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By *acksLament OP   Man
over a year ago

Wales

I've found that over the time I've spent on fab, and that's probably close to 8 years that it's extremely rare to receive a first message from a female. Do any of you ladies ever send the first message or is it pointless as you all get so much interest anyway???

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By *ustme1820Woman
over a year ago

Southcoast Gosport


"I've found that over the time I've spent on fab, and that's probably close to 8 years that it's extremely rare to receive a first message from a female. Do any of you ladies ever send the first message or is it pointless as you all get so much interest anyway??? "
I send initial messages op.

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By *torm in a G cupWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Long White Cloud

I send initial messages quite often.

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Occasionally

I got into a conversation with a nice lady after she winked at me, and so I wrote to say thanks for looking at my profile.

She then wrote back to thank me for replying as she never knows how to start conversations! And it went from there

So it does happen, but maybe not as often as we'd all like

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By *enedict2020Man
over a year ago

London

Yes, often!

Shy girls get nowt!

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"I've found that over the time I've spent on fab, and that's probably close to 8 years that it's extremely rare to receive a first message from a female. Do any of you ladies ever send the first message or is it pointless as you all get so much interest anyway??? "

Several women have messaged me first. But it's unusual

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

We’ve had a few, but none have led to meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When interested I do otherwise what is the point.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

In my 2.5 years here I’ve probably sent 5 messages in total. And not got a reply. Lol. So I know the feeling...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my 2.5 years here I’ve probably sent 5 messages in total. And not got a reply. Lol. So I know the feeling... "
Send one to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my 2.5 years here I’ve probably sent 5 messages in total. And not got a reply. Lol. So I know the feeling... "

That’s just rude, unless they were fake accounts ??

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By *adforit1304Man
over a year ago

Limerick/Clare

Nope never been that lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv sent a few. Don't get if you don't ask after all ??

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By *acksLament OP   Man
over a year ago

Wales

Well thanks for the input people... Seems some do and some don't, what is it about a profile that makes you make that first contact? Is it just gym ripped torso pics or something else??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened twice

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By *as4121Man
over a year ago

dartford


"In my 2.5 years here I’ve probably sent 5 messages in total. And not got a reply. Lol. So I know the feeling... "

I'm shocked! Some odd people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've found that over the time I've spent on fab, and that's probably close to 8 years that it's extremely rare to receive a first message from a female. Do any of you ladies ever send the first message or is it pointless as you all get so much interest anyway??? "

Extremely rare you say?

So it has happened, rare, but happened.

Doesn't that answer your own question

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

I've been on here many years, and can remember a woman messaging me first approximately twice. So it does happen, have (a very small about of) hope!

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By *oberts_onMan
over a year ago

King's Lynn

If it does happen, ive yet to any evidence!!

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By *acksLament OP   Man
over a year ago

Wales

It's rare to me is what I'm saying...I'm curious whether others have different experiences?

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By *as4121Man
over a year ago

dartford

Never happened to me but maybe I shouldn't be surprised

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By *hrissycox66TV/TS
over a year ago

watford


"In my 2.5 years here I’ve probably sent 5 messages in total. And not got a reply. Lol. So I know the feeling... Send one to me! "

I replied x

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I have in the past, if someone has really caught my eye.

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By *opilotMan
over a year ago

Heathrow

I've received a few over the last couple of years and some became good friends.

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By *ebel Red HotWoman
over a year ago

York

I do I am surprised some don't why just take a choice of just those who message you rather than chose from the ones you like out there.

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By *acksLament OP   Man
over a year ago

Wales

I suppose fabs female contingent don't really need to send out messages...i believe most of you are getting a constant stream of messages without having to bother?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do if he really grabs my attention with a good profile

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

Not often, though when I do it's with clear intent

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By *heGentleman2024Man
over a year ago

North West

Really interesting post OP..

Ive found that its very rare to recieve the first message from a woman.. but saying that i have..a lot more recently in fact.. its true women get bombarded with messages from just “Hi” to downright very f’in weird.. makes them think I’m not going to bother.. but if they like you and your profile stands out.. you never know.

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By *acksLament OP   Man
over a year ago

Wales


"Really interesting post OP..

Ive found that its very rare to recieve the first message from a woman.. but saying that i have..a lot more recently in fact.. its true women get bombarded with messages from just “Hi” to downright very f’in weird.. makes them think I’m not going to bother.. but if they like you and your profile stands out.. you never know. "

I suppose I should try and work on my profile a little more then

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By *heGentleman2024Man
over a year ago

North West


"Really interesting post OP..

Ive found that its very rare to recieve the first message from a woman.. but saying that i have..a lot more recently in fact.. its true women get bombarded with messages from just “Hi” to downright very f’in weird.. makes them think I’m not going to bother.. but if they like you and your profile stands out.. you never know.

