FabSwingers.com forum: How can I generate more interest with women / couples?

By *uscle88 OP Man
over a year ago

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How can I generate more interest with couples and women. Haven’t a clue what I’m doing wrong but not getting the messages or interest I thought I would be. Can anyone help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a difficult time Op as people not meeting atm. Have you tried the Chat Rooms?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Advertise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is kinda boring tbh....are your opening messages better?

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By *uscle88 OP Man
over a year ago

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My profile is a reflection of myself I don’t lie or fabricate, however your feedback is advisable, what could I do

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By *uscle88 OP Man
over a year ago

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I haven’t if I’m honest I’m new so don’t quite understand them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a look at some other guys profiles...a lot of male formulates have great bios and are well verified, might help to see how others sell themselves.

You need to make yourself stand out above the masses of men on here.

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By *uscle88 OP Man
over a year ago

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"Your profile is kinda boring tbh....are your opening messages better?"

I’m not a boring individual, I was a very successful boxer, and a former cage fighter along with a lot of other things I’ve done

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By *uscle88 OP Man
over a year ago

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"Have a look at some other guys profiles...a lot of male formulates have great bios and are well verified, might help to see how others sell themselves.

You need to make yourself stand out above the masses of men on here. "

I will but a lot of them seem very simple and repetitive

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By *ouno2muchMan
over a year ago

Kingfish

"I haven’t if I’m honest I’m new so don’t quite understand them "

OP you joined over a year. That’s 1 year new year for you

Perhaps have a better description summary of what you’re interested in/looking. You may also try to change your headline to something catchy/appealing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile is kinda boring tbh....are your opening messages better?

I’m not a boring individual, I was a very successful boxer, and a former cage fighter along with a lot of other things I’ve done "

I'm not suggesting you are...i don't know you.

But to me, your profile is boring.

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By *uscle88 OP Man
over a year ago

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"I haven’t if I’m honest I’m new so don’t quite understand them

OP you joined over a year. That’s 1 year new year for you

Perhaps have a better description summary of what you’re interested

in/looking. You may also try to change your headline to something catchy/appealing.

Ok thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile is kinda boring tbh....are your opening messages better?"

He's not asking for profile advice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile is kinda boring tbh....are your opening messages better?

He's not asking for profile advice! "

He asked for advice on getting more interest...the profile is part of that, surely?

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By *uscle88 OP Man
over a year ago

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"Your profile is kinda boring tbh....are your opening messages better?

I’m not a boring individual, I was a very successful boxer, and a former cage fighter along with a lot of other things I’ve done

I'm not suggesting you are...i don't know you.

But to me, your profile is boring. "

Ok I’ll take that on board and change it

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over a year ago

"Your profile is kinda boring tbh....are your opening messages better?

I’m not a boring individual, I was a very successful boxer, and a former cage fighter along with a lot of other things I’ve done

I'm not suggesting you are...i don't know you.

But to me, your profile is boring.

Ok I’ll take that on board and change it "

For us, we like to read a little more about the person and about what they're looking for. Humour never hurts either.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who used to be in a couples profile, and is now single, I'd say 90% of messages I've seen are either, creepy, far too direct, boring or copy and pasted.

Most couples read messages together so try and appeal to both, rather than just the female.

Leave the cock shots for later too,

I'm not saying your doing the above, but from experience as a couple it'd turn us off.

I've reflected on what I've seen previously and have tailored my profile and messages to suit, and so far so good.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Not getting any interest is standard here for most of us guys OP. Be yourself but try to be who the women and couples want also. Don't make your profile too long and boring but also not too short or sparse. Don't have too many dick pics, but some people like dick pics so maybe put one or two in. In other words, fuck knows lol. There are many posts in the introduction thread all asking the same question. I'd skim read a few of those to get an idea. And maybe take some inspiration from ones who have achieved a good grade from the inspectors. Anyway, best of luck. Am sure you will do OK eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile is kinda boring tbh....are your opening messages better?

He's not asking for profile advice!

He asked for advice on getting more interest...the profile is part of that, surely?

Always thought that unless the Op specifically asks for profile advice, it's against Forum rules to give it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Helicopter videos

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By *uscle88 OP Man
over a year ago

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"Not getting any interest is standard here for most of us guys OP. Be yourself but try to be who the women and couples want also. Don't make your profile too long and boring but also not too short or sparse. Don't have too many dick pics, but some people like dick pics so maybe put one or two in. In other words, fuck knows lol. There are many posts in the introduction thread all asking the same question. I'd skim read a few of those to get an idea. And maybe take some inspiration from ones who have achieved a good grade from the inspectors. Anyway, best of luck. Am sure you will do OK eventually. "

Sweet mate nice one

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

"Your profile is kinda boring tbh....are your opening messages better?

