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By *ick1972 OP   Man
over a year ago

prudhoe

Hi all,

Im after some help and advise please.

I am wondering how other people have got into swinging. I am very new to this and just want to explore sex.

I am married and dont want to feel as though im cheating.

My wife has had loads of partners compaired to my 2 and i always feel she has a fantasy for more.

When we have sex she loves me to put toys in all her holes and as she lies enjoying it i am sure shes thinking of having sex with 3 blokes. She also makes a big thing of being straight but i sometimes wonder if she wants to explore more because sometimes she likes to finger me and stick her tonge in.

I am going on a bit, sorry..

What i am after is how do you ask your partner to swing. Id love her to join me as a couple, then id have no feelings of guilt.

What do you do if you ask and she says no and it spoils your relationship...

What do i do?

Help........ha

Thanks for reading and the replies in advance.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

She may not be thinking about having sex with 3 “blokes”. If she fingers and tongues you doesn’t mean she’s Bi. Watch “Swingers” on Channel 4 at 10pm next Monday together. Then ask if she fancies it. You could also ask if she fantasies about being with other Men and Women. Don’t assume the answer will be yes. Swinging is not for everyone, people can still fantasize though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

Im after some help and advise please.

I am wondering how other people have got into swinging. I am very new to this and just want to explore sex.

I am married and dont want to feel as though im cheating.

My wife has had loads of partners compaired to my 2 and i always feel she has a fantasy for more.

When we have sex she loves me to put toys in all her holes and as she lies enjoying it i am sure shes thinking of having sex with 3 blokes. She also makes a big thing of being straight but i sometimes wonder if she wants to explore more because sometimes she likes to finger me and stick her tonge in.

I am going on a bit, sorry..

What i am after is how do you ask your partner to swing. Id love her to join me as a couple, then id have no feelings of guilt.

What do you do if you ask and she says no and it spoils your relationship...

What do i do?

Help........ha

Thanks for reading and the replies in advance."

According to your profile you are in a sexless marriage.

Seems to be some contradiction here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

Im after some help and advise please.

I am wondering how other people have got into swinging. I am very new to this and just want to explore sex.

I am married and dont want to feel as though im cheating.

My wife has had loads of partners compaired to my 2 and i always feel she has a fantasy for more.

When we have sex she loves me to put toys in all her holes and as she lies enjoying it i am sure shes thinking of having sex with 3 blokes. She also makes a big thing of being straight but i sometimes wonder if she wants to explore more because sometimes she likes to finger me and stick her tonge in.

I am going on a bit, sorry..

What i am after is how do you ask your partner to swing. Id love her to join me as a couple, then id have no feelings of guilt.

What do you do if you ask and she says no and it spoils your relationship...

What do i do?

Help........ha

Thanks for reading and the replies in advance.

According to your profile you are in a sexless marriage.

Seems to be some contradiction here!"

That’s a very good point put very well!!!!

T

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The first step on the road to swinging is talking. If you don't know how your wife would react to you bringing up the subject of swinging you need to get your relationship to a place where you feel able to discuss it. It's no good assuming you know what your wife is thinking. Also trying to get your wife to swing so that you don't feel guilty is probably not the best approach.

Have a good chat with her, ask her what she enjoys and how she'd like things to move forward then tell her what you enjoy and what you'd like to do in future. It won't commit either of you to doing it but it might open up a lot of possibilities.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to her thats the only way.

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset


"Hi all,

Im after some help and advise please.

I am wondering how other people have got into swinging. I am very new to this and just want to explore sex.

I am married and dont want to feel as though im cheating.

My wife has had loads of partners compaired to my 2 and i always feel she has a fantasy for more.

When we have sex she loves me to put toys in all her holes and as she lies enjoying it i am sure shes thinking of having sex with 3 blokes. She also makes a big thing of being straight but i sometimes wonder if she wants to explore more because sometimes she likes to finger me and stick her tonge in.

I am going on a bit, sorry..