I suppose I should try and work on my profile a little more then "

Just be you mate, for a site like this it is hard for us single men.. because of the majority of others that spoil it and paints the genuine ones with the same brush..

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By *iberty RedWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I message first quite often, if they've a funny profile, great pictures or have something on a status update.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i do if i like the look of the person

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By *usy blondeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I have sent a few over the years but only to men with great pics and profiles (which are very rare!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one recently and we’re now exchanging messages quite often and we’re now hoping to meet up once it’s all safe to do so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've found that over the time I've spent on fab, and that's probably close to 8 years that it's extremely rare to receive a first message from a female. Do any of you ladies ever send the first message or is it pointless as you all get so much interest anyway??? "

I have on my single female profile a few times..I will again when the restrictions allow meets. X

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

Torridge area of Devon

I saw a thread on this before and decided to put it to the test one day. (before Covid)

I looked around for single guys that were of interest from what i could see profile and photo wise, were fairly local or certainly not to far away for travelling. I sent a messages to 10 guys

(not cut and pasted) all saying something about their profile.

I got 2 replies in 2 weeks. Most just remained Read (but no reply) a couple got deleted straight away after 6 weeks i just deleted the ones that didn't reply and added a site supporters note to each one

It did put me off sending out the first message to single guys, but happy to send them to couples

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By *orthampton jamesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

As a single man I've only ever sent messages to a lady or a couple, I dont remember ever getting a message from a lady first, I know there are a lot of single men on here so it doesn't worry me, but just now an then a message from a lady would be nice, even if its just a chat

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live

I've sent the odd one

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

I do a lot .... sometimes ends up being someone that’s messaged in the past and has got lost in the madness of the female inbox though.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Some women do, and I will say, that I've met every one who has messaged me first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do all the initial messaging on our joint profile and most of the follow up messaging too.

Miss V

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Yes they do. I got one today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women never message me full stop.

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By *nya888Woman
over a year ago

London


"I've found that over the time I've spent on fab, and that's probably close to 8 years that it's extremely rare to receive a first message from a female. Do any of you ladies ever send the first message or is it pointless as you all get so much interest anyway??? "

Yes, but only to other women..

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By *acksLament OP   Man
over a year ago

Wales

Ah... To be that lucky woman!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ones who do are rare...and the ones who are not shalow already are with someone.

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By *ary Queen Of CocksWoman
over a year ago

Cumbria

I do but many women are far too insecure to do so its sad really.

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

For some reason in my experience they turned out to be the biggest time wasters going in all but 1 occasion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unlikely

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By *otplumMan
over a year ago

Margate

I have had a few over the past 2 years, alas one or two were miles away

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Occasionally some do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, i regularly get winks and first messages off single ladies and couples

I think there is definitely more 'traffic' on a weekend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never receive inboxes from women full stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in my experience sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What’s a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do if I like something they have said or there is something different about them. That's when I will message .

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By *hyKentGuyMan
over a year ago

sheerness

I’ve been on here for a couple of years. Never got a message from a woman. And very rarely get a reply!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I've found that over the time I've spent on fab, and that's probably close to 8 years that it's extremely rare to receive a first message from a female. Do any of you ladies ever send the first message or is it pointless as you all get so much interest anyway??? "

I did it as a dare once and response rate was pretty much 98%... however i get too many unwanted mail that keeps me too busy unless i hide my profile and go hunting myself. But I'm old fashion, I prefer the man to initiate

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I’ve been on here for a couple of years. Never got a message from a woman. And very rarely get a reply! "

think it maybe to do with your profile photo

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Women never message me full stop. "

Again another profile where the photos is probably not attracting the women.. sorry just being honest and understanding why women wouldn't write.

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By *hyKentGuyMan
over a year ago

sheerness

Thank you. Any advice?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Thank you. Any advice?"

decent sexy photos of you to show your attractiveness in bed and your personality. Just looks like you're hiding from everyone so to me I think married, cheating or far too shy

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By *eal warriorMan
over a year ago

gosport

Not had loads but do get them.

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By *immy_5belliesMan
over a year ago

f


"In my 2.5 years here I’ve probably sent 5 messages in total. And not got a reply. Lol. So I know the feeling... "

I've sent a fair few more than 5 and not get a reply. A polite no thanks costs nothing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've found that over the time I've spent on fab, and that's probably close to 8 years that it's extremely rare to receive a first message from a female. Do any of you ladies ever send the first message or is it pointless as you all get so much interest anyway??? "

My bio isn’t to interesting my profile pic doesn’t give away much but yeah women definitely do ! It’s not an every day thing !

