FabSwingers.com forum: Competitive Date

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi everyone!

We are super new to fab and this whole world but are very keen to explore! We have an interesting idea we want to try out as a starting point before we move forward with anything - we call it a competitive date!

Obviously post lockdown the thinking is the following...

We agree a "theme" for the girls which is basically like a dress code

Girls dress to impress

We have a few drinks

Flirty trash talk

Sneaking off to the bathroom for some naughty photos

For dessert - who knows...?

Harley is 5ft4 size 10 with an amazing bum and 32G boobs

Jay is 6ft1 with a big cock and an average build

Get in touch x

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Hi everyone!

Obviously post lockdown the thinking is the following...

We agree a "theme" for the girls which is basically like a dress code

Girls dress to impress

We have a few drinks

Flirty trash talk

Sneaking off to the bathroom for some naughty photos

For dessert - who knows...?

Harley is 5ft4 size 10 with an amazing bum and 32G boobs

Jay is 6ft1 with a big cock and an average build

Get in touch x"

Excuse my ignorance, but what's the competitive element?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No problem!

I suppose the competitive element is getting all dressed up to "out do" the other girl if that makes sense?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Is this scenario in a pub or a home ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is this scenario in a pub or a home ?"

We were thinking at a posh bar once the lockdown ends x

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You would have the support of your partner. The other woman would be alone in unfamiliar surroundings, knowing you are trying to outdo her in dress and appearance. I wouldn't feel comfortable in this situation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You would have the support of your partner. The other woman would be alone in unfamiliar surroundings, knowing you are trying to outdo her in dress and appearance. I wouldn't feel comfortable in this situation. "

Probably true - more geared towards another couple

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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago

Hyde

Can't think of anything worse than trying to out do the other woman....

It would breed ill feeling and contempt and feelings of feeling less.

Hard pass

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can't think of anything worse than trying to out do the other woman....

It would breed ill feeling and contempt and feelings of feeling less.

Hard pass "

It's not for everyone - and not meant to breed ill feelings or anything of the sort!

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

Not sure I really fully understand the concept, but on the surface it feels like the potential for it resulting in some sort of drama or upset is pretty high.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Not for me. I don't want to be in competition with another woman private or publicly.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Who is the judge ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Who is the judge ?"

And what are the men doing?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If everyone agrees and enjoys this scenario, go for it. Its not for me but I'm all for people enjoying themselves in whatever way they legally choose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought there would be a 10 mile hike after a swin and bike race.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I thought there would be a 10 mile hike after a swin and bike race. "

See who arrives at the posh bar first and is puffing the least.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone actually interested or shall we expect another round of lame jokes?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think it is the "competitive" element that people find offputting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a bad idea dreamt up by a man tbh, what is the males contribution? I'd have no interest in competing with anyone and think it would set a negative tone to any meet but.... Its your gig.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This might work better in a club environment, accept everyone is given pen and paper at the door. Everyone is rated on approach and technique. Slips handed back anonymously by a certain time. Don't have to play if you don't want too. I'd finish last (not best looking) but I like the friendly competition element as long as its all equal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think that is the key in how we see it - friendly competition. If you are someone whose feelings can get hurt over something so trivial then thats on you.

Oh and BTW this was my (Harley) idea!

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By *ittleREDridingWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

If you want a competitive element you could ask the girls to bring along a board game or something. Like a sexy games night.

“Come play connect 4 with us then get your rocks off ...”

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think the competative element will be "is your cup size larger than G ? No? Well I'm the winner"

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I think it is the "competitive" element that people find offputting"

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that is the key in how we see it - friendly competition. If you are someone whose feelings can get hurt over something so trivial then thats on you.

Oh and BTW this was my (Harley) idea! "

Your profile says your new to swinging. Have you had any experience of swinging with another couple yet?

How would the guys compete with each other is it whose has the best body? biggest cock? and so on?

We have witnessed inexperienced couples have meltdowns in clubs when they have thought their partner was enjoying someone else more.

A big part of swinging is understanding that everyone is unique and different when it comes to sex so the minute you start been competitive and comparing one person to another it can be a recipe for disaster.

Our experience is competitiveness hasn't been something we have found productive in this lifestyle. On the odd time it's happened or you get that sense from people its been a red flag. At least for us anyways.

We wish you all the best on your swinging journey xx

KJ x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think the competitive element might be getting taken too literally - perhaps we should rename it

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Why not just drop the word "competitive" ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not just drop the word "competitive" ?"

Pretty sure we just implied that lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think the competitive element might be getting taken too literally - perhaps we should rename it "

A lot of people say "dress to impress" the implication being that everyone dresses sexily. That might be better.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Why not just drop the word "competitive" ?

Pretty sure we just implied that lol "

It says "competitive date" twice on your profile

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

The "competitive" element would put me off. I think the media & various aspects of society already put enough pressure on women, we should be building each other up and supporting each other rather than competing against each other supposedly for fun.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"No problem!

I suppose the competitive element is getting all dressed up to "out do" the other girl if that makes sense? "

Whose judging ?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Hi everyone!

Obviously post lockdown the thinking is the following...

We agree a "theme" for the girls which is basically like a dress code

Girls dress to impress

We have a few drinks

Flirty trash talk

Sneaking off to the bathroom for some naughty photos

For dessert - who knows...?

Harley is 5ft4 size 10 with an amazing bum and 32G boobs

Jay is 6ft1 with a big cock and an average build

Get in touch x"

Who are the girls dressing to impress? If it’s men then that’s a no no! I dress for me, not men.

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Its a different idea; maybe not for everyone, but if the OP likes the sound of it surely they can ask ?

I have seen and read worse ideas on here; but then I am not female so maybe I am missing the point of why people are disliking this !

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Its a different idea; maybe not for everyone, but if the OP likes the sound of it surely they can ask ?

I have seen and read worse ideas on here; but then I am not female so maybe I am missing the point of why people are disliking this !"

A female trying to out do another female is a no no. It’s up to OP but this fantasy will prove awkward to do as women will get very emotional about it.

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Its a different idea; maybe not for everyone, but if the OP likes the sound of it surely they can ask ?

I have seen and read worse ideas on here; but then I am not female so maybe I am missing the point of why people are disliking this !

A female trying to out do another female is a no no. It’s up to OP but this fantasy will prove awkward to do as women will get very emotional about it."

Like I said I am male, and was not arguing with you; just making the point that they could look for what they wanted, not saying it would be easy to find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not for me. I don't want to be in competition with another woman private or publicly. "

This and also I would never consider meeting anyone, couple or otherwise, who thinks people should be competing for them as if we're on The Bachelor (if I am understanding this idea correctly - it's still pretty vague).

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You are completely misunderstanding the idea and the intention of the post - as are most people who just seem to be hear to criticise or make a bad joke

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"You are completely misunderstanding the idea and the intention of the post - as are most people who just seem to be hear to criticise or make a bad joke"

Maybe OP if you explained exactly what you want then we may understand better. The word ‘competitive’ seems a touch confusing and women won’t like to be outdone by another, especially one they don’t know. Personally I dress for me, not to impress a man or woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the competitive element might be getting taken too literally - perhaps we should rename it

A lot of people say "dress to impress" the implication being that everyone dresses sexily. That might be better."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are completely misunderstanding the idea and the intention of the post - as are most people who just seem to be hear to criticise or make a bad joke"

There's not much to understand, you haven't exactly explained it.

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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago

Hyde

"You are completely misunderstanding the idea and the intention of the post - as are most people who just seem to be hear to criticise or make a bad joke"

What part of 'competitive' is being misunderstood?

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