Man
over a year ago

Swansea

Give it time mate you only been on here for two weeks lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on here about a week and already had my first meet.

I'm hoping for many more too

Yes, I'm bi and have widened my horizons even further, but that was my choice.

Ive been on other sites, some of them for years, and hardly had any meets. I'm happy enough with fab at the moment.

Your profile is where people decide whether they 'fancy' you or not.

Make it a good one and you should see a difference.

I used to be one of the'ill fill this in later' brigade. Once I actually filled in my profile properly(on another site) I started getting hits, soon after that I had my first meet

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