FabSwingers.com forum: where are we going wrong

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have been on here a short while, we dont have much free time due to family commitments .

We have arranged 3 afternoon meets in the last week, none turned up,even spoke to us both on phone.

Any advice appreciated or we are just thinking of going to a club,

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

You will save yourselves a lot of time and disappointments if you go to that club... Your not doing anything wrong it just seems to happen a lot onthe Internet.

Good luck guys

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *sprey6Man
over a year ago

Here!

Go with people with a few verifications, but remember, life can always through a stick in the spoke of the best intentioned wheel.

Good luck xxxx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *witch mix vanillaCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Day time meets are a lot of the time married men who cannot always guarantee.

Have to admit we have had let downs it happens to everyone.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have thought about a club but only have a few hours in the afternoon so we dont think its worth it.

also we have one Saturday a month to go out overnight which next time we might just go to a club if we get over our nerves.

As for verifications 2 out of the 3 we planned to meet had a few visible verifications.

Sounds like we are whinging i guess, but its just frustrating taking the time to get ready etc.

Hopefully we will get to a social soon and meet a few people.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is frustrating iam a mother of 3 and a busy life and making time for fun doesn't happen every week and when it does its frustrating to plan meets get ready for them to not show up or turn u down at the last minute. But it happens and you will find not everyone will turn u down and will meet. Maybe arrange to go for a coffee first if they don't show up its there loss and you will know not to arrange fun with them. Xxxxx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have thought about a club but only have a few hours in the afternoon so we dont think its worth it.

also we have one Saturday a month to go out overnight which next time we might just go to a club if we get over our nerves.

As for verifications 2 out of the 3 we planned to meet had a few visible verifications.

Sounds like we are whinging i guess, but its just frustrating taking the time to get ready etc.

Hopefully we will get to a social soon and meet a few people."

Back to original - i not got a clue why you two being let down cuz you seem to be honest enough; sounds as if you are having the same issues some of us have from time to time with the time wasters on here - good luck - not that your going to need it now

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is frustrating iam a mother of 3 and a busy life and making time for fun doesn't happen every week and when it does its frustrating to plan meets get ready for them to not show up or turn u down at the last minute. But it happens and you will find not everyone will turn u down and will meet. Maybe arrange to go for a coffee first if they don't show up its there loss and you will know not to arrange fun with them. Xxxxx"

Totaly agree re "social meeting2 at first - best policy cuz if they really interested in you they will show etc

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have thought about a club but only have a few hours in the afternoon so we dont think its worth it.

also we have one Saturday a month to go out overnight which next time we might just go to a club if we get over our nerves.

As for verifications 2 out of the 3 we planned to meet had a few visible verifications.

Sounds like we are whinging i guess, but its just frustrating taking the time to get ready etc.

Hopefully we will get to a social soon and meet a few people."

Re: Visible veris - What kind of veris? We stay well clear of anyone who doesnt have at least ONE 'meeting in person' and its got to look like a real one - not one that has been 'fudged'. Be very wary of afternoon meets with 'couples'. If you think about it logically, couples are usually working in the daytime. A guy who is married and posing as a couple 'may' be working but thinks he can wangle time to meet, then either chickens out or 'something comes up' (usually the wife!). Like other posters have said, in your situation we would go for the club option everytime, then you won't have your time wasted. But take your time and find a club you feel comfortable with (each has it's own personality). Good luck - getting successful meets takes experience and patience.... stick at it and it will come right.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been on here a short while, we dont have much free time due to family commitments .

We have arranged 3 afternoon meets in the last week, none turned up,even spoke to us both on phone.

Any advice appreciated or we are just thinking of going to a club, "

PS just read your profile - the fact that the Male is voyeur-only would be an absolute no-no for us. It's a common tendency that people read a profile much more closely once a meeting is set up to see if they have read and understood it correctly - maybe (and it is only maybe) some have picked up on that after arranging and had 2nd thoughts but not had the decency to tell you?????

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wouldn't say anything you have done wrong just that once in a while you do get time waster that don't turn up for meets.The way to look at it is its their loss and just move on from it

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You will save yourselves a lot of time and disappointments if you go to that club... Your not doing anything wrong it just seems to happen a lot onthe Internet.

Good luck guys

Xx"

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not alone - I've lost count of the number of meets that have come to nothing, prob 3/4 of arranged meets never happen, usually its when I arrange something a week beforehand then I hear nothing back from the guy. It's not your fault, make sure you meet peeps with proper veris not much more you can do, good luck x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks to you all for the advice.

We are still finding our feet(so to speak).

Looks like we will have to get over our nerves and go to a club this or next weekend.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks to you all for the advice.