But women get hit up by so many men here they really don’t need to go looking

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I have. Normally it's because of their status update or because something on their profile has made me laugh.

Twice it's led to meets, once to some great ongoing chat that probably won't ever come to more but is entertaining in its own right. Far more often I either don't get a response or I get a "thanks, and happy fabbing" type message.

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By *ouple 71Couple
over a year ago

Stonehaven

I do all the time as the female half of a couple profile. I probably sent more than 50

Percent of ours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven’t received a single mail from a women. Get attention by sending myself. Totally my experience so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven’t received a single mail from a women. Get attention by sending myself. Totally my experience so far "

Write out a few good views in these threads and in my experience women pick up on that !

Mine are usually terrible but still gets there attention

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven’t received a single mail from a women. Get attention by sending myself. Totally my experience so far

Write out a few good views in these threads and in my experience women pick up on that !

Mine are usually terrible but still gets there attention "

Thanks for the advice let me take my speakers out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven’t received a single mail from a women. Get attention by sending myself. Totally my experience so far

Write out a few good views in these threads and in my experience women pick up on that !

Mine are usually terrible but still gets there attention

Thanks for the advice let me take my speakers out"

Mate you can hardly knock back any advice since you can’t even get a single mail ! I’ve a mask on my face and I still get hit up on occasions so what does that say about your approach! Get them speakers out lad I’d love to give you more words of wisdom since you think your funny maybe if you used your obvious wit you might actually get hit up on here !

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By *ive Bar Beauty QueenWoman
over a year ago

Stoke

I do if I like someone I would guess lots of women do to the interesting profiles. However lots of men have poor profiles and not surprised they don't receive first messages.

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By *ance1502Man
over a year ago

London

I've been messaged by couples never by a single woman. I wish a woman would message me maybe then she wouldn't turn out to be another time waster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've recieved a few but I understand a lot of people wont due to all sorts of things, whether that be my age, profile or maybe I'm just not someone's cup of tea

It's okay, just does mean a lot and im grateful when anyone messages first

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By *rimKardashianMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Rare but it does happen.

Usually it's to gauge how you respond rather than full on, "I want to sit on your face" kind of message, haha.

Nice to get the ball rolling though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rare but it does happen.

Usually it's to gauge how you respond rather than full on, "I want to sit on your face" kind of message, haha.

Nice to get the ball rolling though."

Exactly not everyone on here wants crazy chat from the get go you got to try get a read on them first

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By *ilberryMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

Yes sometimes!

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live

Well the last man I messaged first ( on this thread too) has blocked me

So that's not worked out well

Won't put me of tho!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well the last man I messaged first ( on this thread too) has blocked me

So that's not worked out well

Won't put me of tho!

"

Fuck him !

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live


"Well the last man I messaged first ( on this thread too) has blocked me

So that's not worked out well

Won't put me of tho!

Fuck him ! "

I can't!! He's blocked me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well the last man I messaged first ( on this thread too) has blocked me

So that's not worked out well

Won't put me of tho!

Fuck him !

I can't!! He's blocked me "

I volunteer as tribute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well the last man I messaged first ( on this thread too) has blocked me

So that's not worked out well

Won't put me of tho!

Fuck him !

I can't!! He's blocked me

I volunteer as tribute "
second that motion

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live


"Well the last man I messaged first ( on this thread too) has blocked me

So that's not worked out well

Won't put me of tho!

Fuck him !

I can't!! He's blocked me

I volunteer as tribute second that motion "

What is a tribute?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well the last man I messaged first ( on this thread too) has blocked me

So that's not worked out well

Won't put me of tho!

Fuck him !

I can't!! He's blocked me

I volunteer as tribute second that motion

What is a tribute? "

It was a quote from the hunger games but it just means I'll take his place Haha

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live


"Well the last man I messaged first ( on this thread too) has blocked me

So that's not worked out well

Won't put me of tho!

Fuck him !

I can't!! He's blocked me

I volunteer as tribute second that motion

What is a tribute?

It was a quote from the hunger games but it just means I'll take his place Haha "

Lol of course!

As beautiful as you are Tom you're the same age as my daughter- so best not! & no you're not having contact details from her either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well the last man I messaged first ( on this thread too) has blocked me

So that's not worked out well

Won't put me of tho!

Fuck him !

I can't!! He's blocked me

I volunteer as tribute second that motion

What is a tribute?

It was a quote from the hunger games but it just means I'll take his place Haha

Lol of course!

As beautiful as you are Tom you're the same age as my daughter- so best not! & no you're not having contact details from her either "

Tom wouldn’t block you it was worth a shot you can’t knock him for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well the last man I messaged first ( on this thread too) has blocked me

So that's not worked out well

Won't put me of tho!