I’m not a boring individual, I was a very successful boxer, and a former cage fighter along with a lot of other things I’ve done

I'm not suggesting you are...i don't know you.

But to me, your profile is boring.

Ok I’ll take that on board and change it

For us, we like to read a little more about the person and about what they're looking for. Humour never hurts either.

Good luck

You'd think humour is a good thing. All it's gotten me is a thumbs up. Still not changing it though cos it's me!

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By *uscle88 OP Man
over a year ago

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By *uscle88 OP Man
over a year ago

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"Your profile is kinda boring tbh....are your opening messages better?

I’m not a boring individual, I was a very successful boxer, and a former cage fighter along with a lot of other things I’ve done

I'm not suggesting you are...i don't know you.

But to me, your profile is boring.

Ok I’ll take that on board and change it

For us, we like to read a little more about the person and about what they're looking for. Humour never hurts either.

Good luck

You'd think humour is a good thing. All it's gotten me is a thumbs up. Still not changing it though cos it's me! "

Sweet, yeah be yourself pal

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By *uscle88 OP Man
over a year ago

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"Helicopter videos

haha

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

What sort of messages do you send to make contact? A lot 9f people mess up badly there. Can you post an example?

Also, we'd be a bit wary of a cage fighter! Nothing against you personally but it certainly makes us pause for thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile is kinda boring tbh....are your opening messages better?

He's not asking for profile advice!

He asked for advice on getting more interest...the profile is part of that, surely?

Always thought that unless the Op specifically asks for profile advice, it's against Forum rules to give it. "

Guess it'll be up to the mods to reprimand me for it then?

I think it's pretty clear I was trying to advise based on his OP...and he didn't seem to be too offended by my advice...

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By *uscle88 OP Man
over a year ago

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"Your profile is kinda boring tbh....are your opening messages better?

He's not asking for profile advice!

He asked for advice on getting more interest...the profile is part of that, surely?

Always thought that unless the Op specifically asks for profile advice, it's against Forum rules to give it.

Guess it'll be up to the mods to reprimand me for it then?

I think it's pretty clear I was trying to advise based on his OP...and he didn't seem to be too offended by my advice..."

Sound advice thanks

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By *uscle88 OP Man
over a year ago

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"What sort of messages do you send to make contact? A lot 9f people mess up badly there. Can you post an example?

Also, we'd be a bit wary of a cage fighter! Nothing against you personally but it certainly makes us pause for thought. "

Hi there

Really interesting profile, great pics, I’d love to find out more about you

Just something simple like that

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

"What sort of messages do you send to make contact? A lot 9f people mess up badly there. Can you post an example?

Also, we'd be a bit wary of a cage fighter! Nothing against you personally but it certainly makes us pause for thought.

Hi there

Really interesting profile, great pics, I’d love to find out more about you

Just something simple like that "

That's one of many many similar messages women and couples will get daily, polite yes but not exactly exciting.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"What sort of messages do you send to make contact? A lot 9f people mess up badly there. Can you post an example?

Also, we'd be a bit wary of a cage fighter! Nothing against you personally but it certainly makes us pause for thought.

Hi there

Really interesting profile, great pics, I’d love to find out more about you

Just something simple like that "

We would immediately delete anything like that. You could write exactly the same thing to ten thousand people. It tells us nothing about why you are interested in us or why you think we might get on.

People here generally want to have conversations to build up a rapport. There's nothing in that kind of message that would make us think that a conversation with you would be interesting. It's just vague and nothingy. You might be great to talk to but that just doesn't give us any hint of that.

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By *uscle88 OP Man
over a year ago

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"What sort of messages do you send to make contact? A lot 9f people mess up badly there. Can you post an example?

Also, we'd be a bit wary of a cage fighter! Nothing against you personally but it certainly makes us pause for thought.

Hi there

Really interesting profile, great pics, I’d love to find out more about you

Just something simple like that

We would immediately delete anything like that. You could write exactly the same thing to ten thousand people. It tells us nothing about why you are interested in us or why you think we might get on.

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over a year ago

"How can I generate more interest with couples and women. Haven’t a clue what I’m doing wrong but not getting the messages or interest I thought I would be. Can anyone help?"

State that you’re Bi and also mention the word pegging in your bio.

Brother you’ll be knee deep in growler by this time tomorrow

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By *uscle88 OP Man
over a year ago

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"How can I generate more interest with couples and women. Haven’t a clue what I’m doing wrong but not getting the messages or interest I thought I would be. Can anyone help?

State that you’re Bi and also mention the word pegging in your bio.

Brother you’ll be knee deep in growler by this time tomorrow

Haha sweet good point

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By *uscle88 OP Man
over a year ago

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"How can I generate more interest with couples and women. Haven’t a clue what I’m doing wrong but not getting the messages or interest I thought I would be. Can anyone help?

State that you’re Bi and also mention the word pegging in your bio.

Brother you’ll be knee deep in growler by this time tomorrow

Haha sweet good point "

All I’m getting is TV’s and geezers messaging me so reluctant to put that but I’ll give it a shot

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By *ugRollersCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Just had a quick flick through. My immediate reaction is update the profile bit and delete some pics .... many of the pics are very similar .... sometimes less is

More .... says she who has a profile full of the buggers

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over a year ago

"How can I generate more interest with couples and women. Haven’t a clue what I’m doing wrong but not getting the messages or interest I thought I would be. Can anyone help?

State that you’re Bi and also mention the word pegging in your bio.

Brother you’ll be knee deep in growler by this time tomorrow

Haha sweet good point

All I’m getting is TV’s and geezers messaging me so reluctant to put that but I’ll give it a shot "

Put it down and reap the rewards

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Show your bum

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

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"How can I generate more interest with couples and women. Haven’t a clue what I’m doing wrong but not getting the messages or interest I thought I would be. Can anyone help?

State that you’re Bi and also mention the word pegging in your bio.

Brother you’ll be knee deep in growler by this time tomorrow

Haha sweet good point

All I’m getting is TV’s and geezers messaging me so reluctant to put that but I’ll give it a shot "

Poor you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s difficult for single men on here, stay true to yourself and don’t become arrogant or bitter.

Give people a reason to want to find out more

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By *uscle88 OP Man
over a year ago

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"How can I generate more interest with couples and women. Haven’t a clue what I’m doing wrong but not getting the messages or interest I thought I would be. Can anyone help?

State that you’re Bi and also mention the word pegging in your bio.

Brother you’ll be knee deep in growler by this time tomorrow

Haha sweet good point

All I’m getting is TV’s and geezers messaging me so reluctant to put that but I’ll give it a shot

That’s no disrespect but I’m straight

Poor you

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By *ngrylookingpenis123Woman
over a year ago

"How can I generate more interest with couples and women. Haven’t a clue what I’m doing wrong but not getting the messages or interest I thought I would be. Can anyone help?

State that you’re Bi and also mention the word pegging in your bio.

Brother you’ll be knee deep in growler by this time tomorrow

Haha sweet good point

All I’m getting is TV’s and geezers messaging me so reluctant to put that but I’ll give it a shot "

Im confused, are you actually bi curious or are you just taking advice from a guy who was taking the piss?

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By *uscle88 OP Man
over a year ago

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"How can I generate more interest with couples and women. Haven’t a clue what I’m doing wrong but not getting the messages or interest I thought I would be. Can anyone help?

State that you’re Bi and also mention the word pegging in your bio.

Brother you’ll be knee deep in growler by this time tomorrow

Haha sweet good point

All I’m getting is TV’s and geezers messaging me so reluctant to put that but I’ll give it a shot

Poor you

That’s no disrespect but I’m a straight male and it states that, gets annoying when people don’t read my profile

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"How can I generate more interest with couples and women. Haven’t a clue what I’m doing wrong but not getting the messages or interest I thought I would be. Can anyone help?

State that you’re Bi and also mention the word pegging in your bio.

Brother you’ll be knee deep in growler by this time tomorrow

Haha sweet good point

All I’m getting is TV’s and geezers messaging me so reluctant to put that but I’ll give it a shot

Poor you

That’s no disrespect but I’m a straight male and it states that, gets annoying when people don’t read my profile "

Your profile says bi curious

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over a year ago

"How can I generate more interest with couples and women. Haven’t a clue what I’m doing wrong but not getting the messages or interest I thought I would be. Can anyone help?

State that you’re Bi and also mention the word pegging in your bio.

Brother you’ll be knee deep in growler by this time tomorrow

Haha sweet good point

All I’m getting is TV’s and geezers messaging me so reluctant to put that but I’ll give it a shot

Im confused, are you actually bi curious or are you just taking advice from a guy who was taking the piss?"