What i am after is how do you ask your partner to swing. Id love her to join me as a couple, then id have no feelings of guilt.

What do you do if you ask and she says no and it spoils your relationship...

What do i do?

Help........ha

Thanks for reading and the replies in advance.

According to your profile you are in a sexless marriage.

Seems to be some contradiction here!

That’s a very good point put very well!!!!

T"

And straight meeting men lol

Not sure how rimming a man could lead to thinking shes bi....this is the most confusing post

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Show her your profile? Let her have a browse at others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

Im after some help and advise please.

I am wondering how other people have got into swinging. I am very new to this and just want to explore sex.

I am married and dont want to feel as though im cheating.

My wife has had loads of partners compaired to my 2 and i always feel she has a fantasy for more.

When we have sex she loves me to put toys in all her holes and as she lies enjoying it i am sure shes thinking of having sex with 3 blokes. She also makes a big thing of being straight but i sometimes wonder if she wants to explore more because sometimes she likes to finger me and stick her tonge in.

I am going on a bit, sorry..

What i am after is how do you ask your partner to swing. Id love her to join me as a couple, then id have no feelings of guilt.

What do you do if you ask and she says no and it spoils your relationship...

What do i do?

Help........ha

Thanks for reading and the replies in advance.

According to your profile you are in a sexless marriage.

Seems to be some contradiction here!

That’s a very good point put very well!!!!

T"

The answer should be very interesting! !

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By *ick1972 OP   Man
over a year ago

prudhoe


"The first step on the road to swinging is talking. If you don't know how your wife would react to you bringing up the subject of swinging you need to get your relationship to a place where you feel able to discuss it. It's no good assuming you know what your wife is thinking. Also trying to get your wife to swing so that you don't feel guilty is probably not the best approach.

Have a good chat with her, ask her what she enjoys and how she'd like things to move forward then tell her what you enjoy and what you'd like to do in future. It won't commit either of you to doing it but it might open up a lot of possibilities.

Good luck"

Thanks for the advise i guess its probably me who wants to try and maybe in barking up the wrong tree with her. I will try to make a few suggestions to her the next time we have passionate sex. Not sure when that will be though because shes not been in the mood for ages. She has started the menopause.....help..ha

Thanks,for everyones help.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

How does she "make a big thing of being straight" ?

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By *ick1972 OP   Man
over a year ago

prudhoe


"How does she "make a big thing of being straight" ?"

She always says how she is put off by seeing two women together but she like to watch the occasional porn with them in. I think she protests too much..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The first step on the road to swinging is talking. If you don't know how your wife would react to you bringing up the subject of swinging you need to get your relationship to a place where you feel able to discuss it. It's no good assuming you know what your wife is thinking. Also trying to get your wife to swing so that you don't feel guilty is probably not the best approach.

Have a good chat with her, ask her what she enjoys and how she'd like things to move forward then tell her what you enjoy and what you'd like to do in future. It won't commit either of you to doing it but it might open up a lot of possibilities.

Good luck

Thanks for the advise i guess its probably me who wants to try and maybe in barking up the wrong tree with her. I will try to make a few suggestions to her the next time we have passionate sex. Not sure when that will be though because shes not been in the mood for ages. She has started the menopause.....help..ha

Thanks,for everyones help."

Such a shame.

Your wife is suffering through the menopause, something she has no control over, and you call it a sexless relationship then go looking for sex elsewhere.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"How does she "make a big thing of being straight" ?

She always says how she is put off by seeing two women together but she like to watch the occasional porn with them in. I think she protests too much.."

You do a lot of thinking you know what's going on in her head. The only way you'll know for sure is to talk to her.

You're not alone. Many men struggle with emotional intimacy and find just talking to a woman about things that arouse them really daunting. It leads to many misunderstandings

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By *ewfie02Couple
over a year ago

Ayrshire

If you mention swinging to your wife she will probably assume that you are looking for sex with other women. However if say that you would like to watch her with another man she may like the idea

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