We are still finding our feet(so to speak).

Looks like we will have to get over our nerves and go to a club this or next weekend."

Enjoy and be happy but most of all stay safe

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well guys, I've actually decided to quit the site at the weekend, not enjoying this - been stood up twice in one day, there's only so much a girl can take!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

There loss,I'm shocked they dint turn up,there's far too many fakers on here I've lost count of the letdowns I've had but the genuine peeps make up for it

Keep positive

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

They must be mad Ms b have ur stunning Pity you don't do baldies I wunt let you down

Whatever you decide to do have fun

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

more fool them i say i wouldnt miss a chance x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *outhlondondudeMan
over a year ago

london

"We have thought about a club but only have a few hours in the afternoon so we dont think its worth it.

also we have one Saturday a month to go out overnight which next time we might just go to a club if we get over our nerves.

As for verifications 2 out of the 3 we planned to meet had a few visible verifications.

Sounds like we are whinging i guess, but its just frustrating taking the time to get ready etc.

Hopefully we will get to a social soon and meet a few people."

I don't think you should see it as whinging. The comments on here are well expressed and cover just about everything. Please remember that 'stuff happens' (which could be from 'timewasters' to unexpected family committments). Going to a club or a social event could help you gather a group of like-minded contacts to out all the chaff! Best of luck.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well guys, I've actually decided to quit the site at the weekend, not enjoying this - been stood up twice in one day, there's only so much a girl can take!"

You will be sorely missed Madam as you're a vision to look at....but I can understand you feeling fed up, especially if they've just not turned up and not let you know.

At least if any of my meets have had to cancel they've let me know in advance.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *amnationsedgeMan
over a year ago

Ashborne

Unfortunatly plenty of people on here just seem to be the kind of scum who have nothing better to do with their lives than screw with others.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

If this had been a single guy starting this thread - the rsponses would have been hugely different

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well guys, I've actually decided to quit the site at the weekend, not enjoying this - been stood up twice in one day, there's only so much a girl can take!"

Sorry to be hyper-critical, but...... A guy decides to contact a woman on fab due 'generally' to how they look in their pics and you look GREAT in yours - if they get a response/rapport going THEN they look in more detail at their profile. Unfortunately, that's where I have a problem with yours.... Far too long, too ranting, too many contradictions - and its only 2/3rds of the way down when you finally reveal you have a 'partner'.....

And are you going for quantity over quality???

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If this had been a single guy starting this thread - the rsponses would have been hugely different

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If this had been a single guy starting this thread - the rsponses would have been hugely different

We are aware of this, and no just because we are a couple we dont think we are better than anybody else.

Thankfully we have thick skin but welcome any constructive criticism.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"If this had been a single guy starting this thread - the rsponses would have been hugely different

We are aware of this, and no just because we are a couple we dont think we are better than anybody else.

Thankfully we have thick skin but welcome any constructive criticism."

Nobody said any of the above it was merely an observation

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

For me As a single the voyeur peice is,not an issue...actually more interesting

Issue I have is photo is not enough for me to be interested. In addition would like to find a little,bit more about you..

Personal prefrance

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *anictechCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow - ish ;-)

Hopefully you take this as contructive criticism:

Your a couple who seek a couple, yet the male half likes to watch, not play?

So basically your looking for a couple to play with the female half of you)

Then it reads the female is bisexual, so does this rule out the male from the invited couple interacting at all?

Going down to Interests:

" Same room swapping " This is conflicting, what are you swapping?, you already stated that its Johns thing to watch, which suggests no participation from John.

"Soft swing": Is it soft swing with your female half with another woman or couple and your male half finishing her off as it were? Or is John actually going to play a little with regards to soft swing.

There is one photo of the fem's lower half, and verifications hidden.

We suggest a re-think of what "both" your wants are as a couple and a re write of profile. Your current one is ambiguous.

If your situation is complicated then make a statement in your opening profile, talk a bit about you both (wants, needs)

Everyone in Fab are different, no two are exactly alike, nor can they be, its your relationship and your journey into exploration is unique.

Wishing you luck in finding what your looking for, Despite how this post reads, we all started somewhere and we wish you both the best of luck in finding what you both desire!

Regards XxX MT

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well guys, I've actually decided to quit the site at the weekend, not enjoying this - been stood up twice in one day, there's only so much a girl can take!"

Totally agree with Geminman above - im shocked to- your profile clearly states what your looking for and yet your still being let down and im guessing the reason is the people who have agreed to meet had second thoughts becuse in reality i bet they di NOT meet your requirements - good luck and hope things work out

yorkman40s - a balding older man lol heheheh

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread