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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi I wonder what chance there would be of finding a true sub female who is totally into the sub fetish scene,I don't give it much chance as trus subs are very rare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try the sites designed for it.. and using the word true sub, will have people questioning if you have a clue about what having a sub means..

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try the sites designed for it.. and using the word true sub, will have people questioning if you have a clue about what having a sub means..

Cali "

p.s OP, are you a twoo Dom?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cali not sure I understand what u mean I did make a spelling mistake .Erm I do know what a true sub is and if you know anything about this most masters will tell you a sub is very difficult to find.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Try the sites designed for it.. and using the word true sub, will have people questioning if you have a clue about what having a sub means..

Cali "

It did me. Just as I question men who want me to "boss them" about!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Cali not sure I understand what u mean I did make a spelling mistake .Erm I do know what a true sub is and if you know anything about this most masters will tell you a sub is very difficult to find."

Erm...no they're not.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Op if you're looking for a sub, wouldn't your profile be the first place to mention you're a Dom?!!

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I would think that the majority of 'true sub' women who are actively looking for a 'true Dom' in the fetish scene would be looking on a fetish website rather than a generic swinging website.

I heard a rumour once that it may even be worth exploring socials and munches in the fetish scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi I wonder what chance there would be of finding a true sub female who is totally into the sub fetish scene,I don't give it much chance as trus subs are very rare."

I've been in that scene for a long time and believe me, here is not the place to begin your search - to be honest, just stating that you want a 'true sub' raises more questions than it gives answers - you need to say more about what YOU can offer as a Dom, for example, your methods and practices and also a bit about what u expect or want from a sub - however, as you'll find out - like on here with single men and single females - available Dom males, tend to massively out number available sub females - so be patient - be polite - solid in your approach - and eventually they'll fall like dominos

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi mo thanks for the constructive ideas

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Too many people think they're Dom when in reality its all about them and nothing about the sub

Some of the messages I get from so called dominant men are hilarious (and possibly insulting if I took them seriously) in their misunderstanding of the role

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and maybe another idea before you insult someone who reply to u would be to check there profile because some of them maybe actually able to help u in that they r defintely in a 'sub' 'dom' relationship and no i don't mean me x

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Just looked at the OPs profile

I agree with what others have said,you need to give a bit more info about what you're looking for and what you're offering

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooh reminds me of Mr grey !

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Too many people think they're Dom when in reality its all about them and nothing about the sub

Some of the messages I get from so called dominant men are hilarious (and possibly insulting if I took them seriously) in their misunderstanding of the role

"

Believe you me, I'm sure some of the messages I get from so called sub men would rival yours.

Very easy to spot the tie and tease wannabes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok I have been well and truly put in my place I was only seeking advise I have been to a few fetish events and talked to some nice people there.I admit I am a novice at this but having tried it I may make mistakes and would never intend to insult someone,if I did I apologise if that's the case I am going to another event on the 7 th July and will seek guidance there Thanks for the advise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try the sites designed for it.. and using the word true sub, will have people questioning if you have a clue about what having a sub means..

Cali "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's very difficult to find a real sensual Dom! I've been on the fet scene in Ireland almost 2 yrs and not found one that wasn't subby once the switch in me came out..

Mind you I'm not a "true sub" more of a bratty switch that needs to be taken in hand..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cali not sure I understand what u mean I did make a spelling mistake .Erm I do know what a true sub is and if you know anything about this most masters will tell you a sub is very difficult to find."

I know quite a lot about this... Being that I'm a 24/7 owned and collared slave. And I can tell you that the term true sub upsets and offends most subs/slaves.

To be fair what will make one sub ideal for a dom, may make her terrible for The next one...

And I'd not say its hard to find a sub... What is hard is to find the right sub for a particular dom.

Cali

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"I think it's very difficult to find a real sensual Dom! I've been on the fet scene in Ireland almost 2 yrs and not found one that wasn't subby once the switch in me came out..

Mind you I'm not a "true sub" more of a bratty switch that needs to be taken in hand..

"

Ok that post pushed buttons lol.

Two years and you've not found a Dom that wasn't switch/sub!?

Maybe you have been subconsciously picking Doms that you feel your Dom side can cope with.

Either way I should imagine that's been frustrating for you.

Good luck with your search...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

To be fair what will make one sub ideal for a dom, may make her terrible for The next one...

And I'd not say its hard to find a sub... What is hard is to find the right sub for a particular dom.

"

THIS!

OP, I fear you won't take advice on board because something about your posts suggests that you are blaming your lack of success in finding a sub on a lack of "true" subs and not looking at the common denominator which is of course yourself.

The terminology you use is crass and offensive. From the people that have replied so far you could learn an awful lot on this thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have so lets just back off please were you not a novice in these things to start with

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By *acktilMan
over a year ago

Tewkesbury


"Hi I wonder what chance there would be of finding a true sub female who is totally into the sub fetish scene,I don't give it much chance as trus subs are very rare."

You're on the wrong site mate PM me and Ill send you a link to a free BDSM site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have so lets just back off please were you not a novice in these things to start with

"

We all were, and I don't think with this topic your ever an expert as It's a constant learning curve... But we are giving you advice.

You have to work out what you want first... What you want out of it... As just wanting a sub isn't really going to find what you want.. as submission comes in many forms. If you don't know what you want from it, a sub will find it hard to decide if she wants to give you her submission.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god, 'true sub'...I hate that phrase, constantly get asked that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh god, 'true sub'...I hate that phrase, constantly get asked that!"

That's what I was trying to explain to The op... that It's a phrase most subs dislike or see as a sign as an inexperienced person..

Instead of taking my advice the op decided to say if I knew anything on The subject...

I rarely get told that by other doms... To be fair they normal express how outspoken I am.. but I don't submit to others and see other dominants as my equal.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh god, 'true sub'...I hate that phrase, constantly get asked that!

That's what I was trying to explain to The op... that It's a phrase most subs dislike or see as a sign as an inexperienced person..

Instead of taking my advice the op decided to say if I knew anything on The subject...

I rarely get told that by other doms... To be fair they normal express how outspoken I am.. but I don't submit to others and see other dominants as my equal.

Cali "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmmh, yep I see that phrase and I instantly know that they wouldn't be for me, even if I wasn't otherwise owned. Clueless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi I wonder what chance there would be of finding a true sub female who is totally into the sub fetish scene,I don't give it much chance as trus subs are very rare.

I've been in that scene for a long time and believe me, here is not the place to begin your search - to be honest, just stating that you want a 'true sub' raises more questions than it gives answers - you need to say more about what YOU can offer as a Dom, for example, your methods and practices and also a bit about what u expect or want from a sub - however, as you'll find out - like on here with single men and single females - available Dom males, tend to massively out number available sub females - so be patient - be polite - solid in your approach - and eventually they'll fall like dominos "

You had me at "I've" {falls like a domino}

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