Who’s taking the piss?

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By *ngrylookingpenis123Woman
over a year ago

"How can I generate more interest with couples and women. Haven’t a clue what I’m doing wrong but not getting the messages or interest I thought I would be. Can anyone help?

State that you’re Bi and also mention the word pegging in your bio.

Brother you’ll be knee deep in growler by this time tomorrow

Haha sweet good point

All I’m getting is TV’s and geezers messaging me so reluctant to put that but I’ll give it a shot

Im confused, are you actually bi curious or are you just taking advice from a guy who was taking the piss?

Who’s taking the piss? "

Well im assuming you are since you havent taken your own advice

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By *atBottomGirlsWoman
over a year ago

St Austell-ish

The serious/pouty look is sexy--to a point. As swinging is fun, I like to see smiles! I didn't bother to look at your 39 more images, as the first page of pics were pretty much all the same.

Maybe try mixing it up a bit? Smiles and laughs, a few different shots? (and I'm one who generally forgets to look at pics).

I also have to ask what your opening messages are like?

Tailor them not only to expressing who you are, but to who you are interested in.

I get a lot of messages from men in the age range I'm looking for, but they are so generic, I can't be bothered. And I think I am less picky in first messages than many.

I am not sure I speak for many, but messages saying "I think I'm what you're looking for" are too generic.

You're good looking and your profile isn't bad, but imagine you're your target woman--what would you want to see?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Reilly smile in your pics

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over a year ago

"How can I generate more interest with couples and women. Haven’t a clue what I’m doing wrong but not getting the messages or interest I thought I would be. Can anyone help?

State that you’re Bi and also mention the word pegging in your bio.

Brother you’ll be knee deep in growler by this time tomorrow

Haha sweet good point

All I’m getting is TV’s and geezers messaging me so reluctant to put that but I’ll give it a shot

Im confused, are you actually bi curious or are you just taking advice from a guy who was taking the piss?

Who’s taking the piss?

Well im assuming you are since you havent taken your own advice

My profile has me drowning in it anyway.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

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"How can I generate more interest with couples and women. Haven’t a clue what I’m doing wrong but not getting the messages or interest I thought I would be. Can anyone help?

State that you’re Bi and also mention the word pegging in your bio.

Brother you’ll be knee deep in growler by this time tomorrow

Haha sweet good point

All I’m getting is TV’s and geezers messaging me so reluctant to put that but I’ll give it a shot

Im confused, are you actually bi curious or are you just taking advice from a guy who was taking the piss?

Who’s taking the piss?

Well im assuming you are since you havent taken your own advice

My profile has me drowning in it anyway. "

Can confirm this is the truth

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By *ngrylookingpenis123Woman
over a year ago

"How can I generate more interest with couples and women. Haven’t a clue what I’m doing wrong but not getting the messages or interest I thought I would be. Can anyone help?

State that you’re Bi and also mention the word pegging in your bio.

Brother you’ll be knee deep in growler by this time tomorrow

Haha sweet good point

All I’m getting is TV’s and geezers messaging me so reluctant to put that but I’ll give it a shot

Im confused, are you actually bi curious or are you just taking advice from a guy who was taking the piss?

Who’s taking the piss?

Well im assuming you are since you havent taken your own advice

My profile has me drowning in it anyway.

Can confirm this is the truth

oh i dont doubt it. No need to tell people to lie about their sexuality then is there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can I generate more interest with couples and women. Haven’t a clue what I’m doing wrong but not getting the messages or interest I thought I would be. Can anyone help?

State that you’re Bi and also mention the word pegging in your bio.

Brother you’ll be knee deep in growler by this time tomorrow

Haha sweet good point

All I’m getting is TV’s and geezers messaging me so reluctant to put that but I’ll give it a shot

Im confused, are you actually bi curious or are you just taking advice from a guy who was taking the piss?

Who’s taking the piss?

Well im assuming you are since you havent taken your own advice

My profile has me drowning in it anyway.

Can confirm this is the truth

oh i dont doubt it. No need to tell people to lie about their sexuality then is there"

The guy asked for advice so I gave it him. I’m terribly sorry this doesn’t conform with you

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

What's the point in lying about your sexuality unless you plan to follow through as you will be rumbled otherwise. If you are happy to lie to yourself to get a bunk up, well either you are in denial about your own sexuality or... I don't even know! It's messed up. Or maybe there's no intention to act on the bi side in which case, yeah still wrong.

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