Fuck him !

I can't!! He's blocked me

I volunteer as tribute second that motion

What is a tribute?

It was a quote from the hunger games but it just means I'll take his place Haha

Lol of course!

As beautiful as you are Tom you're the same age as my daughter- so best not! & no you're not having contact details from her either "

Haha why thank you, I understand Nooo, I would never

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By *ogloomMan
over a year ago

Levens

Well its the time for sexual equality. Ladies you are in severe deficit.

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well its the time for sexual equality. Ladies you are in severe deficit.

x"

In fact we are in deficit in not giving space to think and bombarding with mails. Having seen a lot of mails from many ppl I wonder how they still not frustrated. When we message them only when we really mean it, they also send when they mean it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well its the time for sexual equality. Ladies you are in severe deficit.

x

In fact we are in deficit in not giving space to think and bombarding with mails. Having seen a lot of mails from many ppl I wonder how they still not frustrated. When we message them only when we really mean it, they also send when they mean it. "

Get your speakers out there mate !

And stop moaning !!!! You might listen this time wen I’m genuinely trying to lend you a hand !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well its the time for sexual equality. Ladies you are in severe deficit.

x

In fact we are in deficit in not giving space to think and bombarding with mails. Having seen a lot of mails from many ppl I wonder how they still not frustrated. When we message them only when we really mean it, they also send when they mean it.

Get your speakers out there mate !

And stop moaning !!!! You might listen this time wen I’m genuinely trying to lend you a hand !

"

I don’t moan buddy. I’m happy as what I am. Thanks for the intention of giving a hand.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

I have received a few initial messages from ladies but not many.

It is nice to receive them and a little confidence boost too but I tend to be quite selective in who I message so I assume ladies are too which may explain why the majority of us men don't get too many first messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice to get them, had a couple, very nice !

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By *acksLament OP   Man
over a year ago

Wales

Perhaps it's just coincidence but since starting this thread I've had a couple of first contacts from the fairer sex...cant wait to see where they lead!

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By *rufflesCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"I've found that over the time I've spent on fab, and that's probably close to 8 years that it's extremely rare to receive a first message from a female. Do any of you ladies ever send the first message or is it pointless as you all get so much interest anyway???

Several women have messaged me first. But it's unusual

"

Hmmmm! still trying to work that out!!!!

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By *rufflesCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"I've found that over the time I've spent on fab, and that's probably close to 8 years that it's extremely rare to receive a first message from a female. Do any of you ladies ever send the first message or is it pointless as you all get so much interest anyway???

Several women have messaged me first. But it's unusual

Hmmmm! still trying to work that out!!!!"

"Several women have messaged me first. But it's unusual" ?????????

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By *ountry Boy FreshMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

They do i have had a couple do so but its not that often but hey each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only once, was a delightful young woman telling me I was fat. So that was nice

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

Had three in all the time I've been on here.

Luckily for me, all three turned out to be great meets.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

They do indeed!

I'm flattered to have received a fair number of 'first contact' messages from women over the years - some from single female profiles, some from the female halves of couples profiles...

....a few of the latter led to meets - though none from the single ladies have...

....yet?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message guys first quite a lot, usually after reading their forum posts if they're funny or otherwise interesting x

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Only once, was a delightful young woman telling me I was fat. So that was nice "

How rude.

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By *rilogyMan
over a year ago

Eastbourne

Not been here long but I had a couple but didn't lead to anything

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

They do. Often in my experience as a single male on here its in response to and/or seeing my profile on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've found that over the time I've spent on fab, and that's probably close to 8 years that it's extremely rare to receive a first message from a female. Do any of you ladies ever send the first message or is it pointless as you all get so much interest anyway??? "

Hi Op

I sure do.

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By *ugofirstMan
over a year ago

livingston


"In my 2.5 years here I’ve probably sent 5 messages in total. And not got a reply. Lol. So I know the feeling... "

Don’t know who you’ve messaged but they Must be nuts if they didn’t reply to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course xxx by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do occasionally

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

No, they're to busy eating cake

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By *ookMan
over a year ago

london

Very rare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well its the time for sexual equality. Ladies you are in severe deficit.

x

In fact we are in deficit in not giving space to think and bombarding with mails. Having seen a lot of mails from many ppl I wonder how they still not frustrated. When we message them only when we really mean it, they also send when they mean it.

Get your speakers out there mate !

And stop moaning !!!! You might listen this time wen I’m genuinely trying to lend you a hand !

I don’t moan buddy. I’m happy as what I am. Thanks for the intention of giving a hand. "

That’s all it was meant to be pal not here to cause drama maybe I did a tad I apologize

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in my experience but you can’t be everyones cup of tea.

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